We always hear women complaining about being “objectified”. That is, men just considering them for their body, not for anything more. Let us look closer at the true situation.
First, let us consider the night club / bar girls; the ones that dress provocatively/revealingly with the corresponding body movements. Yes, from their perspective and from the fella’s perspective, they are objects in motion. Can any woman deny that this is how they want to be viewed? They do it because they like it. Validation, free drinks, sex, etc. What is not to like?
Wives often like to be objectified by their husbands. Some of it is validation, some of it is pleasing the husband. At least, this is how it should be.
Looking at the other end of the spectrum, there is the classic woman in a business situation. She wants to be taken seriously. And business is about business, or at least it should be. She does not want to be objectified; or she wants to be objectified and does not want to admit it. Any way that you look at it, there are strong prohibitions about blatantly objectifying women in such contexts.
So what exactly is the crux of the problem? What is their big complaint? Much unhappiness stems from the fact that sometimes women want to be objectified lots, and at other times want to be objectified less. Furthermore, who might be the man doing the objectifying is of critical matter. What women need are meters on them showing an “objectification mood”, one that varies based on who she is looking at. Since everybody can see the meter, there could be no misjudgments.
As for the past, most women were not allowed to dress as whores and sluts, so that part of the problem did not exist. Furthermore, many were not allowed to act as whores and sluts, they were trained to be proper ladies. Men might have objectified, but it was kept under wraps when ladies were around. For the most part, the issue of does she want me to objectify her or not did not come up; and if it did, it was well defined by the context.
According to women, this is a major issue that society faces. What should be done about it?