Young Sheilas — How Outgoing?


Once again riffing off of this discussion, the question comes up, should a young woman be quiet and sweet or saucy (or something in between)? Note that nobody wants a ball-busting woman.  Also note that many women who have ball-busting tendencies do not believe that this applies to them.  Your mileage may vary.

More specifically, the lament was that men say that they want quiet and sweet, but are attracted to women with a bit of spirit, bravado, a touch of daring-do.

Furthermore, the thought is that older men appreciate the quieter women more, but then the young women are not interested in them.  So, is all of this true?

Unfortunately, there seems to be much truth to it in the modern age.  Youngsters are raised with short attention spans.  Furthermore they learn to that the quick zingers/snark/supposedly-clever-remarks are the currency of youth.  They become what they learn.  They value in others what they value in themselves.  Therefore saucy women are the choice of many a fella.  That, and also due to the fact that they are more noticeable.

Of course, when youth wears off, and the fellas figure things out more, such behavior can become tiresome.  But, by then, the damage has been done; both to him and her.

So, what to do?  The young ladies want to be noticed.  There are many ways.  One is to venture down the sauciness route, but only a little bit.  One mistake that many young ladies make is to believe that if a little bit is good, a lot more is better.  That is not true in this case.  Also be careful of being negative against specific people with your remarks. Mostly, try to remain positive.  One wants to be somewhat amusing, not potentially threatening.  This is a fine line to tread.  It may take planning and practice.  Ideally, it would get you noticed by a fella of quality.

Addendum by Deti

The entire point behind women getting just a wee bit more outgoing (“saucy”, if you will) is to show men their interest. It’s about the fact that today’s society has crushed the spirit out of most men. Women are going to have to show men that they’re attracted to them and want to get to know them.

Sorry, women, but you’re going to have to do things to show men that they won’t get falsely accused of rape or harassment, that any resource investment won’t be wasted, and that there is sexual interest on her part. You’re just going to have to do that.

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93 comments on “Young Sheilas — How Outgoing?
  1. Yoda says:

    Being pleasant and gracious always good it is

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  2. Yoda says:

    Adapt to modern times one must.
    At least a little bit one does

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  3. Spawny Get says:

    Extra credit for Bigus Dickus. I’ll slip in an Incontinentia Buttox if I may, for a bonus point.

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  4. Spawny Get says:

    Oh and fwee Woger. A wascal and a wapist if ever I saw one. The wapscallion

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  5. Spawny Get says:

    He wanks as high as any in Wome

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  6. Yoda says:

    The highest of wankers he is

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  7. Yoda says:

    Funny how Romans speak English they do.
    Funny how I speak English I do

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  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    While we would all like to believe that women want someone they can live with and be a good husband and father, we have to observe what they do rather than listen to what they say. They want to be swept off their feet by someone four points ahead of them on the 10/10 SMV scale. This does not lend itself to long term relationships. The guys who are in this for the conventional reasons are bound to get crushed.

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    After commenting on Bloom’s site about the further adventures of “Vixen”, it occurred to me that grown women are burning through men at a rate that is insupportable. This won’t be a problem for them. It will be their daughters who will have to pick up the pieces. Yong women with the right attitude are going to get crushed by this SMP too.

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  10. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    Both among Jedi Knights and Roman soldiers, British accents are common. Curious this is.

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  11. Ame says:

    “Mostly, try to remain positive. One wants to be somewhat amusing, not potentially threatening. This is a fine line to tread. It may take planning and practice. Ideally, it would get you noticed by a fella of quality.”

    – – –

    wise, sage advice.

    it is good to practice. it is best if one has a good family in which to practice such things. i always ask my girls, when they get irritated with me correcting them, if they’d rather it be me or someone else. they always prefer me.

    ____________________________________________________

    “One mistake that many young ladies make is to believe that if a little bit is good, a lot more is better.”

    ohhh, this has got me into a lot of trouble in my life 🙂 … if a little is good, a lot is better, and a whole lot is a whole lot better! ummm … only in some very rare situations 🙂

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  12. Spawny Get says:

    If it helps you Colonial types out, check out how many baddies have British accents too. Or the actor’s British but with a German accent. #NotJustJedis

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    You made me think of Alan Rickman in Die Hard.

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  14. SFC Ton says:

    Accents depend on the effect the skypes are looking for; you hear a lot of Southern drawls as well

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  15. Spawny Get says:

    Not a dalek!

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  16. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Why would a Dalek need to go to the bathroom?

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  17. Spawny Get says:

    Fuzz, commodes need to be emptied. Daleks have creatures inside them

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  18. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I didn’t know that Daleks had creatures inside them. I always thought they were purely electro- mechanical. I guess that I have neglected that part of my education.

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  19. Yoda says:

    Why would a Dalek need to go to the bathroom?

    A Dalek plunge the toilet it would.
    Made for this they are

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  20. Farm Boy says:

    The Brits invented the flush toilet. Did they also invent the plunger?

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  21. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    No wonder Daleks do not like humans. How undignified!

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  22. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    A shoestring budget and they managed to make it work. Gotta love it!

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  23. Spawny Get says:

    True? The police I’ve seen interviewed didn’t look happy but they toed the bosses’ line

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  24. Spawny Get says:

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  25. thedeti says:

    The entire point behind women getting just a wee bit more outgoing (“saucy”, if you will) is to show men their interest. It’s about the fact that today’s society has crushed the spirit out of most men. Women are going to have to show men that they’re attracted to them and want to get to know them.

    Sorry, women, but you’re going to have to do things to show men that they won’t get falsely accused of rape or harassment, that any resource investment won’t be wasted, and that there is sexual interest on her part. You’re just going to have to do that.

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  26. Stephanie says:

    I wonder if “saucy” is the right word… when I looked it up for the actual definition and synonyms it didn’t sound *right.* “Impudent,” “irreverent,” “forward,” “disrespectful,” etc… those aren’t things that sound attractive to men :/

    There was a girl that I worked with years ago that was like the perfect combination of purity and sweetness and an outgoing positive personality. It was amazing to watch her interact with other people. She was a virgin, too, and went to a Christian private school like I did in our city, but I knew her after I’d gotten married (she’s a bit younger) and the descriptions I found of “saucy,” just wouldn’t probably fit her personality.

    She read my blog when it was more active and asked me back in 2015 how to understand to encourage her fiance when they were going through a hard time (her controlling mom kicked her out for wanting to get married… the mom actually wanted this girl to go to be a nun). Since she knew I dealt with the same reaction with my parents, and she’d never had a fight with hers before, she asked me what to do especially in regards to her fiance also having a hard time.

    They’re in a much better place now!! But this is the post I wrote for her…
    https://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2015/10/13/encourage-your-man-in-hard-times/

    You can’t be “saucy” (impudent, forward, irreverent, disrespectful, etc.) and be viewed as someone who will be able to support a man during hard times. I don’t know… that book I had growing up really talks about things like that. If I have time later this week I’ll try to post the exact wording (it’s not saucy I think) that describes what you’re talking about, but also fits in with other personality traits that are better for longterm marriage.

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  27. Farm Boy says:

    A Cornell student reportedly attempted suicide following his suspension from the school. This student had already been exonerated of allegations he raped a female student. Further, he had claimed she tried to rape him:

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/2017/04/17/student-punished-by-title-ix-after-being-exonerated-attempted-suicide/

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  28. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get at 5:01pm,
    If true, the Berkeley police are between a rock and a hard place. In 1946, it was plain that “Befehl ist befehl” in not a valid defense. I wonder if they know anyone in law enforcement? This smells like a conspiracy to deprive people of their civil rights.
    This time, the buck stops with the police on the site. As it stands, they will catch all the heat for dereliction and this will escalate to discharge of firearms fairly soon.

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  29. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    After that story, I doubt that anyone can argue that college is not a “hostile environment” for men.

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  30. Yoda says:

    Nicola Sturgeon busy again she is

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  31. Yoda says:

    White men die they should believe the do


    Democrats in a public, political meeting cheer and laugh at the mention of the increased number of white men committing suicide.

    The speaker says, maybe I should not say this in public, but when I heard more White men are committing suicide, I almost said “yeah, great!”.

    But he does say it, and the crowd likes it, as he knew they would.

    http://chicagoboyz.net/archives/55116.html

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    That was a very disappointing statement that man said. The Democratic Party has left the people.

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  33. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Just found this at Dark Brightness, Yoda. He says it better than I can.
    http://pukeko.net.nz/blog/2017/04/the-donkey-must-die/
    Do you remember him from SSM’s?

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  34. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    This is close to the topic. Girls from UC Santa Cruz tlk about how bad college boys are. At the same time, they are no bargain either. If this is modern college, it’s bad.
    https://mystudentvoices.com/ucsc-girls-college-boys-are-creepy-arrogant-and-suck-in-bed-1e3329ccbd93

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  35. Yoda says:

    Supposedly at the University to learn they are.
    Too busy with other stuff to do so they might be

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  36. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Things weird in Santa Cruz they are.
    Not impressed with girls in story I was.
    Colored my impression of their account of men it did.

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  37. molly says:

    My favorite Fuzzie Dubya Bear machine ..

    https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2015/01/27/why-im-a-mghow-in-the-land-of-the-ppp/#comment-9155

    The old+ diesel is sooo right on
    Yo!

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  38. molly says:

    The fly wheel keeps it going HAHA

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  39. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Molly!!! Burrito, burrito, burrito.
    The dog was very happy when that big, noisy engine was shut down. 🙂
    Here’s one for you to share with Uncle Spawny.

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  40. Spawny Get says:

    Another British General Election on June 8th…probably.

    Here we fucking go again. disMay talking of continuing BREXIT if when she wins.

    Laba is dead. LimpDumbs are a joke party lead by an utter joke of a ‘leader’. UKIP is currently rudderless. Nigel is AWOL and without time to do much.

    Interesting times.

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  41. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    That only leaves a month and a half in the runup. Will these be seats vacated by MPs retiring or being retired? I do hope Jess Phillips is among them.

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  42. Spawny Get says:

    Comrade Corbyn hears of the coming General Election. His party is 20+ percent behind in the polls. And that’s second place. disMay has it in the bag. Labour ist gefuckt.

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  43. Spawny Get says:

    Jess is in the kind of constituency where’d they’d vote for a pig if it wore a red rosette…as they clearly did last time

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  44. Spawny Get says:

    Corbyn backs General Election…it’s going to happen then. It requires a majority vote in the House of Commons to happen…this is now on the cards

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  45. Spawny Get says:

    Tim Farron, limpDumb leader sees a chance to gain seats from deadLaba

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  46. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    So, if this passes by a two thirds majority, all 649 seats in the House of Commons are up for re-election? The concept of doing something like this with so little notice is alien to us here, Add to that, there will be another scheduled general election in 2020?

    Someone has to get busy attacking feminists, no matter which party, because they can’t represent half their constituencies. As a matter of fact, they will promote legislation that makes their lives miserable.

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  47. Spawny Get says:

    WestMonster is run by Farage friend Arron Banks (both photographed infront of Trump’s golden lift after the US election)

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  48. Spawny Get says:

    “So, if this passes by a two thirds majority, all 649 seats in the House of Commons are up for re-election?”
    Yes, all of them

    “Add to that, there will be another scheduled general election in 2020?”
    Without a change in the law the next one would be 5 years after this one. 2022

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  49. Spawny Get says:

    Lil Timmeh Farron again

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  50. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    From where I sit, this gives the incumbents too much advantage over their challengers and the party currently in favor has a compounded advantage.

    Extreme Molly bait. May also be appreciated by Cill. This truck is so cool. We have nothing like this in the US.

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  51. Spawny Get says:

    “the incumbents too much advantage over their challengers”
    Labour is going to get the kicking of the last 100 years (at least). Then Corbyn will likely go. Then they’ll elect a Corbyn clone to replace him with and get the same kicking in 2022

    Fucking Delicious. The left is dying.

    Sadly the right INO is making it less than the win that it should be.

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  52. Spawny Get says:

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  53. Spawny Get says:

    Remember that we have 6 weeks of Corbyn’s lunatic dribble being publicly taken apart

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  54. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I will give one thing to Labour, they are not laughing at the suicide of their male constituents. Still, UKIP is terribly handicapped by the timing.

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  55. Spawny Get says:

    UKIP have the wrong leader. A leader that failed to fix the issues that caused Nigel to leave. It’s too late to see Arron & Nigel’s new party be relevant this time.

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  56. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I think that UKIP is the ony party that the Tories should worry about. They are the only ones with a new platform. That tells me why they want to have this election with so little notice.

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  57. Spawny Get says:

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  58. Yoda says:

    Corbyn’s eyes point the same direction they do
    Good this would be

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  59. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    They gave her a handle. She’s called “Moldylocks”.Ezra Levant chimes in.

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  60. Yoda says:

    Well, not much left to say about The Battle of Berkeley that I (and everyone else) hasn’t said already.
    Basically, the story is this:

    Antifa (and BAMN and the Black Bloc and various assorted lefties and anarchists) have been attacking/bating/cold-cocking and assaulting people willy-nilly with essentially no pushback for years now, at every event they “attend.” But the Milo event in February received massively more publicity than the previous violent riots (even though it wasn’t any more violent than all the previous riots), and as a result of the publicity a lot of the Infowars/4chan/Proud Boys/”alt-right” types all over California basically said “Enough of this shit: we are TIRED of Antifa on one hand attacking people with impunity and then on the other hand acting like Oppressed Victims when anybody puts up their arms to defend themselves. No matter how bad Antifa and their ilk act, the Right always gets blamed for the violence. So — if we’re gonna get blamed anyway, let’s at least play on an equal playing field with these Antifa assholes.” So a hasty “Free Speech rally” was scheduled for Berkeley for March 4, for the very purpose of luring Antifa into the trap: For the first time, the Free Speech protesters would be ready to defend themselved. As right on cue on March 4, some Antifa showed up, started attacking, and to their shock got punched back.

    Everybody got excited by the taste of blood and this impromptu brawl, so a second face-off was scheduled, this time with enough lead-time for everyone to get their full troops assembled. That second brawl was the one on April 15. EVERYONE knew about it ahead of time.

    Every “alt-right”/Trump-supporting/free-speech hardcore group showed up in Berkeley ready to rumble — and yes, unfortunately, a small handful of extreme skinhead/gang/neo-Nazi types — and against them assembled an equal number of Antifa/Black Bloc/BAMN and assorted commies and anarchists.

    Game on. For the first time, it was “No more Mr. Nice Guy” and no more “victim-posturing for the camera.”

    Result: Antifa got their asses kicked, and were literally driven from the park and fled.

    Ooooooh, dearest me, right-wingers threw punches! Let us clutch our pearls!

    But that’s the point. People’s patience was used up. Saturday’s punches were in response to YEARS of being punched and not being allowed to fight back.

    http://ace.mu.nu/archives/369333.php

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  61. Spawny Get says:

    Banana All-a-bed has competition

    😉

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  62. Yoda says:

    Flattering this is not

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  63. Spawny Get says:

    For no particular reason…did you guys ever have an eatery chain called Spud-U-Like?
    They served baked tatties.

    No reason for the question, as I said.

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  64. RichardP says:

    When I was young, living in the central Washington State wheat fields, young men used to walk around in summer with white paper caps on and a bag thrown over their shoulder hollering “spud nuts, spud nuts; come and get your spud nuts”. They were spuds-I-liked. But these were doughnuts, not tatties (potatoes??).

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  65. RichardP says:

    Accidentally closed the comment before I posted this link: SpudNuts – made with potato flour. Not quite a burrito – but tasty just the same.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spudnut_Shops

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  66. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    I can’t recall any “Spud-U-Like”, but there was some interest in baked potatoes of varying sorts a few decades ago.

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  67. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    I guess that I will not be buying the April issue of Variety.

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  68. Spawny Get says:

    I suspect that seeing Chelsea’s fizzog made me think of tatties (potatoes). And her famously warm personality (just like mommy dearest) lead to baked spuds.

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  69. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I thought it was Amy Schumer who is likened to potatoes.

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  70. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    tongue in cheek from Vox Day about a man on a killing spree in California.
    http://voxday.blogspot.com/2017/04/inexplicable-random-mass-shooting-for.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+blogspot%2Fvoxpopoli+%28Vox+Popoli%29
    Fresno is a long way from Europe.

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  71. Yoda says:

    Looks like an exorcism Chelsea needs she does

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  72. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    Not so much Chelsea, but we need a new antidote since Scarlett Johansson went butch. Do you think that Farm Boy has any ideas?

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  73. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post

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  74. Farm Boy says:

    Miss Drake is always a winner

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  75. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I’ll leave posting Miss Drake to our Glorious Patriarch. If I start linking her, we’ll see too much of her. I will find someone.

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  76. Yoda says:

    Picture of Chelsea makes glad that live in a swamp on Degoba I do

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  77. Yoda says:

    Variety magazine’s Co-Editor-in-Chief Claudia Eller, in a tweet promoting a new specialty issue, asked the public to answer this question about Chelsea Clinton, “How cool does Chelsea Clinton look on our Power of Women, NY, cover?

    Surely not hot she is

    http://www.thegatewaypundit.com/2017/04/variety-editor-asks-cool-chelsea-clinton-look-power-women-ny-cover/

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  78. Yoda says:

    Police Chief: Man Yelled ‘Allahu Akbar’ at End of Shooting Rampage.

    Terrorism undetermined, says Fresno’s top cop, in “random act of violence” that took 3 lives.

    https://pjmedia.com/news-and-politics/2017/04/18/police-chief-man-yelled-allahu-akbar-at-end-of-shooting-rampage/

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  79. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    Be glad also for your low ceilings. That would make it hard for Chelsea to take advantage of your hospitality.

    Fresno a long way from Calais it is.

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  80. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Fresno prosecute with hate crime enhancement they should.

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  81. Stephanie says:

    Heard that speech yesterday by May… exciting Spawny! At least it’s a good start anyway 🙂

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  82. Spawny Get says:

    If she walks the walk (not her track record) then I will be happy. There are other reasons for the early GE, but what she says makes sense.

    The main other reason is that her small majority in the HoC would more than disappear if rumoured prosecutions for campaign funding violations take place…they are supposed to be incoming. By US standards I suspect that the amounts are trifling, but dems da rulez…time for a clean-up. The rules are supposed to stop huge spending campaigns swamping the small guy candidate.

    One of the seats affected (allegedly) was Farage’s intended seat in the HoC (House of Commons) so that one pisses me off – the tories threw everything they had to keep him unelected. I’m guessing that’ll be the seat with the strongest case against the MP / campaign manager.

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  83. Spawny Get says:

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