Here at Spawny’s Space we have been debating about this video,
This woman claims to want to get married, but from watching the video, it is obvious that her ego is too inflated and she must have an impossible checklist for a man to qualify.
It was suggested that the silly hat is a clue. It is more than that. She looks like she has been camping for the last few days and her appearance suffers for it. That she recorded herself in this state tells me she doesn’t care about providing a good impression.
Could she be sabotaging her chances with men unconsciously? The sexual marketplace is a complete mess and she is changing her odds from slim to none . Slim gave her online profile a pass without even reading it.
Another thought. Her repeating the slogan “Never settle” tells me that she will only accept men out of her league which can only be on a short term basis. She does have a history and none them stuck.
Present day women burn through a lot of guys before they even think about something permanent. By the time that they get there, have they burned through their allotment? Guys can’t take this indefinitely on a collective basis.
The Glorious Patriarch added
The reason that that yellow hat woman is going to find it hard to get most men with that act is, beyond the fact that she’s just not fucking funny – obviously. It’s that men know that attractive and happy unfunny women who think they’re funny…become shrews in later life.
As they age their attractiveness dwindles which fuels their unhappiness because they garner decreasing amounts of attention and they experience increasing intolerance of their shining wit. Unfunny humour fuelled by unhappiness is kvetching, bitching, moaning and aggressive whining. And because men who tolerate her because she’s pretty when young become less tolerant as she ages, we have a synergy developing which leads to a shrewishness feedback resonance tornado.
Just a theory
Going back and watching the video again made me realize that she was trying to funny. I just didn’t notice that the first time through.
Let us dig a bit further by considering her precise words,
“Even though I did love them all at the time”
So she goes through men, feeling the feelz. Then the feelz are gone. Is this how it supposed to work? Every single time? What makes her think that this might be a pattern that can be broken?
“He just wasn’t looking for something forever with me”
Perhaps he had lots of other options. Perhaps you kind of fun, but not wife material. Perhaps no woman will be wife material for him. Perhaps he was out of your league. Did you ever consider why? Apparently not. It was all on him.
“You know, I am looking to feel the feelz. That exciting, addictive feeling that you get in your body when you meet someone that you have this crazy chemistry with, and you connect on all levels. That shit is genuinely like crack”
This is what she has had. This is what she wants again. And again. That is, the initial rush from “falling in love”. She doesn’t actually want a long term partner. No. She wants the rush. Of course, this rush dissipates with time. That is the nature of the beast. Perhaps this is why she breaks up with so many fellas; it is time to find another to reinvigorate the rush.
As one does this more often, and as one gets older, this rush becomes less and less each time. Perhaps she needs better and better men each time to compensate for this.
“When I go out with men now, I just don’t feel that. It’s just not good enough for me”
So, yes, apparently she does need a “bigger dosage” of man these days. She is in her thirties now; probably this isn’t going to happen for her.
“I can’t do that. I can’t settle”
Does she really believe this? If so, how did she get here? The answer apparently is that she put everything in the “initial rush of feely” basket. And now it is worn out.
Does she consider what she brings to the table? There isn’t much evidence in this video. I am sure that she considers herself to be amazing with a writing and video gig. I wonder how many men think that she is amazing?
“Now the problem with this, is that it takes longer to meet someone”
Perhaps there is an element of truth in there. Just enough truth to let the rationalization hamster do its thing. In reality there is another truth. She is getting older. Her value is going down both with respect to SMV and MMV. This is not helpful in terms of meeting that “special someone”.
“I love being in love”
“I am a reach for the stars kind of person”
I wonder if she could ever be satisfied in a marriage. I wonder if a man would kill himself trying.
“I’ve always had a good gut instinct about stuff”
So she has gone through oodles of men, and in their cases, her gut instinct hasn’t been correct yet.
Addendum By Spawny
Bollox, now I’ve just watched it all the way through for the first time. She said everything I thought she’d say. Including things that I didn’t really want to hear. She isn’t my enemy, she isn’t my friend she’s just another fucked up person in the world. And that’s not giving me any pleasure.
1) She’s ‘proud’ that she got through some mental health issues. Men who know better will not want to hear this in a wife / mother of their children candidate. Sorry but men don’t want to be legally tied to an unstable woman. Even more than that they don’t want what might be bad genes in their kids. There is no reason to believe that the stresses of motherhood will not cause her to crack again. I’ve had friends with barmy wives with kids…no thanks. The divorce was terrible and he then has leave his kids in the care of an unbalanced, neurotic woman heading for menopause. Nope. I wouldn’t want a robotic woman as a wife, I like emotions in a woman, but instability is not good.
2) Her attractiveness is decreasing but her standards are rising…she must realise that this is insane. This is, however, great news for men. We all know what happens when a woman ‘settles’ for a man who is ‘less’ than her. Best she not settle for some unlucky bloke.
3) Off the top of my head she had five(?) ‘relationships’ worth mentioning. So how many one night stands? She has an N well into higher divorce risk territory.
4) The egg alarm has been ringing for five years now. It must be getting shrill by now. Next relationship the guy needs to be alert for oops-pregnancies or, at best, an extremely short count down to having kids. Maybe a guy in his mid-forties and up might be in a rush to not be 70 with teenage kids? Blokes her own age will want to screen her motherhood potential and have some fun years first – she is not a good candidate.
5) She’s heading for a Hail-Mary marriage with the bigly odds stacked against it working, a breakdown perhaps followed by bringing kids up as a single mom. Men should run for the frigging hills.
And do I get any pleasure from that? Nope. But I would still recommend that men give her a wide berth because it’s not their fault or their problem and men should have realised that the era of chivalry and white knighting has passed. Particularly when the legal system is a shitshow for men. Avoid.
Addendum by Stephanie
She’s like every cliche in the manosphere….
I kind of feel sorry for women like this though. She’s not going to probably find what she really wants, and will end up “settling” because the men that are the quality she’s looking for are constantly decreasing as an available chance for her, not mention can pull women a decade younger than her already. It’s sad to me that she doesn’t see this at all… just completely oblivious.
But if you listen carefully, she perfectly words how women end up with beta chump husbands who are “nice” and “maybe I could have a baby with him.” They’re looking for paychecks and sperm donations.
She also words Rollo’s “epiphany” phase perfectly with how she suddenly became SO CONCERNED about finding a husband around age 27. It’s right on the mark.
She doesn’t want to have a man who’s “nice” and she “maybe could make a baby with,” but instead wants someone she is crazy about that has magnatism and charm and she feels REALLY attracted to.
I think she waited possibly too long. But who knows…. ?
Addendum by RichardP
The Second Law of Thermodynamics (the Law of Entropy) states roughly that, unless energy is supplied from outside the system, all systems run from a higher state of organization to a lower state.
In many instances, humans are that “outside energy” that is required to keep systems from becoming disorganized and/or disintegrated.
From this truth we get the cliche “life is hard”.
For anybody that wants to keep food on the table, a roof overhead, the fields plowed, and the hay baled, and maybe create kidlets, life is hard (see ‘Second Law of Thermodynamcs’).
Life is hard. It helps to have a partner who can help supply energy from outside the system to keep what’s yours from disintegrating. It has beent his way for thousands of years.
Pray tell, what role do feelz have in keeping the Second Law of Thermodynamics at bay? Someone should inform yellow-hat lady of this truth. You get a partner to help keep the things in your life from going from a higher state of organization to a lower state. It does help if there is also some sexual tension there.
I guess you could have the state as partner, to help counteract the Second Law of Thermodymics. But where’s the sexual tension in that??
Addendum by Ton
The fussier/ more picky with age is about her protecting her ego; by becoming more picky her circumstances shift from her fucking up her youth to men not measuring up