Once again riffing off of this discussion, the question comes up, should a young woman be quiet and sweet or saucy (or something in between)? Note that nobody wants a ball-busting woman. Also note that many women who have ball-busting tendencies do not believe that this applies to them. Your mileage may vary.
More specifically, the lament was that men say that they want quiet and sweet, but are attracted to women with a bit of spirit, bravado, a touch of daring-do.
Furthermore, the thought is that older men appreciate the quieter women more, but then the young women are not interested in them. So, is all of this true?
Unfortunately, there seems to be much truth to it in the modern age. Youngsters are raised with short attention spans. Furthermore they learn to that the quick zingers/snark/supposedly-clever-remarks are the currency of youth. They become what they learn. They value in others what they value in themselves. Therefore saucy women are the choice of many a fella. That, and also due to the fact that they are more noticeable.
Of course, when youth wears off, and the fellas figure things out more, such behavior can become tiresome. But, by then, the damage has been done; both to him and her.
So, what to do? The young ladies want to be noticed. There are many ways. One is to venture down the sauciness route, but only a little bit. One mistake that many young ladies make is to believe that if a little bit is good, a lot more is better. That is not true in this case. Also be careful of being negative against specific people with your remarks. Mostly, try to remain positive. One wants to be somewhat amusing, not potentially threatening. This is a fine line to tread. It may take planning and practice. Ideally, it would get you noticed by a fella of quality.
Addendum by Deti
The entire point behind women getting just a wee bit more outgoing (“saucy”, if you will) is to show men their interest. It’s about the fact that today’s society has crushed the spirit out of most men. Women are going to have to show men that they’re attracted to them and want to get to know them.
Sorry, women, but you’re going to have to do things to show men that they won’t get falsely accused of rape or harassment, that any resource investment won’t be wasted, and that there is sexual interest on her part. You’re just going to have to do that.