I’ve been down battling pneumonia for a few weeks. I’m improving, but there hasn’t been enough energy to post. I’ll be catching up as I improve.
Entitlement is a huge problem in the women of Western industrialized societies. For instance, 64-year-old actress Kirstie Alley demands that men over 45 not be “freaking boring” and not “have the life already sucked out of you.”
Her 56-year-old sister-in-arms Madonna declared men her age to be “undateable” because “People who are older, and more set in their ways, are probably not as adventurous as someone younger“.
Want adventure and excitement, ladies? Try Syria. Women there have more of both than they know what to do with. Syrian men don’t seem to want them, especially if they’d been married before. And yet, the traditional AWALT feminine selectors emerge from the shadows of war to affect damaged social interactions:
Amal, 22, lives in Ubin Camp in rural Latakia. She was married to an Algerian fighter who died in February of , only a few months after they married. Now on her own in the camp, she said she prefers to stay in the section set aside for widows…
“Syrian men are everywhere in the camp, but they don’t like the fact that I was married before. Also, most of them are unemployed. Foreign fighters do not pay attention to that. They are good men with good income and I need a man who loves me, protects me and provides for me,” she said.
Ah, the exotic allure of the wealthy foreign man! Isn’t that a common trope in romance novels? Let’s see how that plays out in real life Syria:
Malak, a 23-year-old from Idlib, fled her village two years ago [in 2013], moving to the outskirts of the Atma camp in the countryside where she married a Saudi man who fights for Jabhat al-Nusra. Their marriage, however, did not last long.
“I got pregnant almost as soon as I married him. We lived together for four months before he disappeared. Three months later, I was shocked when he finally called and told me that he had divorced me,” said Malak in recent phone call. “That was the only thing he said to me. Now I am devastated. My little boy, Khaled, does not know who his father is,” she said. “But what devastates me the most is that I’ve become stigmatized – men here in the camp think of me as a bad woman.
“They want to sleep with me, but now they would never consider me as a wife.”
So, is this the Islamic version of the cock carousel? Not in the Western sense, certainly. We’ve discussed on this site about how women use sex to attract a man, even though in the First World women can attain the means to provide for themselves if they so choose. What of women caught up in the whirlwinds of war?
When her husband was killed in battle in 2013, Abeer, a 38-year-old mother of four, left her village of Dourin in rural Latakia and settled in an informal camp next to the Syrian-Turkish border. Their financial situation was dire, and according to her she was left with no other option but to marry her 16-year-old daughter to a relative stranger. “I had no other choice. I know she was too young to be married, but I am still grateful that at least I could marry her to a Syrian man,” she said.
Abeer herself, however, does not mind marrying a foreign fighter. Her harsh circumstances have pushed her, she said, to accept anyone who will provide for her and her children.
Reality tends to intrude upon the fallacy sold via advertising and pop culture. So I now ask Western women, those who use their “bitch voice” when talking to their men, those who moan that even construction workers don’t see them anymore and those who revel in their invisibility to men: do you REALLY have it so bad?
You have many more options and opportunities to have a decent life, especially when compared to women living in a culture which tends to treat them as possessions and who are caught up in an ugly war with no realistic chances to escape either situation. So grow up and accept that you have it pretty good compared to many.