Here is Proverbs 31
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
Yes indeed. It is worth it to him and to her. For some unknown reason women seem to think that this is not true.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
That is how marriage works best, is it not? That together, they are more than the sum of their individual parts. But the together part is contingent on this.
She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.
She makes the household work smoothly. If a guy is working as the primary breadwinner, this cannot be his job. And a smoothly running household makes a great environment to raise well adjusted children.
She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle.
She is industrious. She does work to bring in supplementary income. Households often need this extra income. It also provides a role model to the children who see her work and run her business, for they might not see Dad doing so (him being out of sight and mind at a distant workplace).
She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants.
She is community minded, and uses her industriousness to help it. This definitely does not include the modern women’s endless jealousies, drama, etc. that was discussed a bit two posts ago. NAWALT applies here of course.
Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Follow this path, and your kids and hubby will love you. Your family will be well adjusted. By giving, you receive even more in return.