Frequent commenter BuenaVista recently remarked,
I think that a lot of women check out — WGTOW — within their state marriages. Their obesity, cigarettes and tv habit (or tennis and ladies-lunching) are just the way they express their departure. The draft horses thus have lots of reasons to deny the obvious — until they’re poleaxed.
Let us consider women’s WGTOW options.
I. Earn her own living. Then spend the earnings on her behalf. Sure, women can do this. However often these women have costs, possibly children, but more likely expensive dining, travel, clothes, etc. Paying for all of this makes this option less appealing. Contrast this with many guy MGTOWs, who are often content to work at a modest job, share an abode and play reasonably cheap video games.
II. Let the Government pay. This approach sort of works, but it does require effort (raising unwanted children), and furthermore, is not really that lucrative. And as the children get older, they cause more trouble, which makes this approach even less appealing. However, in the meantime, there are undoubtedly many local “studs” willing to provide entertainment.
III. Divorce and take cash, prizes. This has been the go-to approach for a good while. Everybody has seen it in action, everybody knows the game, the game has been perfected,; however the main players will deny the game’s very existence. After divorce, she is free to pursue Eat, Pray, Love to her heart’s content. There is no interference from anybody. However, there is probably less money than before. Furthermore there is no guy around to fix problems.
IV. Stay married and browbeat him into submission. For many, this would be the best option. With the law on her side, making this happen can be relatively effortless. Unless you are Deti, who has threatened to burn through all of the assets paying for lawyers, it appears to be a viable option. If one controls the money and makes the decisions, WGTOW is within one’s grasp. Furthermore, the cost of supporting two households (as with divorce) is gone. Even better, he is still there to fix problems.
So which path is “best”?
NAWALT applies of course.