No Appreciation


Blurkel recently pointed out the lack of appreciation he gets for a lifetime of work.  It apparently comes from both his wife and children.  Why is this so often the case in general these days?  One idea that I have is that modern people in first world countries no longer face issues of survival.  Problems related to this are a memory from the distant past.  Perhaps this situation consequently breeds a sense of entitlement to take its place; one that eats away at any chance of contentment.

When I was a child, there was never any real issue with survival even though we did not have much money.  But I could sense the vibes from my parents and grand parents, all who survived the Great Depression.   And from this came an appreciation for every day that came without major issues.  I still have this perspective.

People in third world countries have this perspective, and they are often the happiest people in the world.  Perhaps there is something to this idea.

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39 comments on “No Appreciation
  1. Yoda says:

    On Degoba little we do have.
    Content we are.

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  2. Tarnished says:

    Could also be why the few feral children that people pluck from their furred families and learn a human language have stated that they wished they’d been left in the wild. I don’t necessarily think we should go fully back to very ancient times, but we do tend to put an unhealthy amount of trust into technology nowadays.

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  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    On Degoba many gren things in soup pot to pu.
    Soup good it is.
    That, nd sandwiches padawans big and strong make.
    On Degoba few grocery stores there are.

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  4. SFC Ton says:

    No doubt that’s part of it Farm Boy but what I have also noticed is folks just think it’s their due

    In this case, a man busting his ass at work to provide for hearth and home is only doing the bare minimum, it’s nothing special etc. It is the beta draft horse view of men. Really we see that all the way down, the govt thinks we exist to follow their laws and pay taxes. Well women view men that way and train kids to view father’s that way

    Are there really cases of feral children? I’ve heard the stories of a kid raised by wolves etc but never seen where the story was well documented.

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  5. Yoda says:

    I have also noticed is folks just think it’s their due

    Entitlement this is.
    Entitled people are content people not.

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  6. Yoda says:

    Are there really cases of feral children?

    Children left in warehousing daycares everywhere they are.

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  7. Yoda says:

    People sabotage their own path to contentment they do.
    Odd this would be.

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  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    “People left in warehousing daycare everywhere they are.”
    That wouldn’t make them feral. They are getting time at home socailizing wiht their parents. I heard of something horrid that was attempted in Romania before the fall of Communism. These kids got nothing. As they grew, it was obvious that they couldn’t socialize.The government is taking care of them now.

    I have never heard of a feral child surviving.” Raised by wolves” is the legend of the birth of Rome. I don’t think it has any substance. As to another species, female cats can be domesticated, feral males cannot. It would not surprise me if the same is true for dogs.
    One of man’s greatest achievements is the domestication of dogs and we have no idea how to do it now. So much for our advanced civilization.

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    That fathers are not appreciated or that they are taken for granted does transform into entitlement. Young men see this and don’t want to sign up for it because they see it everywhere.

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  10. Tarnished says:

    Feral children of the 21st century, from Wikipedia:

    Alex the Dog Boy (2001). Found in Talcahuano, Chile.

    Traian Căldărar, Romania (2002). Gypsy child born in Poland; he lived for three years with wild dogs in the wilderness. Now he is a “normal” child who likes football and mathematics.

    Andrei Tolstyk (2004) of Bespalovskoya, near Lake Baikal, Russia. Was abandoned by parents, to be raised by a guard dog.

    Cambodian jungle girl (2007). Alleged to be Rochom P’ngieng, who lived 19 years in the Cambodian jungle.

    Lyokha, Kaluga, Central Russia (December 2007). He had been living with a pack of wolves, and had typical wolflike behavior and reactions. He was unable to speak any human language. Taken to a Moscow hospital, he received some medical treatment, a shower and manicure, and several meals before escaping from the building.

    Danielle Crockett, Plant City, Florida, United States (2007–2008). Dani had been locked in her room and deprived of human interaction for the first 7 years of her life. She was found and adopted and is currently undergoing efforts to acclimate her to human conditioning including learning English and effective communication.

    Name Unknown (“Russian bird boy”), Russia, (2008). A seven-year-old boy was found who spent his entire life living in a tiny two bedroom apartment surrounded by birds. His mother never spoke to him and treated him as a pet, and when found he was unable to communicate except for chirping and flapping his arms like wings.

    Natasha, Chita, Zabaykalsky Krai, Russia (2009), a five-year-old girl who spent her entire life locked in a room with cats and dogs, and no heat, water, or sewage system. When she was found, she could not speak, would jump at the door and bark as caretakers left, and had “clear attributes of an animal”.

    Ng Chhaidy, Theiva near Saiha, Mizoram, India (2012), who went missing in a jungle aged four, returning 38 years later.

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  11. Tarnished says:

    Sorry, Fuzzie…no bear kids.

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  12. Tarnished says:

    People sabotage their own path to contentment they do.
    Odd this would be.

    Materialistic tendencies to blame they are. More stuff equals more happiness it does not.

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    Materialistic tendencies to blame they are. More stuff equals more happiness it does not.

    Yes indeed.

    People think that they will be happy once they get that one more thing. Then they get it. They are happy for a while, then it fades. Off to the next thing it would be. And so on.

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  14. Farm Boy says:

    I am not sure that one can read too much from a small sample of feral children.

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    Is it possible for any first-world person to wake up in the morning and be happy that they are alive and that the sun is shining?

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  16. Yoda says:

    When focused in physical things one is,
    less focused on family and life one would be.

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  17. Yoda says:

    Feminism increased entitlement it has?
    Or entitlement increased irrespective of feminism it would be?

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  18. Yoda says:

    Young men see this and don’t want to sign up for it because they see it everywhere

    Wonder how much see it they do?
    Or fog of love obscures it does?

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  19. Yoda says:

    In this case, a man busting his ass at work to provide for hearth and home is only doing the bare minimum, it’s nothing special etc

    True this would be.
    To provide same level of support government has to work not.
    Pathetic is the man who has to work for money when the government does not.
    Seems this way to many people it does.

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  20. SFC Ton says:

    Everyday Farm Boy but then again I’ve spent a lot of time in the third world and don’t much cotton to what passes as wisdom of out time

    How well documented are those cases Tarn? I mean anything is possible but I spend a lot of time outdoors,am relativity well trained for it etc but it seems extremely unlikely a child would survive long especially in cold weather locations

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  21. Tarnished says:

    Is it possible for any first-world person to wake up in the morning and be happy that they are alive and that the sun is shining?

    Yup.
    In those still, small hours of the morning, right when the dawn chorus of birds begins to sing, then is the time for future reflection and gratitude.
    In the quiet, delicious solitude of the hours right after twilight, before the sun dies and the moon reigns, then is the time for past reflection and thanks.

    I am not sure that one can read too much from a small sample of feral children.

    Oh, probably nothing truly meaningful, leastways not for us of civilization. I just find it interesting that many of them, in interviews, say that they find us too “busy”. Other than that…no, not much can really be gleaned.

    People think that they will be happy once they get that one more thing. Then they get it. They are happy for a while, then it fades. Off to the next thing it would be. And so on.

    I collect memories, not things. It’s why one of my two greatest fears is dementia/Alzheimers.

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  22. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    My information on feral children predated 2000. I should have looked. The cases you presented are all so sad and a lot of them the result of criminal neglet. If they recoeer, it’s a miracle.

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  23. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,

    Feminism increased entitlement it has?
    Or entitlement increased irrespective of feminism it would be?”

    I would say that feminism has been a major influence in all this. How else can a loyal, hard working, patient, and loving father be disconted to the staus of a mule?

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  24. Tarnished says:

    Too true, Fuzzie.
    And if you actually Google more information about most of these cases, the average time the kids lived with their new/furry families is roughly 3-4 years before being rescued. Usually when they’re older toddlers (5+) to early adolescents. I don’t for a minute think an infant or child under the age of 3 could ever survive, regardless of how caring the dogs, monkeys, whoever are. It’s also notable that nearly all the cases are either kids abandoned to be raised by pets in home environments, or in warmer tropical climes. We’re a finicky species…too hot, we die. Too cold, we die. Too dry, we die. Worse for younglings and the elderly obviously.

    People kinda suck in many ways. Thank goodness we have brains and thumbs. 😛

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  25. SFC Ton says:

    I’m thinking dehydration and the poos would kill a 3 year if the cold didn’t but now I am wondering how well they would hold up to uncooked food and what not as well as bad water,no water, cold without proper clothes and a fire.

    Early adolescence I can buy into… maybe… toddler’s much less so

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  26. Sumo says:

    That Wikipedia article doesn’t mention what age those kids were when they were “adopted” by the animals (sorry Tarn, I’m too lazy to Google tonight), so you’re probably right, Ton.

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  27. Tarnished says:

    Yeah, not a topic many people want to talk about, much less acknowledge happening. It takes a truly messed up “parent” to let their dogs raise their children, or completely abandon them. Some serious Hansel and Gretal crap going on there…

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  28. When I was in my late 20s I got to go on a trip to China. During it, I took a boat tour down the Yangtzee River and saw many ancient sites now underwater (they were just about done building the dam.) along the banks of the river were ancient, ancient villages of pheasant farmers living a life not seen otherwise for 200+ years. The abundance of an everday grocery store would have been beyond these villagers imagination. And yet I saw a contentment and community within these villages rarely seen in the States. It was a life changing realization for me. “Stuff” isn’t happiness. Connection is happiness.

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  29. Tarnished says:

    Wanted to just mention that I’ll be away on a faux* camping trip from tomorrow thru Sunday. We’ll be up in the mountains, and I will likely have very shitty cell service. Didn’t want anyone to just think I fell off the planet…

    *It is faux camping because we’re using my aunt’s RV, which is about the size and cost of a decent mobile home. Thus, not even remotely what I consider camping, but the closest the rest of the family will get.

    Completely unrelated note, Private Man is just beginning to organize a get together in FL for early March 2016. I’m thinking I may need to go so I can buy him a drink.

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  30. Camping, even faux camping, for 5 days sounds fantastic. Enjoy!

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  31. Tarnished says:

    Thanks, Bloom!
    I’m going to bring my sleeping bag and sleep outside, regardless. 🙂
    Family thinks I’m nuts, but I like being under the stars.

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  32. Mrs. Yoda says:

    I like being under the stars.

    In different manner than Kardashians this would be.
    Good this is.

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  33. Yoda says:

    Connection is happiness.

    Explain further you should.

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  34. Farm Boy says:

    http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2015/09/01/sneaky-little-hobbitses-how-gamers-transformed-the-culture-wars/

    Despite the common stereotypes of gamers as losers, nerds and shut-ins, gamers proved to be the perfect opponents for cultural authoritarians. The left relies on destroying the reputations of their opponents — but how do you destroy the reputations of people who have been ridiculed as often as gamers? When you’re already hated by the left, the right, and the media, the only way to go is dank.

    Gamers also benefited from being one of the few genuine grassroots communities, with few leaders and no official structures. Unlike the tedious “movements” that regularly emerge from college campuses – whether Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) or Slut Walks – the gamers have no radical ideology.

    They are ordinary, in some cases really quite apolitical, people, brought together by a shared hobby. They have no grand social objective beyond protecting the medium they love from authoritarian scolds and they cannot be neatly categorised.

    One of the features of GamerGate is that it includes people from every background imaginable. A survey on GamePolitics found a broad mix of liberals, conservatives, and libertarians. Gamers don’t care if you’re black, white, gay, straight, or disabled. All that matters is that you know how to game. They’ll even welcome right-wing bastards like me.

    That kind of diversity and tolerance — the genuine kind — frightens cultural authoritarians, not just because they are so mercilessly intolerant to their opponents, but also because it undermines their view of the world. Gaming is that most hated of words in identity politics: a meritocracy. Who you are is unimportant. All that matters is what you know, what you can do, and if you’re being honest with yourself and others about those two things.

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  35. Farm Boy says:

    There is a new post.

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  36. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    In that link to the Washington Examiner, That an organization of mothers is seeing to it that pamphlets are being handed out to college men, essentially saying that there is no due process and they are presumed guilty should be news for the mainstream media. On its face, this is mind oggling. What do we hear from them? Crickets.

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