Search the words, “Where have all the good men gone?” and dozens of anecdotes, articles, blogs, and books will appear on your screen.
I do not seek to apportion blame here, on either side, but simply to address this question from the seldom-heard voice that is the object of the question itself: good men.
This seems like a good start. It is written by a fella. Maybe there is some good insight here.
The last 100 years of suffragettes, feminists, and political correctness have challenged and continue to challenge thousands of years of patriarchy—and rightly so. Consequently, the roles of both men and women have been transformed and redefined.
Well yes, they did challenge the Patriarchy. Furthermore things have changed. But notice that the article is about a problem that is a result of this change. Let us explore further.
While we struggle to adjust to the new and still evolving status quo, the war of the sexes has taken millions of casualties. In Western culture, divorce rates for first marriages range from 42 percent in the U.K. to 53 percent in the U.S. to a staggering 71 percent in Belgium. Subsequent marriages fare even worse.
The spectre of divorce is another contributing factor in the conspicuously expanding man-deserts. Many men, having seen their fathers broken by divorce, fear the loss of their assets, their homes, and their children and are simply stacking their chips, choosing not to gamble, and checking out of the marriage casino.
Family courts invariably award primary custody to the mother, while the father is restricted to weekend access, supervised visits, or left to literally climb the walls of Buckingham Palace in a superhero costume to protest rights for dads. Men—will they ever grow up?
The ridicule and debasement of men in the media and mainstream culture is now pervasive. Watch a commercial, sitcom, or movie, and invariably an immature man-child or dumb dad is the butt of the joke—the hapless buffoon. Fortunately, these silly men are always saved from themselves by a smart, witty woman or a conscripted, eye-rolling child.
The emasculation of men has become normalised.
Sensibly, rather than have their balls cut off (sometimes literally, and that often gets a good laugh), men are running for cover in their droves, leaving women mystified and asking, “Where have all the good men gone?”
When I was in secondary school, perhaps 14 years old, there was a girl who patrolled the playground, egged on by her gang of girlfriends, kicking the boys between the legs. Clearly, she had been informed by someone this was the quickest, easiest, and funniest way to bring those stupid boys down to earth.
So here is a litany of bad things that have happened because of the new system; Notice that these are only a problem due to the fact that they affect women (where have all of the good men gone). Let us explore further.
Men have been subjugating women for centuries; now, they’re getting payback. It seems only fair. The fox has turned on the hounds and she’s packing a punch, or a kick to the balls. But the nature of men when faced with a fight is to fight back, either psychologically or physically.
Clearly there are no winners in this scenario.
The relentless competitive struggle to determine who wears the trousers is simply a turnoff for many men. Many are just opting out of the kind of psychological warfare that is common in relationships today, unwilling to engage in the minefield of mind games
Apparently evil men have been subjugating women forever, and now comes their comeuppance. A competitive struggle ensues, but only if there is a man who engages. More and more, they are not engaging.
Let us look at the alternatives,
- Some kind of equality thing
Everybody who is supposedly intellignet knows that the Patriarchy is evil, so that is out.
A Matriarchy would leave a few winner sexy guys breeding, with most left out. Probably the leftover guys would become MGTOW. Even the sexy, breeding guys would kind of become MGTOW (except when f’ing). Women would not respect men, but would that matter? Of course, who would be left to do the work? Maybe robots.
The Some Kind Of Equality Thing is as of right now, poorly defined and confusing. It will probably always be poorly defined and confusing. Maybe in some rare exceptions it would not be, but that rare formula never really could be applied to the populous as a whole.
Back to the original article. It decries the Evil Patriarchy. Then it provides a fine list of the problems that occur when the Evil Patriarchy is eliminated; problems that will eventually catch up to society. What to do?