In the olden days, it was assumed that men would be looking for marriage. Furthermore, it was assumed that they would be preparing themselves for it via obtaining assets and an acceptable income level.
Modern young women are told that they are just so awesome. Then they encounter young men who are attracted to them, confirming this notion in their minds. Furthermore, many assume that the men of today are very much like the men of old (especially in church communities). This is where they go wrong. It is a poor assumption to make.
Young men are all over the map, often rudderless and confused. Many have had little real success with women; and furthermore can’t really envision what success might look like. How one might go from their present state to a family man is difficult to envision for many. So there are video games, athletics, hobbies, some occasional sexual action to occupy their mind.
In short, they are in various gradations of MGTOW. They probably don’t even realize what MGTOW is, but they are living some version of it. Your job as a young woman, is to realize that this is the situation. If you want a man, you have to understand this, and figure out how you will compensate for it. For the situation with respect to men as a whole is not changing anytime soon. You must deal with it.