No More Backstops

Here is an example of modern liberal media  playing with fire,

One of Bonnie & Clyde’s biggest fans was the late Pauline Kael, who loved to champion the sort of pulpy low-brow culture that Quentin Tarantino has so profitably mined over the last twenty years. But as Robert Fulford wrote in his 2008 profile of Kael for Canada’s National Post, it’s nowhere near as much fun when that’s seemingly the only type of movie being made:

Her part in the process began four decades ago when she wrote an article for The New Yorker defending Bonnie and Clyde, the 1967 Warren Beatty film that treated two 1930s bank robbers with sympathy and raucous humour. Most critics found Bonnie and Clyde empty and trashy. The crusty old New York Times guy, Bosley Crowther, then one of the most influential American critics, decided that Bonnie and Clyde failed to meet his narrow, simple-minded, painfully respectable standards. It was too violent, and he thought the love story of its doomed, hare-brained title characters was “sentimental claptrap.”Kael, whose critical reputation was in its early stages, used Bonnie and Clyde as the opening shot in what turned out to be a war against middlebrow, middle-class, middle-of-the-road taste. Her New Yorker piece began: “How do you make a good movie in this country without being jumped on? Bonnie and Clyde is the most excitingly American American movie since The Manchurian Candidate. The audience is alive to it.”

She announced no less than a revolution in taste that she sensed in the air. Movie audiences, she said, were going beyond “good taste,” moving into a period of greater freedom and openness. Was it a violent film?

Well, Bonnie and Clyde needed violence. “Violence is its meaning.”

She hated earnest liberalism and critical snobbery. She liked the raw energy in the work of adventurous directors such as Robert Altman, Francis Ford Coppola, Steven Spielberg, George Lucas and Martin Scorsese. She trusted her visceral reactions to movies.

When hired as a regular New Yorker movie critic, she took that doctrine to an audience that proved enthusiastic and loyal. She became the great star among New Yorker critics, then the most influential figure among critics in any field. Books of her reviews, bearing titles such as I Lost it at the Movies, Kiss Kiss Bang Bang and When the Lights Go Down, sold in impressive numbers. Critics across the continent became her followers. Through the 1970s and ’80s, no one in films, except the actual moviemakers, was more often discussed.

It was only in the late stages of her New Yorker career (from which she retired in 1991) that some of her admirers began saying she had sold her point of view too effectively. A year after her death (in 2001) one formerly enthusiastic reader, Paul Schrader, a screenwriter of films such as Raging Bull and Taxi Driver, wrote: “Cultural history has not been kind to Pauline.”

Kael assumed she was safe to defend the choices of mass audiences because the old standards of taste would always be there. They were, after all, built into the culture. But those standards were swiftly eroding. Schrader argued that she and her admirers won the battle but lost the war. Acceptable taste became mass-audience taste, box-office receipts the ultimate measure of a film’s worth, sometimes the only measure. Traditional, well-written movies without violence or special effects were pushed to the margins. “It was fun watching the applecart being upset,” Schrader said, “but now where do we go for apples?

So Ms. Kael considered it good fun and games (and career enhancing no doubt) to chop away at film standards.  There once was a time when films were considered to be literature brought to the screen.  Probably none of you out there believe that to be the case today.  Of course, she is not totally to blame, but the damage has been done.

Now consider Feminism.  Did Feminists really consider where their crusade would lead?  If so, did they not care?  Was it all about the leaders themselves, and their self interests?  Were there too many useful idiots that bought into it such that it could not be stopped?

We all know about the damage that feminism has done to men, women and society.  Unhappy married couples, unhappy unmarried people, dysfunctional children, unmotivated men; the toll is seemingly endless.  And there really seem to be no way out from as societal point of view.  How can all of this damage be undone, and prevented from happening in the future?  There is no longer a backstop to arrest the slide.  As stated above,”It was fun watching the applecart being upset, but now where do we go for apples?”

As a bonus, commenter Ame has written about how feminism is damaging to girls/women; plus an approach to combat it.

I’ve thought about this some as it’s such a broad topic, but I think I can narrow it down some for a starting place:
– Feminism says that girls/women can be and do anything they want, regardless of what it is, who it hurts, or the cost of getting there.
– Feminism says that women are better than men and don’t need anyone, especially men, because they are enough all by themselves.
– Feminism says that males are the root of all our problems, and women are the answers.

When my oldest was one, I learned quickly that there were going to be a lot of things I’d have to say ‘no’ to, so I decided i wanted to say ‘yes’ to as much as possible. given that, I’m pretty flexible and laid back … except where i’m not. There are some things in our home that are set-in-stone. My girls know that if they try to cross that line, they will not be happy. To that end, they’ve heard a few things a lot over the years.

They’ve heard a lot that they get to choose how to obey me – the easy way (they do it on their own), or the hard way (I enforce it). they will both tell you they much prefer the easy way. either way, they get to choose.

Another thing they hear a lot is to tell the truth. I don’t care what the truth is, just tell it. I grew up with lies, my ex was smothered in lies, and I won’t do it. Just tell the truth. I also tell my girls that there is a truth and a lie, and they get to choose what they believe. They can choose either the truth or the lie, however, what they choose does not change what the truth is … but it will change the consequences of their choices. so choose well.

So, feminism is based on lies, and when something is based on lies, it sets everything up that’s based on those lies to be done the hard way. It is so seeped into our culture that to separate out the truth from the lie anymore is like separating conjoined twins. It’s almost indistinguishable. So I have to teach my girls the truth, teach them the lies that have permeated all of society, and teach them how to live with the truth in a society of lies. Adding to all that, it has seeped into christianity till churches that claim to be bible-teaching-churches don’t even know the difference, and truth is relative.

So, I teach my girls:
– Life is not fair, just, or equal. get over it.
– You cannot do anything you want to do, but you can do anything God wants you to do; He designed and created you for a purpose. find that purpose.
– This life and world are not all about you. Get over yourself.
– Your choices affect lots of people. Choose well. It’s not all about you.
– Though we are equal in God’s eyes and you will have to answer directly to Him someday, God established authority on this earth, and He did it for good reason. Respect and live within that authority.
– Treat men with respect. Get rid of any attitude that states otherwise.
– God lives in community, and He created us in community b/c we need each other. we are not islands. It is good for us to need each other, and it is good for women to need men, not bad.
– We are all sinners … and Eve at that fruit first. You are no better than men, and men are no better than you. Face your own stuff and deal with it. Admit your own truth, faults and all, and deal with it. Do not blame anyone else for your stuff. It’s yours; own it.
– Filter what you are taught through the bible, including and especially in churches.
– Separate God from church people.
– The truth will not be popular.
– Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove.

Posted in FarmBoy, Feminism, Lies
104 comments on “No More Backstops
  1. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    What worries me about Ame’s take on this is that the effects cannot be corrected within the generation that grew up with feminism. It will be up to the next.
    I’m impatient.

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  2. Yoda says:

    Moehau Mans apparently have these problems not.
    Perhaps join them we should

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  3. Cillhouette says:

    Ame sounds like my mum, except the religious bits and maybe “You are no better than men, and men are no better than you”. Mum says a minority of the men are more crucial than women and all the other men. The crucial men counter female group bias. When women are held equal to the crucial men, which feminism does, female group bias makes women more than equal, and total female bias takes over until society gets so weak it dies. Feminism hates the crucial men.

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  4. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Feminists want equality with exceptional men, not with ordinary men. Some people refer to this as the apex fallacy. I wish George Orwell were around. It’s straight out of Animal Farm.
    All animals are equal but, some are more equal than others.

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  5. Ame says:

    Cillhouette –
    ““You are no better than men, and men are no better than you”. Mum says a minority of the men are more crucial than women and all the other men. The crucial men counter female group bias. When women are held equal to the crucial men, which feminism does, female group bias makes women more than equal, and total female bias takes over until society gets so weak it dies. Feminism hates the crucial men.”

    i agree with your Mum.

    that was not the best wording, but the best i could think of at the moment … and i was trying to balance as a mom inside the home with my two daughters and my step son, and the balance in the world (and a few other extended family dynamics). i like what your Mum said better, though.

    interesting, my oldest has always been one to observe for a long time before getting involved in anything. when she was a preschooler and we’d go to a little kids play area, she would stand on the outside and just watch. after awhile she would point to someone, almost always a boy, and say, “He’s the leader.” she instinctively *knew* that in a group there would always be a leader, and she wanted to know who that was before she engaged with that group.

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  6. Cillhouette says:

    Fuzzie, feminists want to be “more equal” than exceptional men.

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  7. Ame says:

    fuzziewuzziebear says:
    9 April, 2016 at 1:51 am
    “What worries me about Ame’s take on this is that the effects cannot be corrected within the generation that grew up with feminism. It will be up to the next.
    I’m impatient.”

    that’s the suckish part, isn’t it … that there’s no instant cure … that whatever’s begun now, we may not see the results of such in our own lifetimes.

    i’m a big believer in changing what i can, in doing my part, so that what i pass onto future generations is the best i’m capable of doing. i don’t get that right all the time, but i do enough – or, at least, according to my husband and kids i do. i think the scary part for me is hoping i have/am doing enough … that i will have equipped my kids well enough that they can figure it out on their own when i’m gone.

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  8. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well, it’s pretty obvious who the leader of Moehau Mans is. It’s the bloke whose Kauri Club has been most dented by Moehau Mans’ heads or foreign jokers’ heads.

    “Getting back to the topic”, Mrs Moehau Man (my pertinent old mum) called out just then, “the good burgesses of the rugged Coromandel degradeth themselves not on the lowest denominator in entertainment and media as you foreign types do”.

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    They may want to be superior but, if there is nothing behind it, how can they be? The exceptional men would engage.

    I am impatient. It may come to men doing something proactive. What form that may take is anyone’s guess.

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  10. Moehau Man says:

    “Another thing”, Mrs Moehau Man (my insistent old mum) added, “how far hath Hollywood fallen? No Moehau Man female would look twice at those Hollywood types the foreign sheilas get all vapoury over. What kind of perversity is it, to lust for the weakest of males?”

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  11. Ame says:

    fuzziewuzziebear says:
    9 April, 2016 at 5:16 am
    I am impatient. It may come to men doing something proactive. What form that may take is anyone’s guess.”

    and i’ll be cheering you on! i just can only do what i can do. but let me know when you go all out b/c i’ll be glad to get some pom poms and cheer you on!

    “Go Fuzzie!”
    “He’s our Bear!”

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  12. Cillhouette says:

    Moe I have to agree, they are a bunch of uniformly leftist sheep and sycophantic to feminists. I look at my husband and then at George Clooney and it’s like a man and a Peter Pan.

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  13. molly says:

    I agree with Moe as well! He is in a *mellow* mood, eh! 🙂

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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    If men do something proactive, it will be opposed. Thatnks for the moral support but, you may want to maintain a low profile.

    Moehau Man,
    Your Mum iws wise indeed.

    You made me realize that I haven’t seen that much of George Clooney.


  15. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Is Moe having some of Cill’s rum to make him mellow?

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  16. Choicy says:

    Bonny wee molly and cillhouette, which one is on the nautical rum, Moehau Man or Cillo? Are you sheilas on the nautical rum with them on the keeler? Be truthful when you reply to this honest old digger (well old compared to you and honest compared to Julia Gillard). Someone has to look after you sheilas when Cillo and Moe both hit the turps. What happens if a chance Orca chances by, mate? I better get me Cessna ready to fly across the ditch to save you, Cillo and Moe as well. Mate I’ll make it a top priority if the unattached sister or one of the unattached female cuosins is there.

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  17. molly says:

    Choicy I had one nautical rum and cillhouette had none. Sister #2 and an unattached cuzzie are here so you better hop over the ditch. 😉

    Fuzzie the answer is Yes! Lol

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  18. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well, Moehau Mans never go on the water, so an honest answer should have been No there, Choicy. We Moehau Mans are a landed folk.

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  19. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    “Unattached cuzzie”? My advice is to move fast. Move very fast.

    It’s bedtime. I’ll dream of motorcycles. Va-room!

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  20. Choicy says:

    Fuzzie theres unattached cousins and Cillo has an unagttached sister that dreams are made of mate. An outback Aussie a zillion miles from nowhere is best not to dwell on it in his mind, mate. It’s back to work for this digger, see you later mate.

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  21. Spawny Get says:

    “Sister #2 and an unattached cuzzie”

    In addition to the name Cillhouette, I did also offer
    Cillph / Cylph

    sylph (sɪlf)
    1. a slender graceful girl or young woman
    2. (Classical Myth & Legend) any of a class of imaginary beings assumed to inhabit the air. Also (rare): sylphid
    [C17: from New Latin sylphus, probably coined from Latin silva wood + Greek numphē nymph]
    ˈsylphˌlike, ˈsylphic, ˈsylphish, ˈsylphy, ˈsylphidine, ˈsylphine adj

    Instant, excellent avatar material here

    I spoil you lot. I’m still apologising for Molly’s avatar though, so…

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  22. Cill says:

    “I’m still apologising for Molly’s avatar though, so…”

    Mate you should. You certainly should. How could you do that to a mate?

    (signed) Scorched Eye Balls.

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  23. Yoda says:


    Your ample chest hairs keep you warm at night they do?

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  24. Sumo says:

    Cill has an unattached sister…!? Fuck, I’m booking the next flight to KiwiLand!!!!!!!

    Nah, just messing with y’all. While there are many, MANY things that I would do to get laid, messing with the Cillo Clan is not one of them.

    That dude scares me. Stop and think about that for a minute. Then run and hide under your bed.

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  25. Yoda says:

    “Cultural history has not been kind to Pauline.”

    True also with Betty Fieden it is.
    Though people can admit this not

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  26. Yoda says:

    “It was fun watching the applecart being upset,”

    Perhaps for some good show it was.
    But notice how “The View” and ilk strain more today they do.
    Doubling down on BS not the path to success it would be

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  27. Yoda says:

    Feminism says that girls/women can be and do anything they want, regardless of what it is, who it hurts, or the cost of getting there.

    Yes, much cost there might be.
    Often borne by their present and future children it is

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  28. Yoda says:

    This life and world are not all about you. Get over yourself.

    Good advice this is.
    True humility in the long run works well it does

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  29. Yoda says:

    There once was a time when films were considered to be literature brought to the screen. Probably none of you out there believe that to be the case today.

    Speak for yourself Sunny Boy you should.
    My lines contain excellent wisdom they do.
    Dramatic also they would be.
    Humble on this I am not

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  30. Spawny Get says:

    sorry to hear of your scorched balls, Cill

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  31. Choicy says:

    Sumo. Mate we think alike. I call it self preservation. He is my best mate, but I admit there’s been times I’ve secretly plotted to myself how to get past that big Kiwi dingo. Firearms are the only way mate, and even then I’d shoot and run like rhubarb.

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  32. Choicy says:

    Well now it’s the wrong side of 1 am in the great southern land and I’m off to bed. See you tomorrow Spawny and his mates.

    Liked by 2 people

  33. Cill says:

    Sumo, all joking aside it’s good to hear from you bro.

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  34. Cill says:

    “My lines contain excellent wisdom they do.”
    Speaks well of his impersonator Yoda does.

    “sorry to hear of your scorched balls, Cill”
    I appreciate your concern, me old mate.

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  35. Yoda says:

    “sorry to hear of your scorched balls, Cill”

    Buy a cod-piece from Moe’s Mum you should have

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  36. Yoda says:

    feminism is based on lies, and when something is based on lies, it sets everything up that’s based on those lies to be done the hard way.

    True this is.
    These lies a luxury item they are.
    However the purchaser of the luxury typically pays the full cost not.
    For that, others there would be

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  37. Cill says:

    I can’t afford the 3 Paua shells that she charges for a codpiece these days. The way the econobama valve-bouncing money-printing machine has been running it’s head off, Paua shells may well become the solid currency of the future.

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  38. Yoda says:

    Your choices affect lots of people.

    Emphasized enough this can not.
    Oddly people apparently see this not.
    Or perhaps feel that trapped they are
    and choices they have not

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  39. molly says:

    Fuzzie- Manx Norton thundery start! Falls way behind, finds rhythm at 5:00 and eats ’em up!

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  40. Yoda says:

    Pay the price for cod-piece you should.
    A luxury item it is not

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  41. Yoda says:

    The truth will not be popular

    Self delusions popular they are.
    Hard to deal with this is.
    Suggestions anyone?

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  42. Yoda says:

    Perhaps women believe that “technology” backstop the consequences of their actions it will…

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  43. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Va-room, va-room, zoom! Burrito, burrito, burrito, 🐻 , roll.


  44. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    When the few do stop to think about it, they have to believe that there is a white knight waiting in the wings to rescue the fair maiden.
    Silly maiden.

    I have a challenge to the ladies of the Cillo Clan. While it it lonely at Rancho Choicy, there has to be a girl for Choicy somewhere. This can’t be the stuff that gets laid onto Mr. Phelps.


  45. Yoda says:

    Kael assumed she was safe to defend the choices of mass audiences because the old standards of taste would always be there. They were, after all, built into the culture

    Culture fragile it is.
    She understood this not.
    Important aspects require defending they do

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  46. Cill says:

    Culture fragile it is.
    She understood this not.
    Important aspects require defending they do

    There are so many aspects of this, and so many examples of it, it’s difficult to know where to start.

    There’s Rupert Murdoch. I’ve never spoken to him, but my father has. Rupert brought the news media down to the lowest denominator. There’s Time Magazine, which I stopped reading after Nancy Gibbs became the magazine’s first female editor and the inevitable group-bias crept in. There’s very little institutionalized or structural good value left in the culture anywhere.

    The supremacy of the Left in the West could not have occurred without the rise of Feminism. Between them, they are wrecking the remnants of anything that’s still worthwhile about America and the West.

    I see a procession of three fools. The leader is a blithering drooling howling railing imbecile call Group Think, leading, by a ring in its nose, an over-fed obese bawling pissing mess of a beast called Woman, blind to everything except its own rose-colored image in the mirror duct-taped to its nose, leading a pathetic, mincing, gyrating, cadaverous creature too weak to pull its head out of Woman’s arse. This last and most pitiful creature of all is called Sycophantic Male.

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  47. Yoda says:

    For the middle character, envision Rosie O’Donnell I do.

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  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Now, Cill, stop candy coating it and tell us what you really think.
    Seriously, that was incisive.

    Liked by 2 people

  49. Yoda says:

    Think that Rosie O’Donnell likes the candy coating she does
    Same true for Lindy West it is

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  50. Cill says:

    You blokes wrecked my serious attempt at keeping to the topic by making me crack a grin. Cut it out. 😉

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  51. Cill says:

    Wouldn’t Andrea Dorking be the second beast? That’s who I had in mind. And also one of those selfies of women pissing their pants for the sisterhood.


  52. Yoda says:

    Many to choose from we do.
    Sad this is

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  53. Choicy says:

    Yeah mate Anrea has my vote to be the cow in the middle. It’s a simple description of Andrea mates. Those blokes at the end are jokers from IRL, in my actual life and your right Cillo they are weak as a wet whistle mate.

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  54. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Did someone allude to SheWhoWillNotBeNamed? Antidote. Repeat if necessary.


  55. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I may need to find a new anitdote if the movie is produced about Zoe Quinn and Scarlett Johansson plays her.
    Boo! Hiss!


  56. Yoda says:

    Fuzzie Bear,

    Picture of Lindy enjoying the candy coatings of M&Ms you do have?


  57. Cill says:

    Beast-in-the-middle antidote:

    Confused whether to feel laughter or pity I am.


  58. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Sadly, no. I went looking and had no luck either. It has to be out there somewhere but, since she and Jezebel parted ways, thete must be less demand.
    I need more antidote now.


  59. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Dogs react to Cill’s video.

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  60. Choicy says:

    Sounds like a gang of dingos at Desperation Well, mate.

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  61. Yoda says:

    Sound more intelligent than the “howling feminists” they do

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  62. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    That’s how wolves and wilder breeds of dogs socialize.


  63. Yoda says:

    And better looking also they are

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  64. Yoda says:

    Rate the following four “Dworkins” out of five I do

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  65. Yoda says:

    The feminists socializing they are?


  66. Cill says:

    Diminished seventh striving for they are?


  67. Cill says:

    Dog better job of Diminished Seventh he does.


  68. Cill says:

    Striving for deliberate discord of wolf pack howl feminists are?


  69. Choicy says:

    Yeah dingos strive for a dwliberate discord I reckon. One starts off and another chimes in and if they are on the same note they “deliberately” change it. Then another dingo chimes in and does that as well until we have the mother of all discords going on. The best howlers I heard are the Timber Wolves of Canada.

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  70. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Aren’t the dogs so much better?
    Cill, ask Dog what he thinks, please.


  71. fuzziewuzziebear says:


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  72. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Puppies are so much cuter than feminists.

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  73. Liz says:

    I found out recently that “cutting” is a big thing for girls now. I guess it has always been on the fringe but now it’s pretty ubiquitous, even in middle school. That’s out in my neck of the woods, and I live on an Island with mostly relatively affluent people…I’m betting it’s a lot worse in the city.

    A recently banned poster at Rollo’s posted the following, elsewhere:

    “Personally I grew up in a very conservative home where I was reading the Bible at an early age, went to church many times a week, went to an all girls school, and still ended up losing my virginity at 13-14.
    Honestly, it’s probably because I was never REALLY taught about chastity. My church, parents and school preferred to avoid mentioning sex, except for occasionally saying that it’s for marriage. But it was never drilled into my head like sex was. I mean, when I was 13 I would watch Gossip Girl and 90210, as well as read numerous other books and watch movies marketed towards teens that basically regularly displayed teens engaging in sex, and I ended up thinking that it was something normal to do.”

    Well, the proof is in the product this person (20 year old female) is one of the most blatantly manipulative, arrogant, shameless and obviously bpd individuals I have ever met online. And the bar is really really high. But every once in a while she offers a little clue (like above) as to how she ended up that way. She was taught the Bible but actually obtained her value system from watching 90210 and Gossip Girl.

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  74. Liz says:

    Mike has been reading Leaders Eat Last and shared some of it with me (I’ll read it next). It’s very interesting stuff, especially when the author (Simon Sinek) discusses the influence of biochemistry in behavior patterns. The objective is to explain why some leaders (and by extension, companies) perform better than others, but I think his observations are true of other group dynamics, like communities and families (and cities, and nations) too.
    I think his observations provide a biological explanation as to both why we’ve seen the proliferation of a value system that is really just an extension of the trailer park, the barrio, the ghetto, and the hood, and why that value system is damaging to society as a whole.

    He breaks it down to the primary “happy” chemicals and here is a rough overview of his take:

    The “happy chemicals” for humans are:
    1) Endorphins (designed to mask physical pain, for short term endurance reasons…trying to outrun that boar for example, runners experience this as “runner’s high”),
    2) Dopamine (another short-term pleasure strategy chemical, gives the person a “feel good” hit. It’s highly addictive: alcohol, smoking, gambling, and so forth are linked to that dopamine fix)
    Neither of the above chemicals result in feelings of longterm fulfillment, love, or trust. A sexually profligate woman is going to get her “happiness boost”, if she has one, primarily from the short lasting dopamine, which doesn’t offer much fulfillment longterm.

    The following chemicals are key for longterm happiness:
    3) Serotonin- Provides the feeling of significance, pride, status. It reinforces the sense of relationships and loyalty (within the group or family).
    4) Oxytocin- Creates intimacy, trust. Feeling of safety.

    The second set of chemicals are relevant for (healthy) human community relationships. That’s why human relationships thrive in environments of interdependency (NOT dependency), trust, loyalty and so forth.
    Human communities do not thrive in environments where short-term “feel good” (dopamine rush) chemicals rule the day to day and stress is high, everyone feels like they are in a constant state of active competition, and so forth. Predatorial environments (of any type, from the rat race career path to the win/lose family relationship dynamic, to the “keeping up with the Joneses” community lifestyle to the ultimate impact on folks within the state, to the nation, to the world.

    The Leaders Eat Last author is now required reading for flag officers. This is ironic because that group epitomizes the exact opposite of Sinek’s concepts. They almost universally treat people as assets and not people. In fact, a flag officer I know went to a seminar where Sinek was the speaker. The only other people in the room were 17 other Generals. Sinek left 18 Leaders Eat Last books, one for each. They were 7 books short. These “leaders” had actually taken more than one, leaving others with none…following a seminar about the obligation of courtesy and sacrifice in leadership.
    It’s all great material for gallows humor.

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  75. Liz says:

    Here is a video, where Sinek explains his observations.
    Some folks here might differ with some of his opinions and examples but I think it’s informative and worth sharing for those interested:

    I see truth in his observations about company group dynamics, in both the hospital environments I’ve worked, and also the military, and the airline industry.
    It’s also interesting is how important overall culture can be toward salvaging a company, even when the leadership is poor…if there is a good foundation. Southwest is an example. They had a phenomenal CEO who cultivated an environment where everyone worked together and felt “safe” and happy. Now they have a CEO who is a bean counter and looks at the staff not as human individuals, but company assets. It’s beginning to take a toll…but the culture that held for years and years is still in place and overall enough to compensate for bad leadership. Of course, it’s not inexhaustible…it will take a toll eventually but that trust and bond formed over the years has made the company very resilient to adversity.

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  76. Liz says:

    A response from one of the military blogs I frequent.
    This is so true. The topic was “Are Americans as Ignorant of Foreign Policy as Trump?”, with a tweet article from

    “That must be satire.

    The media manipulates context and truncates quotes then attacks the misrepresentation.

    Trump does not know everything about foreign policy… but he surrounds himself with capable people and puts America first.

    A bull in a china shop intent on the success of the America people is better than the most crafty statesman fighting for the profits of multinational corporations and international bankers.

    It is laughable to attack Trump’s foreign policy ideas after watching the chronic messes, miscalculations, self-sabotage, and embarrassments made by the Bush and Obama administrations… even ones the American public knew to be mistakes at the time.

    Trump cannot be perfect… but at least he claims he will try to fight for America… which, even if it is a total lie, is better than what other candidates are promising.”

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  77. Liz says:

    Good grief Fuzzie those howling puppies are beyond adorable! 😀

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  78. David Foster says:


    Wondering if you and/or Mike have read ‘Once an Eagle,’ or watched the TV series made from the book?….the novel follows 2 military officers through their careers, extending from WWI through the interwar years and WWII. Sam Damon is a dedicated leader focused on mission and troops, Courtney Massengale is a ruthless careerist. The book is apparently required reading in senior Army circles.

    I’m probably going to do a post referencing the book and noting the dangerous ratio of Courtney Massengales to Sam Damons that we seem to have developed in America today.

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  79. Liz says:

    I read that book long, long ago. It was left in an dorm room at Osan AFB (South Korea) when Mike was stationed there, and I picked it up. I loved it. In fact I liked it so much I mailed it to my Dad (Mike didn’t have time to read it…and this is before Amazon existed).
    I remember very little so I should probably get that one again, and reread it. 🙂

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  80. Yoda says:

    For the bear this is,

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  81. Yoda says:

    Moehau Mans howl they do?


  82. Cill says:

    Liz you had me thinking about the feel good chemicals in the brain. I don’t get enough sleep, which supposedly will reduce the production of the chemicals (it’s 3:50 am here now and I’m looking at another sleepless night). However for quite a while now, I have felt good to very good and seldom feel bad unless I read or hear something that annoys me. The MSM is my bugbear but the irritation doesn’t last long. There’s a lot of laughter in my life.

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  83. Yoda says:

    There’s a lot of laughter in my life.

    Moe say the same he can?


  84. Liz says:

    Yeah, usually lack of sleep increases cortisol levels Cill.
    I think it also depends on sleep quality though, and other things can kind of balance it (like you mentioned, overall levity in life in general). 🙂

    The description of “longterm happiness” chemicals kind of resonated with me. When I think about what makes me happiest (or gives me the most sense of fulfillment) it is true things like helping others come to mind (I miss that about nursing). I also get a feeling of fulfillment when Mike says something good, or is pleased with me. I guess that’s because I think highly of him and look up to him so it gives me that sense of pride/fulfillment and all that (which is probably the case with your female clan as well, from what you’ve described, Cill).

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  85. Cill says:

    The “people” things you mention apply to my situation as well. Also, I get deep satisfaction out of building things. I’m still living at my old paradise while I build the new one. There’s years of work ahead, and I’m going to love every minute of it.

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  86. Yoda says:


    Last month, the Republican-led Utah House of Representatives became the first legislative body in the United States to pass a resolution declaring pornography “a public health hazard leading to a broad spectrum of individual and public health impacts and societal harms.” The liberal backlash criticized the measure as an antiquated bit of conservative moralizing, with the Daily Beast calling it “hypocritical” and “short-sighted.” “The science just isn’t there,” wrote Rewire, an online journal dedicated to dispelling “falsehoods and misinformation.”
    The thing is, no matter what you think of pornography (whether it’s harmful or harmless fantasy), the science is there. After 40 years of peer-reviewed research, scholars can say with confidence that porn is an industrial product that shapes how we think about gender, sexuality, relationships, intimacy, sexual violence and gender equality — for the worse. By taking a health-focused view of porn and recognizing its radiating impact not only on consumers but also on society at large, Utah’s resolution simply reflects the latest research.


  87. Yoda says:

    New shiny product this is,

    Created by a Calgary, Canada resident named Lindsay-Marie Istace after “the really painful breakup of a long term relationship,” Rage Yoga is meant for those who are hoping to improve their posture and flexibility, but have never felt at ease in a modern yoga studio.

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  88. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I linked the dogs howling because they are so much better at it than feminists.
    As for “once an Eagle”, it was written by Anton Meyer. I saw the series recently on youtube but, it has been taken down. As always, the book is much more comprehensive.
    Another reccommendation from that time period is “Soldier” written by Antony herbutus. Don’t let Mike’s superiors know that he is reading it.

    There is something familiar in Lindy West’s appreciation of sweets. Her figure is another clue. Do you think she may be a disguised bear?

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  89. Yoda says:

    Like many women this election season, I want my vote to lift up other women, especially women of my own generation who lack opportunity in this country. That’s why I’m voting with my vagina—and also why I am voting for Rob’s dick.

    If you think I’m making a decision based on emotion instead of facts, I’m going to have to disagree. First, let me point out that Rob’s dick is objectively the best thing that’s happened to my vagina, and could be an amazing asset to others, if given the opportunity.

    Not every woman has had the kind of opportunity that Rob’s dick has afforded me. Ever since we fucked last week, I’ve seen a dramatic change in my self-confidence, my earnings potential, and knowing that as a woman, I have a choice. I have a choice if we want to do it standing up, or kind of halfway on the couch, or in the back of the car if he puts the seats down. Rob’s dick has shown me that as a woman, I have the right to voice my own opinion, even if I choose not to and instead opt to have sex outside where there are people around.

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  90. Yoda says:

    Wonder if Moe could top Rob he could

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  91. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have to agree with C3PO after Chewbacca mounted his head on backwards.
    “I’m so confused!”


  92. Yoda says:

    Well, social media it is,

    This week’s female teacher busted for using Snapchat to send nude selfies to a 14-year-old male teenager is Kylie Rexann Modisette.

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  93. Yoda says:

    Wonder if also “pull the voting lever” with her V she does

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  94. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It would seem that some are more confused than others.
    What was that teacher thinking? Incidents of this nature are happening too frequently to be attributed to outliers. This is a systemic problem.

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  95. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    At least she likes her new boyfriend. I thought that was an attitude that we should encourage, no?

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  96. Liz says:

    Yoda: “Created by a Calgary, Canada resident named Lindsay-Marie Istace after “the really painful breakup of a long term relationship,” Rage Yoga is meant for those who are hoping to improve their posture and flexibility, but have never felt at ease in a modern yoga studio.”

    “Rage Yoga”. That’s hysterical. LOL!
    Yoga for people with tourette’s.
    “Ball Hair!” “Pussy!” “YARRR!”
    How very zen.

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  97. Yoda says:

    Speaking of “rage yoga”, a new exploitive Star Wars movie there will be.
    “Rage Yoda” it is.
    More badass than Samuel L. Jackson I will be

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  98. Ame says:

    Liz / David Foster – added those two books to my list.

    Fuzzie – do you have a link for this book; couldn’t find it: “Soldier” written by Antony herbutus

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  99. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It must be out of print.When I read it, it was as a paperback in the 70s. Found this:

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  100. Farm Boy says:

    What was that teacher thinking?

    She was thinking that with SnapChat the evidence would disappear quickly.

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  101. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    A potential arch-criminal she is not.


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