A lot of men behave as if women are superior creatures who hold the keys to the joys in life. They are dull and listless until a woman walks into the room, then they spark up, happy she’s there.
What causes this dependency in men? It could originate in hormones, or lust, or a simple need for intimacy, or vague memories of being mothered during infancy, or the urge to sire children. Some male minds might be influenced by love stories from fact or fiction.
Whatever the cause is, I’m more concerned with the effect. It becomes a distraction that occupies far too much of a man’s mind. If it continues unchecked, he becomes addicted to the idea that he can’t be complete without a woman.
The problem is so common, perhaps there is actually such a thing as a distraction gene in men, to complement the “because yer worth it” or “entitlement” gene in women.
From what I’ve seen of the world (i.e. most countries) the problem is most noticeable in white men. No matter how much they see of the negative side of women, they allow the distraction to filter the evidence. It’s as if they view women through a Mona Lisa lens – two faces in the same space, simultaneously revealing and concealing the nature of womankind.
A man suffering from the distraction can’t have much of a life. It takes up time he could be putting into making himself independent. He should look at the reality of MGTOW and the men who are living a good free life. They have no dependence on women – physically, morally, intellectually, or emotionally. As Feminism depends on men needing women, these free men are of no help to Feminism at all.
There is a type of man who can interact successfully with women, but only on his own terms. By making his terms non-negotiable, he remains independent. Having dealt with a number of young men IRL, I wouldn’t recommend this approach. The men who can have relationships with women while building good independent lives for themselves are as rare as hen’s teeth. You’d have a better chance of winning the top prize in a national lottery than being one of those men.
So, if you suffer from the distraction, how do you get rid of it? It’s easily stated, but not so easily achieved: Just face the reality with a clear mind.
Here is the reality: female ill will towards men is the norm. This is a helluva hard for a blue pill man to grasp. The youth I referred to as “the kid” needed Red Pill advice to shake off the distraction. He needed to understand that the behavior of the girl who hurt him was not isolated or unusual. Women are like that (WALT). The percentage of women who are not like that is so small, he should use AWALT (All WALT) as his default position.
In very broad terms, the cause of the distraction is humanity’s memory of a time when men and women joined in a (for the most part) workable partnership. We have all read of such a time, or observed the last vestiges of it in aging couples still alive today. On balance, it never gave men the advantage over women that feminism has brainwashed society into believing. It drove men into an early grave. However, it is futile to dwell on it now. Feminism has made the workable partnership impossible. Don’t be distracted by thoughts of it. Distraction is the weakness in men that allowed Feminism to thrive.
Notwithstanding the successful marriages I see in my parents and siblings and extended family, I would advise all men, if I could, to permanently reject marriage and LTR. I am closely acquainted with good relationships, but I’ve seen the bad as well. It killed two of my favorite people. Broken relationships and the family court system drive scores of males to death every day in the USA (the figure for all feminist countries combined would have to be hundreds a day).
“Marital status, especially divorce, has strong net effect on mortality from suicide, but only among men” (emphasis mine). Two-thirds of male suicide victims are divorcees or going through a divorce (in the USA there are 14,850 divorced or separated male suicides per year out of a total of 22,500). If we subtract 14,850 “divorce suicides” from males, we find the male and female suicide rates are almost the same (women 7,500, men 7,650).
Figures don’t lie. Broken relationships with women are the reason the male suicide rate is three times that of females.
Look at this chart. And if that’s not enough, watch this video. The marriage industry creates the divorce industry, and therefore is lethal to men. And that’s before we even start to talk about the rest of the feminist-driven anti-male legal system, and the impact it must have on male suicide. Feminism, the creation of women, is lethal to men.
In New Zealand, divorce laws apply to the breakup of long term relationships, and it’s just a matter of time before other feminist countries follow suit. So men, stay out of LTRs as well. If you have any sense, your default position will simply be this: STAY OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS.
Now if you need further convincing to shake off the distraction with women, or it is clinging to you like a bad smell, consider this:
Even if women do decide to come back, it’s too late. They have revealed their true nature, and it can’t be un-revealed. Also, before an effective partnership could work, feminism would have to be completely unstitched from the law, health, education, welfare, business and the media. That’s not going to happen in a democracy, thanks to the innate group-bias and block-voting propensity of women. So if an effective partnership is never going to happen, it makes no sense to hanker for it, right?
It’s over. Women and Feminism have permanently wrecked the relationship of the sexes. They have proved they are not worthy of your grief. Forget them and kick the distraction to the gutter where it belongs.
Women have told us ad nauseam that they don’t need us. Well guess what. We don’t need them. To paraphrase the ending of “HERMIT, THE FINAL MGTOW” : The stable door has opened, the horse has bolted for freedom, and he wouldn’t come back even if the stable were transformed into a palace.
More and more men are ridding themselves of the distraction of women and enjoying the independence. If the trend continues and reaches critical mass, for the first time in millennia mankind will be free.