The reason church boys are betaized like this is not because they never expect these men to mate. It’s because they view all natural masculinity – aggressive, pursuing, taking what you want, even assertiveness and standing up for what you want and need – as toxic and mean and cruel and “not nice”. It’s because they believe such men are not really sexy. It’s because they honestly believe women are attracted to nice, kind, friendly, helpful men. It’s because they honestly believe that looks don’t matter.
They honestly, truly believe they are helping these boys. They aren’t trying to hurt them. They truly believe they’re doing the best they can for their boys. What they miss is that they’re preparing their sons for a sexual and relationship marketplace that has been extinct for the last 40 years.
That’s why I stay active around here. I want to know what’s really going on in the world that I don’t date or fuck in. I want’ to know what dating/sex world my son is growing up into. I want to know it so I can help get him ready for it.
It’s also because they truly, honestly believe the only true route to happiness for men is through marriage to a woman, and therefore they feel they have to get their sons married off just as soon as possible. It’s also because they believe the only way they can get their sons married off is to sand off his rough edges with niceness, milquetoastiness, and pussification because that makes him more pliable and willing to compromise himself and what he wants/ needs for a woman.
There are many aspects to consider here. First of all, consider this: What they miss is that they’re preparing their sons for a sexual and relationship marketplace that has been extinct for the last 40 years. In the olden days, the Evil Patriarchy strongly nudged women toward finding a husband. Since food and shelter are high on the priority list, finding a fella with an adequate job was first and foremost. The fella settling into the corporate life, not making waves was just the ticket. Furthermore masculine men often do violence (or so it was believed), so the church (and government schools) decided to squeeze that out of boys. So yes, 40 plus years ago, these milquetoast fellas were just what the country needed.
The restraints on women have been removed, and their base instincts are now celebrated and subsidized. They want the tingles and can now pursue them with impunity. But apparently this can never be admitted to. Why would this be? Probably most women don’t think about it cognitively, but deep down they might have an inkling.
I. We need the cog guys to keep producing.
II. If lots of fellas become player types using game techniques, they would spend their time picking up women and not working
III. The sexes are the same (except for women making babies) so we should make boys more girllike and girls more boylike because that is what we are told we should do
IV. Falling for masculine guys is a betrayal of the Feminist Sisterhood
V. If any of this becomes mainstream, men will learn about hypergamy and they will be pissed
VI. Masculine men just don’t fit into the kumbaya world that we are all supposedly creating.
VII. Women are supposed to be pure and nice such that logically they should reward guys that are nice also.
Any way that you consider it, there are forces perpetuating the boys and the young men that they turn into should be milquetoast notion of child-raising.