Words Are Cheap


I just located my Social Security statement for last year. Seems it got filed away in the Big Box Which Catches All Bills Once They Have Been Paid. I located it looking for something else, but that isn’t important right now.

I noted while scanning it that next year marks my 50th year rendering unto Caesar, and I pondered what I have to show for it.

  • I have a wife who contributes about 15% of the income yet expects to control 100% of it.
  • I have four adult kids, three of whom have completed their bachelor degrees while the fourth is in process. Three of them still live under my roof and sup at my table. The other is married and supports my two grandchildren with her husband.
  • I own a house outright that I can’t afford to maintain much less upgrade. At least I can cover the property taxes without burden.
  • My vehicle will be seven years old in March, with almost 200,000 miles on it by then. Yet every week I get approached by dealers to trade my truck in on another six years of debt.

What I don’t have is a secure retirement.

I have no idea where any savings I might have are secreted, and I better be ready for a fight if I ask about it. Besides implying that I don’t trust my distaff half, I would be interrupting the fifteenth repetition of the day’s five major news stories. I can make no plans to use any such funds for repairs or upgrades on the house as I don’t know what she has planned for it. After all, she says what’s hers is hers and what’s mine is hers, and my wishes are insignificant compared to hers.

I believe I’ve said before that I can relate the day, date, and time I knew I was making a mistake remaining in this relationship. Every day since, every additional minute, the awareness grows of how deeply I blindly buried myself into familial servitude in trade for empty promises.

Words are important, but they must match performance. I could tell you that I was once a good musician, but unless you heard me perform, you’d have no way to gauge my veracity.

It is thus in domestic relationships. In the past, a man had to take a daring chance committing to a woman he really didn’t know on a day-to-day basis. He only saw her on her best behavior used to receive guests.

Today, there is no good excuse for a man to do this, yet we men still allow women to tell us things they don’t really mean – and believe them without proof. We let them dazzle our eyes with their beauty so that we don’t see their plans for us. We hear their pledges of troth so that we don’t hear what they say to others about us. We don’t take note of what they do to advance these plans at our expense, for we trust. This is all vital for their plans for financial support though a life of labor to succeed.

Young and single men of today, I address you. Don’t trade your masculine birthright for a mess of feminine pottage. Inventory yourself, and examine what she expects you to leave behind before you set forth with her. Know her by her actions, for her words are not likely true. Take note of what she does for you, and whether you had to ask her to exert the effort.

It’s not what she looks like or sounds like that determines a good match. It’s what she willingly does for you that matters.

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141 comments on “Words Are Cheap
  1. Farm Boy says:

    It would seem that she is not particularly appreciative. This does seem common these days. I wonder why this. Perhaps I will write a post abut it.

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    So I just did write a post about it. On Wednesday it will appear.

    That Bill Shakesman guy sure had good human insight.

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  3. Cill says:

    [WATER CLOSET
    a.k.a. Writers Corner]

    Left my mark, so to speak.

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  4. Tarnished says:

    I have a wife who contributes about 15% of the income yet expects to control 100% of it.
    Sounds like she needs to work more…

    She will claim she does a lot already. The kids do the housework and the cooking. She writes the checks to pay the bills. To be fair, she’s very good at this. But I guess the carpal tunnel and writer’s cramp is wearing her down. Then there is the shopping. Can’t think of what else she does that dwarfs my effort.

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  5. Mrs. Yoda says:

    Aware of the unfairness of it she is?

    No, Mrs Y. She feels it’s due her, probably because she married me. I don’t dare bring up any dissatisfaction over anything she does unless I want an argument instead of sleep before I trudge off to work in the wee hours.

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  6. Mrs. Yoda says:

    A team husband and wife are supposed to be.

    Large difference between is and should be.

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  7. Mrs. Yoda says:

    Always appreciative of Yoda I am.
    Makes life much better for me be does.
    What is to like not?

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  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    This is the pits. What is especially worrying is that she is hiding the finances from you, so that you can’t even discuss and make plans. I think that, as long as you’re working, the status quo will be maintained. Once you retire, she’ll have three options: divorce you, kill you, or keep you. I am shuddering but, doing away with you will give her the greatest finacial reward. Should you preemptively divorce her, she will have to reveal all the assets. That may be the best way out of it for you.
    I am sorry.

    On a general note, this is the endresult of Marriage 2.0 and feminie domination. She is running the show and he is only a tool. Feminists wanted to kill marriage. They have done a good job. What sane man would want to sign up for this?

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  9. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    About the Joan Baez song, she wrote that after her break up with Bob Dylan. I don’t think the break up was her idea.

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  10. BuenaVista says:

    Why are the adult college grads still living at home? Kick them out, move them along. They’re grown-ups.

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  11. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Buena Vista,
    My brother has this problem too. His kids should be out on their own but, there are few good jobs, rent everywhere has gone through the roof due to all the foreclosures from the housing bubble, and there are student loans to pay off.

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  12. Tarnished says:

    Fuzzie,

    While I’m highly sympathetic to those who are involuntarily unemployed and truly cannot find a job…in all due respect to lurkers and commenters alike, too many people are also just lazy.

    I moved out before graduating high school. I paid my way through the 2 years I did at community college (to save money) prior to getting my Associates. By the time I was 18, I’d already found a nice apartment, and had to pay for 100% of my phone, electric bill, car insurance/repairs, groceries, gas, etc. I did all this with just a regular cashier job that refused to give me more than 38.5 hours a week before finding the place I work for currently.

    Was it always fun? No, I sometimes had to supplement my income with babysitting, pet sitting, and lawn care for neighbors. There were times I had nothing in my fridge but a jug of milk, a loaf of bread, some cheese, and a select few fruits/veggies. Even when I had a tiny bit extra, I’d squirrel it away just in case of harsher times.

    Point being, it’s not a glorious life, but it is absolutely doable on a single barely-above-minimum-wage income. You simply learn to go without what you don’t need, like cable, internet, a home phone, etc. And yes, this is all in a part of my state reported to be one of the top expensive places to live along the entire east coast. If I can do it here, it can be done nearly anywhere.

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  13. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    When I left California in 2010, it was absurd. The last place that I ved in was a house share. Romoms were being rented for $650 to $700 a month. This was on the Monterey Penisula. I talked to one merchant about it. His hands were tied by corporate and wages maxxed at $9 per hour. His help could only last six months before they were tapped. Corporate didn’t care.

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  14. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    All dy long your story has been bothering me. The part about the finances has me very worried. I have to think that she has a plan, set up years ago, but, that she is keeping you indark is spooking me. I think you need to talk to someone who knows their way around grey divorce.

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  15. blurkel says:

    @BuenaVista

    Why are the adult college grads still living at home? Kick them out, move them along. They’re grown-ups.

    They endure the conditions fuzziewuzziebear lists in his next comment. Despite applying for many jobs weekly, they get no interviews. It’s all Internet hiring here, so there is no human being to convince for a chance. As a result, Mama Bear is VERY protective of her cubs, and has lost friends from her responses to their similar suggestions. I get no say in whether or not they get to stay.

    @fuzziewuzziebear

    His hands were tied by corporate and wages maxxed at $9 per hour. His help could only last six months before they were tapped. Corporate didn’t care.

    When I moved to California, my corporate management resided in Detroit, Michigan where they felt $5 an hour was a princely sum. Everyone there when I hired in left for higher wages. In six months, I went from being the new guy to being the only full-time employee – and I left after six months. Despite this turnover, corporate didn’t care then either. The company was cannibalized after the takeover.

    @Tarn

    When I was in school, I worked my way through it. I was already married, and I was the main income – as well as being the full-time student. I couldn’t have done it if being in a band didn’t pay so well.

    I wouldn’t want to try it now here in CA. I can’t last long on ramen noodles and no sleep anymore.

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  16. blurkel says:

    I think you need to talk to someone who knows their way around grey divorce.

    Sure – if I want to live in my truck and eat at the Salvation Army!

    My own cousin didn’t help me when she got divorced. Despite being a full-time public school teacher, she was awarded alimony equal to what I bring home each month – and she’s childless. She was married to a county sheriff deputy, and while they do OK, he now doesn’t have much left after alimony to raise a daughter from a previous marriage. He brought this upon himself, so he gets no sympathy from me.

    This has only spurred a new set of threats from my distaff partner.

    My married daughter has already warned my that once her siblings move out of my house, my wife will have only me to use and abuse. I will probably decide that sleeping in my truck and eating at the Salvation Army isn’t such a bad deal after all.

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  17. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    That your wife had sole discretion bringing the kids back to the house after college. While I’d bet that if you were consulted, you would have granted them mercy.
    That you canh’t seek counsel tells me that she knows about every dollar spent. Still, a way must be found or you’re lost before the battle begins. Part time work?

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  18. blurkel says:

    @fuzziewuzziebear

    Not only is every dollar accounted for, so is my time. Thus a part-time job -even if there were any where I live- would raise her red flags. She’s recently accused me of having a bank account she wasn’t supposed to know about (I don’t – don’t have any money to put in it if I did!).

    Just to show you what a whack-job I’m married to, I once arrived home from work 5 minutes -FIVE MINUTES- later than I was due because of traffic, and was accused of stopping off for a hooker quickie.

    I REALLY screwed myself back then, and I’m still paying the price.

    Have to go to work now. A Good Day to all.

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  19. SFC Ton says:

    The price for peace of mind is cheap. My 24 year retirement check for to my ex wife nor will I ever retire retire.

    Small price to pay for liberty and peace of mind & most men I know have more disposable income a few years after divorce. Yea women eat up that much of your income.

    I have my current domestic affairs arranged much differently these days and high on the list is I control the money. Internet makes that possible even when I was down range all the time. If it is important to you as a man You better be controlling that aspect of your life. I don’t care to ever eat a vegetable again so the girls run the garden with minor oversight from me. I love fishing so I manage the pond

    It would take a BV level skill set to describe how fucked up the economy is. College is a suckers bet. If your kids did HVAC or became electricians, they’d be on their own making better then decent money. College was as forbidden to my son as marriage (though the GI bill would cover it for him now)

    The general lack of appreciation I see for husband and fathers is staggering; second wives with someone else’s fuck trophies are extra bad about it

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  20. Tarnished says:

    Blurkel,

    One of my friends has a wife like that. Been with her for 25 years, and she gets worse each one. She once accused him of taking money out of their bank account without letting her know…It turned out *she* had taken it out earlier that week, and put it in a different part of her purse than usual and forgot. Another time, she kept giving him the silent treatment all day, glaring daggers at him every time he tried to determine what was wrong. Eventually he learned that the night previous she’d had a dream that he cheated on her. That’s right…a dream. Somehow this entitled her to be angry at the real life him.

    Bitches be crazy.

    Your story, Blurkel, would be so much better if you did have a separate account. It’s what counselors of abused spouses recommend they do to build up some escape money. What I don’t understand is how you have 0 access? Obviously it must be a joint account, probably checking and savings. Can’t you just use your debit card at an ATM to check the balances, or call the bank and ask them to send a recent transaction record to your place of work?

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  21. Burkel do you still play music? Somehow you starting to do that again, just for yourself, seems to be a way out of this mess. Even for free, or alone, in the backyard, or whatever. Do something that makes YOU happy, brings your soul joy. Everyone needs that.

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  22. Burley more thoughts, there are a lot of ca transplants where I live. Because of property values they were able to sell homes in ca, buy something outright here, and have several hundred thousand in the bank. The job market might be better for your kids elsewhere, too? Alternately if you can’t relocate, you could sell your house, put that money in the bank, rent. I know you would be paying rent but seems you’d still be ahead. Just thinking outside the box 🙂 ignore me if this is making no sense.

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  23. Mrs. Yoda says:

    My married daughter has already warned my that once her siblings move out of my house, my wife will have only me to use and abuse

    Aware your daughter is.
    Good this would be.
    Use this to your advantage you can?

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  24. Mrs. Yoda says:

    She does not make sammiches I do guess.
    Some sammich making therapy use she could

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  25. SFC Ton says:

    LOL my ex was all about trying to punish me for her dreams and was dumb enough to think the silent treatment is punishment…. me the guy who thinks the best part about getting a blow job is her mouth is to full to talk

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  26. Farm Boy says:

    dumb enough to think the silent treatment is punishment

    Perhaps you might write a guest post about that.

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  27. Farm Boy says:

    This sure seems to be a “zero-sum relationship”. I will write another post explaining the folly of such thinking.

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  28. Tarnished says:

    For those to whom verbal communication is important, your SO refusing to speak to you is a harsh and cruel action. Having the one person in the world who is supposed to truly listen, support, and understand you deem you utterly unworthy of their attention is horrible. Not only that, but it is a very cold way of letting you know that they aren’t interested in fixing the problem or talking it out.

    It is extremely juvenile and manipulative. My SO and I both have issues with this…him because he needs verbal confirmation/validation for his feelings, me because my mother used this on me constantly as a teen. It’s why open communication is a measure of a good foundation.

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  29. Cill says:

    With respect, I can’t understand handing over control of your money to someone else. Maybe that’s because I’ve never been in a relationship?

    I keep strict control of my financial affairs in computer programs I wrote for myself in code, from book keeping through to automated profit and loss accounts and balance sheets. I file all my own tax returns and don’t need an accountant.

    I wouldn’t hand control of my finances to a wife (or anyone else). You might be more inclined to let it happen if you went into a relationship young?

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  30. Mrs. Yoda says:

    and I better be ready for a fight if I ask about it.

    Perhaps better now than later it might be

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  31. Tarnished says:

    Same here, Cill.
    If I’m the one making the money and paying taxes on it, better be damn sure I’ll be the one accounting for and budgeting it.

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  32. Cill says:

    I copied my financial app into Choicy’s desktop but I’m fairly sure he persists in doing all his bookkeeping by hand. Old habits die hard, eh Choicy you old fashioned billy-boiler. (heh he’ll be sound asleep at this hour).

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  33. Mrs. Yoda says:

    I don’t dare bring up any dissatisfaction over anything she does unless I want an argument instead of sleep

    A bully she would be.
    Often bullies nothing else to offer other than being a bully they have.

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  34. Mrs. Yoda says:

    Wonder what might happen if one called her bluff one did.

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  35. Yoda says:

    Another time, she kept giving him the silent treatment all day, glaring daggers at him every time he tried to determine what was wrong. Eventually he learned that the night previous she’d had a dream that he cheated on her. That’s right…a dream.

    Concept of individual responsibility weak in her it is.
    Society suffers for this it does.

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  36. Tarnished says:

    Concept of reality, too.

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  37. SFC Ton says:

    My book keeping is dirt simple and I don’t do it formally as such
    Once money goes into various places for predicted expenses, short term & long term savings it’s used to invest in being alive.

    Like camping in the Cape lookout shore; no peremant structures, roads or help. Took everything required in via kayak and all the trash out with me via kayak.

    Open communication can eat the peanuts out of my shit. That’s chick speech for behave like a girl or else.

    What would you care for me to write about Farm Boy?

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  38. Yoda says:

    Know her by her actions

    By their fruits known they shall be.

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  39. Yoda says:

    Besides implying that I don’t trust my distaff half

    Her keeping you in the dark implies she trusts you not.
    Turn this around on her you should.

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  40. Tarnished says:

    Open communication can eat the peanuts out of my shit. That’s chick speech for behave like a girl or else.

    How is being communicative with your SO about what you want, expect, and need out of a relationship in a direct way “behaving like a girl”? If anything it’s masculine. Most of the women I’ve know either can’t bluntly state what they want/need, haven’t truly thought about it, or engage in forms of doublespeak so as to retain plausible deniablity against their SO’s. Clear, concise, and accurate open communication is the realm of the male most of the time.

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  41. Spawny Get says:

    Tarn, that’s my experience of women too. I used to have to spend an hour talking to my wife just to find out what the (usually trivial to solve) issue was. I have never had that impression of you…FTR 😉

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  42. Tarnished says:

    Spawny,

    Hi there, mate. Been a while since I’ve had the pleasure of your company. House all taken care of?

    That’s what I mean…open communication is not doublespeak for “Let’s talk for hours about our feeeeeelings and watch sappy rom-coms”.

    It’s more like “Okay, we want to do Q, H, and Z tonight. Let’s sit for 2 minutes and come up with a plan of attack that works for both of us. Oh, you have to be up early for a meeting tomorrow? Alright, thanks for letting me know. In that case it would make more sense to do Q and Z first, then catch an earlier showing of H. I’m glad we spoke about this ahead of time, thanks for being upfront about your schedule”.

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  43. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    I have had a while to think about your position and you are very much up the creek. She has full control of what you spend? She goes nuts and accuses you ofseeing a hooker, who you can’t afford, if you’r efive munutes lat?
    A While ago, you made a humorous reference to the Salavation Army. I’ll bet that they have seen this scenario a hundred times over. I don’t think that they will charge for advice. If nothing else, maybe they can point you in the right direction.

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  44. Tarnished says:

    Yoda,
    My favorite comment from your link above:

    The women could start by realizing that higher levels of education have no correlation to higher levels of intelligence.

    This is so true. A degree does not always directly correlate to one’s innate intelligence. Hell, depending on the degree, it sometimes detracts from it!

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  45. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Mrs. Yoda,
    I read that link about genderlwss pronouns. What shocked me was the depth of the malice in those who opposed the conventional. These people are violent. It is only an matter of time before one of them attacks someone nonthreating and it ends up on youtube going viral. After that, how much credibility will they be given?

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  46. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda and Tarn,
    This disparity in educational levels is areal problem in the Black community and it’s getting tobe one in the White too. Women are using degress as staus markers to judge suitability. The “kind hearted fireman” was mentioned. For them, education never stops but it doesn’t lead to adegree.
    What should worry men is that these women with lots of degress must have student loan debts out the wazoo. I think a lot of them are hoping that Hubby will help pay for them. So, it’s a false staus marker.

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  47. Tarnished says:

    Re: the genderless pronouns

    I thought this is already what you do when talking about someone you don’t know, or a group of people? Like “They went to the store” instead of “he went to the store” if it’s a person you’re not familiar with. At least, that’s what my private school taught…in addition to the proper use of the Oxford comma. 😉

    But really, on an individual level, it shouldn’t matter that much either. If someone uses the one you don’t prefer…just say so. In a polite manner. Honestly not a difficult concept to grasp, and certainly not something worthy of getting frothy at the mouth about. I’ll respond to either male or female pronouns, and don’t much care which is used so long as the conversation itself is polite/friendly.

    The only thing I will say is that “it” is not how one refers to another person. Inanimate objects are “its”. People and other animals are not.

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  48. Tarnished says:

    I think a lot of them are hoping that Hubby will help pay for them.
    This is a big worry, Fuzzie. Something I’ve seen former classmates do is thus;
    -Graduate high school
    -Go for a 4-6 year college degree
    -Start looking for men who already have a degree or are going into a more illustrious field
    -Marry them
    -Immediately have 1-3 kids and become a SAHM
    -Get your loans paid off along with his via his paycheck

    I understand that life can’t always be planned out to the letter. Sometimes curveballs happen, things change, situations arise. But there are too many female classmates I see on Facebook who all followed the above routine for it to be random coincidence. Even my aunt did it…she has an accounting degree from a respectable college, and she never once used it. It was a waste of my grandparents inheritance, and could have gone instead towards the house she and my uncle bought immediately after the wedding, especially since she was dating him all through her last 2 years!

    Ugh.

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  49. Tarnished says:

    It is only an matter of time before one of them attacks someone nonthreating and it ends up on youtube going viral.

    Frankly, I’m surprised it hasn’t yet. That “Die cis scum!” crap that was floating around Tumblr and the like 2 years ago was revolting to the extreme. People expecting empathy while giving none out…acting the victim to receive attention then use it to spread a message of hate…It was shocking and depressing.

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  50. SFC Ton says:

    Strong frame means she is part of your program
    Weak frame means you talk about what you want to do ie chick shit.

    Your advice tarn is horrible because you are delusional on how things work, what makes a man a man etc etc. Mostly you spout typical progressive and yes feminist nonsense. Not the man hating kind but nonsense all the same.

    Women with student loans love the post loan pay off divorce. Never pay the bitches laons, student or otherwise and if you buy her tits someone other dude will spend more time enjoying them then you.

    Let’s face it, if you are a man with options you don’t have to settle for a woman with debt etc. Doing so puts a man squarely in the beta bucks/ draft horse league.

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  51. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    There is entirely too much of this bank on Hubby picking up the check.

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  52. Tarnished says:

    Strong frame means she is part of your program Weak frame means you talk about what you want to do ie chick shit.

    Bullshit.

    Involving your SO in making casual plans together is common courtesy. If my “program” involves going out to dinner at a local restaurant but the only open reservation is at 9pm and my SO has to be up at 4am for a teleconference, guess what? He’ll tell me so, and instead of saying “too bad for you”, making the reservation anyway and eating by myself, I’ll alter our plans to be more accommodating so we can enjoy time together. If one is just going to want things their way 24/7/365 without a care on how it affects anyone else, then stay single and be a Stage 2 or higher MGTOW. It is a valid position, and one that many men have found suites them very well. There is no shame in living just for yourself.

    Your advice tarn is horrible because you are delusional on how things work, what makes a man a man etc etc.

    Or maybe there is more to being a man than what you think, scfton. Not every person with a dick and XY chromosomes seeks to fulfill some He-Man, ultra strong, constantly stoic, conqueror stereotype. One of the best things about the manosphere as a whole is the questioning of such stereotypes and letting men know their value is not reliant on whether they “man up” all the time, make 100k a year, never cry/show pain, or bang 40+ women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with men who do have such masculinity, but not all do. Manhood is multifaceted, and no one single person has the right to define it for another.

    Mostly you spout typical progressive and yes feminist nonsense.

    Lol. Well, according to your definition of Feminism, everyone here…even our Glorious Patriarch, Spawny…is one so I fail to see your point there.
    Do I think women need to own their shit, be responsible adults, learn the consequences of their actions without having anyone magically swoop in and save them from themselves? Yes.

    Do I think women have agency, the ability to demonstrate morals, a capacity for learning on par with men (though in different ways), and a duty to be ethical as civilization demands? Yes.

    Do I think our current system is not only misandric and gynocentric, but also endorses/fosters the creation of a victim narrative for “minorities” like women? Damn straight.

    If this makes me Progressive, then sure. I’ll accept that label for you.

    Now, if you’ll excuse me, it is almost 9pm and I have to meet my SO for a lovely preplanned-by-me “date” of Chinese food, Mass Effect 3, and sex, possibly with the new toy I got today. Ta, all! 😈

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  53. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    Chinese food?? Can I have some? Have a good night!
    Perhaps one of the tings that has overlooked is that you are direct and forthright. NAWALT

    On another note, I wish Liz hadn’t taken a vacation from us. This was lined by Nova seeker over at Dalrock’s. The more I hear about internet dating, the worse it gets.

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3070746/A-people-hookup-app-Tinder-married-WOMEN-likely-cheat.html

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  54. Spawny Get says:

    “House all taken care of?”

    Not so much, no.

    Started getting my pc room / office together today. So that’s nice.

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  55. Tarnished says:

    Of course, Fuzzie.
    Here you go, remember to use Chrome and wash your paws before eating. 😉
    🍱🍥🍢🍡🍘🍙🍚🍣

    (Yes, I realize some of the icons above are Japanese food, not Chinese…don’t kill me, Sumo!)

    I believe the lack of doublespeak from INTJ types does have a lot to do with it, though it does have it’s own set of problems. Goodnight, for real this time.

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  56. Spawny Get says:

    We all know that InternetAristocrat is back, right? MisterMetokur these days.

    Anyway, highly topical

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  57. Yoda says:

    I believe the lack of doublespeak from INTJ types does have a lot to do with it, though it does have it’s own set of problems

    What problems these would be?

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  58. SFC Ton says:

    You are a feminist because you pimp the same egalitarian line as all progressives pimp. Which are false hoods no matter how you spin it, nor would you be the only feminist who says she is not or thinks the system is hostile towards men

    You also pimp the same failed blue pill sort of purplish pill info. If the things you suggest work women wouldn’t bail on husband’s like it’s the national past time.

    Questioning those stereotypes is for pussies who cannot make the cut. There is a reason women shit on blue pill/ femisinst kind of men and that reason is, deep down on the genetic level women know that ain’t much of a man. It also why men don’t much cotton to those sort of men too.

    There is calm near nothing you haven’t typed that doesn’t sound like a feminist, inculding your not so latent hostility toward traditional values and traditional masculinty. I also note you only get away with your pipe dreams because semi violent men keep the foreign violent men at bay. Everything you enjoy in life is because the kind of men and masculinty you dislike is still around in large enough numbers to keep.hajjis etc out and mostly in line.

    You are the absolute worst and most dishonest kind of progressive and feminist. Well the worst because of your dishonesty

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  59. Farm Boy says:

    I used to have to spend an hour talking to my wife just to find out what the (usually trivial to solve) issue was

    And then more time to discuss what to do about it. Women are verbal early in development, and like to be verbal forever, so they end up browbeating the guy into submission. “I will do it your way, just shut up”.

    Women probably come about this strategy because they find out accidentally that it actually works. Which encourages it more.

    NAWALT applies of course.

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    What would you care for me to write about Farm Boy?

    How about “Turning the Tables: Punishment as Reward”

    Kind of a “Don’t throw me into the briar patch” thing

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  61. Farm Boy says:

    my pc room

    So is it decorated in rainbow colors?
    Maybe with lots of bumper stickers plastered on the walls?
    With signs that welcome all made up silly sexualities?

    Any other suggestions for the Patriarch’s PC room?

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  62. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    Yum! Slurp, slurp, slurp. Good stuff. Thank you!

    Spawny Get,
    Great videoo! Have you aded him to the Links page?

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  63. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I found this over at COTWA. Iseems that police Officers are affored greater protection under the law. For normal people, this would have just been ignored.

    http://www.cotwa.info/2015/08/kimberly-minor-made-false-rape-claim.html

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  64. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    J have a second thought about my previous comment. It is a benefit to the prosecution that victim is an expert witness. This is likely to be a he said, she said case and that will help. It is good news that someone is going after these people.

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  65. Moehau Man says:

    “Any other suggestions for the Patriarch’s PC room?”

    A Kauri Club, fashioned by yours truly.

    I could deliver it in person and show him how to brandish it, and he might feel persuaded to reward me for my generosity.

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  66. Yoda says:

    A club not PC it would be.

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  67. Yoda says:

    Banned in Britain clubs are?

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  68. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have my Grandmother’s shillelagh club. I have the feeling that the UK doesn’t have may restrictions on antique weapons. However, they would take a dim view of their intended use. While firearms are restricted now, they weren’t in the 19th century. Some of the finest weapons of the day were produced there.

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  69. Yoda says:

    I have my Grandmother’s shillelagh club

    Bears need weapons they do?

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  70. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Yoda,
    My Dad asked me to hold it for him. He’s gone now. I had almost forgotten about it until today.

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  71. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I went back to reread that link to the Daily Mail about Tinder. That half the women are already in relationships is a more than a little sickening. The difference between single and married is that single men and women are playing for real and marrieds are playing to play. For that reason alone, they shouldn’t mix it up.
    There’s another point, brought out in the Aaron Clarey videos I have linked about nightclubs and Ashley Madison, why do women have to take a perfectly good venue for meeting and screw it up to the point where it won’t work?

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  72. @ ton I have been told I am not a typical woman but for me, the ability to have in depth and engaging conversations w a man is absolutely key to my wanting to engage in a relationship w him. Central, really. I went wo that for many years in a relationship and it totally sucked, very lonely. But that’s me.

    Actually one reason I liked j4g and now this place was exactly that — good and meaningful intergender (boy and girl) conversation. It’s very hard to find irl, at least in my neck of the woods.

    However typical girl yapping, yeah I find that hard to listen to as well so maybe that’s what you mean? I have no time for that either.

    Pffft. 🙂

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  73. Speaking of finances, Red was asking me about basic finance stuff and how to pay bills and budget and such. I realized he has not managed his own money for many years, his wife did all that. He wanted me to basically plan his budget. I told him I would help but that really he needed to take charge of that, including saving some of his money so he is never again in the short handed situation he finds himself in now. His (ex) wife controlling the money meant she controlled him, and when they divorced she also knew what all was happening while he did not. After thinking about that and Burkels post here I have to agree, to let a partner have sole oversight of finances is to give up ones power. I would not recommend women not know what’s going on w the family finances either for the same reason, even if one person takes a lead both should be in the know and involved. Otherwise one person is basically a parent and the other is reduced to a child. Not good.

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  74. Ps burkel please don’t take that last comment personal, it is not directed at you, it’s meant in general. It’s a tough situation you are in and one many years in the making. However I do think it’s possible to turn such situations around for the better, to fix a broken marriage and I would encourage you to do so if at all possible. Everyone would be happier and healthier for it.

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  75. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    It’s not so much conrol, it’s keepimg them secret. I’ll bet that Red ended up in the same spot Blurkel is now. Kept completely in the dark.
    There is another reason to communicate about this stuff. You never know if the finanancil officer is going to get hit by a streetcar.

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  76. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    I know you’re an optimist and that is lovable but, I think Blurkel’s marriage is beyond hope.

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  77. Thanks fuzzie, I am an optimist it is true. However I have also seen impossible things happen more times than I can count. So I never say never. I hope it does work out because I know how much it sucks to be in a one sided loveless marriage. I used to say to my ex, “we’re already married, we may as well choose to be happily so, it’s easier than being miserable.” Sadly he didn’t get what I was saying, and it is true sometimes they simply just don’t give a s#it. I am not sure if its good advice but a therapist said many people leave too late, only after they are so done there is no going back. Then their partner finally gets it. But it’s too late. His advice was to leave earlier, before the point of no return. Like I said I am not sure it’s good advice but it kinda made sense. Dread, I guess? He also said if a couple hates each other, he can work with that, there are still feelings. It’s when they no longer even care that its hopeless. 😦

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  78. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    I think a lot of it stems from men wanting to comfortable in the relationship and women wanting drama.
    The avice on leaving earlier, seperating, makes sense. People are more open to feel regret that way, which could lead to reconciliation.
    I wish that I could give Blurkel a game plan but, this is out of my depth.
    Oh, I had another thought for Red about setting up a new house. He should talk to estate agents. What he is after doesn’t usually go over to well at their sales because normal people already have the essentials.

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  79. I do hope the best for you Blurkel. And for your family. Sending good vibes your way and I do hope you will get back to music as a way to create joy. I really think for the emotional release alone it would be good. For some reason that keeps coming up in my mind… That music may help.

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  80. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Cill,
    Of all the women that comment here, none of them would pull this nonsense. I am sure Liz, who handles her family’s finances, consults with Mike before anything big is done. I’ll guess that Mike keeps her posted on what he wants and buys. You have to talk to each other about this stuff, otherwise embarrassing things could happen.

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  81. I should write a post about Red’s whole situation. He was very successfully running his own auto body biz when they met, she was a bank teller. She was offered a promotion and convinced him to close his biz and move, which he did in an effort to make her happy and to support her. He took a job at an auto body shop, she got promotion after promotion, finally to branch manager. He lost his identity as she built hers. For two years before leaving she tore away at his self esteem. Then she left him for her “fitness buddy.” Now she seems he’ll bent on sabatoging him so she can justify her choice to discard him and move on, after all “he’s a loser.” For a year he’s been playing out that role to his own detriment, which she then points to as justification for her epl journey. It’s really sick, and sadly as much as we all see the script right on cue, the blue pill world buys her side of it, clapping on her “brave journey.” Luckily he’s got some in his corner who do see and are encouraging him, including his new boss who has been there, done that himself. He seems to be righting his ship. And I hope he does. It’s hard to watch. 😦

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  82. Reds ex has some sort of personality disorder I am pretty sure. She’s way more vengeful and manipulative than average. She’s really yucky. Blech.

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  83. Cill says:

    It’s really sick, and sadly as much as we all see the script right on cue, the blue pill world buys her side of it, clapping on her “brave journey.

    Yes. That’s one of the best expressions of the whole sick business I’ve ever heard.

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  84. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Bloom,
    She convinced him to close a thriving business to facilitate her advancement? She isn’t grateful? In the end, he’s out the house with nothing and sleeping in his car?
    Feminists love to talk about how men opress women. I am beginning to believe it is the other way around and what allows it to happen is leveraging the man’s commitment.

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  85. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Cill and Bloom,
    That people’s first instinct to take the woman’s side is being eroded. There are too many stories out there. It’ll be a while but, I think people are going to start applying some healthy skepticism.
    Consider all the high profile rape cases in the last few years, how many have been legitimate? They have all been hoaxes.

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  86. Cill says:

    “There are too many stories out there. It’ll be a while but, I think people are going to start applying some healthy skepticism.”

    It will happen. But for we who are aware at this point of time it’s a fucking frustrating wait.

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  87. blurkel says:

    My Book of Comment Replies. Just look for your “@” tags if you don’t want to read them all.

    @fuzziewuzziebear

    Once you retire, she’ll have three options: divorce you, kill you, or keep you.

    She won’t divorce me, because that would mean releasing me from her control. She HAS threatened to kill me, and has an entire collection of Agatha Christie novels from which to draw information. Bur keeping me under her thumb is her intention.

    @SFC Ton
    The general lack of appreciation I see for husband and fathers is staggering…

    You hit the nail on the head. This is why I expose my shortcomings so that younger men won’t fall into the same trap.

    @Tarn

    What I don’t understand is how you have 0 access? Obviously it must be a joint account, probably checking and savings. Can’t you just use your debit card at an ATM to check the balances, or call the bank and ask them to send a recent transaction record to your place of work?

    There is one joint account to which I have access. There are several others all in her name that I can’t touch. If I didn’t have access to at least some of the account records at home, I’d not be able to have them sent to my workplce. My employer won’t deliver personal mail. I’m lucky I get the technical mail I ASK for!

    @Mrs Yoda

    Aware your daughter is.
    Good this would be.
    Use this to your advantage you can?

    Increasingly, all of my offspring are telling me things I need to know from when I am not around. The Rebel Alliance should have had such a spy network!

    @Cill

    I wouldn’t hand control of my finances to a wife (or anyone else). You might be more inclined to let it happen if you went into a relationship young?

    Young, indeed! My parents were themselves too young, and didn’t learn why teaching their kids about work and budgeting were vital. We were kept in the dark, and by the time I really learned about these things, I was myself a parent.

    I’d not have married if I knew then what I know now. As a former coworker once advised me, I was too soon old, too late smart.

    @Mrs Yoda.

    Wonder what might happen if one called her bluff one did.

    Back when GHW Bush was bombing Baghdad (literally!), I was tossed out of my own home to live out of a Honda Civic. I was getting good at it after a month, and considered not returning when I was invited back about a month later. I wish now I had made the other choice.

    @fuzzie

    A While ago, you made a humorous reference to the Salavation Army…If nothing else, maybe they can point you in the right direction.

    God herself told me to ignore religious fakirs. She checks in when she’s really needed, but tends to let me learn from my own mistakes.

    @Tarn

    A degree does not always directly correlate to one’s innate intelligence.

    AND HOW! I spent six years on third shift so that she could get a masters degree, and it took 5 years and 10 months before she figured out that her training was to do the exact opposite of what she thought she was learning to do. She thought she was training to do employee enhancement, when what she was learning was how to separate people from gainful employment.

    @redpillgirlnotes

    It’s when they no longer even care that its hopeless.

    I no longer care. I’ll remain as long as not doing so is the worse choice. Then I go.

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  88. Cill says:

    Shit.

    I think you’ve thrown us all for a six brother Blurkel. I don’t know what to say, except in “online” terms I’ve known you quite a long time. I said it a long time ago, “I always listen to what Blurkel has to say”.

    I’m not about to change that advice any time soon.

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  89. Cill says:

    Blurkel, there are many pretenders, but you are one of the genuine great guys. Hang around.

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  90. BuenaVista says:

    Schools and SJWs who want to enforce pronoun confusion are more dangerous than the insanity of the practice — enforcing pronoun confusion — would appear.

    What they’re really saying is that the whole of existence is subjective, nothing is objectively true, and that if enough people band together and take control of some institution or community, they can enforce their unique form of insanity on everyone else. This becomes a philosophical (or scientific or economic or religious or sociosexual …) tyranny of the majority. It reflects the autocratic, totalitarian ambitions of progressives, for whom *no* aspect of life is too small *not* to be improved by … progressives.

    Bruce Jenner is not a woman just because he says he is. He’s a sad, disturbed human being who needs help. A society that says he can “identify” as something he’s not, and then impose penalties on anyone who says, “Errr, that “woman” has a dick and won the men’s decathlon, so IN FACT he’s just a guy who likes to dress-up and act like a girl”) is a society that says a rock is really a pair of scissors; those scissors are really paper. (Don’t let Bruce play with the scissors, please, they’re sharp.)

    And at that point, since there is no reality, there is no truth, and there certainly isn’t any society because the mob makes rules up as it goes alone. Demanding that we call a disturbed man a woman, a white woman black because she says so, a lesbian a man because she’s got the haircut — these demands increase in volume now annually. Those claiming victimization accrue status, and use the status to amplify the power they are accumulating. And power always corrupts absolutely.

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  91. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    You can’t take threats to kill you. I think that she means it. You have to get out. That all your kids are taking your side confirms your innocence.
    This business about setting up accounts in her name only with marital funds is nothing but theft.
    And how canshe have a Master’s and only contribute fiteen percent of the household income? It tokk her six years to get it? It’s supposed to take only two.
    Tell your employer no more direct deposit and get away from this.Find another guy to split a two bedroom apartment.

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  92. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Buena Vista,
    They are creating chaos out of order. This can’t stand. What is your prediction for when it all hits the fan?

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  93. Tarnished says:

    FB,

    I saw you altered your 2:56 comment. Whether you thought of me while doing it or not, I still want to thank you for doing so. It means a lot to me.
    As for suggestions, maybe we can put up pictures of all the “best” feminists in the PC room. 😛

    Yoda,
    The downside to being INTJ is our literalism and the fact we sometimes mince words for the sake of brevity but at the cost of sounding arrogant. It doesn’t seem that INTJ females develop the same verbal skills as others, so are at a distinct disadvantage similar to men, except they are expected to be able to keep up with girl-talk and end up just being confused or shamed. We also don’t seem to be an outwardly emotional bunch, so can come off as cold to those unused to our mannerisms.

    Fuzzie,
    I, at least, am not trying to create disorder. :/

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  94. Tarnished says:

    Blurkel,

    So she has numerous accounts in her own name, with your paycheck in them, but you’ve no access whatsoever? How do you get money for food, gas, tolls, etc.?

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  95. Yoda says:

    The downside to being INTJ is our literalism and the fact we sometimes mince words

    The “see right through the other person” problem this is.
    Goes with the territory it does

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  96. Tarnished says:

    Truth. And of course since most other people don’t truly say what they mean…and we do…they are very prone to reading between lines that don’t exist. Spawny has some stories about this, I believe.

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  97. BuenaVista says:

    Fuzzie, I think it *is* hitting the fan. The confluence of identity politics, septuagenarian socialists and kleptocrats leading the Left, feminist-fainting couches in the academy, the obsession with transsexuals (who comprise 0.4% of the population) and gays (maybe 3%), California simultaneously bankrupt, drought-weary, politicians who spend $3 trillion on two wars and then say “Never mind! Nothing to see here” before handing the secured countries over to the enemy and the caliphate, social mobility at a standstill, sex with women criminalized if she says so, Planned Parenthood dismembering babies and parting them out for profit, cops being assassinated, the Supreme Court overruling the Constitution *and* the Legislature to advance a new theory of America, Baltimore burning while the mayor tells the police to let them have a section of the city to destroy …

    It’s all of a piece. This is the result of the Left and the Republicans finding power more interesting than the truths of history. My conventional suggestion is that we’re already in a slow-burning Cold Civil War. Over and over again we see a small cohort that is expert at manipulating supposedly agnostic, even-handed institutions, and then dropping the hammer on the citizenry.

    Trump is intellectually incoherent and a progressive to boot, but he appeals to those people who have had enough of the above. There is no possibility of Trump’s integration with the existing order. Therefore we are in a civil conflict already, imo.

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  98. Yoda says:

    You never know if the finanancil officer is going to get hit by a streetcar.

    A former Jedi’s wife hit by a “Streetcar Named Desire” she was.
    Took the money and ran off with boyfriend she did.

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  99. Yoda says:

    Patriarch’s room use Padawan Poetry it could.

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  100. Yoda says:

    Divorce Court woman understands her appearance she does not.
    How this came to be good question it is.

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  101. Divorce court lady is a real peach! Yikes! “I deserve all, I should give nothing.”

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  102. Darth Maul says:

    After watching that divorce court clip, I fail to understand why people insist on believing that Sith are the evil ones.

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  103. Yoda says:

    Words not just cheap they are.
    Also difficult to spell correctly they would be.

    http://gawker.com/woman-who-cant-spell-whore-allegedly-keyed-her-wore-1726352839

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  104. Yoda says:

    A Sith and Jedi on the same thread they are?

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  105. Darth Maul says:

    Change your title from “Jedi Master” to “Master of the Obvious” we shall.

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  106. Yoda says:

    Try to bait me he does.
    Ineffective this will be.

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  107. Yoda says:

    Change your title from “Jedi Master” to “Master of the Obvious” we shall

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  108. Cill says:

    “Selfish women on divorce court”
    An act, a weak attempt at comedy. Had to be. A woman as dumb as the thick broad on the bench doesn’t get to be a judge, not even in America.

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  109. Spawny Get says:

    Cill…optimist

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  110. Het ya’ll, that divorce court lady gave me an idea – I went and got implants. Shhh.

    Seriously that she went and got implants with their tax money while chatting up her “old friend” via the Internet between tanning, nail, hair appointments then a reaching about how he’s supposed to provide is just too rich! But she’s against women’s rights bc, “he should have to work not me. I just have to be faaaabulous!” (Snap snap)

    Too bad stupidity wasn’t illegal. Maybe they could just get a state or two and be in containment?

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  111. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Darth Maul sense of humor he has.
    That both be limited to sparring with words in humor would be good.

    Cill,
    I am afraid it’s real. These shows persist because normal people cn’t dream this stuff up.

    uuean Vista,
    Thank you for the response. Ir’s all going to collapse inward on itself.

    Tarn,
    There is a difference between you and them. You’re comfortable in your skin. I don’t think that thy have an identity.

    Spawny Get,
    Great video. She laid it all out and had no shame.

    Bloom,
    Maybe you can use Spawny’s video to educate wayward wives?

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  112. Tarnished says:

    Hmmmm. I would not say “comfortable”, dearest bear. Resigned would be more accurate.

    Resigned, and yet still grateful that…though I am uncomfortable in my body…it is whole, healthy, and doesn’t give me any of the mental/physical troubles that the majority of my family have. One must always look for the silver lining in any situation. Things might not ever be the best, but they can nearly always be worse. Y’know?

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  113. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I went back and watche the Divoce Court video for a second time. While what she is doing to hn is bad enough, what she is doing doing to to her children amounts to neglet.He’s gone from the house and at work for twelve hours a day. When he gets home, the kids are looking to him to make food at eight o’clock ant night.She’s probably giving the kids cereal in the morning and they’re getting lunch at school.
    On a seperate note, Liz’s observation has another anecdotal confirmation. Married women who get breast augmentation are looking to monkey branch.

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  114. SFC Ton says:

    The cold civil war BV speaks of has been going on since the end of the War for Southern Independence. The usa govt was completely remade during/ after the war, from a voluntary union of limited govt with a system of checks and balances to federal supremacy and States being vassals of the federal overlords. It’s what the yankees wanted.

    Well that’s is sort of false, it’s been a cold war since Reconstruction ended, Reconstruction was most def a hot war: and as the South wanted to secced the north wanted to take control of the govt so the civil war part was on their end not ours

    Trumps popularity is about three things
    A weak sense of American Nationalism
    Disgust with DC
    A natural Alphas ability to inspire.

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  115. SFC Ton says:

    Women always say they want.this or that…. until some alpha bangs them silly then lo and behold that alpha magically transforms into what she always wanted…

    What women say they want is of no value to men unless it’s a guide of what not to do

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  116. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Tarn,
    The way I see you is as a woman who is very well grounded with a pragmatic mindset. I think that the mindset had to from taking care of your siblings at the cost of your youth. Anyway, we all may be misfits to one degree or another.

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  117. Yoda says:

    Speak of Masters Darth Maul would?
    Obi Wan captures my response he does

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  118. Cill says:

    I have to go out, but new post is up
    Coping with an Affair

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  119. Darth Maul says:

    Obi Wan captures my response he does

    Suicide is your response?

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  120. Tarnished says:

    Thank you, Fuzzie.
    That is high praise, and I’ll humbly accept it from you. Bears are wiser than humans, after all. 🙂

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  121. Tarnished says:

    Yoda and Maul…do I have to post a video of Jar Jar to break you up? 😈

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  122. Yoda says:

    More powerful Obi Wan did become.
    This power I also do have.
    And cuter I would be

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  123. Yoda says:

    Also speak more clearly I do

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  124. Mrs. Yoda says:

    And cuter I would be

    Agree with this I do.
    My Y-Y-Y-Yoda.

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  125. Mrs. Yoda says:

    do I have to post a video of Jar Jar to break you up?

    Video of Padme more effective it might be.

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  126. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    A video of Padme is desired?
    A small request from the maker of sandwiches this is.

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  127. blurkel says:

    My Book of Comment Replies – Part 2

    @Cill

    I said it a long time ago, “I always listen to what Blurkel has to say”.

    Oh, MUSH! The currency transfer is in processing.

    @Cill

    Blurkel, there are many pretenders, but you are one of the genuine great guys. Hang around.

    Of course! We men hang together, for surely we’d hang separately!

    @fuzziewuzziebear

    “…how can she have a Master’s and only contribute fifteen percent of the household income? It took her six years to get it? It’s supposed to take only two.

    2nd part first. The six years covered bachelors and masters degrees. As for the first part, she decided that she couldn’t accept pay for getting people fired from their jobs. It took until two months before she received her masters to understand what she’d been learning for six years. I’m still pissed about how I got played by her ignorance. She’s never tried to get a job which pays very much since it will require more responsibility than she cares to take on.

    I’ll keep the rest of your advice in mind should it become necessary. After all, Sun-Tzu advises: “He who is prudent and lies in wait for an enemy who is not, will be victorious.”

    @Tarn

    How do you get money for food, gas, tolls, etc.?

    Most everything goes on my credit card, which I assure you undergoes a thorough examination when the monthly statement arrives!!!

    @SFCTon

    What women say they want is of no value to men unless it’s a guide of what not to do

    And many of us wish we’d understood this before we became indentured!

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  128. SFC Ton says:

    Don’t feel bad blurkel I too once made the mistake of taking women and church boys (same same ) seriously. Once.

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  129. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Blurkel,
    Better to leave at your discretion. I can guarantee that she will see you leave at a time of maximum inconvienence. Be careful.

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  130. thedeti says:

    Blurkel:

    Let’s see. You are married to a borderline nutcase who controls all the money, has threatened to kill you, and probably doesn’t have sex with you either.

    Even in CA, it’s not worth it. It’s not relevant even a little, but were I you, that married would be over. I’d live in a studio apartment alone before I lived with a woman who threatened me with death. Fuck that shit. You accuse me of rape? Done. You threaten to kill me? Done. You take the money I earned? Done. I’ll take my half of the marital assets and be on my way, thank you very much.

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  131. BuenaVista says:

    If we can’t be happy in 200 square feet, we can’t be happy.

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  132. Cautiously Pessimistic says:

    Blurkel, apologies if this has already been chewed over. Based on what you’ve shared, the escape plan I’d come up with is based off Ton’s idea of “Be ready and willing to burn it all to the ground and piss on the ashes.” There is an outside chance that she may back down sufficient to your living a tolerable life, but you can’t assume she will. So if you’re as bad as I am at bluffing, you need to have a workable plan for what to do when worst comes to worst.

    First, have an exit date in mind. Because…

    Second, redirect your paychecks from direct deposit. And…

    Third, get your paycheck in cash. If it’s not in an account, it can’t be seized.

    When that first paycheck hits your wallet, you need to move out. To your car, a hotel, friend’s, somewhere other than ‘her’ house.

    Now MAYBE she’ll back down if she realizes you’re willing to burn it all. But if you do this at all, be ready for her to NOT back down, and respond appropriately.

    Season the plan to taste, and as appropriate to circumstances.

    Most likely (he says), your best bet is separation. If you are willing to go full potato, your best bet is to disappear. Sounds like you already know what you’re signing up for by staying. I’m not in a position to criticize.

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  133. Cautiously Pessimistic says:

    If it’s not in an account, it can’t be seized.

    I should amend that. It can’t be seized remotely.

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