Over at RPG’s blog, commenter Sergey states,
I think, modern world is increasingly a walk in the park for men.
You are no longer have to provide, you don’t have to protect, you don’t have to commit – just be able to attract, and you’re good; and given that women are considerably more than men attracted to ACQUIRED SKILLS rather then to genetically predisposed traits – it’s a matter of effort invested for us, guys, really. Build up your body, build up your confidence, build up a career – this advice is way easier to follow then “you should’ve born beautiful” or “stay 26 forever”. As a man, time works for you, you gain points every single day after 30, just by not turning into couch potato.
And for ladies, it is increasingly rougher deal. Jump through society hoops – and you’ll reach a bare accepted minimum (degree and a career) few years prior to your fertility window is about to close. Ignore them – and prepare to be ostracised as a gender traitor by your own peers. Take a risk to engage with modern-day non-committing men – and you have somewhat 33% to 50% chance to end up as a single mother (and this SUCKS). Avoid that risk – and hello spinstership. Every year after 45 would increasingly resemble the Hell on Earth: a choice between another year of crushing loneliness and radical lowering of your standards and pairing with a man you’d never willingly chose back in your prime years.
Young women have extraordinary leverage. They have the power over men. It is obvious to them at a young age that they have this. They are encouraged to use it to their “benefit” to the fullest extent.
Young men, on the other hand, learn that this is the way that it is. Women have the power — and they don’t. For many, this stays with them as they age. Often they do not truly realize that the power shifts to them. The momentum of how things were in the younger years is strong.
But many other men are like those that Sergey describes. They develop their skills. They can attract women. They are now in a position to do leveraging. And many do just that. Many older divorcees and spinsters are really not worth more than F-buddy status to these men. This comes as a shock. They expected the momentum to never dissipate.
Now, on to RPG’s question,
Are Women Being Raised to Fail?
Why yes, yes they are. Spending their years of highest beauty and fertility goofing around; developing an outsized sense of entitlement while doing so. Becoming unmarriagable to a wisened cohort of men. But at least they are empowered.
P.S. NAWALT applies