It’s Always Something — Part IV


When last we left the magazine women,

Looking through some old copies of Cosmopolitan, I thought, would give me clarity on who had really had it worse. A back copy from 1960 reads: “How to Escape Boredom and conformity in your own home.” Seven years later the main cover line is: “A Short Course In Keeping Your Husband Faithful.”

Well, to be honest, Has Cosmo ever recently really had the pulse of the women of the US?  Or was it all just a made up fantasy that some women sort of tried to live?  And if so, how effective is perusing headlines in attempt to find useful information?

By the 1970s we were at least in the workplace – though not in any position of authority: “Why men are still attracted to dumb women and the incredible things they do to smart women in the office.” I thought cheer would be found in the power 1980s but was met with the startling: “Inflation means back to roommates – how to choose the right her (or him).” And as for the Cosmopolitan I was picking up in the 1990s: “25 ways to safeguard your job – when everyone else around you is losing theirs.”

It is odd that she does not mention the almost monthly articles on “Ten Ways to Drive Him Mad in Bed” that graced the magazine in recent decades.  This was all about trying to snag the hot alpha with power and money.  Or if not that, just having fun with some foreign hot guy.  I wonder how effective this strategy has been…

In short, we have all had it hard. But, I cannot help thinking this poor, rictus-grinned selfie generation still have it worse, because they have been duped the most. Nothing stings more than being promised so much and yet the world delivering on so little. Did we, their elders, have some part to play in this? Probably.

I don’t know.  Being duped might be bad, but their material conditions seem to be fine.  They can take foreign trips, get seemingly fancy degrees, eat organic food, find time for SJW activities, etc.   So things maybe are not so bad.

So why did these promises not come true?  Stay tuned.

We bolstered their self-esteem by telling them they could do or be anything if they put their minds to it. We told them a university education (which the majority of us got free) would guarantee a well-paid job.

The salad days are over for most.  An economy driven down by taxes and regulation just cannot sustain the amount of silly jobs that these types of women used to obtain.  In so many cases these days, skills and production matter.

Grandparents cannot figure out why their grown-up grandchildren don’t own a home yet, or have a partner, or indeed any other of the assets that signify adult life. They don’t understand that dating apps have created a culture of loose sex and even looser commitment.

And who is at fault for that?

So what have these young people done? They have done what anyone who is scared or desperate does: they’ve hustled. They’ve created ‘personal brands’.

Branding can be effective.  But a brand must be established first.  It must mean something.  And then it must be maintained.

After a recent careers talk I gave, I left with a handful of homemade business cards directing me to blogs and websites and glossy social media accounts that made it look as though half of their purveyors were living a Gwyneth Paltrow-curated life. But it is all bravado.

Now we are getting somewhere.  Useful skills matter.  The ability to think matters.  Common sense matters.

They have mastered the magician’s art of distracting us by waving a cheery scarf in one hand while stuffing the frightened turtle dove in their pocket in the other.

So forgive them when you hear them talking about their 500 friends on Facebook or their 2,000 followers on Instagram. Don’t judge them for their selfie sticks and their relentless self-promotion.

Why not judge them?  Men have always been judged every day of their lives.

They do this because they have to. Their blogs and their confidence and their seeming lack of social hierarchy is what happens when you’re afraid. You get tough, you get pushy and you do whatever it takes to get noticed.

Because they have no useful skills and are afraid, they are compelled to posture?   Perhaps they should take at look at themselves, their friends, and their assumptions.  Perhaps they might make adjustments that could lead to productive lives.  Or maybe not.

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78 comments on “It’s Always Something — Part IV
  1. Tarnished says:

    Common sense matters

    Yes, but I think it is a superpower by now.

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  2. Tarnished says:

    …a university education (which the majority of us got free)

    Huh. You mean a degree didn’t always entail a massive pile of debt that takes years to make a dent in? But when it became evident that this was the new normal, young adults were *still* told that college was the only good path?

    Say it ain’t so!

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  3. Yoda says:


    Men have always been judged every day of their lives.

    True this is.
    Used to it we are

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  4. Tarnished says:

    Being duped might be bad, but their material conditions seem to be fine. They can take foreign trips, get seemingly fancy degrees, eat organic food, find time for SJW activities, etc.

    If we’re going by the people I know who can “afford” these things, they’re only doing so because they have credit cards. The number of men and women I know who can truly afford to take trips, eat purely organic food, or go back to school to get a Masters or PhD *without* selling a kidney, half their liver, and their immortal soul…whilst remaining 100% debt free…is precisely 0. So who exactly is going around doing this?

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  5. Yoda says:

    So who exactly is going around doing this?

    A bunch of young women who call each other “amazing” it would be

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  6. Spawny Get says:

    I left Uni debt free. Only had to get a BSc back then because the entire educational system was yet to be root and branch debased. We had a sociology department, so the sprouts of doom were sprouting I guess. Didn’t fancy another three years of penury* so I skipped the PhD.

    *it’s now laughable that I thought that having little cash, but no debt, meant I was poor. I worked the major holidays, took no holiday holidays, didn’t have a car, no designer labels, no mobile (though they just about existed as a small suitcase + wired handset).

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  7. Ame says:

    “The ability to think matters.”

    I don’t even remember the conversation now … but I remember my aspie girl saying to me, “Because, Mom, you’ve taught us to THINK!”

    and … they don’t read consmo.

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  8. Tarnished says:

    I left Uni debt free.

    Lucky duck. I was able to pay off my Associates as I earned it, but that wasn’t possible for my Bachelors. I would like to go back and get my MBA someday, but it’s hardly necessary and just looking more and more like a colossal waste of time and money. :/

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  9. Tarnished says:

    A bunch of young women who call each other “amazing” it would be

    That’s rather like how you can pick a word and…after saying it 50 times in a row…it loses nearly all meaning, innit?

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  10. Yoda says:

    Amazing how that happens, is it not?

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  11. SFC Ton says:

    “An economy driven down by taxes and regulation”…..

    We’d be shitting in tall cotton if those were economic issues

    “Grandparents…..don’t understand that dating apps have created a culture of loose sex and even looser commitment.”

    Apps did not create that culture. Apps saw an unmet demand and filled the gap. People created that culture mostly people with hatchwounds and college degrees

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  12. Liz says:

    ” I would like to go back and get my MBA someday, but it’s hardly necessary and just looking more and more like a colossal waste of time and money.”

    There’s a guy at the base here with an MBA from an Ivy league school and HE couldn’t find a job anywhere (but begged the Reserve unit to take him, and got back in, he’d been a pilot and knew some people). Mike has an MBA, but only because he needed a Master’s in something for promotion.

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  13. SFC Ton says:

    LOL yea I know an engineer working a security gig because its all the work he can get…. or go to a high priced city for a 60% cut in standard of living

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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Liz,
    You jkust reminded me of Luct DeCoutere. She wouldn’t be working if it weren’t for the RCAF.
    Something very strange is happening. Competent people are being chased out and shleps with useless degrees are being given refuge.

    About Cosmopolitan, it is a shame that National Lampoon is no longer. It would be fun to put the two side by side.

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  15. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Off topic. There is no need for legislation or judicial feview.

    http://bobagard.blogspot.com/2016/04/men-who-claim-to-be-women-can-now-use.html

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  16. Yoda says:

    Wonder if Moe comment on “common sense” he might

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  17. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well, common sense is about keeping one’s own head away from Kauri Clubs whilst other blokes’ heads dent one’s own Kauri Club in as many places as possible.

    “The other side of common sense”, Mrs Moehau Man (my learned old mum) says right now, “is that it’s a collection of the prejudices of the weird-arse sheilas you foreign jokers call feminists.”

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  18. Moehau Man says:

    “Common sense”, Mrs Moehau Man (my communicative old mum) added just then, “is in the eye of the beholder”

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  19. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Three Cheers for your learned old mum!
    Huzzah!
    Huzzah!
    Huzzah!

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  20. Moehau Man says:

    Fuzzy Wuzzy Bear the Like I gave you there was actually an historical first-of-all-time Like from Mrs Moehau Man (my chuffed old mum).

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  21. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    HUZZAH!!!

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  22. Moehau Man says:

    You know, Fuzzy, something that strikes me about all this foreign nonsense is that the foreign Kiwi joker who goes by the name Cill is the only one who spells your name in Patriarchy English. F.U.Z.Z.Y. All the rest of that bunch persist with F.U.Z.Z.I.E. It’s more than a bit odd when a dumbo Moehau Man and a Kiwi odd ball understand their own language better than they do.

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  23. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Moehau Man,
    It was necessary to resort to the “ie” suffix because someone had already claimed the name with a “y” suffix. You’re not wrong and neither is Ruyard Kipling.

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  24. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Here’s a video for Horse and Sumo.

    Why I dedicated it to horse should be obvious.
    Why I dedicated it to Sumo is more subtle. It’s because his hometown hosst an event more famous than the Salinas Rodeo. Take a look in the background of this video. I think it’s the Kremlin.

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  25. M says:

    Cill *please* let me stop laughing!

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  26. M says:

    I loved the video Fuzzie. I’ve loved horses and riding since I was 5. Wonderful horsemanship (horsemanship intended)

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  27. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    M!!! Many burritos for you!
    With the new emoticons, I am sorry, “burrito” has to be spelled out.

    Cill,
    Stop tickling M!

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  28. M says:

    Fuzzie, our homes are not close enough for tickling! His arms would have to be kilometers long to be tickling me here and now! I was becoming helpless laughing at his comments. 😉

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  29. M says:

    Moe’s comment at 6:44 am “sounds” so much like Colin Meads I can’t help laughing every time I look at it! Oh dear (sides aching with laugher)

    So long for today. I’m going out this Friday evening. Cheers 🙂

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  30. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    M,
    I’d better not say anything. How about another video?

    Until I saw this, I didn’t know rhere were lyrics.

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  31. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well we just need to get off the dunny long enough to bring the touch judges up to scratch.

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It may come as a shock to New Zealanders but, for some of us the fame of Moehau Man eclipses that of Colin Meads.

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  33. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    When I thought putting Harriet Tubman on the $20 bill was all, I was wrong.

    http://bobagard.blogspot.com/2016/04/more-changes-to-our-5-10-and-20-bills.html

    What goes on a nation’s currency is symbolic. Whenever I felt bad at work, all I had to do was look at the reverse of a nickel and see Monticello to feel better.

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  34. Yoda says:

    What goes on a nation’s currency is symbolic. Whenever I felt bad at work, all I had to do was look at the reverse of a nickel and see Monticello to feel better.

    Wonder if true this would be with King Charles

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  35. Yoda says:

    All the rest of that bunch persist with F.U.Z.Z.I.E. It’s more than a bit odd when a dumbo Moehau Man and a Kiwi odd ball understand their own language better than they do.

    Doing the Queen’s job you are?

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  36. Yoda says:

    monthly articles on “Ten Ways to Drive Him Mad in Bed” that graced the magazine in recent decades.

    Wonder if the ideas worked they did

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  37. Yoda says:

    Wonder if the Patriarch’s cock busy last night it was

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  38. Tarnished says:

    Wonder if the ideas worked they did

    Nah. They’re all either completely obvious, or as boring as reading 50 Shades. It’s like they asked a 16 year old virgin who’d lived in a nunnery her entire life and never met a male to write said article after watching the Twilight trilogy.

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  39. Spawny Get says:

    Yoda, there’s a draft post that needs scheduling…WC

    Like

  40. Yoda says:

    Patriarch,

    Water Closet needs attention it does

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  41. Yoda says:

    Perhaps Sumo write about how the Patriarch hypothetically cook his cock he could

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  42. Spawny Get says:

    ‘hypothetically cook his cock’

    As a rule, whenever I see any smoke, I add oil. Basting or lubrication? I leave it to the readers’ imaginations.

    (I believe that the post is now scheduled as suggested)

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  43. Spawny Get says:

    FTR I get WC comment notifications. Patriarchal privilege, I guess.

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  44. Spawny Get says:


    Taxi to the airport for POTUS

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  45. Spawny Get says:

    http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2016/04/22/obama-threatens-united-kingdom-trade-leave-european-union/
    Tell me again about this ‘special relationship’ Bazza. Camermong is rumoured to have gone to his knees to get your POSUS in on ProjectFear
    Fuck off the pair of you

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  46. Spawny Get says:

    The RPM with Rollo & Niko: Runaway hypergamy (Niko Choski channel)
    live now

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  47. Sumo says:

    Perhaps Sumo write about how the Patriarch hypothetically cook his cock he could

    Damn, if only I had thought about that myself….. 😉

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  48. Yoda says:

    Yoda full of good ideas he is

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  49. Dragonfly says:

    Yikes! I feel like I fit in this category of women my age (late gen Y’ers) that have a blog and such… but I started it as a way of writing out my own thoughts on marriage and books and life. There are a lot of lifestyle blogs though that seem to only talk endlessly about clothes, makeup, and decorating, etc. I always wanted my focus to be on ideas, well that and I’m not planning on getting a paycheck from writing!!! I got my degree….

    😦 It’s sad to view it from this perspective of women who are planning on actually making a living off of lifestyle blogs. I think you actually have to have done something, be famous or something to be someone who succeeds at that.

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  50. Yoda says:

    Dragonfly makes a good point she does.
    Many people journalism for free they do.
    The magazine women competing against that they are

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  51. Yoda says:

    A new post there is.

    Like

  52. Horseman says:

    My two favorite girls on my front lawn.

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  53. Horseman says:

    Needs a strong hand to break up this girlfight. The one on the left is named Tinkerbell. Talk to my daughter.

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  54. Ame says:

    Horseman – stunning! beautiful! (the horse, too 🙂 )

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  55. Ame says:

    horses – plural

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  56. Horseman says:

    Why aren’t the pictures imbedding instead of links?

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  57. Horseman says:

    Thanks Ame. Not bad for fifty one then. Why I got engaged to her in 6 days. Seriously. her engagement ring has six diamonds one for each day we dated. That was 1988. celebrate 29 this fall.

    And both Tink and Hallie the white are rescues. They were going for meat from the auction.

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  58. Ame says:

    Horseman – ahhhhhhh!!!!!!! one diamond for each day! ahhhhh!!!!!!!

    29 years … congratulations. that’s truly remarkable and beautiful all around. very happy for y’all.

    she and i are the same age, then! she looks AWESOME 🙂

    —-

    rescues … meat from auction? 😦 😦 😦
    so glad they have you – they’re obviously well-loved and well-cared for 🙂

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  59. Horseman says:

    shameless plug for unwanted horses below. Our friend Christine has rescued and rehomed over 150 horses who would have gone for meat unnecessarily.

    http://horseadoptontario.blogspot.ca/p/happy-tails.html

    Anyone interested in the manly (and womanly) art of horse riding can find similair rescues in their area. My most expensive pony was $400.

    Threadjack over. Nowe back to the chaos and pie throwing already in progress.

    and a burrito for the Fuzzie.

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  60. Ame says:

    ah, but threadjacking is what makes this place so.much.fun … not to mention interesting, intriguing, chaotic, etc.

    pictures of such beautiful beasts always welcome 🙂

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  61. Ame says:

    ah, so Horseman is in Canada, too? Horseman and Sumo two different men, yes?

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  62. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Horseman,
    Thank you for the burrito! Munch, burp!
    Here’s a message for you to pass on , please.

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  63. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    Advice from Franklin D. Roosevelt I might buy into. Obama is trying to twist arms on something he doesn’t get to vote on.
    I am a little worried about the Queen turning frail. Our President did do her a good turn making sure that she got into the Range Rover without incident.

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  64. Horseman says:

    Horseman is a proud Canuck living under the flight path of CFB Trenton.

    Ah the sound of Hercules in the morning, sounds like….
    loud fucking planes on patrol!
    but its better than those god damn birds. tweet chirp burble.
    yes its morning! yes your bloody horny! yes its your wonderful nest! Now SHUTTHEFUCKUPAT5AM!
    God even Matt Walsh doesnt cry so much to get laid!!!

    and Horseman is the only Horseman.
    But Sumo has his qualities too!

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  65. SFC Ton says:

    When elected obama was more popular in europe then he was in the usa; he is exactly what they wanted for the usa, someone they could work with unlike that “cowboy” gwb, why don’t they like his positions in their affairs?

    bush is a yankee and never worked stock

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  66. Ame says:

    Horseman – roflmao!!!!!!!

    poor birdies 😉

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  67. Spawny Get says:

    Back in the day I said that BO smelled like an heir to Blair. Never liked the fecker. If Camermong wasn’t white and English, he and BO would get along great.

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  68. Spawny Get says:

    Cut and paste of original comment

    http://picpaste.com/20150516_164516-bTNkMcSj.jpg

    My two favorite girls on my front lawn.

    hacking http into https

    My two favorite girls on my front lawn.

    Thumbnail link

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  69. Spawny Get says:

    I can’t see that you’re doing anything wrong with the links Horseman…

    Pretty picture

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  70. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Onhly thr thumbnail came through for me but, I am using IE9.In Google Chrome, thyey have icons that have to be clicked on and there are cautions, link not private(?)

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  71. SFC Ton says:

    obama is a sack of shit with apologies to actual sacks of shit. They are useful for fertilizer at least. however I remember the bush days ( who is also a sack of shit, same apologies to sacks of shit) and how anti bush/ anti usa the European media outlets where/ how much they commented on the internal polices of the usa etc/ cheered obama etc. Now I find it the height of chicken shit hypocrisy that those same sources bitch about obama and him getting mixed up in their affairs. that’s their man. they should be happy about it

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  72. Spawny Get says:

    Fuzzie, I had the same results as you

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  73. Spawny Get says:

    “Now I find it the height of chicken shit hypocrisy that those same sources bitch about obama and him getting mixed up in their affairs. that’s their man. they should be happy about it”

    Fair enough, but that’s far from all of us.

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  74. Liz says:

    Taking an internet break, but I had to share this one.
    Not sure if anyone here watches the Vikings on the history channel.
    During the season finale I thought the character Logertha was killed, and I was glad. Her presence on that show (and all of the shield maidens in general) annoys the crap out of me.
    Here was the response to the “Is Logertha really dead?” question:

    “”No,” Hirst reveals. “There’s a feminist collective in New York who wrote to me a couple years ago and they said, ‘We don’t’ care how many of the male characters you kill off, but if you do anything to Lagertha, you’re in trouble.’ So I’m very careful about that warning.”

    More seriously, Hirst says Lagertha is far too important of a character for him to kill her off just yet.”

    Yes, I’m sure “more seriously” she’s simply “far too important”. Sorry, I believe the first bit.
    Ah well.
    Have a great weekend everyone.

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  75. Tarnished says:

    Her presence on that show (and all of the shield maidens in general) annoys the crap out of me.

    I’ve watched about 3 episodes. My mother goes absolutely ga-ga over it though.

    I don’t mind the concept of female warriors, because there have been a few in history…but I’d bet my next month of paychecks than none of them looked even remotely like the ones we see in such shows. They are too “flimsy”. Where are their muscles, their missing limbs, their scars? Why are they all petite (or at most, average sized) women who look better suited for a modeling career than fighting?

    Oh, because it’s not sexy for female fighters to get hurt? Screw that. Then it’s not a show worth watching, if it’s going to pretend away any female casualties or dismemberments. 😡

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  76. Yoda says:

    All female warriors named “Broomhilda” they should

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  77. Liz says:

    “I’ve watched about 3 episodes. My mother goes absolutely ga-ga over it though.

    Taking a break from my break for a few minutes. 🙂

    I don’t mind the concept of female warriors, because there have been a few in history…but I’d bet my next month of paychecks than none of them looked even remotely like the ones we see in such shows. They are too “flimsy”. Where are their muscles, their missing limbs, their scars? Why are they all petite (or at most, average sized) women who look better suited for a modeling career than fighting?”

    At the beginning of the show (Season 1, and season 2 for the most part) Lagertha was a believable character. I think the feminists liked her character and made their inputs and it all went downhill from there. They killed off my favorite female character, Siggy. SHE was a real woman. She was clever, and frank, and very Machiavellian. And she had a great part in Ragnar (the main character’s) rise to power as king (she played a pivotal role in deceiving the sitting king). She also sacrificed herself in the end to save Ragnar’s children. She was no warrior, but she was much more of a heroine from my perspective.
    Good concept for a show, but the shieldmaiden stuff is hard to watch.

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