As the 22-year-old make-up artist walks home, she texts her boyfriend Adam Gillet to tell him she’s on her way back.
Beatrice feels no guilt as she walks through their front door – because Adam knows exactly where she has been and what she’s been doing.
The pair, who have been together for two years, have a one-sided open relationship.
Beatrice can sleep with who she wants, when she wants, despite Adam, 27, not having the same privileges.
They came to the controversial arrangement after Beatrice threatened to leave because she was unable to resist other men.
I see. She is unable to resist other men. There is a term for such a woman.
Beatrice, from Milton Keynes, Bucks, explains: “I love Adam, but I wasn’t ready to settle down and commit to just one man.
“I said I had to break up with him so that I wasn’t unfaithful. I didn’t want to hurt him by going behind his back with someone else.
“He was devastated and suggested we stay together but I could sleep with other people, as long as I told him who and when.
So yes, she does want to eventually settle down. But she want to have lots fun, freebies and validation first. She wants to have her cake and eat it to.
As for the poor fella, he needs some coaching. Don’t do this. Other men will not respect you. After all, you agreed to it; it wasn’t forced upon you by the law.
It will devastate you in the long run. You will not respect yourself. She will not respect you. Even if she doesn’t realize it, this is a big shit test. Actually it is a “shit test squared”. The original shit test was when she started sleeping around.
It is better to be celibate than to agree to such an arrangement. Take the Red Pill. Develop yourself. Become better. Do Inner Game. As you grow older, if you do these things, women will become more attracted to you; if you still want them.
It is true that the thirst is strong. But don’t let it drive you over the cliff.
Addendum by RPG,
She flat out told him she was going to do this. IN my mind, no matter how much he cares for her etc. the only acceptable answer, unless he actually truly is OK with her sleeping with other guys (unlikely) is to walk away.
If my guy gave me the same choices, I would also walk away. For my own sanity and sake. I could not be OK with it. The only way I could be in a relationship like that would be if I did not care about the guy. And again, why be in a relationship like that, when I could let go and find someone who wanted to be exclusive?
Addendum by Deti,
The focus of others’ comments, and my comments, has been on the man, because he’s the only one here who isn’t doing what he wants – not really. He’s the only one here who’s putting up with a relationship that’s not serving his interests, he knows this, and he stays anyway.
No one is saying anything about the woman in this situation because (1) she has the absolute right to do what she’s doing; and (2) if anyone said anything to her it wouldn’t matter anyway; and (3) everyone knows she’s just a woman and women are going to do what they’re going to do regardless of how stupid, pointless or destructive it is.
We EXPECT women to do stupid shit like this. WE DO NOT expect men to put up with stupid shit like this.
No self respecting man puts up with a woman treating him like this. I know this, because, while I wasn’t being cucked (at least not that I know), I did put up with crappy treatment from my wife for a long time. She was only part of the problem, for reasons 1-3 I just stated. I was the other part of the problem. Here’s why, and grab hold of this:
Women tend to push things as far as they can and this makes them miserably unhappy. Women also tend to live within guardrails and boundaries that men set for them. And they’re happy having someone else tell them “you can’t do that and if you do your relationship will be over”. Know why? Makes them feel safe to know that someone else has put down boundaries and guardrails, and is in charge of managing them. They can accept that their man will be with them as long as she stays inside the boundaries and guardrails. It makes them feel safe to have boundaries and guardrails set down by someone else. Now, she’ll bump up against them, and you just tell them to stay back from them, and it’ll be OK.
God sets my boundaries/guardrails. I set my family’s boundaries and guardrails. My wife does NOT set my boundaries/guardrails. That’s the problem here – she sets HIS boundaries and guardrails. That’s why guys are getting on him. A GF does NOT tell a BF what to do.
This is what Ton does with his girls. He sets down what’s permissible and what’s not, what he will tolerate and what he won’t. That’s what I do with my wife and even more so with my daughter. Makes them feel happy, safe and secure.
They’re getting on this guy because he wont’ put any boundaries down. He won’t do anything to make himself happy. In fact he puts up with all manner of shit from her. they’re on him because he won’t do what he needs to do to preserve his self respect.
That’s the issue here.
“Now we get to the big question, how to combat this?”
For men to reach down and find their balls. If they’re with women who carry their balls around in their purses, they go into the goddamn purses and take their balls back. Along with whatever else they want.
They make it crystal clear that there is no way in a million years they are EVER going to be with women who even THINK about sex with other men.
If my wife ever came to me and said “I think I’d like to open up our marriage”, I’d say three things: (1) No way; (2) Who’s your lawyer going to be; and (3) you’re moving out, i’ll help you pack and pay for the cab and your first night’s hotel stay. After that you’re on your own.
Men have to say no fucking way are they going to do this. Fuck that shit. I’d rather live alone and never have sex again than ever agree to be in a relationship like this. Abso-fuckin-lutely NOT