Over at Dalrock’s, Deti stated,
You’re correct, of course, that the men’s turning to video gaming is a direct response to the women’s presumptive rejections.
There’s more to it. There’s also educational institutions hostile to them (Yes Means Yes, Affirmative action in favor of women and discriminatory towards men, etc.) Men are being squeezed out of jobs in a workplace that is openly hostile and adversarial to them. Men are told they are not welcome in place after place after place — private homes, private clubs, schools, jobs, churches, and virtually everywhere else. All but the most undesirable, unattractive women reject them in the most cruel and public ways.
Men have literally nowhere else to go other than to gaming communities and to online communities.
Of course, most women will say that all this is wrong. Women haven’t done anything to cause any of this. If men aren’t motivated, then that’s not women’s fault. But my rejoinder is that women (and their willing sycophants in the clergy) cannot then be heard to complain when men simply absent themselves. because this is what men do when it’s made clear to them that they aren’t wanted or needed — they simply go away and busy themselves with activities that are easy, that provide a more or less certain and predictable return, and that involve little risk. Because for men, our ENTIRE LIVES are fraught with risk, rejection, loss, adversity, and constant threats of injury and death.
Later on, commenter Looking Glass,
Firstly, Video Games are vastly more enjoyable to most other pastimes. Especially the good games. Secondly, there is a social aspect to Games that have been obliterated in much of the rest of society for Men. (I can either talk about Video Games or Sports, that’s about the only thing that binds huge sections of Men together now.) Thirdly, most games are a skill to learn and it flexes certain mental pathways that much of rest of life simply won’t.
Here we have a world inhabited by mostly men, one where they can do what men like to do: do battle as a team. In person and/or online they are with their old friends, they develop new friends; the male bonding can strong. It is a sense of purpose, of belonging. The American Football Hall of Fame quarterback John Elway lamented that after retirement the aspect that he missed most was going to battle with the guys every Sunday. Given the real world that awaits them, it is easy enough to see why these fellas do as they do.
At one time having a leading a family would have filled much of this role. As we all know, that is not going to happen for most men. Women pushed and society gave, a decision was made. Now the consequences are clear. Men used to find belonging in family and community, now the find it in attacking challenging artificial scenarios with their friends. Welcome to a Brave New World.