Pulitzer Prize winning (for whatever that is worth) author Maureen Dowd wrote a book a decade ago about asking the question, “Are Men Necessary?” I won’t waste my money on the book, but the question is interesting. I will, as a public service, discuss one aspect of men that will always be necessary; that is, the ability to work well as a team.
There will always be needed projects that require effective teamwork to complete. Guys just plain do teamwork well. They learn it young on the playing field, in the hunting field, and through doing projects with other guys. It mostly comes natural, with the lessons learned early as to lack of respect one receives when one steps out of line and is not working for the team. On an effective team, men feel bad when their performance lets the team down. They feel satisfaction when their performance/leadership lead their team to success.
Women on the other hand, are different. My brother-in-law was a nurse. He worked around women all day, every day. He was at their level, and experienced their ways of operating. Basically, he was very pissed that they were not team players. They had their own agendas, they were competing with each other over silly stuff not related to doing the nursing job, etc. I was somewhat shocked to learn this in my youth, but more confirmation came over the years. A lady at work was bored and started talking about what it was like to be a girl in high school and college. I, of course, never really noticed it, as I was busy with my studies. Any way, she detailed how women were always competing with each other for the best boyfriends (hypergamy in action); and would ruthlessly underhandedly sabotage each other. Even it there was a team that they were on, they were/are worthless to it. Women have the concept of frenemies, guys have no such thing; and for good reason.
Of course, women under strong male leadership can be effective in a team; that is, their poorer impulse can be contained by such leadership. So nurses under the direct control of a doctor, teachers under the direct control of a principal, a secretary under the direct control of an executive, can be have many of bad qualities reduced.
However, these days, men are not really encouraged, expected, or allowed to exert strong leadership over women. And we all pay the price
Addendum by Deti,
Notice what happens with a group of men, anytime, anywhere you find one. That group of men, even if they have never met each other before and don’t know each other, will immediately begin arranging themselves into a hierarchy – “alpha” generals and officers; “beta” managers and foot soldiers, and “omega” grunts and laborers. And with time the grunt becomes a foot soldier. Maybe being a good foot soldier is the best he will ever do. But he can become a great foot soldier. Maybe the beta manager gets to officer status, or maybe he stays a manager. But he’ll be a great manager.
The next thing that group does is start identifying problems and tasks, and then determining the best way to solve the problem, and divvy up the tasks to be done – who will do them, how they are to be done, and a deadline by which the tasks are to be done. Each member is given areas of responsibility and increasing amounts of discretion. The grunt/laborer gets very little discretion – he is told what to do, when and where to do it, and how to do it. And with time the grunt can get good at following orders and then perhaps have some more discretion. But with a lot of grunts, their ability to follow and carry out orders is the best they can ever do. The foot soldier gets a little more – he can decide some means and methods of work, but still works under close supervision. The managers officers and generals get the most discretion.
The point is there’s a place for everyone, a job for everyone, everyone knows their job and place, and everyone does their jobs.
With women it’s different. Too many “leaders”. Too much backstabbing. Too much complaining. Too much gossip and murmuring. Too much inability to identify problems and then determine how to solve them.
The male group focuses on hierarchy: The alpha generals determine that hierarchy, determine what problems there are, prioritize them, and determine how best to solve them. Everyone below them falls in line and simply does the work. Male group: Tribe, hierarchy, benevolent dictatorship.
The female group focuses on consensus: Everyone has to have a say in everything. And everyone has to “feel good” about everything. Everyone has to be involved in the incessant meetings and discussions and agendas and “process”. Female group: Herd, all equals, “democracy”. Everything has to be done by majority vote and then we have to give the minority something to help them “feel better” and keep them in the herd, or at least keep them from sabotaging the herd.