There is much complexity in the world today. Complexity that the average person often has difficulty navigating. This is particularly true in male-female relationships. In my grandparent’s day, much of the Patriarchy still existed as well as strong churches. They provided simple easy to follow guidance. Things like marry young, love your spouse, wives follow the husbands lead, husbands work to be the breadwinner, women handle hearth and home, wives provide supplementary income if possible, wives support their husband’s career, etc. This was not particularly difficult to understand, my ancestors followed it, and things worked out rather well for them.
Now consider today. Women have options. So many options that they get paralyzed. Their guidance on navigating through these options is mostly worthless. Their base model upon which they reason about these issues is useless also. Many don’t even particularly try, as they expect that they are entitled to good things flowing their way, primarily because the were told that was how it should be.
For men, the situation is almost more bleak. They have their own set of unique problems, but they do not have the government subsidizing them and clearing the path in front of them as modern women do. Fellas are still expected to work and pay taxes. They are given no good path to success with women. Perhaps the only well defined path to success is to polish your bad-boy cred and knock up some women. In times past, a man could build up career and other successes in order to get the girl. Today, such an approach is hit or miss. Perhaps one cannot blame men for taking a pass on it.
There are many to blame for this situation, and we mostly know who they are. Most people do not want the complexity of the modern world. It was better for most when there were well defined paths to success (with provisions for those who do not fit those paths to operate otherwise). What can be done?