The Proverbs 31 Woman


Here is Proverbs 31

Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

Yes indeed.  It is worth it to him and to her.  For some unknown reason women seem to think that this is not true.

 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

That is how marriage works best, is it not?  That together, they are more than the sum of their individual parts.  But the together part is contingent on this.

She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands.  She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar.   She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.

She makes the household work smoothly.  If a guy is working as the primary breadwinner, this cannot be his job.  And a smoothly running household makes a great environment to raise well adjusted children.

 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle.

She is industrious.  She does work to bring in supplementary income.  Households often need this extra income.  It also provides a role model to the children who see her work and run her business, for they might not see Dad doing so (him being out of sight and mind at a distant workplace).

She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet.  She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.  Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.  She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants.

She is community minded, and uses her industriousness to help it.  This definitely does not include the modern women’s endless jealousies, drama, etc. that was discussed a bit two posts ago.  NAWALT applies here of course.

Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.  She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.  Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:  “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.”  Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.

Follow this path, and your kids and hubby will love you.  Your family will be well adjusted.  By giving, you receive even more in return.

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49 comments on “The Proverbs 31 Woman
  1. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have to believe, even in the time of King David, that the Proverbs 31 woman was an unrealizable ideal. It gives women a direction to go, a role to emulate. A lot of it can be summed up as 1) stay busy and, 2) promote the advancement of the household. Curiously, this will advance the woman along with the household.

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  2. Tarnished says:

    We all fall short of “grace”, whatever we may choose to define it as. However, cultivating traits such as compassion, empathy, charity, fortitude, strength (both physical and mental), honor, and honesty go a very long way towards making us better people.

    Be true to and with yourself as well as others whenever possible, even when it’s difficult.

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  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    After reading Tarn’s comment, it reminded me that Proverbs 31 talks about virtue in women. Feminism has almost eradicated that concept. Marilyn Monroe’s statement about not being able to handle her at her worst making the man undeserving of seeing her at her best grants her the license to be her worst without consequence.

    A couple of days ago, Spawny linked a Fluffle Puff video. It was Christmas and her significant other couldn’t go outside and playin the snow. It was too cold. She cuts off all her fur to make him a coat and boots so that he could. Inside, under a blanket, she takes second hand pleasure in his joy playing in the snow. That is in the same vein as the Proverbs 31 woman.

    For years, I took care of two aArab mares that would do that if they could. They liked me! I brought them food!

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  4. Yoda says:

    I brought them food!

    Burritos it was?

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  5. Farm Boy says:

    Well, I suppose that Proverbs 31 says it all. Nobody sees a need to comment.

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  6. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    They got a flake each of hay twice a day. I also made friends at the nearby grocery sore with the produce man and got lettuce trimmings and overripe herbivore treats. They were adventurous eaters.

    Farm Boy,
    It may be too painful a topic to talk about women having virtue in a time where if women have agency is hotly debated.
    I hope that I didn’t trivialize with my Fluffle Puff video.

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  7. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    I think we need to mention that if the Proverbs 31 woman lived now, she would make sandwiches with great joy taking second hand pleasure as people ate them.
    That should get JDG wound up to comment.

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  8. Yoda says:

    Like Degoba this thread is.
    Life slow it is.
    And much time to reflect there would be

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  9. JDG says:

    The Proverbs 31 passage is indeed a list of standards to try to achieve. I would not say they are unattainable so much as they are difficult to attain. Often the most worth while objectives are the hardest.

    Marilyn Monroe’s statement about not being able to handle her at her worst making the man undeserving of seeing her at her best grants her the license to be her worst without consequence.

    It’s worse than this though. Not only did this give license for irresponsible behavior, but by reinforcing this notion that women get to say when men are undeserving of a woman’s attention it also encouraged women on a large scale to think of men in terms of having a lower status as a whole than previously. I have little doubt that this contributed to women on average being less attracted to the average man.

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  10. Yoda says:

    JDG bait devised you did.
    How effective will it be?

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  11. Yoda says:

    JDG and I posted simultaneously we did.
    The force in action this would be

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  12. Tarnished says:

    It was Christmas and her significant other couldn’t go outside and playin the snow. It was too cold. She cuts off all her fur to make him a coat and boots so that he could.

    Just because I don’t want any angry bronies showing up, I’ll point out that the weird looking black/green pony is technically a female named Chrysalis. The “technically” is because she’s queen of the changelings, and well…they can alter themselves to look like literally anyone.
    Geez, but I know too much about this fandom I’m not even a part of. Ugh.

    Well, I suppose that Proverbs 31 says it all. Nobody sees a need to comment.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    JDG,
    I see your point about Marilyn Monroe’s statement. By virtue of her good looks, or ability to attract men, she claimes superiority and the right to treat them as badly as she chooses. However, not all women look as good as she did but, they are pulling the same tricks.

    Yoda,
    I had hoped the Fluffle Puff reference would get Tarn going too.

    Over twenty five million views!

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  14. Tarnished says:

    Do people find it difficult to obtain indirect pleasure from helping others due to nature or nurture?

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  15. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    I guess that I have not seen enough of the videos. At the beginning of PFUDOR, Fluffle wakes up next to the blue/black pony and I drew that conclusion.

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  16. Tarnished says:

    Over twenty five million views!

    Lol. Yup.
    And she’s not even an actual character from the show. Weird how fanmade stuff becomes so popular, sometimes even more so than the parent show/story.

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  17. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    It takes two things to take pleasure second hand. First, it takes a generous spirit and, second, it takes the ability to place yourself in someones else’s shoes.
    That’s why I like the Fluffle Puff Shristmas video so much.

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  18. Tarnished says:

    At the beginning of PFUDOR, Fluffle wakes up next to the blue/black pony and I drew that conclusion.

    No worries, Fuzzie.
    Apparently the creator leaves it open to viewer interpretation if Fluffle and Chrysalis are an “item” or not. He sneaks in a few subtle non-platonic references, but not many…and even those are mostly done for laughs/tongue in cheek humor. I think of them as really good friends, because holy heck, these are frelling  technicolor pseudo-anime cartoon equines we’re talking about.

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  19. Tarnished says:

    It takes two things to take pleasure second hand. First, it takes a generous spirit and, second, it takes the ability to place yourself in someones else’s shoes.

    What factors would go into making Person A better at Generosity+Empathy than Person B?

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  20. JDG says:

    Warning: This comment contains lots of S words.

    she would make sandwiches with great joy taking second hand pleasure as people ate them.

    10 An excellent wife who can find?
    She is far more precious than jewels.
    11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
    and he will have no lack of gain.
    12 She does him good, and not harm,
    all the days of her life. …
    15 She rises while it is yet night
    and provides food for her household

    Sounds like sammiches are in the picture to me. People often forget though, there are many other passages that describe what a good woman should look like.

    Here is one such example:
    1 Timothy 2:9 “likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. 11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.”

    It’s pretty easy to see why feminists hate the Bible, and why so many “Christians” who have been compromised by feminism try to explain away every passage that doesn’t fit the feminist narrative.

    Here is another passage that feminists hate:
    1 Peter 3:1 “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.”

    In our culture a good way to find out how seriously someone takes the Bible is to ask them what they think about the biblical teachings of wives submitting to their husbands. If their answers starts out with: “Yes it say wives should submit, BUT …” then you know you’re dealing with someone who has been compromised.

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  21. Tarnished says:

    Yoda,
    I had hoped the Fluffle Puff reference would get Tarn going too.

    Flashlights also apparently work well.

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  22. Proverbs 31… A great passage and one I aspire to but fall short of. Mostly in the early riser category…

    In all I think if women aspired to these and other passages quoted rather than today’s standards, they would find life to be much better, richer, and fulfilling. It’s all in The Book!

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  23. Tarnished says:

    …the ability to place yourself in someones else’s shoes.

    Perhaps this is a dying trait. It seems many live with the mantra of “I don’t need to help. It doesn’t involve me. They can take care of themselves”.

    I cannot do that, though I understand why one would after being used. I’m the world’s nicest misanthrope. 😛

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  24. Tarnished says:

    Newsflash:
    People have less empathy for men than women, and even less for a homeless one. 4 seconds compared to 3 minutes compared to…a hell of a long time that should make everyone ashamed.

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  25. Tarnished says:

    It is midnight.
    I have turned from a unicorn into a pumpkin. 🎃
    Have a lovely night, all.

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  26. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    I l;ike the gif of the dog giving his pet human a workout.

    About the ponies. real horses bond at an incredible level. The two that I looked after would suffer terrible seperation anxiety. It’s survival. They would often stand next to each other but head to tail to keep a look out for predators.

    JDG,
    Feminism is everywhere but, it is especially pernicious amoung Christians. I belive that feminism and Chritianity should be mutually exclusive. It’s one or the other.

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  27. Spawny Get says:

    2:13 is where she attempts to cut off her fur with a trimmer.
    I can’t see me spending time watching these videos, but they can amuse from time to time. Some effort was clearly put into them.

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  28. Spawny Get says:

    The truly sad thing about Fuzzie and the Ponies is how it ended. But *shrug* bear was hungry

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  29. Spawny Get says:

    The ‘What would you do’ video is all very shaming.

    But

    People seem to have finally learnt that the race and gender baiters in the world just take the money and don’t fix anything. Such shows are a scam. Most charities are a scam in that a huge amount of money goes to running the company and paying the people at the top loads. Little reaches the front line. Even less reaches the people that need it. The UN is packed with rich people, Africa has many presidents flying around in new private jets, the poor still live in shit. Why should I care more about them than their own ‘leaders’ and the UN rich? They could start fixing things right now using money that they already have, if they actually cared.

    You want to talk reality over various uncomfortable issues? Okay, then (after that) we might be able to head towards solutions that I might help fund.

    But, I’m done with white guilt and male guilt and first world guilt and English guilt, in fact I’m more than done with it all. No bucks will be given.

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  30. Tarnished says:

    Most charities are a scam in that a huge amount of money goes to running the company and paying the people at the top loads.

    Which is why one should only support local charities, if one is inclined to do so. (my area’s SPCA, abuse prevention building, and children’s hospital are currently the ones I give to either monthly or quarterly). I have no qualms giving a bit of my paycheck every month to organizations that use it well, but I’ll be damned if I’m going to line the wallets of fat cats that don’t give a frell.

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  31. Tarnished says:

    Why should I care more about them than their own ‘leaders’ and the UN rich?

    I don’t necessarily think you should care about the poor in Africa or Asia or South America. I mean, obviously have empathy for the shittyness of their situations, but change starts with 1 step…and it’s quite impossible for the average person to take that step in Zimbabwe if they live in the UK (or US, Canada, etc). But I personally think we all have a responsibility to help our immediate communities.
    ^^See what I did there? Tying it back into the main post! Damn, I’m good.  😉

    It doesn’t even have to be a big thing. There is a homeless guy that knows where I work, and also knows if times get really hard or he misses the soup kitchen I’ll buy him a hot tea and sandwich. He’s only asked twice in almost 3 years, but just the fact I stopped a man from going hungry is another completely do-able step of making my corner of the world a slightly better place.

    A single candle flame can only illuminate so far, but just imagine if there were 100, or 500, or 10,000 candles burning. How bright would your own town be?

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  32. Dragonfly says:

    Spawny, I can understand your frustration – it’s hard to feel like one person’s care could do anything in the big picture. For me, I do care, very deeply for the poor in impoverished countries. It’s just so not fair what they are born into. There are good organizations that are reliable, Compassion International for one is very good… we know a man that checked them out, actually went on their front lines to be sure he was giving money to a good cause. And then there are other organizations here (US) that reach out to the poor who need help. I mostly find the organizations we give to through our church. We have friends who sponsor children in different countries, and it’s also through a reliable organization – they get to provide for their material needs, and write letters back and forth. One couple we know actually got to house their child they sponsored for years once he turned 18 and they sent him to college here. It was amazing the love and hope they brought into his life. Many of the ones you can sponsor are orphans.

    And our church also is big on adoptions, so we regularly find families to take in children from foster care, and they are big on pushing the older ones since they are the ones least likely to ever be adopted. We’re really lucky though with our church, they are very mission minded and spend lots of money on mission projects like that.

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  33. Yoda says:

    Charity best done locally it is.

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  34. Yoda says:

    Big charity equates to big thievery.
    UN the role model for this it is

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  35. Yoda says:

    Perhaps write a post related to third world farm boy will

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  36. Cill says:

    I used to donate but it got out of hand, and now prefer to help by actions instead, and I confine it to men. Women already receive far more charity than men do. There’s a hell of an emotional pull to do more, especially for elderly men, but I try to do one job well, which is for “troubled” young men.

    Society’s attitude to elderly men is shameful. In NZ their suicide rate is something like 16 times that of elderly women, and that doesn’t include a much larger number of men who (according to nurses) simply stop taking their medication and die. Feminism has been at pains to ensure that senior men remain marginalized and ignored. For this and countless other reasons I don’t allow feminists in my life, and I tell them why. They are a disease.

    And yes, that includes family.

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  37. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I don’t know how this thread turned to charity. The Video that Tarn linked was about peoplefalling down on the sidewalk. People couldn’t be bothered to call 911. Not good.

    Spawnny Get,
    No matter how hungry I get, it would be hard to eat someone that I talk to.

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  38. Spawny Get says:

    Good to know, Fuzzie. Good to know

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  39. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy and Yoda,
    Last night, you two were saying that this post wasn’t drawing may comments. It focused ont positive characteristics in women and my post on motherhood did also. Saying sometning positive about women doesn’t invite a lot of discussion.

    Spawny Get,
    Now, if Molly threw an ice cream cone at me, that would be different. I like ice cream.

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  40. Cautiously Pessimistic says:

    “Saying sometning positive about women doesn’t invite a lot of discussion.”

    In the same way that saying something positive about El Padron cigars doesn’t invite a lot of discussion, and for the same reason. Not many folks have had experience with them, and so don’t have much to say about them.

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  41. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Cautiously Pessimistic,
    An excellent observation.

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  42. Cautiously Pessimistic says:

    “Not many folks have had experience with them…”

    Proverbs 31-ish women, I mean. Not women generally.

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  43. Tarnished says:

    I second that CP made a fantastic observation, but would add that there are many in the manosphere who truly believe AWALT, as statistically improbable as it is. So for some, talking about such traits in women can be likened to a discussion on where to find a pot of gold by following a rainbow.

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  44. Yoda says:

    So for some, talking about such traits in women can be likened to a discussion on where to find a pot of gold by following a rainbow.

    A unicorn know this they should

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  45. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The problem with the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is that it’s owned by a leprechaun. He’s not going to give it up. Better to ask him where one can find honey.

    I have to wonder if the size of families has had an effect. I have heard that only children are likely to be self centered, there are no other children to consider.

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  46. Yoda says:

    Vietnam’s military is investigating the appearance of three mysterious metal balls — believed to be debris from space — which landed in the country’s remote north, a senior army official said Friday.

    Have nothing to do with this I do

    http://news.yahoo.com/vietnam-probes-mysterious-space-balls-103804128.html

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  47. Yoda says:

    Know this about blondes I did not.
    Glad that green I am

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  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    Do you think anyone in the cast of a frequently linked movie will be travelling to VietNam to help promote the new tourist attraction?

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  49. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post

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