Women as Saviors of Men

A middle-aged acquaintance of mine was recently frivorced.  He was at the losing end of the frivorce big time.  He has few financial resources and is a considerable amount in the hole.  I have been coaching him in working out of that hole and into general life improvements.

One thing that he regularly brings up is that he wants to find a girlfriend.  I tell him that he does not have his life together yet, and that a such an undertaking does not really make sense right now.  He would not be able to attract a woman of any real quality, and as such, a girlfriend would most assuredly be detriment to his life.  Furthermore, girlfriends cost money, which he does not have.

But upon further examination, what he wants as much as anything is for her to save him.  Save him from himself, save him from the world, just hand over his automobile-repairman paycheck and let her make it all work out.  It took me a good amount of time to see that this was what he wanted. Probably this was because the concept was so foreign to me.

Upon further reflection, there are apparently many like him out there.  How did this come to be?  Was it how boys are raised?  Or maybe how they are no longer raised.  Probably in his case, he was taught to defer to women in financial and other decision.  Women, of course, hate this in guys; yet they raise them be that way.  Totally irrational this would be.

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56 comments on “Women as Saviors of Men
  1. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    To begin with, he has to get himself out of the hole. I am going to presume his ex ran up all the bills and kept all the stuff. Creditors don’t care who pays for it. They just want it paid.
    I can also understand wanting a girlfriend. He’s lonely.
    That he would consider allowing a woman full access to the money and fall for it again does not speak well. I think most couples who have been previously divorced keep their money seperate.
    There is a youtuber wwho said that a man can have money or a woman but, he can’t have both. Your buddy should stick to running the bills down.

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  2. Yoda says:

    Men need women to manage their affairs they do?


  3. SFC Ton says:

    Your friend needs to bang about 30 bitches before he thinks about a LTR. However right now he is suffering from the NAWALT portion of the blue pill and doesn’t realize AWALT.

    I also think he probably feels like his pride will be restored if he can pull another bitch

    What he needs is a good dose of red pill and a sovereign man lifestyle… like mgtow but mgtow of fucking steroids…. which would also probably help him out a lot

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  4. SFC Ton says:

    regarding bills… don’t fucking pay them. pay rent, power etc and let the other fuckers catch aides and die. Fuck the card debt, fuck the car loan, fuck paying her lawyer… be late on alimony etc every month

    it is war and really money is the only tool he has… for now. If he is banging 20 year old hotties in the next three years at least he can say he lost the divorce but won the post divorce


  5. Cill says:

    Farm Boy, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. If he won’t heed your advice, save it for someone who will.

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  6. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    In reading the title, “Women as Saviors of Men”, I thought that an arguement would have to be made against the moral superiority of women. Only women are going to buy into that and only dumb ones.

    Ton may have a point. Not only being lonely but, he may feel that he needs to “get back on the horse” after being thrown. Then, there is the competition to find a new partner faster than the other. For him, all these ideas are bad ones.

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  7. Yoda says:

    I also think he probably feels like his pride will be restored if he can pull another bitch

    Probably not attract much of quality he could.
    Perhaps little pride there would be.
    Or “any woman” enough pride it is


  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I think Farm Boy has a lot of friends and aquaintances who have been frivorced, giving him a wealth of second hand experience.


  9. SFC Ton says:

    Fro proud men, the women they bang don’t even rate in their top 5 importance list; women are a result of the accomplishments that create pride and not a source of it

    betas have that all messed up.

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  10. Cill says:

    This bloke got scalped in a frivorce. Now he wants to set himself up as a sitting duck for the next bitch. I could have some respect for him if he faced up to the mistakes of his personal history, glaringly obvious as they are. In order to do that he will have to grow a pair. In a similar situation, I started by explaining the foregoing, and told him I no longer waste time on blokes who won’t learn.

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  11. BuenaVista says:

    Women teach boys and men to defer to them on financial matters. If those men do so, the women are disgusted. Shit test. QED.

    This guy needs to reach back and recover his avocational interests. Men who are in the escort lane of modern romance refer to it as a ‘hobby.’ Dating is more of a hobby than growing roses. He needs to get his hands busy, and not with the next girls undergarments.

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  12. SFC Ton says:

    I see dating as akin to bare knuckle brawling but with less rules. Marquess of Queensberry vs London prize

    Really more like Marquess of Queensberry vs Cajun 19


  13. Spawny Get says:

    “In a similar situation, I started by explaining the foregoing, and told him I no longer waste time on blokes who won’t learn.”

    Maybe it’s like drugs/alcohol addiction, he needs to personally hit bottom before he can build again?


  14. BuenaVista says:

    Spawny, I think rather it’s simply a matter of figuring out how completely brainwashed and misused he has been under the feminist imperative. The only thing that will crack the door to a better life, now, is a bit of compassion and humor and direction from a man who has taken the red pill. He will resist it, of course, because likely his entire life he’s been told to do what has presently ruined his life.

    I’m not a big believer in ‘hitting bottom’ as a methodology for change, because a) it’s dangerous to truly hit bottom (you may not get out in time); and b) who the heck knows when things are so bad they can’t get worse? We have the capacity to reason, and I do think simple logic and kindness from a man who has made the turn back to a healthy existence might prove a more viable strategy.

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  15. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Out of what I have seen here, I think that BV’s advice is best.
    Frivorce is so common that there should be support groups for it. Well, since it’s men who get frovorced, no one will make the effort.

    Off topic. Has anyone noticed a decrease in interest in the stuff we talk about. In my lurking around, I have noticed in comments a resignation on the part of men. It’s that they’re well past anger and don’t care as much any more.

    About women handling money, I think it is working out very well in Liz’s household. That’s the only way it can work in Liz’s household.

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  16. Yoda says:

    Out of what I have seen here, I think that BV’s advice is best.

    Agree with this I do.
    Famous for being wise I am


  17. Yoda says:

    Frivorce is so common that there should be support groups for it

    True this is.
    Wonder what they would look like I do


  18. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Along with that, Mrs. Yoda says you make wonderful green soup.


  19. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    They would have to be all men. Then, there would be a half hour lecture folowed by a discussion.

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  20. Tarnished says:

    One has to love/care about themselves wholeheartedly before they are truly capable of loving/caring about anyone else. This crap regarding finding your “other half” to be a full human being is ruining everyone, but especially men.

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  21. Tarnished says:

    I’ve been actively searching for meet-up groups/support groups in my state regarding the topics we cover here, but to no avail. It’d be better if I thought that just meant everyone was MGTOW-ing off, but unfortunately I think it’s closer to what you said above.

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  22. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    We do get lonely.
    Dis you have a good Christmas?

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  23. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have to wonder if such groups will ever be put together. Perhaps what I was seeing online was the sadness of the season.

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  24. Tarnished says:

    Did you have a good Christmas?
    Ah…well…it was…less horrible than I thought it would be. No offense to the majority of my family, but heck. I’d probably have had a better time hanging with you. You’re “only” 12 hours away, right? Lol. I could totally make that drive next year. 😛

    …the sadness of the season.
    I can see that.
    The holidays are very fun, exciting, and looked forward to for many people. Not all. For some, it’s nothing more than a reminder of what they don’t have, or have lost over time. :/

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  25. Tarnished says:

    I have to wonder if such groups will ever be put together.

    I’d put one together myself. However, I’m not quite sure it’d be…proper?

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  26. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I would nominate Farm Boy to lead such a project.
    The bear is as close as your screen. Dealing with family has its issues.
    I don’t know if you saw it but, we had a lot of fun with Cill’s family. They’re a good bunch.

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  27. Farm Boy says:

    To add more, this acquaintance is being coached slowly into a more realistic view of the world. Some minor brushes with the law have provided incentive. Furthermore, his children now dislike their Mom and want to live with him. If anything provides incentive this should.

    But he still does silly things. It will be a long road

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  28. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    That sounds like progress. I hope the brushes with the law stop. As for the silly things, could they be the result of his life being turned upside down? He needs to be told they are silly and why rhey are silly.
    Good news.

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  29. Farm Boy says:

    I think that much of his problem is due to a poor world view. One that does not match reality. How does one change such a world view? One that he was indoctrinated in so long ago.

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    As for the silly things, could they be the result of his life being turned upside down?

    I thought so at first. I think it might run deeper. Perhaps his ex-wife did do some work in keeping him from doing silly things.

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  31. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    The red pill hurts, A LOT.
    Maybe the ex wife did. It is good to be able to say some kind things.

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    It may not have been intentional but, your last comment brought us back to the title of the post, “Women as the Saviors of Men”.

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  33. Yoda says:

    The red pill hurts, A LOT

    Kind of like the explanation of rape halfway through the scene it is.

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  34. Yoda says:

    Fuzzie Bear,

    Woman to run his life desires he does

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  35. Yoda says:

    Amazing how all the ancient Roman Empire spoke English with British accents they did

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  36. Yoda says:

    History lesson of the day:

    When the Roman Empire transformed into the Woman Empire, fall it did.

    Pontious Pilate first to use the term “Woman” he did.
    Evidence in below video it is.

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  37. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    So, he is looking for someone to play Mommy. This is a bad idea. He needs to be on his own for awhile.

    Since you need a break from Romans with British accents, may I suggest Powers Boothe as Flavius Aetius?

    Powers Boothe never disappoints as a “heavy”.

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  38. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Sorry Yoda. I meant to address that last comment to you, not Farm Boy.

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  39. Yoda says:

    Yoda, I meant to address that last comment to you, not Farm Boy.

    Funny the bear is

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  40. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I am a silly old bear. Yes I am.

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  41. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Speaking of silliness, Captain Cpitalism goes deeper than the obvious with this post.


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  42. Yoda says:

    From Captain Capitalism’s post this is

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  43. Tarnished says:

    Woman to run his life desires he does

    Does he actually want a wife to run his life (aka a Mommy figure) or is he seeking a wife who would be a partner in the home (aka someone like Liz)?

    One is acceptable but hard to find, the other creates a weird ultra-dependency that would turn off most women…yes, including me. I like being the emotionally stable/more dominant personality who gets things done but even that doesn’t mean I’d want to be with a guy who can make NO decisions whatsoever.

    The ones it wouldn’t turn off are most likely hard-ass types that will gladly run his life right into the ground.

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  44. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The Hooters waitress has other virtues, as in brevity (of speech).

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  45. SFC Ton says:

    There are support groups for divorced men but all they do is double down on the beta.

    Revenge banging is yhe way to go, not the least of reasons because women know/ view sex as sort of a weapon and it will cut the ex wife deeper then hell when a man drops 30 pounds and starts banging younger and hotter

    Nothing will get a man past his last bitch like having 10 news

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  46. He sounds like a sitting duck, wide open to be taken advantage of. Hopefully Farm Boy talks some sense into him before then!

    It takes a long time, longer than people think or want, to pull oneself back to keel after a divorce. Rebounding is always a temptation, but rarely a good experience.

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  47. Cill says:

    A man gets fleeced in a frivorce, then wants to find another woman to hand control of his finances to? Get real. “Helping” this man in a nice touchy-feely way won’t work. He needs someone to slap some sense into his stupid head (figuratively) and if he still won’t listen, you’re wasting your time on him. Tell him to find a mangina or fembot shoulder to cry on.

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  48. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Putting aside the special conditions of this guy, I am wondering if it’s best to take a long break or get back on the horse. Most of the advce out there falls into the long breakl camp.


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  50. Yoda says:

    A new post there is


  51. Liz says:

    “About women handling money, I think it is working out very well in Liz’s household. That’s the only way it can work in Liz’s household.”

    Thanks, Fuzzie.
    Yes, I’m definitely of the opinion that women are well suited to deal with financial decisions.
    I think that whatever is currently happening has more to do with incentives than innate ability.
    Home economics has the word “economics” in it for a reason.
    There was a time when it was the woman’s job to figure this shit out.
    If the kids needed new clothes she’d pool the family money to buy cloth to sew them, and keep a budget, save for the future, and whatever else needed to be done.

    Regarding Farm boy’s friend, I think the best way to find a woman who will destroy you is to try to look for a woman who will save you. That’s like betting against the house. Predators sniff that out…it’s like a black widow spidey sense they have.

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  52. Liz says:

    OT: This was kind of a funny text exchange.
    Mike is on a trip and has an all female crew (female copilot and all femals stews). First time.

    Mike texts: “The flight attendants just told me that all three handhelds need batteries. Not sure what they mean, but I want them to be happy.”

    Me: “Hee hee that’s funny. Are you still the only guy?”

    Mike: “Yep. I have to keep them all calm.”

    Me: “It’s a big responsibility”

    Mike (a few hours later): “I made it to New York with my posse.”

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  53. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I used you as an example because it’s down to you to pay the bills when Mike was active and went on deployment.
    He’s the only male? That is gender imbalance and, if I were in his shoes, I would be nervous. Maybe, as long as they need batteries, the situation is in hand.

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  54. SFC Ton says:

    The women handling the money thing is a common military theme and usually an epic disaster. There is a reason most men cannot retire and coast; 9 out of 10 times they have to retire and land a good paying gig to deal with debt.


  55. Yoda says:

    A new post there would be


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