Over at Dalrock’s, a commenter wonders,
I would also ask who would want to marry a hard driving woman like her? She is unlikely to ever be satisfied with domestic life and I would want a wife to raise children and keep the home, not to compete with me in the workforce.
Actually, quite a few men in the upper middle class (UMC) and above do. We are talking Doctors marrying Lawyers, Business Executives marrying Political Climbers and so on. It apparently happens very often. Just look at the Clintons and Obamas.
One would think that there are forces arrayed against such behavior. Men normally do not like to be married to ballbusting unpleasant women. It is difficult to imagine any of these women not being such. There is the common refrain of “being man enough to handle me”; however capable a man is at handling such a woman, would he want to bother? What is in it for him? He probably has lots of challenges elsewhere in his life. There is probably no need for another one.
As for the woman, she inevitably wants to marry up; equal is the best she can do. Such are the compromises that modern women must make.
Now let us consider the “positives”.
I. In the case of potential divorce, he is much less likely to be raped, as her income is comparable to his.
II. She takes a big hit is prestige, much more than him if she does divorce. The UMC for all of their liberal leanings knows that an intact family is important for raising children.
III. Probably he will be working long hours, and won’t be at home much with his unpleasant wife.
IV. There seems to be considerable social pressure to “make such marriages happen” and fitting in with such conventions can be good for your career in the long run.
V. With both parents being high powered, there will be lots of money for nannies, tutors, fancy schools, etc.
Now comes your turn. What other “positives” and negatives are there here?