Over at RPG’s, commenter Megan Rivera said
Plenty of “modern women” who are into equality with their partners enjoy cleaning and making their home look beautiful. Plenty of modern women who are Feminists enjoy decorating and cooking. Feminism isn’t about demeaning women for being femme, a huge focus of feminism is making sure people have the ability to choose how to live their own lives without harsh judgements of the outside world, and would never dream of looking down on a woman who was a mother, homemaker, domestic, whatever. There are a LOT of women who are Feminists and homemakers, and posts like this and the comments afterward make me feel sad because so many people have a deep, fundamental misunderstanding about what Feminism is and looks like and how Feminists operate. For that I’m truly sorry.
Let us take the assertion that Feminism is all about women’s choices at face value. What additional options do women have now that they did not have back in the days of the Evil Patriarchy.
I. They expect to make their own money. It used to be that they were expected to dependent on men to be the breadwinner. Now, not so much. Of course, in the Evil Patriarchy days, women often had jobs like teacher or nurse which paid well enough. They could start up businesses. There were plenty of opportunities for them to make money, but still they were expected to marry a man, then scale back their work effort.
This is not really a new option; rather it is just a change in expectations. Of course, the skids have been greased for women here, as affirmative action abounds.
II. They can now unleash their hypergamy. This is something new. Under the Evil Patriarchy, women were constrained by the need/desire to get married to seek a fella of comparable worth early. Not so any more.
III. They can be sluts, celebrate it and probably still get married. The pill was helpful here. Feminism made slut culture acceptable. Under the Evil Patriarchy, being a known slut ruled out marriage to a high value man. Now, there is often a man waiting when she decides to jump off the carousel.
IV. They can be poor mothers, and people can’t/won’t say anything. This is a new option. In the past, women who did poorly as mothers would hear about it from relatives/neighbors. This responsibility is now apparently the Government’s job, and they do it poorly.
V. They can now mess up their own lives and everybody else that they come in contact with. There are many options here. They might become alpha widows, entitlement princesses, make false DV/rape accusations, engage in divorce theft, go EPL, etc.
VI. The Government and its money now cover for them. This is liberating for sure. They don’t have to adhere to anybody’s standards. If their behavior leads to bad results, Daddy Government will step in and help.
VII. They can now leverage their prime years of beauty for all sorts of benefits; free drinks, free trips, lots of validation, hot sex with lots of men, etc.
Please feel free to add your own new options.
P.S. NAWALT of course applies. Thank goodness not all women have availed themselves to the new options.