Recently Dalrock brought up the issue of pleasantness in women. The main assertion of the post is that women know that being of pleasant disposition is appealing to men; and because of this, they are not willing to do it. Assuming that this is correct, why would this be?
First, let us consider effort. Is it more difficult to be pleasant than unpleasant? Speaking for myself, I find it easier to be pleasant. Sometimes there is a compelling need to be unpleasant, and I find that more effort is required to be this way. But then, other people seem to be naturally unpleasant; and apparently do so effortlessly. Perhaps this all depends on the style of person that you were raised to be. And perhaps modern women are raised to have their inner bitch never far from the surface. Maybe commenters can chime in on this.
Secondly, there is the what I want to project aspect. Women might believe that being unpleasant equates with power; and in some situation this might the case. But for women time immemorial, the effective use of pleasantness typically equates more to power. But perhaps it is the trappings of power that women desire from their unpleasant projections. Maybe an element of the bad-ass attitude of bad-boy types. In this case, it is all very unbecoming; and as a famous writer once sort of said, “She doth protests to much”. Short answer — women look silly doing this (as do lots of bad-boys).
Thirdly, there is probably an element of convince myself that I am a SIW happening. Well, if posturing is what you need to convince yourself, then perhaps you could use some introspection.
Lastly, they want to stick it to the man. Oddly enough, this is often their man. Here is a clip that captures the essence of this thinking,
So why would a woman marry a man if the goal was to stick it to him? It would almost be as if they do not understand marriage.
To summarize, unpleasant women are not really doing themselves, their husband (if they have one), or society any favors by being this way. And perhaps if they try, unpleasant women can mend their ways, expend less effort, and be more content.