Tingles and Provisioning? Most women would say yes to both attributes. So why don’t men develop both? Seemingly if they do, they will get the girl. So why not?
There are two primary forces at work here, boys heading down the path leading to girl attention, and those being coaxed by their parents to prepare themselves to make money (academic ability usually is much of this). Of course not all boys fit neatly into the two categories, but they are representative of what happens. And as the boys are heading down the paths, they receive rewards as they perform; thus encouraging them to develop the skills of their path more. This positive feedback loop tends to make the young men specialists. It is rare to find a fella who is skilled in both.
Over the course of time, men might (and should) develop varied skills. But this doesn’t always happen, and the precursors to many skills are best learned young, so many are typecast for life.
So society ends up with many provider types unattractive to the women, and it ends up with many player types who are not particularly useful to society. The solution used to be to force women to rely upon individual men for provision. This was a workable compromise. But with today’s wealth, women no longer need to compromise. But for how long can this situation last?