RPG in her blog comments suggests,
In addition, I believe most men (including them) would love to love a woman like that, it’s often women who make that impossible. Many women have been raised to be hostile, dangerous, untrustworthy, and self centered. Sadly. I feel for men today. The pickings are slim…
As for a woman like that, one can put their own interpretation on that. However, at the bare minimum it means that she is pleasant, not always angling for advantage and actually adds value to his life.
It is actually to her advantage to be non-hostile, non-dangerous, trustworthy, and non-self centered. At least is she wants a successful long term relationship with a non-cad type of fella. Perhaps modern women tend to go for guys with cadish tendencies, and as such are prepared for the part by being indoctrinated with through the development of selfish behavior. When the cad treats her poorly, or even dumps her, she is ready.
I. Women do not realize that cultivating the above mentioned good behaviors can lead to good long term relationships
II. They realize that it can, but the probabilities are low based on what they see around them. This all becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as those around them behave poorly because they see high unlikelihood of success with good behavior. One might liken this to a death spiral with all of the women embracing each other.
III. They do realize the possibility, but can not resist using their sexual leverage for short term gain.
IV. Women just don’t really think about these things, and just fall into the behavior of those surrounding them.
Probably it is a combination of all the above (an perhaps some more). What is needed are many role models of how good marriages should be. In the olden days, there were rules that tried to keep people on the straight and narrow. They were not always successful, but they did channel enough people into good marriages such that others could see how it was done. These days, the role models are few and far between.