Comparison of feminine (left) and masculine face:
A year ago in my post “Times as a ‘Bad Boy” I beat around the bush and said people often mistook me for a bad boy, and some even mistook me for the criminal type. Since then, due to some comments and posts on the spawnyspace blog, I’ve had to rethink the subject. As is so often the case, it’s a matter of definition.
“Bad Boy” can be defined as a bully, or a swaggering lout who puts little effort into anything other than sex and crime. He irresponsibly impregnates women and then has no way to support his children (nothing visible anyway, from his ill-gotten gains). The taxpayer ends up footing the bill. Such men are as worthless as warts.
Unfortunately, strong masculine worthwhile men have been deliberately lumped in with the worthless warts. This is an attack on masculinity by feminists and sycophantic men. They want to rid humanity of masculinity completely.
In a comment in “Times as a Bad Boy”, Liz quoted Bastiat (emphasis mine):
For very complicated reasons, something went wrong with society’s little Hotter, Colder game. “Bad” guys look better than good ones, because Bad Guys have come to exemplify sex differences, and most women ultimately do want to feel like the girls in their relationships.
Bastiat then goes on to discuss the feminist position that there are no sex differences between men and women, and this is what he says about it (emphasis and quotation marks added by me):
It is a transparent, ultimately self-defeating way of pathologizing guys who show sex differences (snip) makes “being different” a kind of thoughtcrime, and thoughtcriminals are of course going to be labeled Bad Guys.
But if you outlaw weapons, in the end only outlaws will have weapons…
In his last line there, he implies that by “weapons” he means “masculinity”. If we read his last line accordingly, we see how neatly the result would fit with the biased processes of feminism:
- If you outlaw masculinity, in the end only outlaws will have masculinity
- Therefore all masculine men are outlaws, irrespective of “worthless wart” or “masculine worthwhile male”
- “Masculine worthwhile male” is incompatible with outlaw and therefore an invalid concept
- Therefore all masculine males are worthless warts
The conclusion all masculine males are worthless warts is the prevailing attitude of feminists and SJWs today. The feminist process is a self-delusional attempt to disguise bias as a reasoning process. Feminists accuse men of inventing logic to oppress women. I accuse women of inventing illogic to oppress men.
Masculinity is Good.
I’m writing this not for self-aggrandizement, but in the hope that it might be of some value to other young vilified masculine men:
Thanks to Bastiat, and some commenters on this blog, I’m not going to beat around the bush any more: I’m a man who attracts women because I exemplify the difference between the sexes. I don’t feel any guilt or shame for what I am. I’m masculine.
As such, I’m not bad for women and children. I’m reliable and I meet my responsibilities. Yes I do look like a hard bastard and a mean S.O.B. in a scrap. And yes, there have been times when I’ve calculated that the outcome of not fighting would be worse than the outcome of fighting. But I am not, and have never been, a bully.
“Women are as feminine as a man demands. I never find lack of femininity as women revert to it if your frame is good. I reckon this would hold true for Cill and Sumo as well; Master Yoda? He’s been holding frame for 800 years, and we all know Mrs Yoda is a doll”.
It does indeed hold true for me. I have mothers telling me I make them feel more feminine and young (nothing to do with flirting, either). If masculine company can make women feel more feminine, well, I think we can all see why feminism hates masculinity so much (especially if we refer back to Bastiat’s comments).
Another thing: I think women might actually behave better around masculine men. More pleasant, less bitch.
I refuse to accept the characterization of my type as “bad boy”, unless “bad boy” means a man who looks like he won’t back off – a man who has been round the block and can acquit himself well when he has to. By that definition of “bad boy”, I am one, and thoroughly unashamed of the fact.