A middle-aged acquaintance of mine was recently frivorced. He was at the losing end of the frivorce big time. He has few financial resources and is a considerable amount in the hole. I have been coaching him in working out of that hole and into general life improvements.
One thing that he regularly brings up is that he wants to find a girlfriend. I tell him that he does not have his life together yet, and that a such an undertaking does not really make sense right now. He would not be able to attract a woman of any real quality, and as such, a girlfriend would most assuredly be detriment to his life. Furthermore, girlfriends cost money, which he does not have.
But upon further examination, what he wants as much as anything is for her to save him. Save him from himself, save him from the world, just hand over his automobile-repairman paycheck and let her make it all work out. It took me a good amount of time to see that this was what he wanted. Probably this was because the concept was so foreign to me.
Upon further reflection, there are apparently many like him out there. How did this come to be? Was it how boys are raised? Or maybe how they are no longer raised. Probably in his case, he was taught to defer to women in financial and other decision. Women, of course, hate this in guys; yet they raise them be that way. Totally irrational this would be.