Naked Power

From here,

However, as an NYC- based psychotherapist specializing in sexuality issues, I was not too surprised. The stories and concerns I hear from my clients do not necessarily match up with the narratives promoted by mainstream media. I’ll get to that in a moment, but to me, these news items most powerfully brought to sharp relief the wide disparity between media representations and the true, real-life stories I am privileged to hear in my office.

I am often called upon by the media to provide my commentary and opinions when a note-worthy sex issue hits the news, and this was no exception. I had a camera crew come to my office in August and recorded me for over an hour. In March, Reuters reached out to me about the most recent study and my quotes were picked up by numerous other media sources. The camera crew wanted me to identify some reasons why I thought Millennials might be choosing to have less sex. I immediately thought of my clients, three young men who each separately had told me earlier in the year that they were terrified of casually hooking up due to fears of false rape accusations and confusion regarding policies such as affirmative consent.

Men can be risk takers; yet they very often balance risk and reward.  The way that the situation on campus has evolved, there often is lots of risk (e.g. their entire future) for just a few seconds of reward.

From the reactions of the crew, I could tell right away that I was telling them something they didn’t want to hear. They all looked at each other anxiously and the producer continuously tried to steer me away from the perspective I was sharing of my clients’ experiences and onto some vague narrative about technology, video games, and porn. But unfortunately, the lived experiences of my clients don’t necessarily easily match up with forced narratives created in some media news room.

But of course.  The important aspect is the narrative, the attempt to explain a situation in the desired manner irrespective of the facts.  Only rich societies can afford such luxuries.

As for technology, video games and porn; does anybody really believe that the real thing would be avoided so readily if it was not so fraught with risk?   Anyone?  Bueller?

As made clear by this paragraph

One of my clients shared with me that he did spend more time playing video games, but that was more due to trying to avoid unnecessary “dangerous” (in his words) interactions with women. And what was so dangerous, according to him? He believed that the current climate on his campus was so toxic between the sexes, that he was already suspiciously viewed as a potential predator, and so he didn’t stand a chance to have a fair shot if things turned sour and a false accusation was leveled upon him. In other words, he felt disempowered, and fully responsible for anything that happened, including the choices of his partner, ranging from the amount of alcohol she decided to drink to whether she later decided to change her mind, even after the fact. Video games or porn weren’t preferable, they were safer. Obviously, most women would never imagine making such unsubstantiated accusations, but as my clients believed, why even take the risk?

When the video was released online, all comments I had made about the effects of rape culture hysteria on actual hookups were removed, and instead it appeared like I was mindlessly chiming in with all the experts about all the horrible dangers of being “addicted” to Facebook likes. No substantive discussion about the real worries and concerns that young people actually have about hooking up. Only bewildered head shakes about why on earth young people would not want to socialize with their peers in real life. Must be the technology. Rape culture hysteria, well that’s only something actual rapists would be concerned about. Any large-scale trend typically has many contributing factors, so I’m not advocating for a reductionist position, but why not include these concerns as part of the discussion?

Why yes, the narrative must be maintained at all cost.  Obviously there is much pressure to do so.  People pick up on what the correct narrative is, and they make it happen without even thinking why.  But what is the why in this case?

At one level of analysis, sexuality is all about power. A more thorough exploration of this is beyond the scope of this essay, but think about how many behaviors in life are driven by the pursuit and desire for sex and sexual currency. And the rape culture hysteria perhaps clearly brings to sharp relief the ultimate aims of third-wave feminism. While first and second wave feminists were primarily concerned with equality, I do wonder if power is the primary objective of (at least some) third-wave feminists, not so much the students but the thought-leaders and activists that set and create the platform. Power doesn’t exist in a vacuum, and I would argue that it is never absent. But true equality is not about the absence of power, but rather the sharing of power. Third-wave feminism, as evidenced by the relentless promotion of rape culture discourse, and turning a blind eye to its repercussions, isn’t really aiming for shared power, but rather a monopoly on power—sexual power, to be specific. And in the case of gender relations, sexual power allows for the dictation of all gender relations.

Mao said that power flows from the barrel of a gun.  In some places this is true.  In the western world, it flows from the cavity of the V, and men’s voracious thirst for it.  From a sheer play for power sense, it makes sense to maximize the power that one can derive from it.

What feminists saw was that obviously their built-in power was strong; why not continually enhance it by changing the rules such that they derived more power?  Tweaks here and there would do the trick, and everything else would remain the same.  Or so they thought.

The increased porn and the video game consumption are partially a reaction to the rule changes.  They are effectively disengaging from women.  It is better to blame these causes than women themselves, but still, feminists don’t really want to blame porn and video games.  They really want to blame the men.  They are weak. They are not men.  They are screwing things up.  They are shameful.

What feminists really want is for men to engage women on the new terms.  Many men do. But many do not.  Women now have the power (or do they?), but are left naked, fending for themselves (with government help).

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96 comments on “Naked Power
  1. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder how many realize that it is mostly about power…

    I wonder how many see that it is not working as planned,,,

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    One should always ask oneself if the narrative matches the reality that one sees.

    Liked by 3 people

  3. Yoda says:

    Narratives powerful they are.
    The MSM evil they would be

    Liked by 1 person

  4. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    It has to be all about power. But, there is a downside to it and you have found it. Men are disengaging. Feminism has gone to the point that it is working against the female imperative. Women at the fringes and those more astute are seeing this, but they are reluctant to yield the advantages that feminism has given them. As men choose to disengage in greater numbers, more women will see and some will be amenable to change.

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  5. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    “The MSM evil they would be.”
    What, in supporting a false narrative based on lies? The MSM is beholden to feminism.

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  6. Yoda says:

    Beholden to the Dark Side they are

    Liked by 1 person

  7. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    His overconfidence was repaid.


  8. Yoda says:

    Odd this would be

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Seduced and then beholden.


  10. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Star Wars can’t end. Disney paid a ridiculous amount of money for the franchise. 🙂


  11. Yoda says:

    Mao said that power flows from the barrel of a gun.

    Moe says that power flows from a barrel shaped club


  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I think that Mao had more opportunity to apply that.


  13. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well, I’d back meself in a one on one against Mao, with or without me Kauri Club. One good head-butt from me brow ridge would drop him like a sack of shit.

    Liked by 2 people

  14. Spawny Get says:

    From a great album which includes the Sopranos’ theme


  15. Spawny Get says:

    Happy St George’s Day

    Liked by 4 people

  16. Spawny Get says:

    Let’s hope that the French are of a better breed. Bon courage, mes braves.

    Liked by 3 people

  17. Spawny Get says:

    This guy should be voted in if Marine doesn’t make it.

    Liked by 2 people

  18. Spawny Get says:

    The full s.p. on the snap election? Maybe. Peter Hitchens speaks about an issue barely mentioned in the MSM. Given that they’re lefties on the whole, why the reticence?

    Liked by 1 person

  19. Spawny Get says:

    John MaoDonnell, the iron shite in the velvet dog poo bag that is laba

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  20. Spawny Get says:

    A treat for you. Related to The Great Louise the utter Menschalist that she is

    Eraser of Love browndog • 8 minutes ago
    Louise Untermensch is clearly opening the doors and gateways of perception and thus travelling the eponymous ley lines of a prolonged derangement of the known five senses within the Dojo and tesseract of Cerebral Mind expansion and augmentation.

    In other words she’s a mad cunt.

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  21. Spawny Get says:

    Morpheus‏ @reddkatt Apr 21
    Replying to @SkipsterX
    There’s no trout about it I fish he’d sling his hook.His turbot charged efforts to undo the democratic fishes of the people are mis-plaiced

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  22. Yoda says:

    Being shy now a crime it is

    Students who avoid making eye contact with their peers could be guilty of racism, according to Oxford University’s latest guidance.

    The university’s Equality and Diversity Unit has advised students that “not speaking directly to people” could be deemed a “racial microaggression” which can lead to “mental ill-health”.

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  23. Yoda says:

    Triggered she was

    A feminist professor said she was so triggered by a male student’s paper that “I began to have trouble distinguishing him from the man that [raped me].”


  24. Yoda says:

    Verashni Pillay, the editor-in-chief of Huffington Post South Africa has resigned after the country’s press ombudsman condemned the website’s “racist” publication of a blog post calling for voting rights to be stripped from white males.

    After public backlash, Pillay initially defended the piece. In a blog post on 14 April, Pillay wrote: “dismantling the patriarchal systems that have brought us to where we are today, a world where power is wielded to dangerous and destructive ends by men, and in particular white men, necessarily means a loss of power to those who hold it.”


  25. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    In light of what the protesting ex-Muslim had to say, this link is doubly significant.

    To the French, there is an old Democrat saying, “Vote early and vote often.”


  26. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    Got tartar sauce?

    Avoiding eye contact? Let the boys complain to whoever enforces this that girls do this all the time.

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  27. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Election or not, I hope they go forward prosecuting. If they fail, why have rules in the first place?

    Liked by 1 person

  28. Yoda says:

    Check out this piece from the left leaning Vanity Fair:


    The last thing the left needs is the third iteration of a failed political dynasty.

    Liked by 1 person

  29. SFC Ton says:

    I’m tired of us on The Dark Side getting such a bad rap.

    Liked by 1 person

  30. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It is my hope, that if we ignore Chelsea, she will just go away.


  31. Spawny Get says:

    Early, but…

    NOT final result


  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    I thought it was anticipated that Marine Le Pen would win the first round and lose in the runoff. The only way for her to win is to win this round. Or, that is the general wisdom. We’l have to wait and see.

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  33. Spawny Get says:

    Looks like Le Pen is through the first round.


  34. Spawny Get says:

    Not clear who else is through. Certainly not seeing claims that she won it outright.


  35. Spawny Get says:


  36. Spawny Get says:


  37. Spawny Get says:

    This is the other guy that got through with Marine…

    My flabber is truly ghasted that he got through

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  38. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    i don’t want to be around Jean-Claude Juncker if Marine wins outright.

    Liked by 1 person

  39. Spawny Get says:

    1649-9-11again • 6 minutes ago
    Interesting for 2nd round. Conventional wisdom says Le Pen stands no chance but two things may suggest she does:

    1. Melenchon was anti EU and anti globalist capital – so’s Le Pen. Macron’s the opposite. Will some of his voters prefer her and the rest abstain?
    2. Fillon previously said that most of his voters would support Le Pen if he didn’t get through. He and another minor candidate got the hard core conservative Catholic vote -will be attracted by Macron’s liberal values? Hardly.

    There’s hope mes braves!

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  40. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I agree, my flabber would be ghasted too.

    Liked by 1 person

  41. Yoda says:

    Probably already drunk Jean-Claude Junker is.
    A physical threat he would be not.


  42. Spawny Get says:

    Seen this one?

    hotdoglegs upset • 3 minutes ago
    if Corbyn fell in a barrel of tits he would still come out sucking his thumb

    Liked by 1 person

  43. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    If it comes to a runoff between this guy and Le Pen, I would expect support from all the globalists and who knows who else come to his aid from the four corners of the Earth. Their influence may not be all that powerful anymore while people are getting killed randomly.


  44. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Elsewhere, an air marshal leaves a pistol in a bathroom and a passenger finds it. Turns it in to a an airline employee.

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  45. Spawny Get says:

    Look at ze numberss shanging

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  46. Spawny Get says:

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  47. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    If that is her competition, George Soros and his billions may not be enough, not when there is blood in the streets.


  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I just read something that sounds so familiar that I don’t have to link it. Serbian villagers are have a hard time finding wives. All the local girls are going to the big city. So they are going to Albania to find wives. I get the feeling that we’ll be hearing Serbian urban women screaming in a few years about how they can’t find men.
    I love it when women are trapped by their own hypergamy.


  49. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    Warner Brothers tried to do a sequel because those two are superb together. Claude Rains was the co-pilot and Humphrey Bogart was a waist gunner on a Free French B-17. Lightening did not strike twice.
    Found it.

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  50. Spawny Get says:

    Work to do, Marine

    Liked by 1 person

  51. Yoda says:

    The United Nations chose Saudi Arabia, the country that covers women in black tents, doesn’t allow women to drive nor considers women actual human beings in charge of “promotion of gender equality and the empowerment of women”.

    Liked by 1 person

  52. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    I have seen numbers like that before, and recently. They were proven to be wrong. I can imagine that Macron is the darling of the mainstream media.

    I just read that Sophie Walker, head of the Women’s Equality Party is running against Philip Davies. He is the only one standing up for men, they probably want his head on a spike.


  53. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I had thought about another weapon for Marine. In the Dark Ages, one tribe of barbarians took their name from their one handed throwing axes called “francisca”. They were called Franks. Eventually, an entire nation was named after them, who took their name from their throwing axe. The weapon lives on as a tomahawk.


  54. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    This all sounds hauntingly familiar. PBS’s review of the French election.


  55. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    This is a good rundown of this whole sorry episode. Hat tip to Julian ODea.

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  56. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda at 10:52pm,
    To Ignacio Silone, “The future is now.”
    Real antifascists in church.


  57. Spawny Get says:

    I need a laugh


    Liked by 1 person

  58. Spawny Get says:

    Gorra love Jezza

    In his head, and only his head, I’m sure that he thinks that this went great.

    He did the same on terminating terrorist leaders.

    Liked by 1 person

  59. Yoda says:

    As a result, the atmosphere in the armed services regarding sexual assault has come to resemble the more publicized one on college campuses, where critics say bedrock principles of American justice, most notably the presumption of innocence, are being given short shrift.

    Liked by 1 person

  60. Yoda says:

    For the sake of campus protestors and their professors across the country, it’s time to make something clear: there’s no such thing as hate speech.

    Liked by 1 person

  61. Spawny Get says:

    Cue the music from Jaws


  62. fuzziewuzziebear says:

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  63. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    Why do people think that they can dominate the interview? It makes them look bad.

    That is another reason that I miss Liz. Injustice in the military over sexually related crimes was a sore spot for her. If prosecution is going to trample all over the Constitution, who will be interested in defending it?

    I think that campus protesters are making it up as they go along. Ezra Levant of Rebel media is right. Don’t send kids to college. They will end up like Moldylocks.

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  64. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I don’t think that feminists like Marine Le Pen’s politics.

    The theme from jaws does not lend itself to being whistled. If Mrs. Yoda is humming it in the kitchen, Yoda should investigate.


  65. Spawny Get says:

    Not seen the va-jay-jay mentioned once. Not the right kind of woman.

    Liked by 1 person

  66. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Nothing from Madeline Albright about a “special place in hell”?

    Liked by 2 people

  67. RichardP says:

    @Yoda: “…most notably the presumption of innocence, are being given short shrift.”

    Sorta tongue-in-cheek, but sorta not – in a situation where one is accusing the other of wrong-doing, it is not logical to presume that both are innocent. If only one can be presumed innocent, what criteria should we use to help us choose which one? (Rhetorical question)

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  68. SFC Ton says:

    No one is defending the Constitution

    It died in 1860. Thinking the Constitution is in effect is the blue pill of politics


  69. Yoda says:

    Three ISIS Fighters Killed By Long-Range Snipers and Wild Boars But Mostly Wild Boars

    Three Islamic State jihadis have reportedly been killed by rampaging wild boars near Iraqi farmland.

    The three Islamic State militants were cut down by the feral boar known to inhabit Kirkuk in the the al-Rashad region, a local news site said

    Liked by 2 people

  70. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    There is more than a little irony in that. I guess, in that part of the world, boars have no predators.

    Liked by 1 person

  71. Spawny Get says:


    a minute ago
    As good an exposition of MLP’s chances as any I’ve seen.

    So recently I’ve been seeing a lot of blackpilled posts about how Le Pen has no shot at winning the election. This isn’t true, for a number of reasons.

    >Paris Attack
    The next elections are on May 7th, and by then, the full weight of the Paris attacks will have set in. Macron’s response will only drive more people to her.

    Yes, Fillon did endorse Macron. It won’t change a lot of votes. The people who respond positively to this will be the people who were going to vote for Macron anyway. The majority of his supporters will still support her. They do share similar views on immigration after all. And remember, he was the third most popular candidate.

    Remember how many (((Sanders))) supporters went to Trump? That will be the same thing here. Most of the working class that voted for Melenchon despises Macron, and they’d easily vote in a quasi-bolshevik nationalist before him anyday. I’d say around 10-20% of his supporters will go to her.

    >Resignation as leader
    Won’t change anything, if anything, this will help bring more moderates in.

    Even if Le Pen loses the presidency, Front Nationale will still gain massive amounts of representation in the National Assembly, and in 2022, will probably be able to win


  72. Yoda says:

    A new post there is


  73. SFC Ton says:

    Does France have a 2020mif Le Pen doesn’t pull it down


  74. Spawny Get says:


    As I understand it, a month after the presidential election they elect their parliament. Even if Marine loses the prez, her party might do rather better in parliament. Macron isn’t supposed to have any party behind him (sort of independent) even though he has close ties to the catastrophic (Obama grade useless) outgoing Hollande regime. So his influence on who gets voted in might be confusing. Then he needs to form a government out of whoever is available. Something like that…popcorn, get yer loverly popcorn while it’s chaud.


  75. SFC Ton says:

    How much longer does France have without a major course correction? Will there be enough French/ French culture etc in 2022 to turn things around? Every year more hajjis turn voting age then frogs and a shit ton of frogs will vote for the hajjis

    Demographics is destiny after all


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