From the classic Captain Capitalism post,
But what is becoming a more frequent phenomenon is a question these girls ask;
“Where are all the guys?”
I never paid much attention to this, as it has always been the case that men just eschew dance classes, but it wasn’t until an older dance student of mine perhaps refined the question a bit and made it more pointed. It wasn’t so much “Where are all the guys,” as much as it was;
“I just get the feeling there aren’t any men anymore. Not just in dance class, but where are all the men from all the various social activities? They make up half the population, but I can’t find any single guys to date. They can’t all be married, even my female friends are running into this mysterious disappearance of men. Do they like stop trying after a while and just stay home?”
And that’s when I realized what she was asking.
“Do you mean, do men give up and don’t bother trying to find women any more?” I clarified.
She said, “Yes. So do they?”
“Yes” I answered.
She was somewhat surprised at my response. She said, “so they just give up? They don’t go out anymore? Don’t they want to find somebody? Anybody?!”
“Yeah, more or less.”
“That’s crazy! How do they ever expect to find anybody?”
I replied, “Well…they don’t.”
Regardless, the point was her reaction surprised me in return to see this was that shocking of a revelation to her. I always thought it was kind of common knowledge, men do indeed give up after a while, but apparently it’s not.
Yes, apparently it is indeed not common knowledge among women. I was effectively MGTOW in my 20s and early 30s; I knew lots of other guys like me. I also knew older fellas who were MGTOWs, though they were not called such at the time. Short answer — guys are very familiar with the general MGTOW concept.
But not so with women. Probably the concept of being a spinster is still horrifying to them, even though they pretend otherwise. Deep down, everybody knows that a spinster is a failure, unlike a bachelor, who can undoubtedly claim a lifelong record of productive work. Women, as much as they often claim otherwise, as poorly as they might treat men, really do want to get married (eventually). They project this desire unto the fellas, which really don’t have such a hankering. They do this at their own risk, for it undoubtedly causes many to wait longer than they should before trying to lock down a husband.
Moral of the story — Don’t assume that your expectations are the same as those of others.