Prostitution is legal in NZ. There are no zoning restrictions on a prostitution business. A prostitute could buy the house next door and run it as a busy brothel, affecting the resale value of neighboring properties. Under the law no-one can stop her, as long as she complies with the Department of Health’s requirements.
However, I’m not here to complain. I’m on friendly terms with a number of prostitutes, actually. It’s inevitable that I know them, because they know my friends in town. Not many of my friends use their services though, and I don’t use them myself.
After I had done a favor for one of them, she wanted to clean my home. When I explained my home doesn’t need a cleaner, she asked if she could groom my car. When I told her I don’t own a car she offered to take care of my “needs” for free. When I said my needs are taken care of, she offered to take me out to dinner. I said I prefer my own organic food, and by then we were both laughing. We finally agreed to a meal for two in town prepared by her from ingredients supplied by me. She was pleasant and good company, more so than the average woman, but typical of the prostitutes I know.
I often speak to them about their “profession”. The following observations don’t apply to all prostitutes everywhere, but only to the ones I know here in NZ, one of the most prostitution-friendly environments in the world. They are respectable-looking women, not gaudy hoes. They are not held to prostitution by force or drugs.
These women avoid flooding the neighborhood with men, or clogging rights-of-way with cars. If their activities are unobtrusive, their neighbors will usually accept them.
Here are my observations:
The Hoe vs the Average Western Woman:
- Hoes are better looking. Men are not in a rush to pay to pump dumpy hoes. The most successful hoes have the soft feminine, “homely” yet appealing type of good looks.
- Hoes are more friendly. If they had the off-putting demeanor we hear so much about, they’d be in the wrong job.
- Hoes are kindhearted. I guess few men want shrews for sex, even when the sex is purely transactional.
- Hoes like men. The feminist-inspired stereotype of the prostitute is that of a woman used and abused by men. They would have us believe she is the ultimate “object”, forced to endure the loathsome touch of her repulsive male oppressors. Bullshit. She enjoys their touch and likes men for their maleness.
- Hoes like sex. They really do. Every one of them told me this and meant it.
- Hoes are more pleasant towards men. It’s not an act, they just are.
Most of their clients are married men. This should be no surprise since the sex in most marriages is meager and transactional. At least prostitutes don’t contract to supply sex and then refuse it. They don’t use it to control men. They don’t give him nagging or shit tests.
Divorce and separation stats don’t show the percentage of bad marriages. As Blurkel’s posts show, a lot of bad marriages haven’t yet ended in divorce. In addition, a lot of marriages fall short of “bad” but are nevertheless of negative worth to the husbands. Such marriages are at high risk of switching to “bad” at any time. If I’m right about this, the ones left – the good marriages that are safe to men – will be a tiny percentage of the whole.
We are left with the question: which is worse, serial monogamy or serial clients? The first engages lawyers to maximize the amount taken away from a man, the second limits the cost to an amount he has agreed to. The first delivers an outcome that contravenes the vows in every respect, the second delivers what was promised i.e. sex. The first deprives a man of his freedom, his assets, his children, his friends, his life. Prostitution parts him from nowt but some bodily fluid and some relatively small change.
Some would say prostitution also parts him from his self-respect, but it seems to me that a man shows a lot more self-respect by going to prostitutes than by degrading himself with a typical wife.
Prostitution is more honest than marriage.