I Just Want A Simple Life In This Scary World

(For those who prefer posts written by men … most of this is simply quoting another piece written by a man 😉 ).

RPG has written in the comments, “I just want my girls and I to live and enjoy a simple life.” And, “No wonder I have chronic insomnia! Everybody should if they are paying any attention…”

These are hard and scary days to live in, and as a Mamma, I agree with RPG … I just want my girls and I to live and enjoy a simple life. I fear those dreams for my girls are fleeting.

The brilliant Ravi Zacharias just published a piece on this coming election in the States titled, The Scaffolding or the Scaffold, A Moment and Our Destiny. Here are some quotes:

I find it fascinating how the things we mock in life in the end mock us. We mock laws of goodness. Those violated laws come back to prove themselves right.


America has changed beliefs that have existed for five millennia on virtually every matter of essence. Humanity is redefined, sexuality is redefined, the family is redefined, truth is redefined, absolutes are jettisoned, our chromosomal constitution is redefined. What’s more, we live under the delusion that any rebellion against a transcendent moral order is a personal matter with merely personal implications, because we know better now. We call that progress. Yes, that word is right out of the lexicon of humanism, now made into an ideology of political theory as “progressive.”

It would be fine if such thinking indeed merely affected the one making the choice. But in the end, with moral choices, there is no such thing as isolation. The impact of moral choices is catastrophic, like an earthquake that radically changes existing structures.


America seems to be on a path to a death wish. Why? We are determined in the academy, in the arts, in politics, and in journalism to go it without God. We simply do not wish to have a moral law over and above us. We’re watching the world skidding out of control. There’s almost a lunacy afloat and it seems to begin with arrogant leadership. The world scene is more complex than ever, with no easy solutions.

We railed against intervention in one country because it bred slaughter. So we did not intervene in another country and the result is an even greater slaughter. It goes to show that the complexities and contexts are not as simple as we make them to be. And just like the garden of old, each blames the other. Whichever position we take, we see the weapons of hatred pile up as our moral resources shrink. We are on the stormy seas of history without chart or compass.


One person in the State Department told me that in four decades of service she has never seen such a toxic time in government as she now sees. How fearsome is that? We have lost respectful speech. I mourn that loss. We don’t care for our leaders to tell us the truth anymore. How catastrophic is that?

Our methods of reaching the masses are greater than ever. Our ability to touch the hearts of people is less than ever. We spend billions electing a leader all the while decrying riches, while millions starve for want of food or a home.

Where are we headed? I don’t know. But if the present so-called postmodern autonomy continues, each one a law unto himself or herself, we will soon be in total anarchy.


This election may determine the next two generations almost irreversibly.


I recall a Russian saying to me, “All these years my hope for the world was that America would bring us hope and freedom. I don’t believe that anymore. They don’t think rightly anymore,” he said. Amazing that a man in a communist country under the heel of demagogues, wishing for moral reasoning, now sees the light flickering in America and the darkness looming ahead.

This election, as I see it, is the most defining one for the future of our world.


So I must speak my heart. It will all come down to the place and meaning of law, life at its essence, and moral worth. We must vote. Vote if not for the now, at least for the future. I hear many saying, “How strange that we are in a situation where neither candidate represents my values.” I agree. So with what philosophers would call “Hobson’s Choice,” I ask three questions.

First, which of the two candidates is more likely to surround the highest office with those with a hint at moral reasoning? That may at least give a glimmer of hope.

Second, who is more likely to appoint as keepers of the law those who go back to our roots in order to secure the future? That will at least recognize a beginning.

Third, who stands on a platform of values that guards my essence and my existence? That may at least guide our destiny.

One may triumphantly say, “But that is not foolproof.” True! But what is?


Religious liberty, guaranteed in the scaffolding of the law, may well be heading to the scaffold because it represents a law above our laws. Moral reasoning may be suffocated and so-called “humanistic reason” will then choke the transcendent. We had better speak and make a choice before the torso of our fulfilled death wish is swinging in the wind as the mascot of an autonomous culture that will breed anarchy.


I just want my girls and me to be able to live a simple life. I wonder if back in 1997 when I had my Oldest, if I had known then what I know now, if I would have still wanted and had children. It’s such a scary world for this Mamma.

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99 comments on “I Just Want A Simple Life In This Scary World
  1. molly says:

    Ame I want a safe life for my family as well! We need a male boss who is not all simpery to SJWs I think. A strong pragmatic man not a liberal. Not icky Justin or another Obama. Not a Hillary or Theresa! Julia Gillard NOT!

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  2. molly says:

    Ame here’s a wee secret to make you smile. I had a male boss and my friendly smile and figure hugging outfit grew his customers and he gave me a raise of pay. He asked me did I know a looker to replace the other female staff who left as she was jealous. I chose a girl cousin and his customers doubled LOL.

    Hotness not fair, eh. Nice is real easy tho.

    P.S. when the boss got too fresh I introduced him to a big *male* cuzzie YAY!

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  3. Yoda says:

    Perhaps write posts Molly should

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  4. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Molly!!! Burrito, burrito, burrito.
    Same song but a new video, including a right hand drive Mack, driven by someone familiar.

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  5. Ame says:

    i had forgotten i’d written this post! 🙂 🙂 🙂 … what a nice surprise! 🙂

    Molly – i’ve always hated female bosses – they ARE the worst!!!

    and why is it such a shock that a nice, friendly smile and attractive body is magnetic?! that’s even biblical!

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  6. Ame says:

    nothin like cousin Cill takin care of business 😉

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  7. Farm Boy says:

    I accidentally found this post in limbo. But it is there no more

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  8. Ame says:

    “in limbo” … *giggle!*


  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    As good looking as you are reputed to be is going to result in more than a few men going stupid around you. I hope the Big Cuz is understanding.

    We are humans. It will never be that simple, but is is fun to imagine it so.

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  10. Ame says:

    oh.my.gawash! Fuzzie … that’s ADORABLE!!!!!!!

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  11. Ame says:

    at the end where mama’s sleepin with her babies crawlin on her … ahhh … that brought back memories! nothin like that kind of mama tired when her babies are little like that 🙂

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  12. As y’all know my female boss fired me due to my age, being male and she thought she could do my job. Well I have had staff reach out to me, called me.

    Seems the disability roll has tripled, they have 8 grievances in the pipe (I had one in the last four years) and both unions are banding together to file a bad faith charge (she told a union pres that if she didn’t settle a grievance there would be no money at upcoming negotiations.)

    All because she wanted to be Amog in a skirt. The troops notice where I walked the halls daily to see thge troops, she (the empathetic woman) rarely leaves her office.

    And Ames, I agree with you about worrying aboiut the kids. Mine are fledged but I worry they have the stomach for what is coming.

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  13. Ame says:

    wow … reading that again … it was penned in october … and so extremely grateful Trump is our president! i don’t even want to imagine where we would be had the alternative happened.

    we can finally point to someone and say, “That’s what a man looks like.” finally someone willing to take a stand without remorse or apology. finally.

    love hearing him say (paraphrased), “Mess with us, and we’ll take you out. The End.”


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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Ame, I haven’t done bear videos for a long time. That one is a good one. 🙂

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  15. Ame says:

    oh, my, Horseman. i’ve cut back extensively on my online time … had noticed a comment that indicated you were re\tired but didn’t know the specifics. that just makes me wanna SCREAM!!!

    it’s been 22 years since i’ve worked outside the home, but my last two bosses back then were both women, and they were terrible. i remember spending a significant amount of time with the first one, calming her down, helping her to see reason, enabling her to make ‘good choices.’ the second (and my last boss before leaving the workforce) tried to double-cross me. i called her game and turned in my resignation – never seen fear like that before … she was back-peddlin like there’s no tomorrow thinkin i was going to turn her in. it wouldn’t have mattered (and i can’t remember if i told them what happened in my post-employment exit-interview from corp), she was a woman. her place was secure.

    my Husband has a female boss right now. she’s over the wall and single and a mess. i’ve found that the females that are even or below my Husband like me, but the ones above him don’t … it’s like they’re jealous of me. women are certifiable.

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  16. Ame says:

    that one was a GREAT one! 🙂


  17. Ame says:

    Horseman –

    “And Ames, I agree with you about worrying aboiut the kids. Mine are fledged but I worry they have the stomach for what is coming.”

    have all parents had the same concern for their prodigy? or is it significantly more pronounced in our generation? idk. i sense more fear than hope for the future, and i wonder if it’s just me or if it’s ‘normal’ for parents at my stage or if it’s the times we’re living in.

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  18. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    These people end up getting themselves fired, but it never makes up for all the damage thy cause. I am sorry.

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  19. molly says:

    It wasn’t Cill it was another cuz. He didn’t actually hit him either. My punch pic is a bit of a fib (attention seeking by me heh). Shook his hand and that was enough! Lol

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  20. Ame says:

    “These people end up getting themselves fired, but it never makes up for all the damage thy cause.”

    do women even have the ability to effectively, objectively manage with perspective of the bigger picture? it seems they all have something to prove and can’t just do their jobs.

    my first (late) husband often said, “I’m not asking for anything special, I’m just asking for people to simple do their jobs. Nothing extra, just their job.”

    it seems many women are not able to simply do their job. they’ve got to have an agenda or something to prove.

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  21. Ame says:

    Molly – men like your cousins rarely have to resort to anything besides their presence. by their very presence they are able to convey the truth that not only are they willing, but they are also capable of physically taking care of this and any situation necessary. only the truly stupid refuse to hear those unspoken words 🙂

    btw – how’s your pregnancy going?! or did i miss that Baby is here?! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  22. Interestingly since leaving my ZFG has gone thru the roof.
    I like my coworkers but now I truly dont care.
    I will never work for a woman again, or work in an office.

    Many articles say HR controls the company and hiring. And I see it. But as more gen x and boomers are retired by HR the productivity is gonna tank. And they gonna replace em with…?

    Well they get what they want, god bless em.

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  23. Farm Boy says:

    Many articles say HR controls the company and hiring. And I see it. But as more gen x and boomers are retired by HR the productivity is gonna tank. And they gonna replace em with…?

    I have an answer for you. Competent, thoughtful people like these


  24. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    This should make Glorious Patriarch happy.

    How is it that people this bad keep getting reelected?

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  25. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder which has the higher IQ, Justin or Diane?

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  26. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    When you get to “a hazard to themselves and others, requiring constant supervision” is there a relative difference?

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  27. molly says:

    I’m a mum Ame. I haven’t said the date as I get stalked and anyone can search the birth register. The baby daughter is well and has very good lungs – I’m lucky there are lots of clucky aunts to help! She saves her best behaviour for them lol
    Speaking of which, dinner to make, baby “needs” me etc etc. See yall!

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  28. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    I just had a terrible thought. Lena Dunham may be more able than those two.


  29. Ame says:

    Congratulations, Molly!!!

    isn’t it AMAZING!!!!!!!

    the first year of my Oldest’s life was truly THE best year of my life 🙂

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  30. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    You never announced the bay’s arrival here at Spawny’s. Congratulations, belatedly. I just had a terrible thought about her finding your motorcycle in the barn.

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  31. molly says:

    Thanks Fuzzy! This is the first time I mentioned it online as I have to be careful of privacy. I’m a housewife now and keep my head down. Hubby is my eyes and ears to the outside. Ame y right this is the happiest I’ve ever been! Cill is his great friend now and they do mens stuff and come back smelling of sea or forest or saddles and horses. They always have beers here and I love it when they have quite a few! I love the male vitality and men are so easy to please..Luv ’em ❤

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    We are. Mostly, you just have to see that we don’t go hungry. Thank you for the burritos!

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  33. Stephanie says:

    “have all parents had the same concern for their prodigy? or is it significantly more pronounced in our generation? idk. i sense more fear than hope for the future, and i wonder if it’s just me or if it’s ‘normal’ for parents at my stage or if it’s the times we’re living in.”

    we definitely worried and still worry. :/

    Congrats Molly! Very happy for you ❤

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  34. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    A nice car for Molly.

    I hope that your daughter doesn’t think this is a kiddie car.

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  35. Spawny Get says:

    Great news to start the day. Congratulations Molly and Dad

    This is how we herd kittens, watch and learn ready for the next one 🙂

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  36. Spawny Get says:

    Carols in the stupormarkets any day now

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  37. SFC Ton says:

    LOL bears are lazy. I have trailcam video of a 400 pound boar laying down on his side shoveling corn from my corn pile into his mouth with a nap between each pawfull. It’s funny as fuck

    Congrats Molly. The Ton salutes you! Now go whelp some more 😉

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  38. SFC Ton says:

    I have never worked for a woman. It’s unnatural

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  39. https://beta.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/freeland-outlines-some-of-canadas-nafta-priorities/article35980836/?ref=https://www.theglobeandmail.com&

    Negotiating Justin style.
    Before even sitting down at the table, offer to retract your one walk away non negotiable.

    Just a month ago:

    And our lead negotiator. A former journalist with 3 years in politics who let Putin rub her pregnant belly. BTW 3 years in she is Foreign Affairs Minister equal to the US. Secretary of State.


  40. Yoda says:

    Competition between Diane and Justin stiff it is

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  41. Yoda says:

    I told you all before and I’ll repeat it now: the alt right is not conservative, and it is every bit as driven by identity politics and blood essentialism as the prog left.

    Antifa, BLM, CAIR, the New Black Panthers, La Raza, the Pussy Hatters, the KKK — these are all identity movements and all formed and animated by the kind of identity politics championed by the left, and legitimated by the likes of Edward Said and other academic cultural Marxists who recognized the way to power was to divide, and then control, particular identity groups, whose narratives they seek to create and police.

    The alt-right is only “right wing” in the continental sense. The American conservative is classically liberal, while the American progressive is Fabian socialist.

    Don’t listen to labels; follow the assumptions made by each movement — the alt right, the prog left — and you’ll soon recognize that they are the same. This is tribalism, no more and no less. What we are witnessing is an attempt to corrupt the ideals of a propositional nation based on individualism and individual universal rights (and that’s how our Constitutional republic is designed to operate) — a lesson Google’s pillorying of a software engineer as “anti-diversity” should have made clear.

    You should reject this archaic collectivism from whatever group espouses it, because in the end it is simply anti-individualism dressed in mob attire to bolster cowardice and bigotry in numbers.



  42. thedeti says:

    If any of us really want that simple life, we will have to go out and carve it out for ourselves.

    I want what Ton has. He’s got a life the way he wants it, with two missuses, the Ton spawn, relationships with his older kids, a bar of his own, a homestead and land of his own. I’ve got most of that. Just one missus, which is all I can handle. But the idea is the same.

    I keep harping on this. But most men are not going to get anything like what Ton has, or even what little I have. Most men are going to be pretty much alone, forever. They are not going to get sex or relationships with women, because they aren’t attractive enough. They are not going to get good jobs without education or capital. They are not going to get much of anything. The best they’ll be able to do is eke out a bare existence with a couple of ever changing roommates, earning minimum wage, and with a little left over for their internet connections, videogames, beer, weed, and porn.

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  43. Yoda says:

    If your jewelry wish-list is crammed with diamond rings and necklaces, it’s time to modernize — “crotch charms” are apparently the new in thing.



  44. Yoda says:

    The best they’ll be able to do is eke out a bare existence with a couple of ever changing roommates, earning minimum wage, and with a little left over for their internet connections, videogames, beer, weed, and porn.

    Good enough this would be?

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  45. thedeti says:

    Master Yoda:

    “Good enough this would be?”

    I don’t know. But for a lot of guys, that’s as good as it’s ever going to get.

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  46. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I hope that Deti’s bleak prediction for the future does not come to pass. To disincentivize the demographic that the economy is absolutely dependent on is not going to end well. In a healthy society, they would be raising families, paying taxes , and spinning off wealth for the economy. This is what happens when consumers are prioritized over producers.


  47. thedeti says:


    My bleak prediction for the future is already happening.

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  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The only way for men to go down that path would be to check out mentally from society en masse. It will also make for a lot of women living a celibate lifestyle because what was 80/20 is reduced to 99/1. That one won’t be able to take care of the ninety nine and they are going to scream.


  49. thedeti says:


    No, women are not going to live a celibate lifestyle. They will still have as much sex as they want to, because no matter what kind of woman we’re talking about, if she wants sex, she’ll always be able to find a man willing to service her on literally a moment’s notice. And it will still be around 80/20.

    It won’t matter than men are checking out mentally en masse. They’re already doing that.

    Women have always been able to get sex when they want. That won’t change, ever.

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  50. thedeti says:

    Marriage is already increasingly becoming restricted to the upper middle class and up. Sure, a lot in the middle class on down still marry. But an increasing number of those marriages will end in divorce after one or two kids, creating an army of child support paying absentee fathers kicked out of their kids’ lives and who represent little more than a monthly check, and an even bigger army of single and divorced mothers who can’t even begin to do the work of raising kids on their own.

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  51. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    As men check out, the number of men that women will deem acceptable will diminish. They will be forced to celibacy. That will be the result of their standards not being met. If you think hypergamy is bad now, it will get worse. A lot worse. In any event, I hope that male contraception can be introduced. Using child support to fund single mothers is not a good idea.


  52. Agree with Deti on everything.
    But we are also seeing men check out of education, trades and the workforce.
    Women will still get sex, children and child support. But the standard of living either thru lower child support based on his lower income or lower govt assistance thru less tax revenue.

    Detis model will continue. But with less money being made circulating in the system the wailing of what I deserve as a woman will increase.

    And as the boomer and gen x women having burned thru the cash and prizes but unable to lock down a second chump it will rise to a scream. You cant fight demographics.
    And with half of all marriages ending before twenty five years means half the boomer women have no support as they approach retirement.

    Remember your gramma. Now imagine seversl million without grampa and who alienated their kids by putting thbem thru the ringer.

    Is society ready to take care of them. At the same time as the current crop of single moms and the harping never marrieds looking for thier man. One at a time is bad enough. Imagine being fifteen and this is what you have to look forward to as a twenty five year old.

    Yup. Porn and a minimum wage job. They cant take what i dont have. And a fatty once a month if I have to.

    Yup the shiny shiny future of tomorrow.

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  53. Farmboy

    Can you chech the spam filter for my brilliant and fascinating response to Deti? Tanks.

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  54. Cause I forget what I said.

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  55. But it is amazing how carving out a homestead, working hard, hunting, fishing, being a man is tiring and fulfilling. And very much replaces the desire for mediocre female company.

    Not completely but the thirst can be slacked by other things given by a well lived life.

    If more men got out of the steel and glass and lattes they would discover that and reduce the hold.

    Then it would be 80/20:20/80. The 20 would only tolerate the top twenty of females. The 80 of both sides would be left to figure it out.

    Oh. Wait. Thats assortative mating. A thousand year old strategy now out of vogue.
    Never mind. Carry on, over the cliff, hurry up, places to go, fatties to service.

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  56. https://www.google.ca/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fcoochcoach.files.wordpress.com%2F2014%2F02%2Flady.jpg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fcoochcoach.wordpress.com%2Ftag%2Fwomens-health%2F&docid=xtqU6lFNGR0bYM&tbnid=3Un6_-6bC5bDuM%3A&vet=10ahUKEwjgr6evydfVAhWq5oMKHcLBC4YQMwiZASgBMAE..i&w=953&h=1018&client=tablet-android-alco&bih=768&biw=1368&q=modern%20feminist&ved=0ahUKEwjgr6evydfVAhWq5oMKHcLBC4YQMwiZASgBMAE&iact=mrc&uact=8

    Remember she is standing by for her man to find her.

    (Swear to god, put “modern feminist” in google, hit images and this is what i got.)

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  57. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The only assortive mating that women are in favor of is the one that lets them do the sorting.

    The thought that women would not have access to men at the drop of a hat has to be a little mind boggling. Geneticists have formed a theory that, at the dawn of civilization, for every man who reproduced, there were over seventeen women doing as much. That is head scratching stuff. Still, feminism is culturally new and it will bring unintended consequences, one of which will be involuntary celibacy for women.


  58. https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-08-14/from-google-to-yahoo-tech-grapples-with-white-male-discontent

    That bloomberg is running a story on white male harassment claims is telling.

    The business papers can say what companies cannot.
    “We may be afraid we just pissed off the golden (white male productivity) goose.”

    They suddenly realize the unspoken adage
    Unlike real warfare, in cultural warfare the Women fight, the Men just withdraw

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  59. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Harassment claims are a threat to business of any size. As news, it qualifies. What has been done to James Damore is unconscionable. It is also bad business.


  60. SFC Ton says:

    Most men care to much about the wrong shit to create what I have what I carved out of life. Trust me I ain’t that special but my 0fg given is epic

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  61. SFC Ton says:

    Let’s not forget the role industrial automation is driving the train on these things Deti. I know a couple of young men living that bleak life and it ain’t by choice

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  62. Farm Boy says:

    Since its 1990s heyday, Silicon Valley has transformed from an unruly collection of aggressive upstarts disrupting existing industries to a flabby collection of near-monopolies, now busy enforcing gentry-liberal norms on their employees and customers. Whether it’s censoring right-leaning political figures, or firing employees who dare say something truthful but politically incorrect, there’s not much of the old startup spirit there. These are flabby overstaffed Big Business corporations, run by their HR departments. You might find more dynamism at General Motors, these days.


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  63. Farm Boy says:

    Can you check the spam filter for my brilliant and fascinating response to Deti?

    The Horseman runs free

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  64. SFC Ton says:

    But it is amazing how carving out a homestead, working hard, hunting, fishing, being a man is tiring and fulfilling. And very much replaces the desire for mediocre female company.

    Not completely but the thirst can be slacked by other things given by a well lived life

    All that shit makes me want to go home and wreck some pussy

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  65. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    “You might find more dynamism at General Motors.”
    I hope this ends up under the nose of executives in Santa Clara. They need to be put in their place.


  66. Ame says:

    i think there’s some strong truth to that.


  67. Ame says:

    and women are still not happy or content or satisfied. they never are. they keep thinking they will be *if … * but it’s still never enough. yet they can’t see that or refuse to see it.

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  68. Ame says:

    “Remember your gramma. Now imagine seversl million without grampa and who alienated their kids by putting thbem thru the ringer.”

    yep – exactly what my parents have done – both of them. my girls wouldn’t know my parents if they physically rant into them.

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  69. Ame says:

    that’s … that’s just gross, and really scary … and should be enough to make women NOT want to be feminist. seriously.


  70. Ame says:

    i know you’ve written about it and continuously work to teach other men. i wonder if a lot of who you are (and men like you) is more about not being fearful or focused on failure so much as being focused on success. *No* to you just means redirect … it never means *stop* or *quit* … have i perceived that correctly?


  71. SFC Ton says:

    Like the pagan kings of old, I want a legend and reputation that lasts for generations

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  72. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    She is back in Toronto from Charlottesville.

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  73. Ame says:

    my Aspie-girl went to church camp this summer. she walked in on a group of girls arguing with a group of guys. she hates conflict, so she took over. she split them up, spent time with each to find out what the problem was. discovered the girls were lying and made them apologize to the guys. i asked her how she did that … she told them if they didn’t apologize, she’d go to the counselors … and in this camp, lying sent them home. being sent home meant their parents would be called and have to travel up to camp to pick them up; no one wanted that. the chicks were mad at her … one was even one of her camp’s “Little Sisters,” and she whined, “I can’t believe you picked their side when I’m your Little!” Aspie-girl didn’t blink … she told said chick that she lied, and she doesn’t side with liars!

    i love my girl! took on a whole group of whiny, lyin chicks and won. proud Mamma right here 🙂

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  74. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It doesn’t sound like she is any way handicapped. That sounds like leadership to me.

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  75. RichardP says:

    Spawney says only 19 weeks to Christmas. Here’s a head start on a couple of (non-traditional) carols. Lyrics to “Run With the Fox” sort of speak to the question raised in this thread (click on “Show More” to see lyrics). Fellow band mate Jon Anderson responds that it’s “Easier Said Than Done”. For those who know about such things, Sandra Crouch is directing the choir and Andrea is on the piano (seen briefly at 0:57) on “Easier”. Trevor Rabin is on electric guitar.

    Run With the Fox
    Already Said and Done


  76. Ame says:

    Fuzzie – you’d have to define ‘handicapped’ … what she deals with is not visible, unless her brain gets overdone and she has a meltdown. that doesn’t happen in public often. she has lots of ‘coping mechanisms’ … or ways to ‘self-medicate’ to help her. but it’s a continuous struggle for her; she’ll never be ‘free’ of all of it.

    however … a leader she is. she has to fight everyday to be successful. little comes easy for her.

    she had a specialist from the ages of 5-13 who compared her to einstein all the time. the girl is freakin smart, but it’s not an easy smart. her brain gets ‘over-heated’ a lot, tied up in knots. her recall memory is a constant struggle. basic skills are a challenge. she can now do most everything for a short period of time but very little for an extended period of time.

    she was showing signs of being ready for me to work outside the home again, but she’s still not quite there – last three days have been rough.

    whenever she’d complain about how hard it was to do something or overcome, i always told her that yes, it is hard, but God made her super smart to figure it out, so take control of your brain.

    that girl has made me a better person. she has stretched me and challenged me in ways i would never have been able to comprehend had i not personally experienced them. only God knows how many tears and sleepless nights i’ve shed and experienced over her. but even her sister will tell you … we are all so much better for having her in our lives. the biggest challenge for me is mental … she is mentally very challenging. amazing how exhausting that can be 😉

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  77. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    You reminded me of something. When he was young, Einstein struggled with Math, but when he was older, he was an excellent Math tutor. Maybe you can save that for an opportune moment? 🙂

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  78. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    This has nothing to do with anything, but ti thought Farm Boy would find it interesting.


  79. Ame says:

    Fuzzie – thank you. i will share that with her.

    she’s actually good at understanding math. but her severe dyslexia and her inability to accurately transcribe often make it a nightmare.

    the transcribe thing – moving information from one place to another – could be copying from one sheet to another, from written to the computer, from a white board/ chalk board to paper … but also moving numbers as she’s solving a problem. even filling in the correct bubble on a scan tron – moving the answer chosen answer from a form to the correct bubble. when in public school one of her accommodations was to have someone transcribe all her tests for her. another accommodation was to have someone read all tests to her. she *can* read, but she often misreads words due to her dyslexia. audio books are great for her b/c she can read along with them and not miss anything. but writing is another nightmare. she can articulate things but not get them from her head to the paper – then add in spelling, spacial things (vision issues) that make it difficult to space letters and words and keep them in a line, etc.

    even as early as kindergarten, though, her teachers and staff have always been amazed at her vocabulary, used accurately, her comprehension – including reading comprehension, and her high levels of complicated and intricate thinking.

    you know how they say that if you don’t use your mind you loose it? God gave me Aspie-girl – she challenges my mind daily. sometimes my head hurts from all she does! 🙂 🙂 🙂 her aforementioned specialist would often say her brain is doing at least six different things at one time, and if she ever learns how to get that all together at the same time, wow – it will be amazing. we’re getting there … very slowly; baby steps.

    – – –

    another note on that camp thing … aspie’s often have a very vivid and strong sense of right and wrong. it never occured to her that her reputation with those girls might be at stake. they were wrong. there were consequences to that kind of wrong. the end. she’s always been more than glad to point out when people break the rules. that doesn’t necessarily apply to herself, though 😉 … she was born believing it’s better to ask forgiveness than permission – that girl has kept me hopping! 🙂

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  80. Farm Boy says:

    Professors attending a recent academic conference were advised to treat racial microaggressions in the classroom like actual assaults


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  81. https://beta.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/grocery-industry-will-be-pressured-by-ontario-minimum-wage-hike-says-metro-ceo/article35989612/

    You raise wages of everyone in the store and the store has to raise prices. Really???

    Yeah. More income tax and more consumption tax.

    This was never about the working poor.


  82. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It sounds like your girl is one of a kind.

    Farm Boy,
    Treat microaggressions like an assault? Does this mean that professors will call the police? I don’t think this will go over too well.

    It is hard to have sympathy for employers who are challenged by the minimum wage. If they cared about productivity, they would not be in this mess. They should be thinking about a living wage. The problem with raising the minimum wage is that landlords will rise their rents an equivalent amount. The hand to mouth worker make zero progress.
    For some reason, government is adept at making the cost of living go up, but hopeless at relief for people who live hand to mouth.

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  83. Farm Boy says:

    “There’s a very strong idea that the left ideology is the only ideology possible. We should be able to express differing opinions,” Damore told CNN Tech. “I’m a centrist, and they’re calling me a Nazi. That is a real problem.”


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  84. Farm Boy says:

    Not something that you see everyday

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  85. Cautiously Pessimistic says:

    Trump disappointed me yesterday. His backtracking from denouncing hate groups generally to denouncing the media approved list of specific hate groups while excluding antefa/la raza/blm/ad nauseum was something I wouldn’t have expected of him.

    Hopefully he’ll learn from the inevitable results of trying to appease his blood sworn enemies, and this is a momentary stumble for him.

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  86. Fuzz

    Its the amount of the increase 11.50 to 14.00 on 6 months warning. Then another 1.00 the year after.

    A 23% increase in 6 months. What company based on minimum wage e.g. groceries, restaurants, a lot of retail, can absorb their labour costs to raise by 1\4.

    No company can absorb this so the prices go up to pay for it. And because sales tax in ontario is 14% of sales the government just earned a tidy 3% increase in tax revenue (14% x 23% = 3% assuming all the cost is passed on.)

    Plus lowest tax bracket is 15% federal plus 5% ontario. So of the 2.50 hour increase 0.50 goes to the government.

    So the government just helped themselves to a 50c an hour raise in taxes plus a 3% raise in sales tax. By helping the poor huddled masses.

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  87. Also minimum wage is not meant to be a living wage. It is for those starting out. Summer jobs, farm help, restaurant workers.

    I am working construction for min wage now. At 50+. But its only until I get my trade tickets. So I will make min plus 5-10.

    And thats after getting two degrees in my 20s. I paid for school without a single loan. By working 40+ hours as a night forklift driver during college and three jobs for 75+ hours a week summers. All minimum wage. I lived on 4 hours of sleep for years.

    Oh no opportuinities here. Then move. I have no skills, go to school.

    As Morgan Freeman says ” the bus runs every day”

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  88. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The last time I saw a big change in the minimum wage was a long time ago in California. At the time, nobody was making minimum wage and no one knew what it was, other than unaffordable. It seemed like everybody came into the store that weekend for boxes for moving. Every landlord in town jacked up rents.
    I have a hard time feeling sympathetic to businesses that are dependent of their employees subsidizing them through cheap wages. They should find out how tough it is to live on what they pay them.
    I like your analysis of how government profits from this misery.


  89. BuenaVista says:

    Farmboy made a comment about overbearing gentry liberal corporations. This is not quite in that lane — it’s Big Finance — but a friend of mine listed the degree to which her personal life is controlled by her investment bank/employer.

    “I have to give them my FB, gmail, Twitter and linked in passwords. It is insane. I am not allowed to use the words Morgan Stanley online and can never discuss a company in a way that sounds like a recommendation. I also need to get prior approval for political donations, cannot exceed $250 a year, have to get approval to be on a charitable board and can never be treasurer, cannot list my job on their website, cannot sit on corporate boards and even outside of work if I do anything that embarrasses the firm or harms its reputation I will be terminated.”

    (I’m probably going back to work and I was checking in with her about some things in that regard. I didn’t realize things were this extreme. And because of the nature of the project, I expect it will more stringent for me.)


  90. Ame says:

    BV – that’s … insane. so there’s nothing about her that can be private? i think i’d delete my accounts before letting my employer have access to them all. eeek!


  91. Cill says:

    Horseman “Plus lowest tax bracket is 15% federal plus 5% ontario. So of the 2.50 hour increase 0.50 goes to the government.”

    There’s also “fiscal drag”. Inflation effectively lowers all tax brackets. The Muldoon government of NZ cynically allowed rampant inflation to increase government revenue from fiscal drag.

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  92. BuenaVista says:

    Deti makes the point that the social collapse attributable to the irrelevance of marriage is underway. So. Read this un-self-conscious story of one such “household.” Oh, and send money. This was a public posting on a major city’s FB group, so I am not doxxing anybody.

    My takeaway is that for the author, her situation is mainstream, normal.



  93. SFC Ton says:

    Shit has changed since you went to college horseman.
    You ain’t goinng to pay for it with a minimum wage job these days and companies deliberately rotate shifts so workers can’t pick up a second minimum wage job

    Right now you are sounding like every other clueless baby boomer


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