Buena Vista stated,
Postmodern assumptions about relationships are, in truth, profoundly nihilistic. I do think some women are discovering the void (Nietzsche’s Abyss) that is the logical outcome of their lives’ relationship strategy. None of them prepared for a world in which they struggle to retire into the arms of a committed, protective man.
Many modern relationships are nihilistic it was suggested. Or rather, the relationships of many woman in their late teens, twenties and early thirties. This is because many women view those times as an amusement park. Dalrock explains,
They want to take an inherently unsafe activity and make it safe. They want to submit to a man without having to submit; they want a man who can tame their feral self. They want him to trip their danger signals. Even better if he is a stranger from a strange land.
They want this all to happen without giving up their freedom; they want to play this out in the context of serial monogamy, so they can feel loved while also claiming their promiscuity is moral. They want to lose control to a string of strangers who have all of the hallmarks of very dangerous men, and they want a promise that this will always end well.
They want to know that this will be safe, without it losing the excitement of it feeling unsafe. They are telling men to build a sort of serial monogamy amusement park where they can ride the roller coaster and experience the fear of falling or crashing, while knowing that just behind the scenes grown ups are actually in charge and are responsible for them safely feeling unsafe.
One more thing. As I mentioned above they don’t want to be hemmed in. So instead of building an actual amusement park, they want roller coasters to spring up randomly in the same exact circumstances where the real danger they mimic would appear. They want to be driving their car on the freeway one instant, and the next experience the fear of careening out of control. They want to impulsively jump off the edge of the Grand Canyon and have a parachute appear and deploy at the last minute. And all they ask is your guarantee that all of this will be safe.
So, amusement park is what they desire, and amusement park is what they receive. One problem with amusement parks is that they are rather unfulfilling. Perhaps as a child, one might desire to visit one every day; but even then it would get tiresome. Here we have grown women essentially exhibiting the behavior of a child; with their continual desire for new thrills.
Men see what is going on; even if they can’t fully understand it. They see that the women are not serious. Their reaction might take many forms, for example, a lack of ambition with a retreat into video games. Other men might maintain their ambition, but come to view relationships as just a hobby (if they can attract women). There is pretty much no cases where men are prompted to view relationships seriously.
Naturally enough, some would suggest that men just “man up” and tell the young women how it is going to be. Relationships are important, and should be treated as such. Off course, most of you are laughing at this notion, because it is young women who call the shots with their relationships, as they have almost all of the leverage.
Now back to this statement,
None of them prepared for a world in which they struggle to retire into the arms of a committed, protective man.
What we have here is a set of men who through the leadership of women, have been taught that relationships are nihilistic. But somehow, when women decide that they no longer are to be viewed in that manner, men are expected to instantly switch viewpoints.