Post by Cillhouette and Molly with thanks to Cill for allowing us to use his account.
Are women hard-wired to be narcissistic?
A woman wrote 50 Shades. Women readers bought 50 Shades in unprecedented numbers. Christian Grey is alluring to women. The truth is that he (Christian Grey) is a she and women are alluring to themselves.
Narcissism – are women capable of passion without it? Must they receive more pleasure than they give, before they can enjoy it at all?
“[W]omen’s desire is ‘not relational, but narcissistic’, that is, it’s not about the connection with their partner, it’s about themselves. Research shows that compared with men, women’s erotic fantasies are less about giving pleasure than receiving it”: http://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/love-sex/9840806/Women-want-as-much-sex-as-men
Must women receive more value than they give in a relationship, before we can enjoy it at all? What about a lesbian relationship LOL. Will the lezzies spend their days fighting for the right to receive which and with what and from whom?
Can women make a decision not to be narcissistic, and live by it? How hard would it be?