Perfect Is The Enemy Of Good

“Perfect Is The Enemy Of Good” — Of course most people have heard this before.  In my personal case, it should have applied to my marriage.  My ex-wife would be bothered by anything that was not perfect.  If everything was not in order, then I had no right to sit down and watch a football game.  In reality, many things were very good.  There was lots of money, I spent lots of time with my stepson engaging in his development, etc.  But that last little bit of marginal utility needed to be drawn from me.

This issue seems to be more common with women. Probably much of it is because of how they are naturally built.  In addition, the self-esteem based preteen years, combined with the heady teens and twenties lead them to believe that the world is there just for their asking.  So why not desire the best: they are worth it.

How do fellas react to this?  In the medium and long runs, not so well.  Instinctively they see that the extra effort that they put in is often not really doing much (i.e. low marginal utility), and they resent this.  This leads to all sorts of bad things, fights, divorce, etc.  She ends up with much less than she could have had by moderating her demands.   In my case, the ex-wife did not make out so well in divorced life.  Still, she controls her own destiny now.

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37 comments on “Perfect Is The Enemy Of Good
  1. Farm Boy says:

    She could have had a good life, but now she has little (as far as I know, having lost contact)

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    I should mention that the above was not the biggest reason for divorce. The fact that she was borderline was the biggest

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  3. Yoda says:

    Seems to happen to women much this does.
    Swing for home run they do.
    But strike out the result is

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  4. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    I see your point. Had the ex-wife settled down and enjoyed the ride, she would be much happier today. I am sorry for you about all this. It is discouraging to those who have never married. The idea of being put in a constant lose-lose situation is hnot appealing.

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  5. Yoda says:

    Self sabotage many women do.
    Odd this is

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  6. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    You deserved better. I don’t get to write anyone’s lifescript but, had I yours, I would have written in a loyal wife.


  7. Yoda says:

    A loyal wife like Mrs. Yoda good it would be

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  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yes, I can see that.While she makes sandwiches, you make soup and, going from there, it all falls into place.


  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    New Karen Straughan but, it is not an original, it is a response video to a podcat and after getting into it for an hour she has to cut it off.


  10. SFC Ton says:

    Ex wife’s problems? Who gives a fuck?

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  11. Yoda says:

    From FuzzieBear’s link this is

    There is little for young men these days that is positive in the larger culture and as James Taranto of the Wall Street Journal once so astutely pointed out: “But there’s a reason they’re attracted to that particular pursuit. Video games are a simulacrum of masculine virtue: challenge, mastery, control.”

    In a culture where these virtues are frowned upon, it’s no wonder men are more drawn to video games then to a classroom, career, or relationship where to perform well, one must appear docile or subservient to women and the state. People these days hate strong-willed men, hence the hatred of Trump. There are few who can take the heat of hatred, so video games and other pursuits can be a substitute life, at least for a while.


  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Men and boys don’t ask all that much. Just a path to dignity.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I thinki the mainstream media may be losing patience with Clementine Ford. This is a good thing.

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  14. Yoda says:

    Democratic nominee Hillary Clinton’s campaign has sent out a fundraising email arguing the website Breitbart News has no “right to exist,” and suggests that if elected, the website will be shut down entirely.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Yoda says:

    Others are also unleashing their frustration with the decision, with some saying it’s “another setback for non-white & female writers” and “like Christmas in October for a ton of straight white cis gender dudes.”

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  16. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I think AHillary is alling for a UK based news enterprise to be shut down becqause she doesn’t like what they say. I will take it that she means it and that is bald faced censorship. So much for the First Amendment, or any of the others, along with the Constitution.

    Thsi is Bob Dylan more than fifty years on.

    Talent of that magnitude deserves sine recognition.


  17. FNU MNU LNU says:

    I have to admit that I got a real chuckle when I read the title of this post.

    Back in 2004 I heard the exact same words from “someone” who was complaining about how long some of our investigations seemed to take, and especially about the report review and approval process.

    “Someone” was Deputy Attorney General James Comey.

    Now I know what he meant by ‘good”… lol

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  18. Spawny Get says:

    But what could this imply?

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  19. Spawny Get says:

    Scientific research backed up by personal experience* confirms

    *techically a lie

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  20. Yoda says:

    If average voters turned on the TV for five minutes this week, chances are they know that Donald Trump made lewd remarks a decade ago and now stands accused of groping women.

    But even if average voters had the TV on 24/7, they still probably haven’t heard the news about Hillary Clinton: That the nation now has proof of pretty much everything she has been accused of.

    It comes from hacked emails dumped by WikiLeaks, documents released under the Freedom of Information Act, and accounts from FBI insiders. The media has almost uniformly ignored the flurry of bombshells, preferring to devote its front pages to the Trump story.

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  21. Yoda says:

    Hillary Clinton argued that expanding food stamps and other safety net programs is essential to fuel economic growth at a speech to General Electric executives, according to an excerpt of the transcript made public by WikiLeaks Friday.

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  22. SFC Ton says:

    The conisistuion and bill of rights have been dead since 1860

    Nor is it going to make a comeback

    The real questions are what’s next? And how do we carve out the best life possible given what’s coming


  23. SFC Ton says:

    Wikkileaks; the people who will vote for the hildabeast won’t care what comes out. Progressivism is their religion, hildabeast one of their high priestschool. Not sure if any of her misdeeds would count against here

    Perhaps it would sway so independent voters, but my theory there are no independent voters, just folks who want to pretend they above the fray


  24. Spawny Get says:

    Harambe’s representative on Earth.


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  25. Another new post at my place — I am apparently on a roll! Lol.

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  26. RichardP says:

    “Perfect Is The Enemy Of Good”. Particularly for wedding vows. Why vow “in sickness and in health” when vowing “only in some sicknesses, and in health” will do.


  27. Yoda says:

    Madness. Their heads are so far up their asses that they can’t tell up from down. Basic, obvious truths that have gone unquestioned for thousands of years now get laughed at and shouted down — the fact that hard work is better than dependence on government, that children do better with both parents in the picture, that peace is better than rioting, that a strict moral code is better than blithe hedonism, that humans tend to value things they’ve earned more than what they get for free, that not getting exploded by a bomb is better than getting exploded by a bomb.

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  28. Spawny Get says:

    Kumbuka likes a good picnic

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  29. Farm Boy says:

    The Saudis and Russians made a big discovery after the fall of the Soviet Union: that you couldn’t beat the United States the country, but you could corrupt American politicians for what amounted, in their world, to chump change. You could spent a billion dollars on some useless piece of Soviet military junk, or you could spend on a junket. The junket was more effective.
    Once they had blazed the trail, the Chinese followed. This system of international “cooperation” was called the “Rule Based International Order”. The Saudis and Russians killed the nuclear power future to prop up oil prices. This was called “Environmentalism”. Then the Wahabi lobby decided to invade the West. This was called “Multiculturalism”.
    It rattled along swimmingly until the wheels fell off the wagon and the curtain went up with everyone’s britches down. This was called “2016”.

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post


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