A comment from here,
Older ladies: the old saw is true. If you ever find yourself signing up for a dating service, make up a nice meal, with candles and alcohol (beer if appropriate), and take a slightly unflattering picture of yourself sitting in front of that meal with a note that says “I made this”. That’ll get you light years farther with older men than 400 hours of elliptical and a bucket of eye liner.
This is essentially a scaled down version of what was advocated here and here, in part a denunciation of feminism Probably because the above idea is more subtle, it probably will be more effective. For sure, it would be less subject to criticism.
But consider the lesson: older women just don’t have the market demand of those that are younger. This shouldn’t be a surprise, but apparently it is for lots of women. As an older woman, you have to actually provide something other than your body that he might like. It sure does seem silly to have to pound this home, but it is true.
Now for the other side of the coin, older women should be cognizant of what men dislike.
Here are some excerpts from the article
They are in great physical shape, living full and interesting lives.
Smart and sassy, Laura has a doctorate in physics and works as an optical engineer, yet she finds the dating sites full of men her age and older who just seem lazy.
‘I prefer younger men now because they are fun, whereas the older ones are boring,’ she says.
Perhaps I am being unfair, and am reading lots into the above. But what I see are women who probably would not be all that interesting to me. Of course, they think that they are awesome in this regard. I can’t help but think of an aunt in Chicago that we visited every year when I was a child. She was a big time academic. I noticed that the subjects that she talked about and the things that she said were either not important / not interesting / incorrect. Eventually I figured out that this stuff was what all of the right people in Chicago thought and believed. Far be it for a country bumpkin kid to challenge her; I just watched and learned. This is what I imagine many of the women in the article to be like. Of course, I am probably a niche market; your mileage may vary (an Americanism, look it up).
Short answer – older women have to provide value and not subtract value
Response by Deti,
“I prefer younger men now because they are fun, whereas the older ones are boring,”
Translation: I can still use my body to manipulate young(er) men. I can still get younger men to do what I want/give me what I want. We fuck and it’s fun and I get validation out of it. Older men? They, like, want relationships, and relationships mean responsibility, and that means I’d have to actually, you know, like, DO THINGS and BRING THINGS to the “relationship”.