Understanding what happened to you is an important step to recovery. And understanding this cannot normally be done from a blue pill perspective. One requires a red-pill schema of how it all works for this to happen.
The blue-pill forms a model; and models are supposed to be good at making predictions (or ex post facto assessments). The blue-pill model attempts to describe the sexes behaviors, how they interact in relationships, etc. But it does not do this very well. Much of it was developed during the period of the Evil Patriarchy. And as such, it described attributes that each gender and couples should aspire to (e.g. Marriage 1.0). Well, this model got modified over the course of time without anybody really noticing, and selected attributes that were flattering to women became built-in attributes, rather than aspire-to attributes. Additional parts were added to the model, sometimes denigrating to men (men sexuality is bad) and uplifting to women (women’s sexuality is always good). In short, the resulting blue pill model just does not match reality. It’s predictive and explanatory value is nil. Yet, it still is presented as if it does.
In short, trying to understand frivorce through a blue pill perspective just never works. It leaves men even more confused and disheartened than before. And perhaps that is part of its purpose.