You’re Not Doing It Right


From here

Fewer Millennials are in longterm, committed relationships than any generation past. According to Pew Research Center, 59 percent of adults ages 18-29 were married in 1960, while only 20 percent of adults that age were in 2011. And, from a recent Gallup poll, 64 percent of 18-29 year olds are not living with or married to a partner.

According to The Journal of Sex Research, only 31.9 percent of college students from 1988-1996 reported having more than one sexual partner in the past year—compared to a nearly-identical 31.6 percent of today’s students between 2002-2010. Another study found that millennials have fewer sexual partners than any other generation since our grandparents, who at the same age averaged just two partners each.

Translation? Contrary to popular belief, the majority of Millennials are not having rampant, or even frequent, casual sex.

So for those of us who aren’t married and aren’t having prolific sex, what are we doing?

Trying to decide.

By producing a surplus of options, online dating has ironically yielded romantic standstills

When Communism/Socialism inevitably fails, the true believers always state that it just was because there was corruption / counter revolutionary forces / it was not done right.  These are all just silly excuses, as communism/socialism goes against human nature, and will never work because of it.  In this case, the author goes with the last excuse, you are not doing it right.   The author suggests that one should be more decisive.

Unfortunately, the solution to our indecisiveness is unromantic. Paul Oyer suggests the last thing our generation wants to do: settle. “Just as everybody accepts a job that doesn’t have that last little perk they wanted, at some point you have to accept a life partner.”

Thus, to the extent that we’re dragging our feet, our difficulty dating is self-inflicted. Kristen Dombek of the New York Times writes, “When we find what we want, it’s because we stop researching our options and treating our date as data to be mined, categorized, passed over or locked down.” 

If only decisiveness was the only problem…

Frequent commenter Ton had this to say.

I own a bar, it is not unusual to have a packed house of nearly all single sex groups who never interact with the opposite sex.

I don’t know how much internet dating plays into millennials not engaging in ltr’s but I doubt it’s even in the top 5 reasons. Economically how many men that age have the money to spend on a bitch who probably won’t put out? People that age have few positive examples of marriages, ltrs or even the opposite sex. We live in a culture wholly hostile toward men, children and family formation. Unleashed hypergamy has created insanely unrealistic expectations in women. Divorce lawyer has left all but the dumbest saps wary of marriage, various court rulings make men wary of living with women. Typical female behavior makes men wary of living with women. Every dude under 35 knows sex disappears after marriage…..

The reasons why are legion, but Internet dating is an easy target compared to saying it’s the law, culture and women.

Unfortunately the issues mentioned by Ton are not as easy to cure as indecisiveness would be.   Everybody understands this; even if they won’t admit it to themselves.  That is probably why publications / mainstream sites don’t talk about it (they also want to make money).  It is better to just suggest that people are not doing one small thing right, and that it will work right next time with just this one fix.

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109 comments on “You’re Not Doing It Right
  1. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Really what it comes down to, is that they are just fucking smarter that the rest of us idiots, who keep on thinking that relationships can actually exist.

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  2. Yoda says:

    Elites always smarter than the average Joe they are.
    True this is,
    because tell me so they do.
    My own eyes lie they must

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  3. Yoda says:

    Always ignore the important thing(s) these people do.
    If only the world the way they wish it it was…

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  4. Ame says:

    because … you know … it just *cannot* be feminism! ha.

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  5. Farm Boy says:

    I am sure that the new and improved Jeremy Corbyn brand socialism will work

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  6. Farm Boy says:

    One good aspect of this site is that it is not driven by money. As such, it does not have to cater to what people want to hear.

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  7. Farm Boy says:

    Communism/socialism and the modern marriage market fail for basically the same reason — incentives, or the lack there of.

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  8. SFC Ton says:

    Legit post Farm Boy

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  9. Farm Boy says:

    Unfortunately, the solution to our indecisiveness is unromantic.

    One can’t have everything. Even if you were told that you could

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  10. Spawny Get says:

    Fundamental error in the article (as quoted anyway), the author appears to have forgotten to blame men. Is that just taken as read nowadays?

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  11. Today I spent almost an hour listening to a 55 year old gal who decided to leave her marriage “amicably” a few years ago go on and on about how she both wants someone yet despite meeting many interested men, doesn’t want to settle for any less than an ideal guy in every way. She’s thin, blonde, more than above average attractive, doesnt do ons, has a house, job, two stable grown kids. So she’s ahead in all those ways, yet is clueless. I did my best to explain how that “90 percent” guy she dreams of isn’t looking for a ltr most likely, so rather than keep playing musical chairs looking for one as her options keep diminishing perhaps she should try a totally different approach – honestly understanding the odds she faces and how she can overcome them. It was a blue pill/red pill moment. Hopefully some of it clicked for her… She seems honestly sincere yet completely misguided by the “don’t settle for anything less than everything” advice, mainly from other women…

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  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    You may have had an impact but, I don’t think that she will open up to the idea. Take comfort in that you tried.

    I was reading posts in Reddit and tripped over one. Thsi guy posted it in MGTOW but he had also posted in Incel and Forever Alone. He was twenty five and had never been on a date. Ten years of rejection. He didn’t have to tell me that he was a regular guy. Hypergamy is through the roof and it may not be the 810/20 rule, it may be the 97/3 rule.Men are patient but, there is only so much rejection that men can take. I think what we are going to see is the ball pass from the control of women to men and men will avoid the playing field, or leave it to the cads.
    As 25 year old kid, ten years of trying, and not so much as dinner and a movie?
    Ladies, that is cruel.

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  13. Spawny Get says:


    Potential alt avatar for Fuzzie?

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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    You are the World’s Greatest Avatar finder! Picture saved!

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  15. SFC Ton says:

    I vote for a Fuzzie Avatar changed
    Plus I think you have a girl photo. Don’t bear hunt as often do as I’d like but I think longer nose and bigger ears equals female bear, with male nears having a blunt wide face / skull

    I’d change avatars if I knew how

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  16. Yoda says:

    Anybody click on Fleetwood Mac they did?

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  17. SFC Ton says:

    80/ 20 rule

    I think it’s more like the 70/ 30 or 65/ 35 rule for women but I’m practical terms, the guys bellow say…. “top15-20%” get beat down sooner or later and drop out. It’s the middle high tier of 15-35% of men who would benefit the most from learning a little game.

    I think most of the guys I interact with are in that group. They have good lives are in good shape etc but are missing a couple of tools to convert maybes into dates. After a few years of little success, or success only with unpleasant women, they try less often and then not at all. These are the guys who “get lucky” as in occasionally things line up for them by luck, vs having a plan of attack and actively working their soical life

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  18. SFC Ton says:

    Nope. I could go my whole life never hearing fleet wood mac and be happy.
    Same with pink Floyd.

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  19. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have a new avatar now! I did like the old one though. He is a very dignified bear.

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  20. Spawny Get says:

    Ton, my guess is that you need to login to
    http://www.gravatar.com
    using the same email address as you use to comment here, same password as logging into wordpress. You should be able to upload what you want and crop it.

    If you want a hand cropping an image, post the image as a link here, we’ll get it done and post the clipped image

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  21. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Thank you, Spawny!

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  22. SFC Ton says:

    Email address? Log on info? Who remembers that bullshit?

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  23. I first met this gal when she came to my place on an online date several months back. The man she was w then was very attractive, social, and clearly smitten. I could see nothing wrong w him except perhaps he was too obviously showing his hand and she was in reaction being standoffish? Perhaps he should have been less available, more elusive? I dunno… He seemed like a catch to me. But she said there wasn’t “attraction” on her part. One guy she dated and was very into sounded like the typical jerk boy, super attractive, super full of himself, super unavailable. Yet she still has his shirtless photo on her phone which she eagerly pulled up to show me and admits she’s having a hard time not comparing others to him. Pretty classic red pill/game stuff in the real world. It makes no sense that she wouldn’t like the just as attractive nice guy who was clearly into her vs. the one she couldn’t catch, but there it was… I have a feeling also that in her youth she was a solid 8/9 and still perceived that as her smv/mmv today rather than understand about the wall and other impacts on that (like leaving a marriage/man who loved her for seemingly minor reasons like boredom and empty nest angst. She is very unhappy being alone but may find at 55 she didn’t understand her odds. Anyway, just sharing a real world example of things we discuss here!

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  24. Spawny Get says:

    Ton, it seems that your browser does. Once you have the right email address, gravatar.com will be able to send you a password reminder/reset

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  25. Spawny Get says:

    Ton, have just sent an email to the address that you’re using to comment. Which is the gravatar.com account also (very likely)

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  26. SFC Ton says:

    She is 55…. any man her age with status, frame and Game is banging 20 year olds

    Any man her age with decent status, frame and Game is banging 40 year olds.

    Nice guys her age are trying to bang chicks her age but are getting shut down because they don’t have status, frame or Game.

    She is only of value to older men with status, frame and Game. Like 65-70 year old men.

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  27. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I am a mean bear and I hope that it comes to this with tonight’s debate.

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  28. Spawny Get says:

    But Ton, she’s ‘amazing’ and ‘incrdible’ an’ stuff. All her friends, who are also single that demand she remains miserable with them, tell her so. And to cut her hair short, because it’s cute.

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  29. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    It does seem to work that way too often. She found one that was sincere, enthusiastic, and honest, so she doesn’t want him. She finds someone that is full of himself and could not care less about her, so she pines for him. It is enough to make someone sane tear their hair out.

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  30. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    Ton has a point about age differentials. What is getting to young men is that sixteen year old girls are seeing twenty eight year old guys. Once guys hit forty, that all flips. Men get taken off the market faster as they age for lots of reasons, marriage, loss of interest, and death (seriously).

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  31. Yoda says:

    Like Hillary being Verde I do

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    She would neeed to be carried up the thirteen steps.

    Bloom,
    While I keep coming back to her, it is hard to let go. That women’s attitude is so common that is is everywhere. She needs to get serious and she is taking a pas on men that would give a damn about her. It is contrary to her interest and all too frustrating to the men who would be good to her.

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  33. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    SheWhoWillNotBeNamed will attend the New yourk premire of “The Red Pill”
    This bear is staying home.

    Do we need antidote?

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  34. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Just in case, antidote.

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  35. Spawny Get says:

    Pretty sure that she’s dead.

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  36. I can see that fuzzie. I am not sure she got what I was trying to explain. I think most women likely wouldn’t, it’s all so contrary to all the msm messages to women. We’ll see….

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  37. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    I hope so. That or we are going to start a whole new horror film franchise and she is bigger than Freddie and Jason put together.

    Bloom,
    She craves what is poison to her. Maybe that may get through to her.

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  38. Spawny Get says:

    I believe she was the 1:1 model for the latest Death Star

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  39. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Show her this video:

    It explains everything…

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  40. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Ya know, I hate that shit! What’s wrong with showing your hand and being honest about how you feel? Why play like you’re less available? Why the need to play these fucking games on each other? It’s just fucking sick how we treat each other!

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  41. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Well, so far, in the front row for tonight’s debate we have mark Cuban to heckle Donald, Gennifer Flowers, to make Hillary nervous, and a fictional cartoon frog who has been slandered. It should be interesting.

    FNU,
    I can’t see what is so awful about telling a date that you like and enjoy her company. Wasn’t that the whole purpose of the exercise?

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  42. Yoda says:

    Clemson Housing is now telling freshman to take down all “Harambe references.” Apparently it adds to Clemson’s notorious “rape culture” and is a form or racism. Of course, it is both sexist and racist to consider a photo or meme of Harambe as sexist or racist.

    http://thetigertownobserver.com/clemson-housing-bans-harambe-references-says-they-add-to-the-rape-culture-on-campus-and-are-a-form-of-racism-zach-talley/

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  43. FNU MNU LNU says:

    That’s what I was saying! What’s wrong with showing that you are really interested? Why play like you’re not available? It’s just bull shit.

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  44. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    That is blatant out and out censorship. If feminists or blacks used Harambe to illustrate a point there would be no problem. I wonder if they have taken a position on Pepe the Frog?

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  45. Yoda says:

    Pepe the Frog great he would be.
    For verde he is

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  46. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    It would be good if you were there too. There may be work for your lightsabre.

    FNU,
    While it hasn’t worked all that well for me, I am straight with women. Confusion is not a good thing.

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  47. David Foster says:

    FWB…”She found one that was sincere, enthusiastic, and honest, so she doesn’t want him.”

    Here a late-1790s version of that old story:

    ….although this one has a happy ending

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  48. FNU MNU LNU says:

    I agree 100%. They just insist on playing games, instead of just being real.

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  49. SFC Ton says:

    Women want to be ruled over by strong dominant men with high standards

    She feels of little actual worth, so if you value her, how strong or dominant can you be? Let alone how high can your standards be?

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  50. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Stilettos? She does mean knives, doesn’t she? Because the shoe type would need heels made of titanium, or kryptonite, or some really strong shit.

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  51. FNU MNU LNU says:

    RPG. Please email me…

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  52. Spawny Get says:

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  53. Yoda says:

    • Social justice warriors swarmed a debate about “safe spaces” at the University of Kansas, screaming obscenities.

    • The SJW’s called their fellow classmates “racist” and “white supremacist” for even holding the debate.

    • White students were lectured about their “white privilege” and “white fragility”.

    • White students were ordered to use pronouns like “they”, “them” or “their” to address students whose gender is not immediately apparent.

    http://heatst.com/culture-wars/wow-students-scream-swear-at-u-of-kansas-classmates-for-questioning-safe-spaces/

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  54. Yoda says:

    Aid workers in France’s Calais ‘Jungle’ refugee camp have been accused of having sex with migrants — in some cases with multiple partners a day, reports The Sun.

    http://heatst.com/world/aid-workers-accused-of-sexually-abusing-migrants-in-calais-refugee-camp/

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  55. Yoda says:

    Clown update,

    Following a rash of reports of scary clowns in Tennessee, law enforcement officials in that state took to Twitter over the weekend to warn local residents that the clowns in question may not be well-intentioned and asked folks to call 911 if they see any.

    http://heatst.com/life/clownmaggedon-tennessee-cops-warn-of-predatory-clowns-lurking-in-the-woods/

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  56. FNU MNU LNU says:

    I’ve been waiting for these to come out of the woods

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  57. Yoda says:

    Hofstra University has posted a “trigger warning” sign to warn students about the potentially disturbing content that may be discussed during Monday night’s presidential debate.

    According to CBS New York reporter Tony Aiello, a sign inside of the student center at Hofstra reads, “Trigger warning: The event conducted just beyond this sign may contain triggering and/or sensitive material. Sexual violence, sexual assault, and abuse are some topics mentioned within this event. If you feel triggered, please know there are resources to help you.”

    http://www.mrctv.org/blog/hofstra-university-provides-trigger-warning-presidential-debate

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  58. Yoda says:

    Wonder if Hillary stand for 90 minutes she can I do

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  59. Yoda says:

    Isle of Man further east is it not?

    https://earth.nullschool.net/#current/wind/surface/level/orthographic=-31.33,54.66,1169/loc=-4.631,54.245

    Perhaps ghosts of the the Brothers Gibb causing it it is

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  60. Spawny Get says:

    Near flawless illary-double emulates target too well

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  61. Spawny Get says:

    The static green circle between England and Northern Ireland is close enough for jazz…

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  62. Yoda says:

    From Ton’s link

    An RA at the University of Kansas was advised against incorporating an image of a gorilla into a jungle-themed floor decoration because the animal apparently represents “a very masculine image.”

    Apparently there are female gorillas not

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  63. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Fucking pansies…

    There really is no hope for their future.

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  64. FNU MNU LNU says:

    What “The Highest Authority” has to say about triggers:

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  65. SFC Ton says:

    I saw gorillas in the wild. My patrol bumped into them. Kind of intimidating initially but man was that fucking cool! They looked up, blew us off and went back to eating

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  66. SFC Ton says:

    Don’t forget breath control.

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  67. Farm Boy says:

    Andrea is “womanspreading”. This is unlady-like

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  68. Ame says:

    there are times … as the mom of a sped kid … that there just aren’t enough drugs in the world … just sayin .. … ….

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  69. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I was hoping, and expeting, Hillary to make a faux pas that would run her campaign aground. No such luck.

    FNU,
    After having slept on it, a woman who would see honesty and enthusiasm in a man as weakness is looking for excuses to reject. A cad won’t set off those reactions but, a guy who likes and cares would. She will act on it and it is self destructive. The one good thing to say is that the rlationship did not progress very far. This would not happen in a limited dating pool, ie a small town. With online dating, the pool is esstentillly unlimited, so a anyone can do the same tricck indefinitely. No wonder men are getting angry.

    Bloom,
    Your friend has frivorced. I think that she expects to ride the carousel for the rest of her life. It is unlikely that you will change her mind. Sorry.

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  70. SFC Ton says:

    That’s a good measure of why women fall for cads, but you know, regular guys are creepy…..
    But online dating limits your target selection not expands it. Unless folks are willing to travel some serious miles

    Is that enough drugs refering to not enough drugs you Ame, or for your daughter? Inquiring minds want to know

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  71. FNU MNU LNU says:

    I don’t know if she is expecting to ride the carousel for the rest of her life. What I’ve been seeing is that they use the Frivorce as a sabbatical, and expecting that they can just get the ex back when they see their SMV dropping.

    And ex’s ARE taking them back!

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  72. Ame says:

    “Is that enough drugs refering to not enough drugs you Ame, or for your daughter? Inquiring minds want to know”

    – – –

    i was referring to me 🙂

    bless her heart … she just had ‘one of those days’ yesterday where nothing went right for her. dealing w/all that and her emotional roller coaster just about got the best of me. my girls and i ended up laughing b/c … sometimes you’ve just gotta.

    when we got into bed last night i told my husband it’s driving me nuts … he said, “Baby, you’re already there!”

    (she used to be on a lot of meds, but after i pulled her out of public school to homeschool, she weaned herself off all of them. that works with her at home b/c she can do the things she needs to do to calm herself down, organize her brain, self-soothe, self-medicate, whatever you wanna call it.)

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  73. Ame says:

    lol!

    ‘legit’ that i’m already nuts?!!! 🙂 bwahahahahaha! yeees i am!!!

    – – –

    my girls and i were laughing … i told them that they’ll stand up at my funeral someday and list all the things Mamma used to say … it started out something like this then dissolved from there:

    “I need more drugs!”
    “There aren’t enough drugs for that!”
    “I need sanity!”
    “Sanity at all costs.”
    “Silence!”
    “Freeze!”
    “Stop! Just . . . STOP!”

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  74. I wouldn’t necessarily call this gal a friend, more of an aquaitence. I would agree it sounds like she frivorced and expected being single to make everything right. Except it hasn’t. The glorious “happier” path and “epic tru wuv” have not materialized. She did mention her ex would take her back yet, incredibly! But she’s still holding out for this “Eat, Pray, Love” ending. She fears being alone for the rest of her life and the statistics show she just might be. The odds of marriage at her age are low. Marriage to the perfect dream guy? Infinitely lower. So long as she holds onto the “I won’t “settle” mentality rather than recognizing her own limitations and drawbacks and actively trying to compensate for them, I don’t see her figuring it out. I planted some red pill seeds… We’ll see if they root. Women have been sold this self and other destructive narrative too long. Life is not a fairy tale.

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  75. Few women really seem to ponder that things could be WORSE for them post divorce.

    In other news, the other gal I know who has been considering frivorce started following a blog for women going thru divorce and it seems reading the stories about the divorce proceedings and aftermath have made her think twice. It’s been a good reality check.

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  76. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    It may be good to keep her at arm’s length. I don’t think that the Eat, Pray, Love strategy is going to work for her. Curious that her husband would tke her back. FNU also mentioned that there is a lot of that and Horsesman did as much. It may be something out of the Bible, “wife of your youth” stuff.

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  77. Yoda says:

    Clinton’s smile seemed forced, artificial, and frankly creepy. I’m already hearing on Twitter that mentioning a woman’s smile is sexist. I understand the point. But when someone goes full Joker-face and tests the uncanny valley hypothesis at the same time, that’s a bit different from telling a woman to “smile more.” My neighbor Kristina hypothesized that Botox was making her smile look unnatural. Science tells us that when a person’s mouth smiles, but their eyes don’t match the smile, they look disingenuous if not creepy. Botox on your crow’s feet lines around your eyes can give that effect. But whatever the reason, something looked off to me.

    http://blog.dilbert.com/post/151007796236/i-score-the-first-debate

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  78. Yoda says:

    During the debate, while speaking about race relations and criminal justice reform, Democratic presidential nominee Hillary Clinton discussed ensuring rights to young men. She wouldn’t say “due process,” but she was referring to those rights

    It’s shocking that Clinton would discuss the “rights of young men,” considering the language she uses to talk about campus sexual assault. When Clinton says we must “listen and believe” to accusers, she’s saying we shouldn’t consider whether the accusations might be false (well, except when the accusations are against her husband).

    http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/clinton-cares-about-the-rights-of-only-some-young-men/article/2602925

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  79. Yoda says:


    “Ball pits” for social justice warriors are apparently now a thing on college campuses. Repeatedly, the ball pits have popped up at snowflake-friendly campus events discovered by Heat Street.

    Last semester, the University of Central Florida included a ball pit as part of its Social Justice Week. “The campus community will have an opportunity to enter a ball pit with another person and have an engaging conversation about a variety of social justice topics,” the event page said.

    http://heatst.com/culture-wars/trend-college-students-across-america-are-seeking-emotional-safety-in-ball-pits/

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  80. Yoda says:

    One of the strangest transformations in the era of Obama has been the overt and often gratuitous stereotyping of so-called white people — most often the white working classes who have become constructed into veritable unthinking and unrecognizable zombies. For progressives especially these were not the sympathetic old foundation of the Democratic party, who were once romanticized as the “people” pitted against the industrialists and the bluestockings, but rather have become monstrous caricatures of all sorts of incorrect race/class/and gender behavior and speech.

    http://www.nationalreview.com/article/440382/white-working-class-deplorables-clingers-elites-obama-hillary-clinton

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  81. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    That bit about young men and ensuring their rights is opposed to what said about believing survivors. I think she may be talking out of both sides of her mouth. She can’t remember what lie she told last week.
    I had hoped that the debate would have been a disaster for her.

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  82. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda, would you help with this image?

    Something tells me that there will be a bunch of them. Let’s collect them all!

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  83. Yoda says:

    Not as cute as Pokemon they are.
    One with Triggly Puff next she is

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  84. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    That KU Trigglypuf is pretty awful. They should find some task for her that sends her away, far away.

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  85. SFC Ton says:

    Her ex wants her back?

    Now class…. what does that tell us about her ex husband?

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  86. What’s up FML? Sorry I have been super busy of late! Did you send me an email? I will have a look…

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  87. BuenaVista says:

    Obviously, the 55 year old confuses her enhanced, dramatic sense of self with how the male cohort sees her. Its unlikely she’s going to meet a Fabio who moonlights as a Goldman Sachs partner.

    So then she might decide to ‘settle for security.’ She’ll next learn that even 60 year old betas talk amongst themselves and may not wish to be Fabio’s standin when they only have a decade or two left.

    Her only hope is to be fun, gracious and good in bed — and stop viewing every man as a target.

    Very few women this age are even very interested in sex, much less good at it. They say they are, but they read that in a magazine. There is a 10 or 20 year gap in the SMV of 55 year old men and women of equivalent looks and social position.

    I saw someone erratically for a couple of years who was age appropriate (8 years younger). She referred to herself as a ‘dakini’, a ‘sexual healer.’ She referred to herself as A Strong Woman. She referred to our liaisons as the best in her lifetime. It never occurred to her to inquire as to my relative happiness (it was bad sex). Simply never occurred to her.

    In general, women who were 8s or9s as kids seem to maintain the attitude that the party never ends and the panting men never move on.

    In the post mortem to our affair I did mention that the only women her age or older with decent sex lives were women with imagination and skills, and knowledge of what tripped a mans breakers. She’s always been the prettiest girl in the room and this induced another meltdown. Its hard to overstate how clueless these 50-something, second wave feminists are. Their daughters are smarter.

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  88. Yoda says:

    She referred to herself as a ‘dakini’, a ‘sexual healer.’

    Apparently she is this not.

    I did mention that the only women her age or older with decent sex lives were women with imagination and skills, and knowledge of what tripped a mans breakers. She’s always been the prettiest girl in the room

    Perhaps why she was not.
    Much hubris resulting from unearned attention there can be.

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  89. thedeti says:

    To the extent indecisiveness is a problem, it’s a result of endless choice, which we now have with Tinder, online dating, etc. The author’s suggested solution is “settle”, i.e. pick the best one you can right now and stay with him/her.

    But that’s really girls’ problem. Ton lays out the problems for men – they’ve seen older men chewed up and spit of the divorce meat grinder. Most men don’t have the cash to spend on a girl.

    There’s one thing I’d add to Ton’s summary. Most men are trying and failing even with women who aren’t all that attractive. Most men are not attractive enough to attract and keep a girl long term. And the women they can attract are not worth the time, money and effort.

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  90. FNU MNU LNU says:

    If I had your email I would. But it’s not listed on your page anywhere.

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  91. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post.

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  92. Farm Boy says:

    But that’s really girls’ problem. Ton lays out the problems for men – they’ve seen older men chewed up and spit of the divorce meat grinder. Most men don’t have the cash to spend on a girl.

    In the end, the fella’s problems become her problems. As Hillary said, “In wars, women suffer the most”

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  93. FNU MNU LNU says:

    I think it depends on the rest of the story. In one case that I know of, the guy was pulling premium tail while they were apart. But there’s a kid involved and a lot of people were pushing them to get back together for the kids sake. The ex wife wasn’t bad, but nowhere near as hot as the woman he had been banging like a thrift shop drum set for over a year.

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  94. FNU MNU LNU says:

    So she’s really just looking for one good revenge fuck, before she hooks back up with her ex.

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  95. FNU MNU LNU says:

    Fuzzy: It may also be that they think so little of themselves, that they truly don’t understand why someone would be so interested. The one I’m thinking about has huge self value issues.

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  96. SFC Ton says:

    Nope beta is beta and they value everything above their own sense of pride and self respect.

    You’re a bitch when you take a bitch back

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  97. Agreed, her ex should not take on the role of hopeful beta orbiter while she’s meanwhile thinking he’ll just be option D (e? f? g?) if nothing else works out — a sort of safety net she hopes to never actually need?

    I wonder what she’d do if he started blowing her off instead? I am not sure how often they talk even, but I’d think if he was hard to reach that would be better than answering on the first ring…

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  98. Ame says:

    bwahahahahaha! Spawny – that’s hilarious!

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  99. Ame says:

    Bloom – i wonder if he really wants her back … or if she’s just saying that.

    she’s an example of the power of stupid friends who are afraid to tell the truth. sure, you might look hot at 55, but that doesn’t cancel out everything else. and being almost 52 (eeks!) there’s a LOT of ‘everything else.’

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