Parents are up in arms about an assignment in an 11th-grade “adult roles and financial literacy” class in Utah that sent students out on $5.00 dates, ostensibly with students of the opposite sex. Jenn Oxborrow, who has a daughter in the class, posted a photo on Facebook of the handout the class was given with instructions for a date, assigned by her teacher at Highland High School in Salt Lake City. According to Oxborrow, the assignment was an example of Utah Department of Education-sponsored misogyny.
Apparently trying to appeal to what boys might like is misogyny. Taking the word misogyny literally, I see no hatred of women here. I wonder what might have triggered such a reaction…
Students were instructed to go out on a date and were only allowed to spend $5.00 (not including gas). They were told they could go in groups to help their money go farther and were required to write a brief “summary of the date activities” when they returned.
This seems like a simple “get out there and play in a role” type of activity that youngsters can learn from. It also teaches about thrift. Perhaps that is the issue here, as there is a sense of entitlement on part of the girls.
“Thanks for educating our kids, Utah Department of Education,” Oxborrow wrote in the Facebook post, which has been shared nearly 2000 times. “We really appreciate your evidence-based misogyny.” The post has garnered more than 1000 comments, many of them bordering on hysteria about the “hetero-normative” expectations of the school and the antiquated views of women.
Lots of snark here. I suppose that when does not have anything either intelligent of funny to say, then the easy to create snark fits the bill. I especially love the evidence-based mysogyny. I wonder if the writer could actually explain what it was in terms of real definitive words that actually make sense. So why is there borderline hysteria in the responses? Perhaps when one does not have a real logical argument, one can substitute invective?
Highland’s adult roles and financial literacy class is required for graduation under state law. The school’s principal, Chris Jenson, told The Salt Lake Tribune that the handouts, included in the “Purposes of Dating” portion of the state curriculum database, were not intended to be followed to the letter.
So the “teaching a point of view” idea did not fly. It is a point of view, it is true. One that makes sense to many. Why not be exposed to it? The “teaching a point of view” idea is used to justify teaching all sorts of stuff these days (31 flavors of gender, sharia law, etc.). What is so objectionable about this?
What are the harpies (almost all of them women, I should note) so freaked out about? They’re upset that their daughters are being encouraged to act “lady-like” on a date and told that they shouldn’t use vulgar language or flirt with other guys. On the handout it clearly says that these are suggestions “from the Guys,” which sent the (I guess) anti-lady snowflakes scurrying to their safe spaces so they could begin launching their attacks on this sensible dating advice.
Now we are getting somewhere. Girls want to have their cake and eat it too (think Lena Dunham). They want to do what they want. They want to use one fella’s spending on a date to try to attract what think might be a higher value fella. The guys will just have to adjust to this reality. The girls will control the narrative such that there is apparently no viable alternative.
This is really what this is about. The idea is that if all girls act in this very unappealing manner, then the fellas will have not choice but to acquiesce. The real fear is that if a girl or two break the mold, and act a ladies, the guys will stampede toward girls that display such behavior. So we have a cartel based on intimidation of women by women. Perhaps that is at least a bit misogynistic.
Addendum by Deti,
The entire point of the post is that it is always, ALWAYS about what women want, need and expect from the dating/mating/sexual process. It is never, EVER about what men want, need and expect.
When you complain about men making suggestions on what they want, that’s what you’re telling men: What you want doesn’t matter. Fuck what you want, need and expect. Your job is to shut the fuck up and give women everything they want, need and expect.”
Well, with all due respect to people who think this way: Fuck that. Sideways. With a spike-studded baseball bat.
We cannot continue going down that path without more and more men checking out. That’s what is happening now anyway.