Cill wrote a post about a boy growing up in a troubled household with no positive male influence.
If a bloke isn’t interested in anything I do, I can’t be of much use to him. There’s no sense in wasting time on the ones who are clearly beyond my reach. If they show interest in something I do, I teach them how it is done. Rua showed no interest, but there was something about him that caused me to persist with him.
Then suddenly like turning on a switch, he focused on the butchering that I do. He learned the names of the various cuts of meat and how to slice them out. Now he works as a butcher. He still doesn’t talk much but he’s quietly respectful of his boss and other older men, a big change for him.
So what most likely happened here? After a chaotic childhood, he developed self respect, and the respect of other men that he respected. Cill may be able to add to this.
It is a manosphere truism that men seek respect. Perhaps in the olden days, it was sought a bit from women; but with modern women’s silliness, men seem to intuitively know better. Some men still seek respect from society as a whole, but this is also on the decline, as all can see that society disrespects men. Today, as it always has been, men mostly seek it from other men. Primarily within their group, be it friends or workmates. Apparently that is what has happened here.
Perhaps it is a completely new experience for the bloke. One that is in a sense intoxicating. One that should launch him in a direction that will serve him well.