In a recent tread, BuenaVista commented,
Anecdote of the morning: Watching the ballgame last night at the tavern, I was seated near five middle-aged women who were cackling about their “dumbass” husbands. “Hey,” I said, ” don’t call your husband dumbasses!” I got a chorus of “but they ARE dumbasses and always will be.” (These women likely don’t have better options.) This is straight out of every TV commercial or crappy Hollywood movie. This is mainstream.
The cackling wives were 40 year-old 2’s and 3’s with midsections the size of beer kegs. They were just enjoying husband-hate.
Later FuzzieWuzzieBear added,
Hen parties where the wives trash talk their husbands are the norm. What the hens don’t consider is that men will see this. It doesn’t help them to look good.
So what exactly is going on at these hen parties? Why do they enjoy running down their and each others husbands? Probably on the basic level, they are frustrated, and this is how they vent their frustration. Notice that there does not seem to be much personal responsibility taking place here. There do not appear to be introspective, but rather extrospective. All fault belongs elsewhere. Guys tend to want to blame external factors for their issues also, but culture is mush less tolerant of that for them.
And these days, young women typically put all of her eggs into the sexual attraction basket, with some career on the side. Developing themselves in other ways is not on the agenda. When their looks fade, then they are treated like men (that is, no special treatment), and they do not like it. I am sure that it must be quite a comedown.
And what is it with the “but they ARE dumbasses and always will be” bit? Presumably they married these fellas when their SMP/MMP were considerably higher. And yet, they married dumbasses? Probably it is more the case that some are alpha widows who married a non-tingling provider type. And others maybe married a guy who gave them tingles, but their provider capability leaves much to be desired. But they did marry them, and probably many of them were experienced with men at the time, and presumably knew what they were doing.
In the end, it makes them look rather pathetic. You go girl!
Addendum — It seems that Dalrock was inspired to discuss this subject also