Commenter Ame stated
Like little children who feel safest when firm, safe boundaries are set and kept, so do women. and, like little children, women try to change those boundary lines continuously. Honestly, we’re exhausting. I’m continuously amazed at how my husband handles me ~ some days there aren’t enough gold medals available to give him
Basically women crave a benevolent dictator. Dudes don’t get how that soothes the feminine soul.
Pick up is about taking them on an emotional roller coaster ride of your choosing, one so intense it bypasses their bitch shield, anti slut defense and cock blocking best friend/ beta orbiter etc.
Ltrs are about taking them on an emotional roller coaster of your choosing and a rock solid frame that let’s their hamster get some rest every now and then.
A day or three back, over at Rollo’s I told the guys I had to learn to be more beta post divorce. At 1st I was too serious, then too intense/ scary then I started regaining my sense of humor, being a little more child like and dorky to offset the menacing. … the point to that is… you call the shots, you set the agenda, you stand firm on her silly ass list of needs etc but you don’t have to be overbearing about it. Teasing ie neg’ing is about that not being over bearing ( plus women are wordy creatures and they like the verbal display for higher value)
Sounds Iike a lot to juggle, but most guys are quick studies and most chicks are easy to manage if you start off with good frame…. and they know you’ll in a box under the over pass before you put up with her bullshit
Then HappyHouseWifey chimed in
Also what Ame said, hormones! The same event can be wonderful or terrible depending on the hormonal influences (keeping a diary made this clear to me) and memories can be colored to say the least. I assume it’s the same for other women, but I find my moods are more stable with frequent sexual activity.
Also benevolent dictator, what Ton said! Although I think he’d still scare me – different cultures have different ideas of what makes a person overbearing. I’ve met a few Americans and even the women were so intense I just nod and smile and back away slowly. The women I know feel the same, the men (especially the ones who have crossed the Atlantic) usually like Americans and say they are extremely nice. I know it’s a whole continent and attitudes vary, but wow, even your commercials… INTENSE
There apparently is sentiment among women for the fella to take control and power through (for real, not Hillary Style) all of the hormones and general shit testing. But with Modern Feminism, women are absolutely told to never allow a man to take control. As role models we have Michelle Obama (who Barack terms superior) and of course Hillary Clinton. Could Bill or Barack ever had a chance taming them?
When one has a strong internal conflict, it normally manifests itself in odd and counter productive ways. Probably this is a big reason why modern women are just such messes. They never accept the internal conflict, they never do anything to resolve it, they just fall apart as they grow older.
As for men, their most intense internal conflict is more out in the open. Young men want w0men. They mostly can’t have them. This causes great pain at the time. But as men are capable of doing, they get over it in the course of time; typically having some flavor of MGTOW forced upon them (e.g. divorce). They come to terms with it all, and are more healthy as they age.
Sometimes it is better to be a man.