Can She Change?


Above is a response to this following video

Obviously Stefan is happier in one video compared to the other.

Mr. RedPillGermany essentially asks the following question,

“Can a woman approaching thirty years of age, change herself into something more acceptable to a man?  That is, change the attitudes and behaviors that are displeasing to him, the ones that will cause him pain and discomfort in the future, the ones that got her in her present sorry state (e.g. profligate spending, entitlement)?”

The German fellow suggests that by that age, attitudes and behaviors are wired in so strongly that the most that she can do is “fake it” for a year or so in the hope of getting a guy to commit.  There are some, but not all, women who can do this; which is unfortunately true.  He also suggests that women of that age cannot change.  There is probably a large amount of truth to that.

With respect to changing, one normally has to want to change.  It takes commitment.  It takes time.  It takes effort.  It takes a willingness to deal with setbacks in your attempt to change.  Perhaps some women would have such a commitment, but maybe not so many.  Often, the desire to change comes from experiencing a significant problem, often hitting rock bottom.  Young women still have their youth to lean on, so they really never hit rock bottom.  Perhaps later in life they do, but not then.  So it is unlikely that they ever really will have the commitment to do what they truly need to do.

What is the solution?  Parents should never allow their daughters to become entitled, daft, debt-ridden, promiscuous young women.

Addendum by Deti,

“Can a woman approaching thirty years of age, change herself into something more acceptable to a man? That is, change the attitudes and behaviors that are displeasing to him, the ones that will cause him pain and discomfort in the future, the ones that got her in her present sorry state (e.g. profligate spending, entitlement)?”

Yes. But it’s very, very difficult. Almost impossible. That’s why most women don’t do it.

Change, real change, comes from within and happens at the core. It takes a long time, it takes a lot of work, and it takes leaving behind old things. Old behaviors, old friends, old triggers. People in “recovery” like Alcoholics Anonymous call it avoiding old playmates (drinking buddies, fuckbuddies, etc.) and old playgrounds (bars, parties, fests, etc.)

I wrote at Dalrocks a long time ago what I thought a woman needed to do. It was akin to “getting sober”. Thumbnail sketch

1) Admit you fucked up

2) Sit down with someone you trust and disclose every shitty thing you’ve done. Every guy you fucked, everything you stole, every guy you fucked over and lied to, etc. Get it all out on the table. Get it all out there. Admit that YOU did those things and YOU are responsible for them and no one caused you to do them; YOU DID THEM because YOU CHOSE TO DO THEM and YOU WANTED TO DO THEM.

3) start “detoxing”. No dating for at least a year. No fucking for at least a year.

4) Get a head to toe, inside and out, physical examination. Get all of it out on the table. Disclose everything. If there are STDs, past pregnancies, past abortions, etc., get it all out on the table.

5) Start putting back together the pieces of your life. Debt? Pay it off or get a plan to do so. Got a place to live? Get one or make necessary arrangements. Got the basics down? If not, do so.

6) Accept the fact that you probably are not going to attract the caliber of men you probably want. Accept the fact that your marriage, if you get married at all, will be to a less attractive man than you probably wanted. If you want to marry, you will have to make deep compromises. You will have to put all your sexual history on the table to that man. Disclose it all, regardless of the pain.

7) Accept the very real possibility that you might not get married at all.

8) Do not blame anyone else for this. It is on YOU and YOU ALONE.

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28 comments on “Can She Change?
  1. People past their tweens cannot change. The base belief systems, impulses and compulsive behaviours are set. They can control their behaviour through effort for a period. As soon as the attention slips or the temptation is too strong they revert to baseline.

    There is a management theory time tested called backup mask or threat response.
    Make a person feel threatened and their true behaviour comes out. The blustering bully cowers, the mouse steps up, the control freak locks up. Because the brain is overloaded by the threat and the hind instinct brain takes over.

    Why I wont get fat, food is meh just fuel. My sister can diet all she likes but she never met a pie she didnt like.

    So a 30 settle down. Not likely because her hind brain never wanted too.

    On a ripped guys shirt “No you cant. If you could, you would.”

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  2. SFC Ton says:

    Can she change? Possibly
    Is she worth the risk? Fuck no snake

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  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Can she change? As the video pointed out, she can be a chameleon until the first child is born. The first child is often referred to as “the insurance policy” by women. I am beginning to understand why. Also, a woman coming into a marriage with a mountain of student debt that she expects her husband to pay off is more than a little much. A high school graduate is not going to be a burden that way and is more likely to not have absorbed as much feminist indoctrination.

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  4. Spawny Get says:

    The short version was nailed by Ton.

    If she changes herself to get a man, I reckon there will be resentment that she had to change to get a man. Not gratitude that he loves who he thinks she is. Sooner or later (a kid) that resentment will surface. It’s a shit show. And nowhere have I heard anything about top to bottom legal and law enforcement change. It’s all bollocks just to get one more generation of men into the grinder. Tardcons and SJWs like system as it is, for different reasons, but it suits them. So they see no need to fix it yet…though maybe they’re getting worried(?)

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  5. Spawny Get says:

    Not watched this myself as I don’t favour listening to women where their interests are in play, however perky their boobs and pretty their face.

    I suspect that this superficially looks good, but at the end of the day, women know they can change their mind and make a call to rob a man of everything.

    Lauren, I’m guessing, lays out the facts in order to get women to play the game, or teaches them the talking points required to appear to play. Please nice men, trust the women, they learned their lesson. These ones will be different to what you saw destroy your family or your friends’ families.

    I think there’s about to be a war between MGTOW and the alt-right / New right whatever. And MGTOW will win the arguments again. Because they describe the truth of marriage and current society.

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  6. Spawny Get says:

    I’ll maybe watch that vid tomorrow but I find the current phenomenon of pretty, young women making videos that are just a rehash of men’s work rather tiresome. Particularly because men tend to fall for the pretty face and think they’re wonderful and sympathetic to men. The same ol’ rope-a-dope updated with patreon, PayPal and bitcoin

    I am not talking about the ladies hereabouts. Watch the promo shots of the women like Lauren…boobs out, nice outfits, fluttering eyelashes…They’re are marketing themselves for men. And it works

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  7. Spawny Get says:

    Hmm check out the comment on the left

    Like

  8. Spawny Get says:

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  9. Spawny Get says:

    Darker but funnier

    Like

  10. Spawny Get says:

    Too much?

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  11. Spawny Get says:

    Better?

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  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Maybe it’s the bear in me, but I like the Forest Fr1ends.

    As for Lauren, I think she is a rarity among modern women, someone who embraces responsibility. However, I did watch the video, and she is promoting traditional conservatism among women. Given how much women are advantaged, it is a little thick. They want to retain those advantages and that leaves the only role for men that of a draft horse.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I meant to link this yesterday for Yoda and Farm Boy.

    I miss Luke int the lead role.

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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    What is sad is that Lauren’s modest appeal is going to be apathy or or outright hostility from women in general. It’s probably too late for women for women to change. Given that interest in MGTOW is rising exponentially, most men have to feel that women have broken faith.

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  15. SFC Ton says:

    MGTOW will win the debate with out debating as it is a natural, low cost, low risk common sense approach to the sickness of society. The many fronts of sickness to our society

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  16. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Rebel Media has a guy from Quebec who is in France for the elections. It seems that feminists do not like Marine Le Pen. That would be enough for a lot a lot of sensible people to vote for her.

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  17. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Getting back to the original post, “Can she change?”, Julian O’Dea just posted something short about Ashley Judd. It seems that women can change, but not necessarily for the better.
    https://davidcollard.wordpress.com/2017/05/07/before-she-became-a-feminist/
    That Ashley Judd, she is a nasty woman.

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  18. Spawny Get says:

    Updated 13:30 French time. 12:30 blog time. Result at 20:00 blog time (prolly)

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  19. SFC Ton says:

    Brothers United aginst old Europe ie White folks

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  20. Spawny Get says:

    A Churchill joke not quite so likely to get me a hoof in the nadgers, legally speaking

    What General Weygand called the Battle of France is over. I expect that the Battle of Britain is about to begin. Upon this battle depends the survival of Christian civilisation. Upon it depends our own British life, and the long continuity of our institutions and our Empire. The whole fury and might of the enemy must very soon be turned on us. Hitler knows that he will have to break us in this Island or lose the war. If we can stand up to him, all Europe may be free and the life of the world may move forward into broad, sunlit uplands. But if we fail, then the whole world, including the United States, including all that we have known and cared for, will sink into the abyss of a new Dark Age made more sinister, and perhaps more protracted, by the lights of perverted science. Let us therefore brace ourselves to our duties, and so bear ourselves that, if the British Empire and its Commonwealth last for a thousand years, men will still say, “This was their finest hour.”

    Silly fucking sods. May Pepe have mercy on their souls

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  21. SFC Ton says:

    Cucks are going to cuck

    Like

  22. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post

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  23. thedeti says:

    “Can a woman approaching thirty years of age, change herself into something more acceptable to a man? That is, change the attitudes and behaviors that are displeasing to him, the ones that will cause him pain and discomfort in the future, the ones that got her in her present sorry state (e.g. profligate spending, entitlement)?”

    Yes. But it’s very, very difficult. Almost impossible. That’s why most women don’t do it.

    Change, real change, comes from within and happens at the core. It takes a long time, it takes a lot of work, and it takes leaving behind old things. Old behaviors, old friends, old triggers. People in “recovery” like Alcoholics Anonymous call it avoiding old playmates (drinking buddies, fuckbuddies, etc.) and old playgrounds (bars, parties, fests, etc.)

    I wrote at Dalrocks a long time ago what I thought a woman needed to do. It was akin to “getting sober”. Thumbnail sketch

    1) Admit you fucked up

    2) Sit down with someone you trust and disclose every shitty thing you’ve done. Every guy you fucked, everything you stole, every guy you fucked over and lied to, etc. Get it all out on the table. Get it all out there. Admit that YOU did those things and YOU are responsible for them and no one caused you to do them; YOU DID THEM because YOU CHOSE TO DO THEM and YOU WANTED TO DO THEM.

    3) start “detoxing”. No dating for at least a year. No fucking for at least a year.

    4) Get a head to toe, inside and out, physical examination. Get all of it out on the table. Disclose everything. If there are STDs, past pregnancies, past abortions, etc., get it all out on the table.

    5) Start putting back together the pieces of your life. Debt? Pay it off or get a plan to do so. Got a place to live? Get one or make necessary arrangements. Got the basics down? If not, do so.

    6) Accept the fact that you probably are not going to attract the caliber of men you probably want. Accept the fact that your marriage, if you get married at all, will be to a less attractive man than you probably wanted. If you want to marry, you will have to make deep compromises. You will have to put all your sexual history on the table to that man. Disclose it all, regardless of the pain.

    7) Accept the very real possibility that you might not get married at all.

    8) Do not blame anyone else for this. It is on YOU and YOU ALONE.

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