Series on Sluts — Part I


This is the first of a series considering sluts, why they do it, what they are, and perhaps most importantly, how to prevent the onset of this disease.  Today, we consider why a young woman would want to be a slut.

A teen/young woman has lots of power.  Even if they are not the prettiest, or are even overweight, they have one thing going for them that is considered to be of value — they are young.  The question is about how to leverage this.  Probably many do not consider this in depth; rather they just fall into doing the easy stuff that gets rewarded.

Let us consider what these rewards are,

I. Lots of attention.   If you have a reputation of being available, then that will get around, multiplying the attention that you receive.  Probably the attention is intoxicating, it is fun, and is easy to obtain.  What is not to like?

II.  Sex.  Despite protestations to the opposite, women do at least sometimes like sex.  Though I do wonder if this is much less rewarding than the attention that they receive.

III.  Free goodies.  These might include, but not limited to, food, rides, cars, clothes and entertainment.

IV. The thrill of victory.  When they score with the guy that they target, they are awash in the feel goods.

V.  Scoring out of their league.  Though they might not know it, they are probably hooking up with fellas beyond what they could ever hope to snag.  What ego wouldn’t be boosted?  And what young chick doesn’t want an ego boost?

It should be obvious that there are lots of advantages to being a slut.  Just make sure that you use the pill, and you are good to go.  So young women – embrace your inner slut.

 

Addendum By Deti as to why women would be sluts,

Power. The sexual power a young, pretty woman has is simply immense. With it she can get many men to do virtually anything she wants them to do. All the things you mentioned – freebies, goodies, trips, meals, entertainment, fun times, hot sex — are an expression of her use of her power.

That is what sex really means to women. To men, sex almost always involves some level of connection, some emotional “meeting of the minds and hearts”. Despite what everyone tells us, sex doesn’t mean that for most women. Sex is an expression of power for women.

Affirmation/validation. This is kind of an offshoot or extension of power, but it warrants its own paragraph because it’s important to women. Her ability to get hot men, high status men with options, to pay attention to her is an expression of her worth and value as a woman. ALso, gives her “bragging rights” among her frenemies. A hot woman who can get hot men to give her attention must be a woman who has some value.

To cover up pain/trauma/issues. Sex is a balm for prior hurts. Makes her feel good about herself that she can get an attractive man to pay attention to her. Covers the pain for a while. I think most women do not become sluts and then this causes lots of issues. Used to think that; but I don’t think most women become sluts and then it causes problems. Some women do, but probably not most. I think (theorizing here) most women become sluts because they have some kind of unresolved pain, trauma or shit in their pasts, that gives them distorted views of themselves, relationships, sex, whatever. They resort to the one thing they have that gives them power — their sex appeal. Their bodies. Sexual access to their bodies.

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78 comments on “Series on Sluts — Part I
  1. Being a slut is not good. Even if someone is on the pill (or has abortion as a back up plan) that does not protect from the many std’s like herpes, genital warts, aids, etc. and it’s not good for a gal emotionally, either. Women are not physiologically, psychologically, or physically equipped for a multiple short term partner lifestyle. Slut-Dom is another feminist propaganda, that girls can have casual sex just like (Top 20%) men. But they just are not designed biologically for that, it goes against a female’s ancient and natural best interests – which is to only exchange sex for commitment. Historically being pregnant w no idea who the father was and w no support from him was life destroying. That ancient programming still applies, even w the pill etc. disconnecting sex and pregnancy is just an illusion. There are reasons beyond just not getting pregnant.

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  2. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    they do like pulling out of their league and they will continue to do it as they see there are no consequences. It’s alpha fucks while they are young, beta bucks when they want a family, and back to alpha fucks after bets hubby gets dumped at family court. However, a tactic this blatant and obvious cannot last indefinitely. I am guessing that it is played out.
    Over at Bloom, Horseman made the comment about women reaching sixty who have used these tactics running out their string Unless they have a lot of lifetime alimony, they are in deep. Child support has long since run out and what kind of work can they do? Yet, they are not complaining. Do they still foster the hope that some man will rescue them?

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  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Off topic. They had to make a sequel after it got panned here by Liz and Tarn. Where do they find chumps to invest in this gynocentric scheisse?

    While Dakota Jonson is cute, it has to be embarrassing for her to have a father who is objectively prettier.

    I can’t remember who made the observation, but when you boil it all down, Fifty Shades is all a bout some mousy girl scoring in the hypergamic lottery.

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  4. Cill says:

    Some women are attracted by the feminist notion that using and dumping men is the right thing to do. It’s an act that men quickly see through. No-one but the most pathetic of men would want to invest in women who are literally and figuratively screwed up.

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  5. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    There is another thing and you would think that it would be Plain to see. Sluts do not make good wives nor mothers. All they are good for is short term relationships. This will backfire on them.

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  6. Yoda says:

    All they are good for is short term relationships. This will backfire on them

    Care they do not.
    At least right now care not they do

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  7. Yoda says:

    Wonder what the correlation between the marshmallow test and sluttiness there is I do

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  8. I am not sure that young women really even consciously understand they are playing out of their league when they do so. Many a gal I knew in college and such were SURE these guys were within reach. Only to spend the next few months over analyzing with their friends why it never went anywhere…and what went wrong. Of course missing the obvious, entirely. Bc it was HIM, not HER, the girlfriends consoled her.

    In a similar way girls were sold the expectations that they could all be leaders/upper management/CEOs with fulfilling, exciting careers in their choosen area of interest/passion. Just like a guy! Except they left out of course that most men aren’t upper management/CEOs working their dream jobs, either. They never told us as little girls we may end up with crap/lower level/not that exciting jobs — like 80+% of all people do.

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  9. Another version of the same thing is women being told to put off having kids, “until she’s ready.” Only to find out when she finally decides at 38+ she’s ready, her timeline and nature’s did not line up. I know several women this happened to who said it had never occurred to them, when they decided it was time, that it might not happen.

    It’s all different shades of the “you can be or do anything you want and you can have it all on your terms, on demand” modern woman/feminist propaganda. Many, many girls bought it.

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  10. Yoda says:

    Much propaganda in the world there is

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  11. It reminds me of an old joke: Bedding a sexually experienced woman is like sitting on a warm seat in a public toilet. They’re both a nice experience but you always wonder who was there before you.

    “most importantly, how to prevent the onset of this disease.”

    You can’t. AWALT. Because God said so.

    Genesis 3:16- the woman’s desire will be for the man who is fit to rule her. If her husband isn’t fit to rule her, then her desire isn’t for him. And if she’s not getting the alpha at home, she’s needy… and the outcome can be stated with a simple formula: RM, RT, RP, RL.

    The right man (a man she is very attracted to)
    At the right time (she has no other commitments, no accountability)
    At the right place (he has good logistics, no-one will know, she won’t get caught)
    With the right line (tight game)

    Women will say that’s not true, that some women can control themselves. No, all it takes is RM, RT, RP, RL. Why? I will admit some women are careful to construct rules to prevent RM, RT, RP, RL from ever happening because they know what will happen. Those women are few and far between and they prove the rule that if everything drops into place her panties will drop too. But don’t take my word for it.

    Ecclesiastes 7:28- “I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.”

    A basic knowledge of game and a room in a convention-center hotel is usually all it takes to appreciate what women are really like. Look for the tan-line on her ring finger where she usually wears her wedding ring, that tells you what she has in mind. Sometimes they wait to take the ring off as a signal they’re available for you. Inebriate, isolate, escalate and close the deal.

    And later you may be laying in bed with her when her husband calls. If she doesn’t get out of bed and run to the bathroom, start banging her again while she’s talking to him. I assure you, that and the conversation afterward will be an eye-opening experience. For bonus points, take a selfie of the two of you, naked, with her talking to her husband and while you’re on top of her.

    The churchians will call her an adulteress but blame you for seducing her, the poor thing.

    The truth is she wasn’t having her needs met and you were the right man at the right time, in the right place with the right line. That was all it took.

    It is impossible to seduce someone who doesn’t want to be seduced, so the man’s only defense is to be fit to rule and rule her well.

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  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Toad,
    That is a tall order when they devote so much energy to finding fault with men.

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  13. Ame says:

    OT – my husband and i just finished watching Spotlight … heart.breaking.

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  14. Spawny Get says:

    I have no Catholic links, not affected by the scandal but I thought that that was a good film on the issue. I watched it some months back. It was horrible but I don’t remember it being OTT sensationalist. Now they need a sequel on English cities like Rotherham where the secular culti-multi establishments got together to ignore grooming of children for many, many years. Some of the rapists are now going to prison, but there’s no fuss made. All the look-away-ers just shuffled round jobs (afaiaa)

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  15. happyhousewifey says:

    I think there is a connection between deficient orgasmic ability and being a slut. Orgasms -> oxytocin -> attachment
    I know some women who were sluts and they all had that issue (no orgasms, although some said they faked).

    As for me, I’m decidedly monogamous 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  16. Yoda says:

    Unfortunately young women mostly plan this out not.
    Just “fall into it” many do

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  17. SFC Ton says:

    Society doesn’t lack the ability to reduce the number of sluts. Society lacks the will power to do so

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  18. SFC Ton says:

    Wow that movie has some seriously successful actors in it

    Every organization has evil people in it. The RCC did all in its power to support and protect child rapists. That takes evil to the next level.

    And none of the RCC’s leadership had enough honor to stop it or take their own life out of shame.

    Really sick shit stacked on top of more sick shit

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  19. Spawny Get says:

    The movie (afair) makes that clear but without an emo-fest of cloth rending. That’s what makes it a decent film imho

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  20. FNU MNU LNU says:

    even at 60, they will be able to find some sort of orbiter to pay their way.

    my poor uncle spent his life taking care of his wife. he died from cancer at 80+ just a couple of years ago. my aunt very quickly dug her talons in to some other poor guy, and is now draining his bank account dry.

    they are as mercenary as any hessian that ever lived.

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  21. Linny says:

    What actually makes a woman a slut? Is there a certain n-count? Are there mitigating circumstances that would allow her a higher n-count and not be considered a slut?

    Who is responsible for teaching girls what will get them labeled a slut? At what age should this education take place? Too early and it may not make sense or stick with them, too late and oops.

    I know that some of you will say the education is the mother’s responsibility but that would only works if the mother is able to teach by example. Unless the mother uses the example of herself as a slut as a deterrent.

    The only education I got was from my mother and all she said was “men only want one thing, don’t give it to them”. But that could be construed as cultivating the rape culture thing in today’s society. Lucky for me I am from a generation long, long ago and far, far away.

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  22. Cill says:

    The scandal affected me indirectly (through boys I knew – as I’ve mentioned elsewhere on this blog) and almost directly as well.

    When I was a kid, for a short time my music teacher was a priest who got away with sodomizing boys for years. I noticed the kid before me had a flushed face and a weird shifty expression as he left when I arrived for my lesson. When the Priest tried it on with me, I took him by surprise and knocked him out. He told everyone he’d damaged his face by falling off his bike.

    Since then, some of his ex pupils have told me some of the things he did to them. He was a brutal bugger. He died years ago, or a bloke I know would have paid him another visit by now, as a man.

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  23. Excellent thread! So much good stuff!

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  24. Spawny Get says:

    “Lucky for me I am from a generation long, long ago and far, far away”

    Carrie? Is that you?

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  25. Linny says:

    Spawny Get

    Hahaha.

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  26. Linny says:

    Cill, When I was young but married we lived across the street from a family in which the husband was a Junior B hockey coach. Now I’m not sure what age group that is but I think it’s maybe 16-19/20 so not really young. He was known to be a notorious womanizer but years later he was charged with sex crimes against some of his hockey players. Some might think it strange that boys that age would allow such to happen but Junior B is for players looking for scholarships into college or universities so getting on the team and being given ice time meant a lot to these boys.

    He had two daughters and a son. The two girls had locks on their bedroom doors.

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  27. Linny says:

    Yoda or anyone,

    What is the marshmallow test?

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  28. FNU MNU LNU says:

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  29. Cill says:

    “Junior B hockey coach” (Linny) fits the bill. They wangle their way into positions of trust with kids.

    The great majority of children in NZ don’t experience any abuse from men. I happened to come into contact with it – mostly indirectly – because I learned classical music and knew other kids who learned it. The teaching of classical music was an example of a position of trust where a pedophile could be alone one-on-one with his prey.

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  30. Ame says:

    i don’t have any affiliation with the Catholic church, either.

    no, the film was not sensationalist at all. it was really well done. i noticed it received a number of awards, and it certainly earned them.

    – – –

    Ton – “Wow that movie has some seriously successful actors in it

    Every organization has evil people in it. The RCC did all in its power to support and protect child rapists. That takes evil to the next level.

    And none of the RCC’s leadership had enough honor to stop it or take their own life out of shame.

    Really sick shit stacked on top of more sick shit”

    ~~~
    yep, the cast is stacked.

    yes, every organization has evil people in it, and every church, too. it’s heartbreaking. i think that this film was so well done is what makes it even tolerable to watch. of course, the Penn state stuff came to mind, too.

    people who think children are disposable are just evil.

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  31. Yoda says:

    Society lacks the will power to do so

    Why it has the willpower not?

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  32. Ame says:

    Cill – what do you think it was about you that gave you this natural, reflexive, authority to protect yourself … even at such a young age?

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  33. Cill says:

    I bet I won’t be the only one to have noticed that evil chooses beauty, not ugliness, as places where it has a better chance of operating unseen.

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  34. Ame says:

    i think the film also did a good job of showing how much people justify evil when it benefits them. in this case, the church did sooo much good! why would anyone want to mess with that?

    also interesting … 9-11 happened in the middle of their investigation … which also encouraged leaving the church alone b/c it was doing so much good to help so many devastated people.

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  35. Cill says:

    Ame I was brought up in the outback. I knew by then how to slit the throats of sheep and put a bullet through the brain of a deer (wink).

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  36. Ame says:

    Cill – that’s what all little boys need … it gives them a knowing authority over their own bodies and their environment. it trains them to be men. too bad we can’t send boys to Cill’s training in the outback!

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  37. Choicy says:

    I’m think like me as a kid Cillo would have shot a lot of animals before his first kill with a knife. Slitting a throat is a hell of a big step away from a shooting. You hold onto a living thing while you put pressure on the blade in your hand mate. When I was proud I could butcher sheep like a man my dad told me to butcher an orphan lamb I raised as a pet. It sounds tough but I learned from it. We should teach city sheilas to kill the lamb and the butcher the carcass before we let her put the roast in the oven mate.

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  38. Linny says:

    Yoda thanks for the article. I understand the concept now.

    FML thanks(?) for the video. Not sure I will ever look at those big marshmallows the same ever again.

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  39. Wow! Hopefully this Ohio case will be tried by AMERICAN law standards, not Islamic law ones.

    http://www.wnd.com/2016/12/ohio-muslim-shoots-daughter-3-times-in-head-claims-accident/

    :/

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  40. SFC Ton says:

    N count and sluthood….,

    Long nasty debate because it’s been decoupled from Bibiblical/ absolute morality.

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  41. SFC Ton says:

    Without making light of what occurred to Cill

    I think classical music and pedophile go hand in hand

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  42. “New Right leader???” Or SJW? Reports reporter to her employer bc of free speech/assn. he claims were “neo-Nazi”

    Reporter defends her right to free speech/assn.

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  43. Some background:

    The “leader” above is associated with Cervonovich (ironically just released a movie defending free speech) and others branding themselves as “new right” and reporting “alt right” figures they disagree with to have them blocked and/or banned.

    This has been going on via Twitter for the past few days… some allege these “new right” leaders are opportunistic and/or shills to take out / delegitimize the alt right. This started when some Trump supporters were banned from attending the “Deploraball” in DC, on Jan. 19. A guy going by BakedAlaska was a key organizer and headline speaker until others banned him from the event and substuited Milo as headliner instead. I don’t know what all to make of it but worth keeping an eye on…

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  44. Ame says:

    ” We should teach city sheilas to kill the lamb and the butcher the carcass before we let her put the roast in the oven mate.”

    ohhhh, Choicy!!! nooooo!!!!! please … i’m very very very happy to let you be the Man! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  45. Ame says:

    Artisanal Toad –
    “The right man (a man she is very attracted to)
    At the right time (she has no other commitments, no accountability)
    At the right place (he has good logistics, no-one will know, she won’t get caught)
    With the right line (tight game)

    Women will say that’s not true, that some women can control themselves. No, all it takes is RM, RT, RP, RL. Why? I will admit some women are careful to construct rules to prevent RM, RT, RP, RL from ever happening because they know what will happen. Those women are few and far between and they prove the rule that if everything drops into place her panties will drop too. But don’t take my word for it.”

    – – – – –

    i went to a ‘christian’ college, but the town had a very high abortion rate … not cool to get pregnant out-of-wedlock in a christian college. anyway, one of my college friends went on a mission trip somewhere where there’s a red light district during our college years, and when she came back after spending time with the prostitutes, her only comment was, “But for the grace of God go I.”

    any woman who thinks she’s above being tempted is lying to herself. if a woman does not want to be ‘one of those,’ then she needs to put some serious boundaries in place, and then keep them, to protect her against herself … not from the men, but from herself.

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  46. Ame says:

    the movie dealt with the ‘system’ of the catholic church to protect priests who abuse children … the system included regular parishioners who didn’t want to believe such evil about their beloved priest … but who also didn’t want to upset the system.

    the catholic church does not have exclusive rights to such behavior – i’ve seen it in other denominations. i remember such a church in my college town while i was there. by the time the abuse of boys by the male pastor became public, his history was long AND KNOWN by the elders in the church! the first time they’d learned about it they gave him a little swat on the hand and told him to behave. they never reported him to authorities or informed the congregation. BUT … when the congregation did finally find out, the most shocking part was how many chose to chalk his behavior up to, “Oh, well, we *all* sin!” and continued to support him! “Ohhh, our beloved pastor!!!”

    so, why would parishioners still support such a man? i would guess b/c they don’t want to be outed for their own sick, sexually deviant behaviors – either current or past. if they call out a pastor for such, then they must face their own.

    it has been said that abortion is still legal b/c christians vote for it. why? b/c they want the ‘out’ just-in-case. they want the out just-in-case wife has an affair and gets pregnant with another man’s baby … their daughter gets pregnant out of wedlock … husband has an affair and gets her pregnant … cause their position in the church and community is important. and … pride.

    does this make all Christians/Catholics bad people? certainly not. but it would be foolish to ignore the truth. when the church ignores the truth of sexual sin within its midst it does a huge, HUGE disservice to other Christians. to give a Christian the idea that simply being a Christian … or a member of any church the idea that simply being a member of the church, insulates one from being vulnerable to an affair or any kind of sexual ‘sin,’ is wrong at a very base level

    tell the truth; don’t lie. it’s even in the top ten.

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  47. Iberian says:

    I just love sluts, harlots, whores, hookers, cheater girlfriends/wives, etc.

    I am so sorry. I was a teen in the 80s. At that time sluts rocked and good girls were so boring.

    It seems that today sluts act so arrogant. Not in the 80s. They were funny, nice and warm.

    Has the good character of the “slut” changed dramatically and today are not only “sluts” but “bitches” as well?

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  48. Yoda says:

    If you haven’t bought gifts for your loved ones this holiday season, here’s an idea: Instead of throwing away cash on hoverboards and cashmere scarves, have a “Check Your Privilege” card at the ready whenever they need a small reminder. Fabiola Lara, who was behind our favorite holiday gift last year (a pregnant/not pregnant calendar dedicated to a woman’s right to choose), put together handy packs of ten cards for only $5. All proceeds will be donated to Atlas: DIY, a center for immigrant youth in Brooklyn, and while a cashmere scarf might keep your family member warm for a while, the gift of self-awareness is forever.

    http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/12/check-your-privilege-cards-are-the-best-gift.html

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  49. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    I don’t want to imagine Ton’s reaction to receiving one of those cards.

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  50. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    What FNU said at 4:40pm goes a long way to explaining why older women aren’t screaming. They believe greater fools are still out there at over sixty years of age.

    I don’tr believe that we will ever be able to pin down a definition of “slut”. As long as it is vague, more women can excuse themselves.

    It may be more of a worldview than N counts. Emphasis on short term relationships and overuse of monkey branching is a large part of it. It kind of makes a mockery of the term “commitment” when applied to women.

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  51. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    FNU,
    George Washington had a nasty Christmas surprise for the Hessians. They got theirs at Trenton NJ.

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  52. Spawny Get says:

    Getting late in the season but WankPuffin unleashes a Brexiteer seasonal carol

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  53. Spawny Get says:

    Iberian, it’s so hard to keep up with modern trends and fashions. Post the emergence of the rap scene, it seems ho is an acceptable word / is a suitable role for young empowered women. That surprises me, but who am I to judge? I just steer clear of them.

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  54. Yoda says:

    Sluts maybe fun for flings they are,
    But marry one one would?
    Most sluts eventually desire marriage they do

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  55. Linny says:

    Iberian, as much as you loved the sluts of that era would you have chosen one of them for a monogamous LTR or as the mother of your children.

    I think that in this era there are lots of men who still love sluts. Makes life a whole lot easier for those who do not want a LTR.

    If all the sluts turned into *good girls* there would be a lot more men going without partnered sex. Or men choosing to enter into LTRs just for the sex.

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  56. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Iberian,
    Attitudes have changed in the last thirty years and, not for the better.

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  57. Linny says:

    Fuzzie, I think the attitude change is in the sluts themselves and not so much how others perceive them. 30,40,50 and more years ago sluts knew what they were, But now it seems they feel entitlement, the right to play the game while young but not to be judged when they run out of young.

    I feel guilty because I was part of the second wave which has led to whatever wave this is. I appreciated the second wave, without it my life would have been very different. But I must say I am so very glad I do not have to deal with the way things are now.

    BTW, to all of you who are young I need to say that women do not become sexless beings after menopause or 60 or whatever. Women can remain sexually active til forever and that includes desire(instead of the other word). Although finding or having a fully functional male partner does become a problem.

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  58. Yoda says:

    Wonder how many women sluts they are,
    because “empowered” they desire to be

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  59. Yoda says:

    From Ton’s link this is

    “The experience focuses on the examination of societal images, expectations, and messages around masculinity to empower men to better understand themselves, promote the advancement of gender equity, and raise consciousness in their communities,” organizers add.

    It’s open only to “men-identified students” at the public university and “operates on a transformative model of social justice allyship,” according to a news release on the university’s website, which adds “by encouraging that kind of dialogue among a men-identified cohort, the goal is to create a sense of security in vulnerability throughout the six-week program.”

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    But now it seems they feel entitlement, the right to play the game while young but not to be judged when they run out of young.

    They want their cake, and to eat it too. One cannot do this on a society-wide basis

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  61. thedeti says:

    “we consider why a young woman would want to be a slut.”

    You forgot:

    Power. The sexual power a young, pretty woman has is simply immense. With it she can get many men to do virtually anything she wants them to do. All the things you mentioned – freebies, goodies, trips, meals, entertainment, fun times, hot sex — are an expression of her use of her power.

    That is what sex really means to women. To men, sex almost always involves some level of connection, some emotional “meeting of the minds and hearts”. Despite what everyone tells us, sex doesn’t mean that for most women. Sex is an expression of power for women.

    Affirmation/validation. This is kind of an offshoot or extension of power, but it warrants its own paragraph because it’s important to women. Her ability to get hot men, high status men with options, to pay attention to her is an expression of her worth and value as a woman. ALso, gives her “bragging rights” among her frenemies. A hot woman who can get hot men to give her attention must be a woman who has some value.

    To cover up pain/trauma/issues. Sex is a balm for prior hurts. Makes her feel good about herself that she can get an attractive man to pay attention to her. Covers the pain for a while. I think most women do not become sluts and then this causes lots of issues. Used to think that; but I don’t think most women become sluts and then it causes problems. Some women do, but probably not most. I think (theorizing here) most women become sluts because they have some kind of unresolved pain, trauma or shit in their pasts, that gives them distorted views of themselves, relationships, sex, whatever. They resort to the one thing they have that gives them power — their sex appeal. Their bodies. Sexual access to their bodies.

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  62. Linny says:

    Ton, I wonder if this class is full each time. Wonder if it is considered a bird course. Wonder what the guys taking it major in. Wonder if having this course could be useful on a resume. Wonder if these guys have gender issues. This article just makes me wonder.

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  63. Linny says:

    Farm Boy, hope it is not poppy seed cake. Those seeds get stuck in your teeth and are a lot of work to get them out.

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  64. Linny says:

    thedeti

    “their sex appeal” ah, now I know why I didn’t become a slut.

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  65. thedeti says:

    @ Linny:

    My definition of slut is “woman who is unable to parlay her sexual attractiveness and conduct into commitment from a suitable man she is sexually attracted to”.

    “What actually makes a woman a slut? Is there a certain n-count?”

    My personal view is N=10. Get to double digits and you’re a slut no matter how you racked it up. If your N=5 and they are all one night stands, you’re a slut.

    “Are there mitigating circumstances that would allow her a higher n-count and not be considered a slut?”

    Not really, no.

    “Who is responsible for teaching girls what will get them labeled a slut?”

    Her father (mostly) and mother (to a lesser degree). Father, because men decide who are sluts and who are not; who are worthy of commitment and who are not. Father, because he can use his judgment to impress on her how damaging sluthood can be. By “Judgment” I mean his discernment between and among that with is right and wrong; that which is useful and not useful, that which is worthy and worthless, that which is good and bad. Women (including girls) absolutely hate negative judgment; and they especially hate negative judgment from men.

    Moms can fill in daughter on the feelings/emotional part of it.

    “At what age should this education take place?”

    At around the same time as the “birds and bees” talk.

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  66. Linny says:

    I can see the father aspect being very effective. But so many children are being raised without a father in their lives. And a lot of the part-time fathers are into having sluts as a regular feature in their lives.

    Do you think that a “do as I say, not as I do” type of conversation with this type of father would actually work?

    Children are so *monkey see, monkey do* I have to wonder if there is anyway to reverse the way things have become. And here I am talking about both the mother and the father.

    I was very lucky and I admit it was pure luck that my children turned out as well as they did. I never had a talk with them about slutiness, it never crossed my mind and their father was, um, too busy to have such a talk. My first and third child are in their only marriage and have been for many years and my second divorced her first husband because he got into heavy drugs and she didn’t want her children around that but has now been in her second marriage for many years.

    Now I will say that my extended family is very close knit so maybe that helped I don’t know.

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  67. SFC Ton says:

    Sex is power to a woman
    Inversely that’s why they get off on being dominated

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  68. Granted, it’s been many a year since I have been a teenager, but likely the more things change, the more they stay the same.

    On one hand, there is the power factor a gal has if she’s willing to yield it, which takes a certain personality.

    Being one of the first to develop I was aware the boys were more interested in me, and that the other girls were envious of that power. I was pretty niave and felt very self concious about the whole thing so I actively downplayed things, wore baggy clothes, etc.

    Both guys and girls spread rumors that I was a slut, making up stories, which made me more self concious and more prim and proper as a result, to never behave in any way that seemed slutty or reinforced the rumors. Ironically I think the experience made me more of a “good girl” than anything. Plus I had been raised that casual sex was wrong and that sex without love and commitment was wrong.

    Had I been raised different or had a more bold personality perhaps I would have worked the power for all I could but I am glad I didn’t.

    I had the most popular guys pursuing me, only to break things off when they discovered I wouldn’t go all the way. It was hurtful at the time but I didn’t want to sleep w these guys just so they would date me.

    So there’s pressure from the more aggressive (Alpha?) guys on teen girls, w the lure of being the popular guy’s girlfriend (but honestly, and I knew this even young, more likely to be a flash in the pan pump and dump.)

    I know a gal, her daughter is 14, looks older, has a bold personality, wants attention, wants to be popular so she’s using that power. She’s had at least two partners already, what will that number be by 18? It makes me sad bc IMHO she’s not even old enough to know what she doesn’t know yet. By the time she is, she’ll be we’ll down the promiscuous path.

    So yes it is girls working the power but it is also (some) teen boys giving ultimatums.

    Teen girls moms or some female figure should explain to them young how all this works, and the pitfalls.

    It’s an illusion of power…

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  69. Yoda says:

    For not being a slut one was,
    Punished with accusations of being one one would be

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  70. Yoda says:

    A new post there is

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  71. @Linny

    “women do not become sexless beings after menopause or 60 or whatever. Women can remain sexually active til forever and that includes desire(instead of the other word). Although finding or having a fully functional male partner does become a problem.”

    Years ago when I was just a pup I knew a blind guy, lost both his eyes in Vietnam. He was in his mid-40’s, in really good shape and could PT like a machine. Call it “blind-man game” if you want, but he got laid like tile, mostly good-looking women in his age-range. I’ll never forget a comment he made one time when he was in a philosophical mood:

    “I’m blind and they know I can’t see them… but they still want the lights out. I think women want the lights out so they don’t have to see themselves as they are. That way they can imagine themselves the way they used to be.”

    In terms of “the way they used to be” I think the best thing for women is to do a search for “kegelmaster 2000” on Amazon and read the top reviews. I’m not saying to buy one, if the reviews don’t convince nothing I say will… but if more women took care of their babymaker a lot more women would enjoy sex.

    As to finding a “fully functional” partner, things like Viagra and Cialis only treat a symptom.

    In order to treat the problem I suggest EDTA chelation therapy. I’m talking about the IV slow-drip 6 hour sessions, 2-3 per week, 8-12 weeks over the course of treatment. The treatment should continue as long as the urine indicates heavy metals are still being pulled out of the body. It does amazing things in terms of restoring the circulatory system which has a definite impact on tumescence in men and blood-flow to the vagina in women. The treatments have a discernible effect within the first 2 weeks. When combined with TRT for men, expect to see morning wood on a daily basis.

    Depending on your own body’s functioning (especially after menopause), you might find that 1500mg-2000mg of Phenibut (taken about 4 hours prior to sex) not only increases vaginal sensitivity but causes an increase in vaginal lubricity that may obviate the need for additional lubricants.

    If you want to really experiment with better living through chemistry, both you and your partner give PT-141 a try together. A “fully functional” man who takes PT-141 will start worrying about priapsis and the erection can be so hard it’s almost painful. The effect PT-141 has on women is interesting and stimulated a lot of debate a few years back.

    PT-141 is a dopamine agonist. The brain-chemistry response to masculine domination (“ALPHA”) is a release of dopamine, which results in a dopamine rush (“tingles”), which is part of what PT-141 mimics. This is why its effect on women is described in terms of turning them into a nymphomaniac. It gives them them an hour or two of alpha with whatever man they’re with.

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  72. Linny says:

    Or we could petition to get the baculum back.

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  73. FNU MNU LNU says:

    EDTA therapy? iv slow 6 hour drips? heavy metals being pulled from your vag. jesus f’n christ, that sounds like something from an episode of breaking bad! cant you just find some younger bitch with a working pussy?

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