Commenter Tarn recently wrote,
Liz … I just don’t get women, either. An insatiable desire for attention? affirmation?
Got it in one, methinks. That’s typical of someone with an external identity type. It’s a lack of SELF-esteem, which makes them very reliant on others.
There is that word again: self-esteem. Here is Wikipedia’s definition
In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, “I am competent”, “I am worthy”) and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Smith and Mackie (2007) defined it by saying “The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it.”
So let us go with the evaluation of their own worth definition. Kids, especially girls, today are bombarded with attempts to raise their self-esteem. If the effort was translated into results, the typical self-esteem would be sky-high. But they are not. I am not sure exactly where it is are on average. Though probably they are higher than the days of yesteryear.
How can they not be? Girls are filled with all sorts of Feminist propaganda, being strong, independent, empowered, able to do anything; all because of their awesome awesomeness. They have almost all of the SMP leverage in those years compared to the boys, so why would they not believe the propaganda? If they have the power in one area, then surely they have the power everywhere? Right?
So it is really difficult to believe that teen girls are lacking in self-esteem. They have boys under their thumb, they can tease them to their hearts desire, they can grab attention anytime that they want. One might think that this might be enough to satisfy their “daily self-esteem requirements”. Almost all boys survive on considerably less. Do these girls have to actually sleep with the guys to bolster their self-esteem? Is there that much of boost that comes from the act. Isn’t the normal everyday attention enough? Or is there another reason that teen girls sleep around?