Ton from “A Simple Question” stated,
Online dating…. yea I get it. It’s damn hard for most adults to meet other adults. And when you do go out, men have been programmed to not talk to her at the bar because she just wants to chat with her friends, cannot talk to her at the night club because she went there to dance not get hit on, cannot talk to her at the gym because she is there to workout, cannot talk to her at Starbucks because she has her nose buried in a screen, cannot talk to her work because sexual harassment ( and you know, you work with women so…….)
Later RedPillGirl said,
I’d advise against online dating, too. Lots of cray cray there.
Liz followed up,
Yep. Industrial strength level cray.
Here we have a fella suggesting that with lots of other venues for meeting women off limits (but perhaps not to the most sexy men), that online might be an effective avenue. Ideally it would allow men to better match up with what they are looking for; though exaggerations are common and foul this up. Still even so, there might be better matches obtained than hitting up women at the local coffee shop. Furthermore, though there are many rejections to be found (often by not replying), at least the aspect of public embarrassment is off the table.
And if a tentative connection is made via online dating, the participants can through the messaging system that all online dating systems have learn about each other further in a less stressed manner. Furthermore, they can do so over the course of time, which lets people ease into a possible relationship. This potentially is better that the snap judgements required when meeting people in person randomly (e.g. at a coffee shop).
And even better for introverts, it allows them the chance to avoid meat market type situations where their performance is often poor. It allows online situations to come to the fore, where they typically do well.
But, as evidenced on the “A Simple Question” thread, and many other threads previous, it has a very poor reputation. The two women quoted at the top of this post clearly and unequivocally denounce it. So apparently, the downsides out weight the potential upsides.
Discuss among yourselves.