It is a truism around the manosphere that men work for and desire respect. This includes both self-respect and the respect of others. Let us consider this,
University of Notre Dame anthropologist Michael Jindra first noticed it in the late 1990s that more and more, his students, particularly the young men, seemed less invested in their studies.“It’s hard to describe. It just seemed like their heads were someplace else,” Jindra said. “More than in the past.”
Jindra talked to some of his struggling students and found various reasons for their academic performance, but one thing stood out: all-night video game marathons.
A theory took root that Jindra’s been studying ever since — a cultural shift is under way, a kind of escapism where a growing number of young people, especially men, are becoming more invested in recreational pursuits to “escape” their traditional social behaviors, like being fathers or career-driven providers….
The report outlined economic reasons for the decline, like fewer jobs. But in a telling detail, the report found that unemployed men spent almost twice as much time on leisure activities and more than twice as much time watching television. It’s no coincidence, Jindra thinks, that this trend has intensified with the rampant growth and prevalence of digital media and entertainment
There is little for young men these days that is positive in the larger culture and as James Taranto of the Wall Street Journal once so astutely pointed out: “But there’s a reason they’re attracted to that particular pursuit. Video games are a simulacrum of masculine virtue: challenge, mastery, control.”
In a culture where these virtues are frowned upon, it’s no wonder men are more drawn to video games then to a classroom, career, or relationship where to perform well, one must appear docile or subservient to women and the state. People these days hate strong-willed men, hence the hatred of Trump. There are few who can take the heat of hatred, so video games and other pursuits can be a substitute life, at least for a while.
With video games, boys/men can develop self-respect from mastering them. They can gain the respect of others also through this mastery. One might suggest that this is all so silly, as it is just competitions in make believe worlds. Perhaps, but respect results from it just the same. Consider boys/men when playing athletic games. They want to do well, and for their team to win (well maybe not so much in beer leagues). Often they work very hard to improve their skills in order to perform more effectively. Much of this is about respect. So there is a precedent here.
Where did many men in times past gain respect? From being the head of a family. It was considered to be a fine virtuous thing to do, with extra kudos if you did it well. Those days are gone. Nobody respects fathers much anymore. They are mocked in sit-coms and in commercials, and mostly they are considered to be chumps. If one wants to be a father, these days it is because he truly wants to be a father, as there is no respect to be had there.
Here is the question: what endeavors today lead to men obtaining both self-respect and the respect of others?