Young Sheilas — Be A Good Long Term Bet


In the modern times with easy divorce and especially divorce theft, many young men are very careful about who they put a ring on.  Marriage is a big time risk for the fellas; therefore they need to be sure that you are focused for the long haul as a team.

Preparing for selling yourself to a young man should start when young.  One should develop the proper attitudes and behaviors such that they become internalized.  For pretending to have these when older is very often not effective.  Guys are are the lookout for tells that suggest that a woman is not what she presents herself as.  With the test of time during the modern version of a courtship, these tells almost aways eventually come out (hence the reason for internalizing them, making them real).

Let us consider some attitudes and behaviors.  Note that this list is not all inclusive, commenters are free to add more.

I.  Don’t act, think or be a slut; no matter how tempting it is.  Being this way makes you a bad marriage prospect.

II. Be truthful with him.  Tell no lies.  Once he detects a lie, then he wonders what else you are lying about.  This does not bode well for a long term relationship based on trust.

III. Don’t have crazy quixotic goals/ideas (especially if he does not have the same).  He wants you to be a wife and maybe a mother.  Chasing after silly stuff is not conducive tho this.

IV. Have a clue.  I once had a friend who chose his wife because she had a clue.  That is, she had enough sense about how the world really works to make a practical wife.

V. Make him feel, if not special, at least appreciated.

VI. Be reliable / not flaky.  Demonstrate this to him.

These by themselves should get a young lady far.  Add away.

Addendum by Deti,

VII. Learn how to take care of living quarters. Learn domestic skills. Cooking, cleaning, child care.

VIII. FFS, if you do not want to fuck the guy, cut him loose. If you used to want to fuck him but you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’, cut him loose. If you don’t want him, cut him the fuck loose.

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57 comments on “Young Sheilas — Be A Good Long Term Bet
  1. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    Do women realize they need to do this? That they have to actively make an effort to impress a potential mate of their long term worth? I think that women are so used to being pandered to that they consider themselves to be socially dominant to the point where men have to adapt to them and to provide them with what they want when they want it. Obviously, a woman who holds that line of thought would not be a good long term prospect and that is most of them.
    I’m sorry.

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  2. No 20 year old guy wants to get married anymore. The Truth is out there.
    Good advice but about 5 years too late.

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  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    We may be at a Mexican standoff. Women won’t change as they see no need and men have adapted as much as they can.

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  4. Posted by someone and shared on Facebook:

    As you hear the MSM and many people beating the drums of war, for a war they will not fight, will not sacrifice anything for and not see their homes destroyed in (at least we hope), consider the words to this song from 1989, specifically the line about “armchair warriors”.

    “O’ beautiful, for spacious skies
    But now those skies are threatening
    They’re beating plowshares into swords
    For this tired old man that we elected king
    Armchair warriors often fail
    And we’ve been poisoned by these fairy tales
    The lawyers clean up all details
    Since daddy had to lie”

    In other words same shit, different day a full 28 years later in 2017.

    War should be reserved for a last resort in response only to actual attack or a credible threat from a nation that actually can do anything meaningful to you.

    But keep calling for war from the comfort of your easy chairs folks! Don’t worry about those we will kill from afar, their lives don’t really matter right, chant it now U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A!

    The greatest lie sold to the American people is that being anti war is unpatriotic. No true patriot wants his nation at war, EVER. It is his duty to fight it when it comes to pass but if one craves war, he is not a patriot rather a psychopath. Generally this psychopath is someone who won’t have to bleed in said war.

    The blood on his hands will be metaphorical not real and hence his psychopathy is easy for him to express as he calls for war and wraps himself in the false flag of patriotism at the same time. And while his bloody hands are metaphorical, he is far more responsible for the blood on the ground than the solider who will be required to spill it. Sadly the solider will be the one to live with the regret, possibly to the point of taking his own life.

    The arm chair warrior will simply call for a new war, with no regrets.

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  5. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    There are a couple of slogans that very old.
    Old man’s war, young man’s fight.
    Rich man’s war, poor man’s fight.
    The second had much currency in the War Between the States, on both sides.

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  6. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    I am feeling sad. They just don’t make them like your mother anymore. I think modern women just expect life to be a continuous party.

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  7. Fuzzie, maybe their moms and female kin mislead them? People can learn, rare, but it happens. The learning needs to happen before any relationship, IMHO. I am not sure a guy can teach a gal this, but perhaps if his frame is strong and his value high. I dunno…

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  8. I try w my blog to tell women this… I hope it’s working, even for one or a few! Worth trying, anyway…

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    Thanks for trying. I don’t think that men can teach them this. It is something they have to learn on their own.

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  10. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Congratulations are in order at Sunshine’s.
    https://thesunshinethiryblog.com/2017/04/12/the-goslings-have-hatched/

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  11. Spawny Get says:

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  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    We have made a botch of it in Syria, and more than a few other places. Could it be that protecting corporate interests is taking the short view? These people can only see to the next quarter.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    From the Huffington Post. This post would be too radical for Jezebel.
    http://www.huffingtonpost.co.za/shelley-garland/could-it-be-time-to-deny-white-men-the-franchise_a_22036640/
    I do believe that radical feminists have just outed their intentions.

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  14. Yoda says:

    So when the terror group occupied Mosul and stumbled upon a school with a colorful cast of popular cartoon characters painted on its outer wall, they evidently had to take action. The campus in the now-liberated section of the city was left with blacked-out faces of Pooh and Tigger, Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck, Tom and Jerry, and other characters. Part of Mickey’s torso was also chipped away.

    https://pjmedia.com/homeland-security/2017/04/12/isis-defaced-pooh-tigger-mickey-mouse-before-east-mosul-defeat/

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  15. Yoda says:

    Bustle called it — what else? — “problematic.” Digital magazine “Everyday Feminism” went with “sexist as hell.” I’m referring, of course, to the language crime of calling women “girls.”

    http://nypost.com/2017/04/09/no-the-word-girl-is-not-an-anti-woman/

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  16. Yoda says:

    It’s disheartening to see yet another restriction placed on free speech in Europe, but this law has other problems. The threat of fines over $50 million to social-media companies is excessive, and it would almost certainly lead to Facebook and Twitter devoting an outsized portion of their resources to policing users’ content. The law would place responsibility for private persons’ “hate” in the corporate bodies whose servers carry the messages — making overzealous control of political posts a likely result.

    http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/446542/fake-news-hate-speech-law-germany-targets-facebook-twitter

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  17. Yoda says:

    A state appellate court ruled Wednesday that former University of Tennessee star linebacker A.J. Johnson and a former teammate have the right to go after the social media history of the woman who accuses them of rape and her friends in their bid to prove they are wrongfully accused.

    http://www.knoxnews.com/story/news/crime/2017/04/12/court-backs-ex-ut-players-social-media-bid-rape-case/100386286/

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  18. thedeti says:

    VII. Learn how to take care of living quarters. Learn domestic skills. Cooking, cleaning, child care.

    VIII. FFS, if you do not want to fuck the guy, cut him loose. If you used to want to fuck him but you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’, cut him loose. If you don’t want him, cut him the fuck loose.

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  19. thedeti says:

    My best wishes for a happy and joyous Easter weekend. May God bless you and yours, to each and every one.

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  20. SFC Ton says:

    I’m not sure there is much the typical girl can do to improve her long term value

    The well is way poisoned, dudes are more then ok on their own

    Really the only way I see a larger number of high value men marrying is alimony ends, child support stops being another version of alimony, enthusiastic sex is mandatory and maybe doweries make a comeback

    I do think in 20 years or less we will have more or less the same number of long term couples but with less marriages and more living together for 20 plus years. That being based on how I understand things play out in the europe

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  21. RichardP says:

    From fuzzie’s link about denying white men (written by a female):

    “It is obvious that this violent status quo will not change without a struggle, and the only way to do so will be through the expropriation of these various assets and equitably distribute them to those who need them.”

    1. Who created the assets that you want to take away?
    2. What do you think will happen to quality of life when you take assets away from those who created them, know how they work, and so can keep them running?

    3. Who is strong enough to take these assets away?
    4. Who gets to define “need” when redistributing the assets?

    (This Question 4 is quite significant when viewed through popular uprisings such as the Fench Revolution. When freed from the protection of those who created them, the assets will be up for grabs by whoever gets there first and/or is the most powerful. What a lack of understanding by the author to think one will have the luxury of “distributing” those assets, rather than having them snatched from one’s grasp by maurading hords.)

    5. Why do you think anyone strong enough to take assets aways from those who created them are going to feel any need to let go of said assets?

    Author of the article has not much understanding of the way the world works.

    A theme much discussed in Transactional Analysis: “Let’s you and him fight”. Females seem to like to do this. Just another version of that in the referenced article – as the author has neither the understanding nor the means to do herself what she said needs to be done. So, let’s hire someone capable of defeating the white man’s army (let’s you and him fight), and then naively believe that someone with such a capability to defeat the white man’s army would relinquish control of what they had won through violence.

    The author, Shelly Garland, says she’s working on ways to smash the patriarchy. Does she realize that she will have to hire someone to do that for her? And how will she control, for the benefit of the “needy”, anyone who has such power? (shakes head in dismay)

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  22. RichardP says:

    Re. the article by Shelly Garland: Again – thoughts are only “let’s take away what you built and give it to someone else”. Thoughts never seem to be “lets go build our own world the way we want it to be”. Always “let’s appropriate what someone else has created for our own ends”, and seems to never be “let’s go build that thing which we say we want”.

    Must be a social construct or something behind that behavior. (Are muscles a social construct?)

    Happy Easter to those who celebrate. May you ponder long the giant egg laid in Afghanistan today.

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  23. Yoda says:

    May you ponder long the giant egg laid in Afghanistan today.

    Perhaps more phallic it is

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  24. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    That was horrible. He ruined so many people’s lives.

    Yoda,
    Winnie the Pooh and Tigger too? This is not about graven images.

    If facebook or twitter have to take heavy fines for things that are beyond their control, they should cease to operate in those jurisdictions. That would send a message to Mutti Merkel.

    Considering how often social media exonerates men accused of rape and that it was displayed publicly, yes, they have a right to access.

    Deti,
    She won’t cut him loose. Not if there are favors to be had.
    Happy Easter.

    RichardP,
    Wasn’t she awful? I think that she intends to use the state to disenfranchise and, then, dispossess white men. She is presuming that women are dominant to the state. I thought that we had heard all this before and it didn’t work very well then. Anyway, she has declared war on white men on behalf of feminists. While moderate feminists may differ, they never object to radicals.

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  25. RichardP says:

    Yoda said: “Perhaps more phallic it is”

    Consider the Urban Dictionary:

    To “lay an egg” – to do something poorly, usually regarding some sort of physical activity; bomb it.

    Phallic it might be, but I think it may have cost Trump a considerable amount of his base support. They were looking at Trump as the anti-Hillary with regards to war mongering. Misplaced trust, and all that.

    Still – I think that Trump may succeed in reintroducing a “don’t tread on me” mindset where it needs to be reintroduced. Speak softly and carry a big stick. And use the stick where appropriate. Trump may end up carving out a whole new support base for himself. Unless we lose Seoul.

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  26. RichardP says:

    I think that is a pretty color of orange. Seriously. Just wonder how long before the social media conflates the two oranges.

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  27. Yoda says:

    Perhaps United Airlines hire Moe they should

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  28. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Moehau Man’s Kauri club made of wood it is.
    Easily pass through security it would.

    I have to admit that i hate flying.. The attitude of the companies is that they would have more regard for freight. It was only a matter of time before this attitude caught up with them.

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  29. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    Cruel you are.
    Laughing much I am.

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  30. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    A new way to tell people how you feel about them, send them tickets to fly on United Air Lines.
    Orson Wells laugh.

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  31. SFC Ton says:

    Tldr
    I see marriage as something that will only happen to 8’s and 9’s.

    You know, the extra hot. I can’t think of anything that will realistically off set the liabilities of marriage for men beyond the girl being smoking hot

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  32. SFC Ton says:

    Trump’s base is the going anywhere long term. They have no where else to go

    As for cruise missiles in Syria…. Trump has years to go before he faces re-election and the electorate has short memories. It will be bread and butter issues plus immigration that gets Trump re-elected. And as of now, we don’t know how often he will launch missles. As of right now Syria could be a one off, and let’s face it, his hands were tied with the gas attack deal. Ain’t no good options for Trump on that front. Most folks don’t understand leadership, authority or responsibility but let me tell you all three are mother fuckers on occasion and every once in awhile you have shit for options, yet you still have to choose and live and die by said shit options

    The MOAB in the A-stan; Trump said he would bomb the shit out of ISSI. He just did, though mostly those are phsyop weapons and it took the focus off his bombing of Syria

    The man knows how to play people and you can see that knowledge in action all the time

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  33. Yoda says:

    Boston, MA | Three members of the so-called ‘Irish mob midgets’, a Boston-based criminal organization composed of people of short stature, have been arrested this morning reports the Boston Chronicle.

    Security camera footage show the three suspects during a home break-in in which the intruders entered the house through the pet door.

    https://worldnewsdailyreport.com/boston-members-of-midget-crime-gang-suspected-of-55-break-ins/

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  34. Yoda says:

    “It is not clear to us that a reasonable person could find from these hearsay accounts an absence of ‘behavior that indicate[d], without doubt to either party, a mutual agreement to participate in sexual intercourse,’ as to do so would require overlooking the complainant’s admission that she removed her shirt when sex was suggested. . . . Petitioner then removed the rest of their clothing and asked the complainant if she had any condoms, to which she replied that she did not but that it was ‘fine’ and no reason to worry.”

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/2017/04/14/n-y-state-court-decision-setting-aside-suny-student-expulsion-in-affirmative-consent-sexual-misconduct-case/

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  35. Yoda says:

    A California Chick-fil-A franchise is waiting for its cows to come home after thieves absconded with three mascot costumes from a storage shed earlier this week.

    http://www.breitbart.com/news/california-chick-fil-a-store-seeks-stolen-cow-costumes/

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  36. Yoda says:

    A new post there is

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  37. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    I am impressed. It’s something I never would have thought of. However, I wondered why you linked it for me until I remembered.

    Her performance is so outstanding, she wins over the women who are jealous.

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  38. @ Fuzzie, it was the bow and arrow gal you linked to previously that inspired me, but the poole dancer is a classic as well! It makes me want to learn! Lol.

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  39. BuenaVista says:

    The MOAB drop was interesting; it’s only about 1/4 of a single B-52 normal bomb load. But the tunnel network was collapsed.

    Coincidentally, I’m sure, NK has the most extensive tunnel system in human history.

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  40. BuenaVista says:

    I’m all for a bomb run on a propeller aircraft. That hasn’t happened since Nam.

    The C130 was designed in the early 1950’s by Ted Smith. I was buzzed once by a C130 in the Shenandoah. I was tootling along at 500′ with the door open in a J-3 (Piper Cub). My wife was in the back. Beautiful spring evening, air like liquid glass. She was afraid of flying. We’re doing the normal 75 mph. A C130 emerges from underneath us, 100′ in front of us.

    Lots of screaming. They had a door open, dude waves.

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  41. Ame says:

    i come over here to find out what’s really happening in the world … as Spawny said, THIS is where the real truth is 🙂

    i should probably try to keep up with all these world events more, but my life gets full, and i can’t do much about it anyway.

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  42. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    I remember now. I hope that she doesn’t take up bear hunting. She could turn my butt into a pincushion.

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