In the last post, we saw a glimpse of a fella who has been indoctrinated in a world view that has crippled him. Just looking at recent events, he was frivorced and lots of bad things have happened since (much of caused by himself).
In order to justify the frivorce, the ex hurled accusations, blame, etc. his way. She even engages in dirty tricks against him. But when the subject of his ex comes up, he almost wistfully looks back to what he considers to be the good days. He then talks about all of the good joint projects they could do together for the sake of the children; and acts surprised that she is downright hostile. I tell him that she is not your friend; that she would stick a knife into him if she could get away with it. But he does not really comprehend. Why is this?
How did all of this come to be? What are the societal decisions that set these two people down this path? Let us start at the beginning, kindergarten through 12th grade.
First up, let us consider the school structure. In the modern times, vast quantities of school administrators are women. In my not so in the distant past school days, all administrators were men. The elementary school teachers were women, and the middle and high school teachers were an evenly mixed bag of the genders (just two of those back then). In almost all grades these days women dominate. Part of it is because men are afraid to enter the profession. They fear operating in an estrogen saturated environment where they have little leverage. But the big killer is of course — the threat of being accused of inappropriate sexual behavior.
Furthermore schools are filled with all sorts of kumbaya silliness that boys have a sense that is emasculating, useless and boring. And they have to sit through it. Boys do not like to sit so much, but will do it if there is a combination of good leadership or compelling material (e.g. good literature, interesting science) being taught. On both of the previous points, schools are a big fail.
Girls are taught that they are special, just because they are girls. In a sense they are being taught the truth, but they are not being done any favors. When girls hit the age of 13 or so, they will have an enormous amount of unearned power. However, the reason why they are special is not taught; rather they are taught that they are special because they are more capable at most everything. Of course, they are never really asked to demonstrate these capabilities; for if they were required to do so, the gig would be up.
Boys are given less attention than girls. After all, they will soon turn into evil oppressors and rapists. Why would anybody want to give them any knowledge that might be useful in their future nefarious pursuits?
All of this results in men learning their place from an early age. Sometimes the learning cues are subtle, sometimes they are more visible; but in the end both boys and girls know how they fit in.