It Is Always Something — Part II


When we last left the magazine staff,

Another girl nodded, then admitted she’d spent the last few years working out which of her male gay friends she could start a family with, since no heterosexual men she’d met in the last few years seemed up for the job of life partner, let alone father. She is 23.

So would the gay guys pay child support also?  How would this work?  The fact that these women are surrounded by gay guys reveals what pool they swim in.  Perhaps they might find suitable guys if they move to where the eligible boys are (e.g. Not in NYC< Washington D.C., etc).

That evening as I turned the key in the lock of the home I owned, in which my partner of 13 years was waiting, I felt two things. First: absolute relief that I wasn’t a young woman in 2016. Second: a deep sadness for those who are.

Because this is life for those born shy of 1980: a hopeless offering of limp employment, academic debt, sex so casual choosing partners is as easy as swiping right with your index finger, and of course, little hope of ever having a ‘place of one’s own.’

Well, first of all, they can have all of the sex that they want.  This is what Feminism fought for.  As for the limp employment, much of it comes from their earlier choices in university degrees; however much of it comes from high taxes and burdensome regulations (things that liberals like most of these women like).  And once again, a place of you own can be had if you would just straighten up and fly right (keep in mind that one can’t have it all).

Meanwhile a recent study from the Resolution Foundation think tank found that more than a third of women in their twenties would this year be earning less than they need to live on. Some 36% of young women (and 29% of young men) are predicted to receive less than the £8.25 per hour that experts say is now the basic cost of living in the UK.

So how exactly do they survive?  And what are these people doing about improving their situation?

 No wonder, then, that at least some of this generation see things a little bleakly. Lena Dunham, of course, has captured this sad-eyed, antsy demographic in Girls, which returned again to screens this week on Sky Atlantic for its penultimate fifth season.

Well, at least she isn’t starving like the people in the previous paragraph are implied to be.

Girls, in case you’ve not seen it, is a sepia-tinged tragi-soap that speaks of a world of dead-end sex, dead-end jobs and expensively-educated kids working day shifts at their local coffee house. At first I didn’t get the fuss. This was Sex And The City but with bad footwear, I remember thinking. Except it wasn’t.

So who decided to get an expensive useless education?  What were they thinking?  Do any of these people think straight?  Apparently the expensive education did not teach them critical thinking.

Dunham has become something of a town crier for a frightened generation: young men and women who, behind the social media posturing, struggle to make sense of a world that seems to have no room for them.

Yes, they do like to posture.  They are good at that.  Very often, it appears that is the only skill that they have.  Is that skill useful to employers?  Is it useful to society?  Perhaps this might explain why the world that seems to have no room for them.

I know what you’re thinking: “Pah! This generation has never known the threat of military service. These young women will never know what it feels like to be the legal ‘subject’ of their husband or be denied access to contraception.

 

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106 comments on “It Is Always Something — Part II
  1. Yoda says:

    What benefit a gay guy sperm donor over a hetero guy sperm donor there would be?

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  2. Yoda says:

    This was Sex And The City but with bad footwear,

    Chicks obsess over shoes they do.
    All secretly Imelda Marcos inside they are

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  3. Yoda says:

    And what are these people doing about improving their situation?

    Agency they do have?

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  4. molly says:

    “Agency they do have?”

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  5. molly says:

    Yoda thinks y funny..

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  6. molly says:

    Unca S hides his m ovie star face he’s laughing so much –

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  7. molly says:

    We all cry in stitches

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  8. Moehau Man says:

    Yes well, I’m not sure what agency is. “Would it be like a franchise for selling my pikelets?” Mrs Moehau Man (my diligent old mum) asks hopefully.

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Molly,
    It seems that you have less sympathy for these twentysomething women than I do.

    They are complaining about a lack of marriagable men. Do they need to be reminded how the marketplace came to this impasse?
    They have admitted it, by default. They have lost the men.

    Yoda,
    It doesn’t matter if he is gay, he is going to pay child support if this comes before a judge. To add to that, what is this girl thinking? Starting a family without a father?

    It’s not that they don’t have agenct. it’s that they don’t want the responibility that agency brings with it.

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  10. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Off topic but newsworthy. Michell Fields has a histoty.
    It does look as if Chritina Hoff Sommers got conned into backing the wrong horse.
    http://www.dangerandplay.com/2016/04/01/hoaxer-michelle-fields-falsely-accused-3-men-of-crimes/

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  11. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Moehau Man,
    Your wise old Mum is very close to the mark. She may be the neolithic version of the Proverbs 31 women.

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  12. molly says:

    I thinks it is a “no men” generation.

    Female single parents, female creche carers, female kindergarten teachers, female school teachers, female “professors”

    2:1 female:male students

    Dads forced into tiny little man spaces by bully women. Men pushed around like their sons will be when they grow up.

    Men kept women in check but feminism forced men out and now the women are showing they have no agency when “no men”. When we lose the support of mens minds, we lose not half but most of our ability to think and end up more stupid than the stupidest dumb animal.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Molly,
    This is the “empowerment” that feminists wanted. Women living independent of men.

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  14. Ame says:

    i have a daughter with special needs. as we did every year, she and i went up to the high school before her 9th grade year began to meet with her sped teachers and make sure we all began on the same page. (one would think that special ed teachers, having her records w/her diagnoses, would know how to teach a student with special needs. but, alas, tis not so. we started this in kinder; by 9th i had the process down better than they did).

    this process took maybe an hour, and we met the director over her and her main contact teacher. the director, within that little hour, brought up going to college … to which my amazing daughter unashamedly replied, “Well, I’m not allowed to take out any college debt, so I’ll probably not be going to a four-year college right out of high school.” that poor, poor woman … she was in such shock that she honestly did not even know how to respond.

    and i’m thinking … hello?! my daughter has some special needs that will limit her ability to seek employment in such a way that she will very likely be unable to earn enough to live AND pay off student loan debt, and you want to brainwash her into going to a four-year institution?

    but they do.not.care. all they care about are the statistics for their school and district telling how many students go onto four-year institutions after graduation.

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  15. molly says:

    What are Proverbs 31 women?

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  16. Cill says:

    Fuzzy what is a “Proverbs 31” woman? I’ve come across the expression before (I think).

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  17. Yoda says:

    Notice that never really reflect on the causes of their misery they do.
    Perhaps a good start this would be

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  18. Yoda says:

    Wonder if any of the magazine women have any of the Proverbs 31 vitues I do

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  19. Cill says:

    The Proverbs 31 Woman
    Of course.

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  20. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Cill and Molly,
    It’s taken fro the Bible, the Book of Proverbs, Chapter 31. It describes the apex of virtue for a married woman in the time of King David.
    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+31%3A10-31&version=KJV
    Both of you will like seeing this.

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  21. Yoda says:

    Gushing Proverbs 31 links we are

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  22. Yoda says:

    struggle to make sense of a world

    Hey ladies,
    Come here you should

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  23. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    None of the magazine women can. To begin with, they are not married and have no prospects of being so.
    About this. in the time of Christ, kids were betrothed at twelve. There was no question about dating or any of the grey areas of morality associated with dating we have to deal with. They would think that we are crazy to put marriage off till thirty.

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  24. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    “Gushing Proverbs 31 links we are.”
    Good. It is good news in the midst of all this modern bovine scatology.

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  25. Cill says:

    The Proverbs 31 women remind me of my kin (“Wisdom of the Ages“) which in turn reminds me that a number of them have asked why comments are closed there. Is closing off comments really very relevant to an https site? The people it is designed to block would be new commenters and blocked anyway until approved.

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  26. molly says:

    People ask me the same question.

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  27. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Cill,
    I can’t answer to why comments would be blocked anywhere. However, trolls are a problem for all bloggers. We are so fortunate here.

    Molly,
    burrito, burrito, burrito.
    They aren’t quite the same when they are spelled out.

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  28. molly says:

    Fuzzie let’s throw food at fembots and PPPs!

    Watch and see an icecream smush her in the face. I did that (heh).
    I was in the background Totin’ ma Cone

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  29. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Molly,
    How about something more traditional?

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  30. Choicy says:

    Gidday from the great southern land, mates. I’m lying where I pitched my small shelter while I eat some lunch and catch up on the blog. The silence of the desert can open doors in a bloke’s mind, mate.
    I followed the link to Wisdom of the Ages, which took my mind back last year to Cillo and his family hearing the grand old lady had died, the third or fourth death in a few months. It was tough for them as I saw looking back at his sister’s talk about wagging her arse. It was out-of-character, a reaction to grief. I see it a lot clearer now than I did then. The desert can do that to the mind, or it might just be my brain being baked too long in the sun, mate.

    Back to work.

    [Note from Cill: Choicy asked me to delete a few words. They seemed innocuous to me but I deleted them as he requested.]

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  31. Spawny Get says:

    Ame
    https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2016/04/02/it-is-always-something-part-ii/#comment-51441

    Hi Ame, first comment is always trapped. It has to wait for me to approve it. I was sleeping… The times on the blog are my local time zone (Glorious Patriarchal Time / British Summer Time (stop laughing at the back)). You should be good to go next time.

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  32. Ame says:

    hehehe … no worries. sleep cannot be undervalued 🙂

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  33. Ame says:

    undervalued? i meant overvalued … i think i need some sleep!

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  34. Spawny Get says:

    Ame @ https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2016/04/02/it-is-always-something-part-ii/#comment-51441

    and i’m thinking … hello?! my daughter has some special needs that will limit her ability to seek employment in such a way that she will very likely be unable to earn enough to live AND pay off student loan debt, and you want to brainwash her into going to a four-year institution?

    but they do.not.care. all they care about are the statistics for their school and district telling how many students go onto four-year institutions after graduation.

    I agree with your assesment of their motivations, I think that they’re also suffering from the lefty disease of being delusional spendaholics. Here in the UK we now have the from the dawn of time financially incompetent Labour party, now lead by our local Bernie equivalent, saying that next time they’ll balance the day to day budget. They’ll only borrow to invest, because spending beyond your means is okay if you can call it an investment. I struggle to imagine someone so dumb that they can’t see what would happen if by miracle they did balance day to day spending…they’d call everything else ‘investment’…and spend away as they always do. In fact the balance could only be achieved by redefining necessities as investments. Hey, how ’bout we invest in some lunch at the local fancy resteraunt? It’ll blow the food budget for the week, but it is an investment after all.

    So, your school maladministrators are probably incapable of seeing student debt as anything but a surefire investment. Same as buying a house…till that bubble pops…again.

    Britain is riddled with debt by another name ‘PFI’ (Private Finance Initiative) where the state agrees to pay a company a set fee for 30 (say) years for the use of a hospital built by the company. The agreement is on terms that guarantee a great return for the company for decades. Labour loved this because they proclaimed that they were investing in shiny new hospitals, but the bills would be coming in years beyond their maladministration.

    Our countries are bankrupt because they’re run by crooks and/or soft hearted, soft minded incompetents with a party time mentality when times are about to go tits up. (They are already tits up, but they keep printing money just to kick the can down the road till the next guy takes over)


    That should be 2020 for the UK

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  35. Spawny Get says:

    I regret to inform Farm Boy that this excellent article is entirely in line with The Glorious Patriarch’s cynical view on matters. These people just want to wallow in victimhood, they’ve no taste for identifying where they went wrong so they could at least save the next guy gal (and maybe society and thus maybe themselves to some degree).

    Don’t whine your tales of self inflicted woe in my ear when you have no interest whatsoever in solving any of the issues if it involves more than accepting a blame free handout and a hug (from a Christian Grey type or more likely, Daddy Government).

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  36. Ame says:

    i love that sign!

    “So, your school maladministrators are probably incapable of seeing student debt as anything but a surefire investment.”

    that … and, unfortunately, the distorted politics are so ingrained into the public school system that they’re incapable of seeing much that’s really good and really working. new politicians cycle into the state/national offices who are getting paid to support whomever – doesn’t even matter – and whomever wants their agendas taught in the schools to brainwash … errr … *educate* … kids. unfortunately for them, my kids have a mom that didn’t buy their bs and taught her daughters differently (but i also had to teach my girls to be careful if/how they presented what they were taught at home, at school!)

    unfortunately, she had some terrible experiences those first 2 weeks in that high school. fortunately, i was able to pull her out and homeschool her. it’s hard having a sped kid any way you spin it, but it’s torture dealing w/the school system w/a sped kid. more often than not, her sped teachers each year were probably secretly happy to see me leave and move onto the next level. the state and national politics over special education are exasperating.

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  37. Spawny Get says:

    Remember the howler monkey tribute act?

    post-trigger alert – I’d rather listen to the mating calls of bandsaws than some of these wimminz and their ‘poetry’

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  38. SFC Ton says:

    The Girls introduced me to these videos but they are good words to live by

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  39. Yoda says:

    If made handsome wage the magazine women did,
    Content they would be?

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  40. Yoda says:

    i was able to pull her out and homeschool her.

    Perhaps share experiences here you might,
    Interested in this subject I am

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  41. Yoda says:

    What value to society these women view themselves as?
    Probably just being “amazing” enough it is

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  42. Yoda says:

    Don’t whine your tales of self inflicted woe in my ear when you have no interest whatsoever in solving any of the issues

    “The evil patriarchy inflicted them they did.
    Beacuse want it to be this way I do”

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  43. Yoda says:

    Patriarch always glorious he has been?

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  44. Spawny Get says:

    “Patriarch always glorious he has been?”

    As my father was wont to say, “I have but one fault. My excessive modesty”

    Gloriousnessness was inevitable, it was in my blood.

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  45. Yoda says:

    Another girl nodded, then admitted she’d spent the last few years working out which of her male gay friends she could start a family with, since no heterosexual men she’d met in the last few years seemed up for the job of life partner, let alone father.

    Perhaps be something that a non gay hetero cis man would value she should

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  46. Yoda says:

    Moe have any proverbs for women he does?

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  47. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Ame,
    Welcome to Spawny’s Space.

    Farm Boy,
    After sleeping on it, these magazine women are completely unprepared to live with a man. I am beginning to understand why metropolitan women on OkCupid are so much better looking than their rural or suburban counterparts and haven’t locked down a relationship. It could be that men are subconsciously aware that a wife has to be a mother to the children.

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  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    I am still more than a little shocked that this urban princess can’t find a straight man. WTF?

    Spawny Get,
    Hermione has a very cute face but, we need to start feeding her.

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  49. Ame says:

    Yoda – is there anything specific you’re looking for? or just how does it generally work in our home?

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  50. Yoda says:

    Ame,

    Start out general you could.
    Why? How? The future?

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  51. Spawny Get says:

    I’ve sent a ‘collaborator’ invite to Ame, which allows for some easy interaction.

    CLEARLY Ame is perfectly free to ignore this, no problem whatsoever.

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  52. Spawny Get says:

    I should addthat Farm Boy is the main man in scheduling, your Glorious Patriarch is running a laissez-faire operation here

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  53. Yoda says:

    Moe’s Mum an ideal Proverbs 31 woman she is.
    Makes codpieces she does

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  54. Yoda says:

    Not Impressed Cameron was.
    Agree with him I do


    Surrounded by world leaders, President Barack Obama gave the peace sign as they gathered for a ‘team photo’ during a two-day nuclear summit.

    All eyes were on Obama as 54 other presidents and prime ministers joined him in Washington, DC, for crunch talks on Iran and terrorist threats involving nuclear weapons.

    There was one set of eyes, however, that was particularly focused on the President – those of Prime Minister David Cameron.

    Relations between Cameron and Obama have been strained since the President criticized the Prime Minister for getting ‘distracted’ during the crisis in Libya and turning it into a ‘s**t show’

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  55. Ame says:

    Yoda –

    I will share some of my story … but please ask questions rather than judge as it is simply not possible to share everything. There’s so much more to the story. I’m not perfect. I’m not a perfect mom. I have to ask for forgiveness a lot, change my ways, adjust, move forward, take one day at a time.

    I believe that as God designed and created us each uniquely, and that while there are definitely general things that apply to all, I am to parent each of my children uniquely. What works for one may or may not work for the other. As I pray, I ask God to enable me and help me to parent each child according to how He created them and according to His plans for their individual lives – plans that I am not privy to.

    So, I take that into schooling. I am not against public schooling or private schooling or home schooling. I am against … when one has choices … forcing a child into a situation that is not best for them. Please don’t take that one line out of context … there are definitely times we force our kids through things b/c they need to learn life is hard, it’s tough, and it will never be fair, just, or equal. I’m speaking more in generalities.

    There are some kids who excel in public school, some in private school, some in home school … and there are some who fail in each. I don’t believe there is one blanket answer. I will also say that we do live in an area where, in general, we have excellent public schools.

    We pulled our Oldest daughter out first. The back story is long, but the short of it is that her dad directly abandoned her, telling her he did not like her behavior (she was protecting her sister), and until she could do exactly as he demanded, without question or thought, he didn’t want her. She was around 14 or 15 at the time. This wasn’t the first ‘thing’ he did to her, but it was by far the most crushing … and, sadly, since he passed away, it was the last. She began having physiological reactions ending in a scary ER visit followed by tons of specialists and tests, ending in a physical diagnosis. In the midst of that, she also became suicidal, so I took her to a psychiatrist and psychologist. It was determined home schooling would be in her best interest. This was not what her father wanted ever. He was home schooled as a little boy and hated it; he was one who excelled in school w/competition (he loved beating out everyone else and often did). He was so opposed that he had a court order stating our girls MUST be enrolled in the local school district, even specifying which one (another long story) – that opposition was more directly related to him hating me than his own personal experience. But, with all her medical, physiological, and then psychological issues, these specialists were willing to take him to court in the best interest of my daughter. So he conceded, and I pulled her out the beginning of her sophomore year in HS. (Their dad eventually did the very same thing to our Youngest. Devastated both my girls.)

    My Youngest was in a very specialized division of special education, which actually worked relatively well in middle school. But our high school is huge, so the pool of kids is much larger, pulling in some with more serious issues into sped. They put my freshman daughter in, alone, with a group of pretty rough senior boys who treated her inappropriately. They did pull her from being directly with that group, but the damage had been done, and she was having extreme reactions. Since she cannot process things properly, it was bad. Her dad had passed by then, so I told her we could pull her out … she decided that’s what she wanted, I agreed, and we pulled her out.

    Interesting to me, neither of my girls miss it.

    How it works is different in each home, mostly according to the personality of the parent(s). For us, I first focus on their emotional health, then their physical health, then their academics. Both of my girls are really smart and learn quickly and easily (well, Youngest does when taught according to her learning style). We’ve focused a lot on healing mentally and physically and grieving not only the passing of their dad but also the things he did to them. My Youngest has needed to develop appropriate social-type skills – there were lots of gaps in there I’ve been able to fill in. Academically it’s been different for each of them. With Oldest, we’ve worked backwards at this age. We did a lot of analysis kind of stuff – personality, strengths, weaknesses, developed goals – ruled things out and things in according to her strengths and weaknesses, and then we’ve determined what she’d need to accomplish those goals.

    Youngest learns best when her brain is ready to learn something, then she’s like a dry sponge. She has severe dyslexia and dysgraphia, so we are able to work with and around those at home where they couldn’t at school. She also need to have mental breaks b/c her brain gets knotted up easily; we can provide that at home. She also has physical things which we can accommodate at home. She had been on a lot of meds, but she weaned herself off all of them when she began homeschooling.

    The future?

    Oldest will be fine. Her ‘progress’ curve is more drawn out that others in her peer group, but her emotional health is exceptional. She has wisdom, insight, and compassion that amaze me. I have always forced my kids to deal w/their stuff and not suppress it, and she is at an age where she can see the effects of that – how emotionally healthy and sound she is compared to her peers and many adults. She has healthy and realistic goals.

    Youngest may very well never be fully independent. I’m not sure she’ll ever be able to drive – her vision-tracking is severely lacking … and many other things. There are a lot of things she will be able to do, though, so I’ve been working on her foundational gaps while adding in academics in fun ways that interest her and ‘stick’ in her brain.

    ——-

    Though there are many around here who homeschool due to wanting to protect their Christian children from the secular world, that has not been a motivating factor for me. For us, I teach my girls the Bible, I teach them Truth, and then I teach them that they get to choose. I allow them to fail as well as succeed. I allow them to make their own choices with a lot of freedom, within reason. I teach them that there’s truth and lie in most everything, and they get to choose which they want … but that choosing what they want does not change what is true and what is lie. I teach them that I will not be with them when they have to make critical choices in life, so they need to be able to think, to know what is truth and lie, and to identify which is which. I teach them consequences. And I teach them that, no matter what, I love them. Period.

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  56. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    If I were the North Pole Penguin, I would be more than a little miffed with Obama. To that point, he has no business saying one word for or against Brexit and that goes doubly so to the Queen. Neither he nor any of his constituents get to vote on the matter.
    It would be good to see David Cameron tell Barak Obama off if he see him stepping over the line.

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  57. Ame says:

    Spawny –
    “I’ve sent a ‘collaborator’ invite to Ame, which allows for some easy interaction.

    CLEARLY Ame is perfectly free to ignore this, no problem whatsoever.”

    i feel kinda stupid … i’m not sure what that means 😦

    ==============

    “I should addthat Farm Boy is the main man in scheduling, your Glorious Patriarch is running a laissez-faire operation here”

    am guessing that Spawny and Farm Boy both relate to this blog?

    ===============

    “Moe’s Mum”

    can i ask who Moe is?

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  58. Yoda says:

    Find out about Moe here one would

    http://en.gravatar.com/moehauman

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  59. Yoda says:

    Ame,

    Lots of story there is.
    How keep them “on track” you do?
    How motivate them you might?

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  60. Ame says:

    Yoda – sorry. there’s so much i don’t always simplify it well.

    How do I keep them on track? That’s sometimes easy and sometimes complex. For us … with Oldest when we worked backward and created goals, we evaluate every so often to make sure this is still the direction she wants to go and we’re still on the trajectory to get there. For Youngest, it’s always been in the details. I have to step back and look at the bigger picture often and then get back in the trenches with her.

    I kinda seem myself as the bumpers they sometimes put on a bowling lane. I’m there go guide them to their goal and keep them from falling off the cliffs along the way.

    Motivation – that’s definitely something that ebbs and flows, for all of us. I want to teach them to motivate themselves, so I give a good bit of latitude while still guiding, encouraging.

    Really, it’s not much different than anything else or any other kind of schooling. I have to know each child and what works for them, what’s going on in their lives, etc. My personality is more laid-back, artistic, enjoy the scenery along the way. A mom with a type-A personality would homeschool quite differently.

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  61. Yoda says:

    Lots of story good it is

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  62. Yoda says:

    Require more individual initiative of homeschooled kids one does?
    At least compared to public schools that is?

    USA, not British public schools that is

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  63. Ame says:

    Yoda –
    “Require more individual initiative of homeschooled kids one does?
    At least compared to public schools that is?”

    that’s really a very personal thing. my Oldest is so smart that public school bored her. she’s dyslexic so she didn’t always score super high on tests, but she was always a mostly A, some B, student. but she was super bored. she didn’t want to take PreAP classes b/c her friends in those classes just had tons of homework, and she would rather spend her home time reading or writing or creating than simply busy work. in high school she would often read a whole novel a day during school. the ONLY thing she truly and honestly missed was choir. our school system has an awesome music program, and she loved choir. but the rest? she doesn’t miss.

    at home, she’s not stuck in a class for an hour, or two, learning the material in five minutes while the rest of the class takes the whole time, or the teacher is out. so she is able to focus more time on what she’s most interested in, and therefore that makes her more driven to individual initiative.

    works pretty much the same with Youngest except that i do have to force her to learn stuff she doesn’t care for in order for her to learn the stuff she needs and does care for.

    the other thing i’m able to do is adapt learning to the ways that make it exciting to learn for each of them. one example, Youngest is so extremely dyslexic that when they tested her in 1st grade, the teacher couldn’t even score her, so she just stopped the test. while she tested out of dyslexia classes in 8th grade, it is always going to be a hurdle for her – one she’s capable of clearing, but there none-the-less. in the school system, they were insistent that she learn to read multiple genres … i just care that she loves reading. so a lot of the reading she does is fan-fiction. fan-fiction doesn’t count as reading in public school. she was not motivated to read the stuff the school wanted her to read, but she is highly motivated to read things that are of interest to her.

    teaching my girls that ‘education’ is not limited to a school building or a specific curriculum that some politically motivated ‘educator’ has created has probably been the most challenging. education is simply learning, and learning is good, fun, productive, necessary, and challenging in all areas of life.

    =====

    do you have children you’re considering home schooling?

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  64. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have been watching a lot of Ann Coulter videos on youtube today. It is curious how you can get lost there and still run on a theme. She said something to Megyn Kelly that I found very encouraging. That American men are pretty good and American women treat them badly.
    She is not red pill. Maybe it’s just that obvious to her.

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  65. Yoda says:

    do you have children you’re considering home schooling?

    900 years old I am.
    Exiled on a swamp planet I would be

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  66. Yoda says:

    sepia-tinged tragi-soap that speaks of a world of dead-end sex

    Wonder if these women have any proposed solutions to this they do

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  67. SFC Ton says:

    Fuzzie, I meet Ann Coultre once. Briefly. She gave off that ” I love men” in the fun vs slutty way vibe. I have no idea if she is Red Pill or not, though I doubt she is unaware of the man o sphere, but I reckon she is probably pretty keen on men in general. One of those gals who understands her soft life rests on the efforts of men, keeping her safe, paving her roads etc and she is grateful

    though no one should read much into that. could have been an act or she was fertile when I meet her and turned on by a group of overtly masculine men etc etc

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  68. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I looked up a thumbnail bio on her. Never married. Has two brothers. Could one of them have been put through the wringer?
    I am just glad that some women out there can see this for what it is.

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  69. Sunshine says:

    I think the thing that is really sad is that kids who are in their 20s now did what they were told by the culture around them to do. Everyone pressured them to go to university even if they had no idea what they wanted to do and while they were there, they had bizarre liberal ideas about reality presented to them as fact. How much wisdom can a teenager really be expected to have, especially if his or her parents had bought into the modern lie about college and not marrying until much later in life?

    Now add to that the dire financial situation our economy is in, high taxes, massive waves of immigration (both legal and illegal) that have decimated working class job prospects, terrible trade deals that have enriched the elite and devastated the working and middle classes, etc etc etc…

    Although it is fun to laugh at millennials, I really do feel sorry for them. They are going to have to learn the value of kin and frugality sooner or later.

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  70. Spawny Get says:

    Sunshine, yes.

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  71. Yoda says:

    Now add to that the dire financial situation our economy is in, high taxes, massive waves of immigration (both legal and illegal) that have decimated working class job prospects, terrible trade deals that have enriched the elite and devastated the working and middle classes, etc etc etc…

    Add in “excessive regulation” you should.
    Motivates Trump voters this does.
    Elites seem to understand this not

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  72. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    What the elites are afraid of is the eighteen trillion dollar national debt that is mounting with no end in sight, To add to that, their grandparents can tell them of the 77% tax rate under Franklin Delano Roosevelt. Andy Roony had a story of a woman so mad at him that when she gor a dime in change, she threw it away. In the meanwhile, we haven’t seen wealth this concentrated since the Gilded Age and it may be worse now than then.

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  73. Yoda says:

    Also true that Univeristies gouging students they are

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  74. Liz says:

    From the wonderful Professor Doom:
    http://professorconfess.blogspot.com/2016/04/more-engineering-students-than-jobsno.html
    (I’m not sure of the copyright rules so I’ll just post a few paragraphs but the whole thing is worth a read

    ” Administrators might well have known for years also, but this is irrelevant: they don’t care. All these guys want is butts-in-seats, because administrators are mercenaries, caring nothing for education with no interest in helping people. They don’t even care if the school gets a vile reputation (hi Penn State!), as long as they can sell out quickly and move elsewhere in the system.

    In times past, administrators at a school weren’t professional mercenaries, and didn’t have self-awarded Administration degrees. The dean wasn’t just some overblown bureaucrat with a Ph.D. in Niceness, and didn’t plan to spend 30 years debasing school after school before cashing out with a nice golden parachute.

    No, it used to be administrators at schools were the same as the faculty, faculty that didn’t want to work at a school with a crap reputation. The dean? He was the chemistry professor, teaching one less course a semester while covering the administration duties (honest, most administrative jobs really aren’t full time affairs); the dean/chemistry professor would leave the deanship after a year or two, to be replaced by a history professor or something.

    Bottom line, you don’t really need a Ph.D. in Administrative Leadership to be an administrator. What you really need is to actually care about education. This is why “growth over all” wasn’t a huge deal in higher education decades ago, even though it’s the only thing today. Administrators were just faculty, and so years ago higher education wasn’t an endless procession of student loan victims, sex scandals, social justice lunacy, and athletics scandals like today.

    When you talked to the history professor/registrar about majoring in history, he would tell you “Uh, you’re not going to be able to get a job with this kind of degree, are you sure that’s what you want?” That’s what it was like years ago, and I sure remember my advisor (faculty then, of course, but it would be a professional administrator now) warning me: “It’s not a good idea to major in math, almost nobody makes it and the job market is terrible with all the competition from the failed USSR—we’re flooded with veteran Russian mathematicians willing to work for peanuts.”

    Now when you go to the professional bureaucrat and say you want to take out a $200,000 loan to major in Comedienne Tuba Players? You’re told “That’s a great idea! You should get 20 of your friends to sign up as well.”

    For the most part, this lunacy was overlooked when the majors were in fields where it was clear there would be no jobs waiting for the graduates—“the suckers deserve it” was the mantra, though I strongly feel an institution that acts with integrity would not allow people to hurt themselves by also taking out huge loans. But the jobs degrees are now turning into a huge embarrassment as well. Does anyone think the Poo Bahs will admit their mistake, and scale back a bit? Nope:

    As it becomes harder to find work terms in oil and gas, as well as mining, Naterer said the university has reached out to new sectors.

    “The way we’ve made up for this shortfall is we’ve pursued other new employers,” he said.
    “For example, we have over 40 new employers, including Apple, Tesla and others outside the province.”

    This is so much easier when you don’t care who you hurt. Translate the above as “We’re sorry we sold you on 4 years of training for jobs we knew weren’t going to exist when you graduated. Hey, tell you what: how about you buy 4 more years of tuition and a degree in another field where maybe there’ll be a job in 4 years?”

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  75. BuenaVista says:

    Ann Coulter definitely likes men. Unclear if she likes them more than white wine and cigarettes, but why be a perfectionist?

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  76. Sunshine says:

    their grandparents can tell them of the 77% tax rate under Franklin Delano Roosevelt.

    Was it really that high?? Well, I guess I don’t have to complain about our 25% tax rate, then. Still, we just finished our taxes today and for the first time ever, we owe the feds more, to the tune of almost four grand more. We couldn’t even believe it. A quarter of our income goes straight to the federal government. I have to say, we really aren’t getting our money’s worth.

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  77. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Sunshine,
    Yes, that was the top tier for income tax. There was a cultural benefit that was ab unintended consequence. It compressed take home wages. Nobody was that much richer than anyone else, so there were no needless displays of status. Better for the kids because they have no control over what their parents earn.
    As an unintended consequence, this is all right. Trying to socilly engineer it wuldbe dangerous.

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  78. Yoda says:

    Too white she is,

    Many other students were concerned by the fact that Albright is white, and expressed their sentiments on social media.

    http://www.thecollegefix.com/post/26863/

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  79. Spawny Get says:

    77%? Amateurs.

    From the UK

    The highest rate of income tax peaked in the Second World War at 99.25%. It was then slightly reduced and was around 90% through the 1950s and 60s.

    Tax revenues as a percentage of GDP for the U.K. in comparison to the OECD and the EU 15.
    In 1971 the top rate of income tax on earned income was cut to 75%. A surcharge of 15% kept the top rate on investment income at 90%.In 1974 the cut was partly reversed and the top rate on earned income was raised to 83%. With the investment income surcharge this raised the top rate on investment income to 98%, the highest permanent rate since the war. This applied to incomes over £20,000 (£Error when using {{Inflation}}: |4=/|end_year=2,016 is greater than the last available year (2,014) in index “UK”. as of 2016),[7]. In 1974 750,000 people were liable to pay the top-rate of income tax.[16]

    Margaret Thatcher, who favoured indirect taxation, reduced personal income tax rates during the 1980s.[17] In the first budget after her election victory in 1979, the top rate was reduced from 83% to 60% and the basic rate from 33% to 30%.[18] The basic rate was also cut for three successive budgets – to 29% in the 1986 budget, 27% in 1987 and to 25% in 1988.[19] The top rate of income tax was cut to 40% in the 1988 budget. The investment income surcharge was abolished in 1985.

    Under the government of John Major the basic rate was reduced in stages to 23% by 1997.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_taxation_in_the_United_Kingdom#20th_century

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  80. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    If the SJWs in Claremont don’t want Madeline Albright as a commencement speaker, things are falling apart for feminists.

    Spawny Get,
    Europe has always been ahead of us on taxes but, 99.25%??? Good grief!

    Dragonfly,
    That little essay points to my theory of feminism falling apart. Thank You.

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  81. Ame says:

    Spawny –

    found the invite in my spam folder (w/a ton of other stuff not supposed to go there)

    pls email me about this:

    “I’ve sent a ‘collaborator’ invite to Ame, which allows for some easy interaction.

    CLEARLY Ame is perfectly free to ignore this, no problem whatsoever.”

    thanks

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  82. Liz says:

    “Mum watched me struggle through tough times as my life played out the opposite of hers. Recently, sitting in my kitchen, she admitted, “I didn’t realise what I had. I wouldn’t have your life for anything. It’s just too hard.”

    This time, I didn’t flounce off to my bedroom, I just smiled at this 180-degree bombshell revelation. It appears that I’ve lived my mother’s unlived life so well she’s actually become nostalgic for what she had.

    She now tells me often that her children are “the best thing in her life”, how proud she is of us and that she “had it good”. It must have been awful for her to have been so unhappy and unfulfilled, but I’m glad she appreciates what she has now.”

    This woman could have been my mother.
    The only difference is, I was her only child and she didn’t marry at 21, and she had a very active “fun” life until she was in her late 20s. But other than that, the mantra was the same. Worse, it’s still the same. It’s kind of a standing joke. When we married, she said he was going to leave me so i “need a career” and “don’t make no baby”).
    The first few years: “It good Ebeta dat you have career”/ “It bad you moving and quiting job, can’t he go alone?”/ “It good you fine job”/ “Someday you need have different job/ (when I found out I was pregnant) “You going to keep it? I wouldn’t”…..
    And so forth. Every time Mike visits she implies he’s going to leave me.
    Last time we visited Mike said, “Angie, your daughter is beautiful” and she said,
    “Yeah you say that now, but when men turn 50 that’s when de man turn to other women”
    If she lives to be 100 she’ll be saying that about seventy year old men. It’s non-stop tailored to fit the situation.

    She loves her grandchildren, too…it doesn’t seem to occur to her they’d have never come into existence if I’d taken her advice.
    Anyway, enough with the rant. But it really is a standing joke, even with the kids! You have to laugh, but if I were alone and childless with a career I wouldn’t be laughing.

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  83. Ame says:

    Yoda – could you email me about this, please? Thanks:

    I’ve sent a ‘collaborator’ invite to Ame, which allows for some easy interaction.

    CLEARLY Ame is perfectly free to ignore this, no problem whatsoever.

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  84. Yoda says:

    Ame,

    Spawny inviting you author posts here he is.
    Normally here somebody picks a topic and writes he does.
    Use British Standard Time we do.
    Post posts just after midnight the convention it is.
    Farm Boy normally posts early Monday, Wedneday, Friday and Sarurday at 12:01 AM BST he does

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  85. Farm Boy says:

    Ame,

    So if you wanted to post, you could grab one the the time slots Yoda mentioned above. Or you could fit a post in on one of the off days.

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  86. Farm Boy says:

    Hillary feels the Bern. It affects her memory. George W. left office seven years ago.

    there is a lot of frustration, and frankly a lot of anger. Many people are feeling left out and left behind in our great country. And they’re looking for answers and I don’t blame them one bit.

    We need more good jobs with rising incomes because we fell back the last 15 years because of the terrible economic policies of George W, Bush.

    http://www.progressivestoday.com/hillary-clinton-admits-job-market-stinks-blames-george-w-bush-video/

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  87. Farm Boy says:

    Financing the war on men,

    Several Democratic senators are requesting additional funds for the Education Department to continue policing the sex lives of college students.

    Sens. Kirsten Gillibrand, Tim Kaine, Claire McCaskill and Mark Warner have written a letter calling for increased funding for the Department’s Office for Civil Rights, which has been investigating schools for alleged violations of the anti-sex discrimination law known as Title IX. The senators are requesting a budget of $137.7 million for OCR. Last year, the office’s budget was $100 million, which means the senators are asking for a nearly 30 percent increase in funding for this one department.

    http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/senators-want-more-money-for-campus-sex-police/article/2587338

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  88. Farm Boy says:

    Here is an oldie, but goodie,


    As you look at this inventory of brutality, the question bears repeating: Where are the demonstrations, the articles, the petitions, the resolutions, the vindications of the rights of Islamic women by American feminists? The weird fact is that, even after the excesses of the Taliban did more to forge an American consensus about women’s rights than 30 years of speeches by Gloria Steinem, feminists refused to touch this subject. They have averted their eyes from the harsh, blatant oppression of millions of women, even while they have continued to stare into the Western patriarchal abyss, indignant over female executives who cannot join an exclusive golf club and college women who do not have their own lacrosse teams.
    But look more deeply into the matter, and you realize that the sound of feminist silence about the savage fundamentalist Muslim oppression of women has its own perverse logic. The silence is a direct outgrowth of the way feminist theory has developed in recent years. Now mired in self-righteous sentimentalism, multicultural nonjudgmentalism, and internationalist utopianism, feminism has lost the language to make the universalist moral claims of equal dignity and individual freedom that once rendered it so compelling. No wonder that most Americans, trying to deal with the realities of a post-9/11 world, are paying feminists no mind.
    To understand the current sisterly silence about the sort of tyranny that the women’s movement came into existence to attack, it is helpful to think of feminisms plural rather than singular. Though not entirely discrete philosophies, each of three different feminisms has its own distinct reasons for causing activists to “lose their voice” in the face of women’s oppression.

    The first variety—radical feminism (or gender feminism, in Christina Hoff Sommers’s term)—starts with the insight that men are, not to put too fine a point upon it, brutes. Radical feminists do not simply subscribe to the reasonable-enough notion that men are naturally more prone to aggression than women. They believe that maleness is a kind of original sin. Masculinity explains child abuse, marital strife, high defense spending, every war from Troy to Afghanistan, as well as Hitler, Franco, and Pinochet. As Gloria Steinem informed the audience at a Florida fundraiser last March: “The cult of masculinity is the basis for every violent, fascist regime.”

    Gender feminists are little interested in fine distinctions between radical Muslim men who slam commercial airliners into office buildings and soldiers who want to stop radical Muslim men from slamming commercial airliners into office buildings. They are both examples of generic male violence—and specifically, male violence against women. “Terrorism is on a continuum that starts with violence within the family, battery against women, violence against women in the society, all the way up to organized militaries that are supported by taxpayer money,” according to Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz, who teaches “The Sexuality of Terrorism” at California State University in Hayward. Violence is so intertwined with male sexuality that, she tells us, military pilots watch porn movies before they go out on sorties. The war in Afghanistan could not possibly offer a chance to liberate women from their oppressors, since it would simply expose women to yet another set of oppressors, in the gender feminists’ view. As Sharon Lerner asserted bizarrely in the Village Voice, feminists’ “discomfort” with the Afghanistan bombing was “deepened by the knowledge that more women than men die as a result of most wars.”

    If guys are brutes, girls are their opposite: peace-loving, tolerant, conciliatory, and reasonable—“Antiwar and Pro-Feminist,” as the popular peace-rally sign goes. Feminists long ago banished tough-as-nails women like Margaret Thatcher and Jeanne Kirkpatrick (and these days, one would guess, even the fetching Condoleezza Rice) to the ranks of the imperfectly female. Real women, they believe, would never justify war. “Most women, Western and Muslim, are opposed to war regardless of its reasons and objectives,” wrote the Jordanian feminist Fadia Faqir on OpenDemocracy.net. “They are concerned with emancipation, freedom (personal and civic), human rights, power sharing, integrity, dignity, equality, autonomy, power-sharing [sic], liberation, and pluralism.”

    http://city-journal.org/html/why-feminism-awol-islam-12395.html

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  89. Farm Boy says:

    Due Process, and the lack thereof

    Finally, a federal judge has strongly condemned the lack of due process and fairness that students accused of sexual assault face on college campuses.

    Judge F. Dennis Saylor IV, a George W. Bush appointee, ruled that Brandeis University “failed to provide a variety of procedural protections to [the accused student], many of which, in the criminal context, are the most basic and fundamental components of due process of law.”

    In his 89-page decision, Saylor criticizes Brandeis for a number of due process violations, including denying the accused student access to the evidence against him or even a detailed explanation of the charges against him.

    http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/federal-judge-rebukes-lack-of-due-process-in-campus-sex-assault-procedures/article/2587405

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  90. Farm Boy says:

    m guessing that Spawny and Farm Boy both relate to this blog?

    Spawny is our Glorious Patriarch. I am the most frequent poster

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  91. Farm Boy says:

    Glorious Patriarch,

    Are you conversing via email with Ame?

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  92. Yoda says:

    Trigger warning!!!
    Disturbing image follow they do!!!!
    Warned you have been!!!!

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  93. Yoda says:

    Fuzzie let’s throw food at fembots

    Do so to Lindy West you would?

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  94. Yoda says:

    Quiet here it is
    Wonder if a bear hiding he might be

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  95. Yoda says:

    Glorious Patriarch perhaps eaten by the hiding bear he was

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  96. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    That attorneys for Brandeis Univ. had the temerity to move to dismiss the suit against them for their kangaroo court is brass of a very high order.
    If these legitimate suits start faling apart, it means that there is no recourse to to justice to be found in the courts.

    They want to raise the budget of an agency that wants to deny civil rights?
    So much for defending the Constitution against all enemies, foreign and domestic.

    That Hillary would be so deficient in understanding ecomomics is hard to believe. Her husband is pretty sharp on this subject. I guess she doesn’t talk to him. Or, the communication only goes one way.
    How can this woman be running for President?

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  97. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    A food fight with Lindy West? She would eat all the ammunition.
    That’s why this is a part of the past.

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  98. Yoda says:

    Stupid AND crazy they would be,

    The Portland State University Board Of Trustees attempted to hold their quarterly meeting on Thursday, March 31st.

    The wackjob students from the PSU Student Union (PSUSU), Black Student Union (BSU), Students United For Palestinian Equal Rights (SUPER), and other cultural marxist groups crashed the meeting.

    They assembled out in the hallway, putting duct tape over their mouths to symbolize that they were being silenced. Yet the trustees’ board meeting started off with open comment period, where anyone could come up and speak to the board. Five students chose to speak in this formal setting. The board then heard some comments from Olivia Pace of the BSU and Dana Ghazi, President of the Associated Students of PSU, the formal student body group.

    Then the commie mob decided to straight up take over the meeting, calling for “MIC CHECK” while they all started shouting random drivel. The board members fled, and campus security monitored the situation yet did nothing.

    http://www.progressivestoday.com/video-wackjob-student-activists-overrun-psu-board-trustees-meeting/

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  99. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    If the disrupters are students, they should know that they are subject to suspension or expulsion. If they are not students, they could be prosecuted under a a host of statutes.

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  100. Yoda says:

    A new post there is

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  101. Ame says:

    “I’ve sent a ‘collaborator’ invite to Ame, which allows for some easy interaction.

    CLEARLY Ame is perfectly free to ignore this, no problem whatsoever.”

    ******

    Spawny was kind enough to email me and fill me in on Spawny’s Space. Since y’all have known each other for a long time, I thought I’d introduce myself a little bit.

    Spawny said most of y’all are INTJ; I’m INFP.

    I’m 51, grew up mostly on the east coast of florida down the street from the beach in an abusive home. moved to Texas after high school and have been here ever since. was married to my 1st husband for 20 years who was an abusive addict. we had two daughters. my Oldest is neurotypical; my Youngest has multiple special needs. I’ve been a SAHM all along.

    i began blogging in 2005 and made a lot of great friends. our ‘group’ has long since abandoned blogging, but now we’re fb friends. i am a Christian, have been since i was 9, and after my divorce i determined that my mean, abusive, narcissistic ex, dad, ex fil and ex bil could not be all there was to Christian men. so i started looking around out there and found some awesome men who were Christians, many of whom had been through much of the crap that created the manospere. I was invited to be an author on one of these guys blogs and have been writing there since. it was eye-opening and broke my heart and angered me. they’ve taught me a ton.

    i met the man i’m married to now in 2008, and we married in 2009, which is when i began my 2nd blog where i write mostly for me and a few spread around the country who keep up with me, but anyone’s welcome as long as they’re kind. my husband and i are very different – he’s from east texas and has a lot of redneck in him. he has been an education for me! his first wife left him for another man while he was watching their kids thinking she was taking care of her dying mother. even after many years, the effects of that are burned into his soul. while my first husband was cold and mean, my 2nd husband is firm, kind, and warm. where my 1st husband always pushed me away, my 2nd husband is always drawing me into him. where my 1st husband lied all the time, my 2nd husband tells the truth, even when i don’t want to hear it.

    2 years ago my ex died unexpectedly due to unmanaged health issues. i told my girls right away that we would continue to tell the truth about their dad (telling the truth is my mantra). there was good and there was bad; unfortunately the bad outweighed the good, but there was still good. he did a lot of terrible things to our girls while he was alive, so they’ve had to grieve not only his death but also all the crap he did to them.

    if there’s one thing i hate, it’s lying.
    one thing i love: laughing!

    feel free to ask me anything. i’d rather you ask than assume. if for some reason i’m not comfortable answering, i’ll let you know but won’t be offended.

    thanks for letting me into your group!

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  102. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Thank you, Ame.

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