The instinct in women is to seek a new mate. Feminism encourages this instinct. There’s some evidence that with validation and given the opportunity, she would prefer a new mate for each and every sexual encounter. The behavior of modern women certainly seems to bear this out. Men can’t help noticing it, and wondering if promiscuity might be the real nature of women.
Time and again, we see women fall headlong into the hots for a new bloke, only to tire of him a short time later. Extravagant weddings, protestations of unconditional love, heartfelt besottedness – none of it makes a whit of difference in the end. As sure as the sun sets in the West, she will go cold on her erstwhile soulmate.
Sometimes, rarely, we will see a woman staying true to her man. A small percentage of women are high-quality human beings. They are constant as a matter of good character. I know this from personal experience.
More often, though, the constancy to be seen in some women has nothing to do with good character. They are constant to Tingles and Provisioning rather than to men. But although Tingles and Provisioning are essential, they won’t be enough. There will also need to be an absence of HOE (Hypergamy Opportunity. The “E” is just there, like the “S” in “Harry S Truman” heh):
Woman’s constancy = Tingles + Provisioning + AoHOE (Absence of HOE)
If Tingler #2 comes on the scene, she will prefer his tingles to those of Tingler #1, not because they are in fact superior, but because they are new. If Tingler #2 has provisioning to offer as well, she won’t want to stop at having an affair. She will want to trade Tingler #1 in for Tingler #2 there and then.
If Tingler #2 can’t offer provisioning, she will still break the relationship with Tingler #1. The break need not take the form of separation or divorce. It might be a mere closing of her legs, signifying the death of passion and he is no longer welcome.
So, the best that most women can offer is deep and sincere commitment until the next HOE comes along. The average on offer, though, falls far short of best, and she doesn’t wait for HOE. She closes her legs anyway, for no better reason than he’s not new. She shit tests and ridicules him at home and in public, derides him behind his back. She is a HOE just waiting to happen. (Puts a new slant on “Pimpin ma HOE”, dunnit?)
WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS?
- Restore the balance of power (won’t happen in a democracy)
- Remove man’s dependence on women for sex (replace her with artificial sex).
- Make do with the NAWALTs (not enough of them).
- Women decide to override their instincts (yeah, and the sun rises in the West).
- Let Western Civilisation go to hell in a handbasket, like this bloke:
Marty (a woman who says she’s nearing the end of her life) asks a MGHOW: “Agreed, Jim. So what’s your plan? You’re not going to change society and decades of programming. What are you going to do to make your *own* life fulfilling and joyful?”
His response: “My plan? Simple. Sit back, relax, crack open a bottle of wine and enjoy the slide. I can’rt stop the house from burning, so I might as well enjoy the show!”
Women will be sexually attracted more to other men than to their Significant Others:
“women actually lose interest in their long-term partners quicker than men do… and get much more turned on by strangers than known lovers.”
A Guardian review of Daniel Bergner’s book “What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire”
The more a woman practices her biological inclinations pre-marriage (the higher her N) the less dependable is her commitment to a relationship http://socialpathology.blogspot.co.nz/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html
“As soon as a woman has had more than one partner her long term marital stability risk drops to near 50%. Woman who’s had 16-20 sexual partners has a 17.8% stable marriage rate”
In any case, she’s wired against long-term monogamy. She is wired to serial monogamy or to cheat. (Evolutionary Biology:
As soon as a man invests in more than casual sex with a woman, he is consigning himself to inferior sex status. The sex she enjoys most is with men who invest less.
“I knew [my best sex partner] was temporary, and so the great sex was the best because the sex was the relationship,” she adds. “We didn’t have to invest in anything else”: