The answer, of course, is “it all”. Even love. Let us consider the situation. From here, referring to Hillary,
I thought she looked mean. I thought she didn’t smile enough. I thought she was old and a killjoy and a nag and I couldn’t understand why the charming and funny Bill Clinton had married her. I thought she had too high of an opinion of herself. I thought she didn’t know her place.
When the Lewinsky scandal happened I thought, “Of course he cheated on her, anyone married to that bitch would cheat on her.” I was young and naive enough back then to think that husbands only cheat when they hate their wives or are not getting what they want at home. I assumed that Bill and Hillary were going to break up, and when they didn’t break up I decided their marriage was a sham and they were only staying together because of the optics of the situation. I certainly did not believe him when he said that he loved her.
Everybody can see what Hillary is. And deep down, everybody, guy or gal, knows that men like certain types of women as wives. Women that have this, this, plus lots of other fine characteristics (most of which are missing in the “high-powered types”). As much as women pretend to be independent thinkers, they still take their cues from men (e.g. if men thought that fat women were beautiful, all women would be fat). So the author was channelling the perspective of men on this issue.
But with maturity, indoctrination and such, perspectives change,
We live in a world that teaches us that certain women—strong women, outspoken women, women of a certain age or appearance—are profoundly unloveable. This is as untrue as it is unfair, and buying into it is just another way of subscribing to the same old patriarchal idea that only women who conform to a strict set of prescribed gender roles deserve love. I deserve love and so do all of the other mouthy bitches out there, and I’m profoundly grateful to Hillary Clinton for helping me recognize that.
Well yes, the world does teach that strong women, outspoken women, women of a certain age or appearance—are profoundly unloveable. Once again, it men as a whole who are deciding this. Though it does seem that with discipline, power-couples do seem to make a go of it. But are they happy? Is the woman in such arrangements profoundly unlovable? “This is as untrue as it is unfair.” To answer that, it does seem to be true and perhaps it is unfair.
The claim that it is just a patriarchal idea is silly. This is alluding to the social construct idea, where people are taught ideas and behaviors that are contrary to reality. The “social constructs” that feminists and SJWs object so much to almost always have some basis with respect to pre-dispositions. This is a topic for a future post, but suffice it to say, people have to work extra hard to convince themselves that these are imposed from above by the evil patriarchy.
So do all women deserve love? Do all men deserve respect?